I get a lot of e-mail from people who are asking for advice because their child sees ghosts.
Some parents are very afraid of this, and some are just more curious and want to have a better understanding of it so that they can help their child through it.
I think one of the most important things you can do as a parent is to remain calm. Accept the fact that ghosts and spirits exist. Do not tell your child that it is their imagination, or to just pretend they aren’t there. That simply doesn’t help. It would be like telling your child that the grass is not growing in your front yard when clearly they can see that it is!
It is helpful to know that there is a difference between a ghost and a spirit. A ghost is a person that has died, but has not necessarily crossed over. The best thing to do is to remember a ghost is JUST A PERSON. Just like you and me. They just happen to not have their physical bodies anymore. There are very few ‘evil’ ghosts around, just as there are very few truly ‘evil’ people. I am not saying there is no such thing as a nasty ghost, it’s just that they are very rare.
A spirit is a being on the “other side” and they generally come to this dimension to visit, to help, or just to be here ~ as in loved ones who have crossed over, spirit guides, Ascended Masters, etc.
A very important thing to understand is that neither ghosts nor spirits will hurt you. I know with my son, he see’s his “spirit friends” (these are his words, not mine), as lights. He sees purple lights, blue lights pink lights, all as orbs in his dark bedroom.
My son also sees the actual ghosts that live in our house with us. We live in a house that was built in 1896, so we have quite a few ghosts here.
For the most part ghosts and spirits are harmless…what you see on TV and in the movies is meant to scare people and sensationalize things. Even shows ‘based on real events’ are so distorted, it is amusing to those of us that really know what it is like to be able to see such things.
Sometimes ghosts can look pretty scary. If a physical body went through some trauma, we may see the ghost in that state. There is a fellow in our house with no head. He has shared that he was in a war, but doesn’t know exactly where his head is. It can be disturbing to see him sometimes with no head, but that doesn’t make him evil or dangerous.
Another thing that can make ghosts/spirits seem scary is that we often see them almost as if though a ‘fog’. I hope I can explain this part properly, but basically, they don’t have a body anymore. They are just their energy now. What we see is the energy of the person that was. There is no longer a physical body. It’s as if they are in a different dimension than us and when we look across the dimensions, sometimes the view is quite different than what we see in the 3rd dimension in which we live.
You could compare it to being in a dark room and putting a flashlight under your chin. Your face looks scary with that view, but it is just the way you are seeing it, not the way it is.
The scariest part for most parents that do not see the ghosts or spirits is the ‘unknown’ part. “What is my poor child seeing/going through”.
I have asked the ghosts that I have here in my house not to startle me. I certainly don’t mind co-habiting with them, but I really don’t want to be having the life scared out of me all the time.
Anyone can talk to ghosts, including parents who do not see or hear them. Just because you can’t see them, doesn’t mean they aren’t there. It can be done with telepathy. You don’t have to say it out loud, although you can if you prefer. Just thinking it in your head will do the trick though. It really is that easy. Try just saying “I don’t mind you being here, but I need you to be more subtle, you scare me sometimes”.
Remember, ghosts are people, dead people maybe, but still people.
Talking to people generally works as far as resolving issues around boundaries and space One of the biggest issues when our children are seeing ghosts is that parents are afraid, or they don’t understand that, as mediums, we have control over our ‘sight’. Assure your son or daughter that there is nothing wrong in what they see. You really need to empower him or her and let your child know that the ghosts will not hurt them. You also need to reassure your child that HE OR SHE HAS complete CONTROL over their gift.
Just assure your child that they can control their gift and their own space. Let your child speak about their ‘sightings’ and keep your own feelings in check.
I used to see ghosts and spirits in front of my eyes like I would see you if we met. I rarely see them this way now. I basically told them that they were not allowed to appear like that to me and scare me. I told them that I would ignore them completely if I found myself being ‘startled’ by people appearing in front of me all the time.
I have asked the ghosts and the spirits to not startle me and to please be more subtle. Now when I do readings, or if I ‘see’ or ‘talk to’ a ghost or spirit, they come to me more ‘in my head’ ~ if I close my eyes I can ‘see’ them better than with my “regular 3rd dimension vision”. I got rather tired of stepping out of the shower and having someone standing in my bathroom!
Ghosts and spirits are everywhere by the way. Houses, malls, schools, parks, everywhere. The area around my son’s school is particularly “active”. He will see ghosts or spirits in the sports field, or in his classroom.
One day I was walking down the street beside his school and there were ghosts also walking down the street where I was. I paid no more (or less) attention to them than I would anyone else. Smile, nod, keep walking.
Part of the trick of living with this gift is knowing where to put your attention. Just as we can be in a crowded shopping mall and hardly notice the people around us, we can also be in a crowded “ghost zone” (for lack of a better way to put it), and just ignore them.
Even with my son — generally he sees even way more than I do. We just asked the spirits and ghosts to back off and not to bother him. His room was always full at night or I’d be sitting at my desk and he’d see a woman standing behind me, or there’d be spirit kids waking him up at night wanting to play…stuff like that.
We just asked that they please leave him alone for now, he’s too young to have to deal with it etc. Now he doesn’t see them as much and they don’t annoy him when he’s trying to sleep. You don’t need to be a medium, or an ‘expert’ to do this. Just ask them! They will generally respect your wishes.
This truly does work. I mentioned this before, but its worth repeating, they aren’t that different than you and I, they just don’t have bodies anymore.