Archives for December 2013

Are You Asking for Enough? Needs VS. Wants

I am guessing that if you are reading this, then you have what you need.  You have food, you have a computer to look at.  You have a place to live.  This is good.  Of course you want to have what you need.  Most of you have your needs met every day.

It gets tricky when you begin to look at what you want.  Most of you don’t have what you want.  Whether it is the job you want, or the relationship you want, or the things that you want.

This post is about money though, so if you don’t like or want money, then stop reading here.

It can be difficult to navigate the difference between your wants and your needs sometimes.  We are bombarded with images that tell us to consume.  Buy this, buy that, it will make you happy.   You are so bombarded with this you get sick of it.  You begin to think, “I don’t want all this stuff, I just want to be happy!”

Sometimes it gets to the point that you begin to bash consumerism.  You think, “all these people are asking me to buy all of these things, its BS”.  So you swing from being able to visualize yourself having nice things, to making statements that are the exact opposite.  Statements that say vibrationally “I don’t want these things!”

On the one hand, you may feel that there are things you want, but then the little guy on your shoulder, your alter ego, says “It’s wrong to want these things.  So many people have nothing, I should be grateful for what I have, I am being so selfish.”

You are correct that you need to be grateful for what you have.  However, it is not WRONG to want things.  Even nice things, or frivolous things, or money to blow on experiences.  We came to earth to have experiences.  To expand and to grow.  There is nothing wrong with having wants.  There is nothing wrong with getting the things that you want.

In the past, I have had problems with this myself.  Things I was told about money that are just simply wrong.  These are things that were ingrained in my subconscious.  In realizing that they are there, and by consciously releasing them, now I am able to move on from them.  See if you see any of yours in here, maybe with some conscious effort, you can release yours too.

It was ingrained in me from a young age “Money is the root of all evil”.  Say What!?!?!?  Yes, I was told that.  That can be a tough one to get over.  I was raised Roman Catholic and in my humble opinion, I think that most organized religions teach this so that you give all your money to them instead of having things yourself.  Look at the Pope – ‘nuff said.

It is wrong to want things when so many people go without

– Are you kidding me.  If I had a bazillion dollars you know how many people I would share it with!  Most of you are very generous and loving.  If you had more, you would share more.  It is just simply inaccurate to say that you having less will help anyone else have more.  Huh?

Every business owner is out to screw you

– Another huge untruth.  Most business owners do really appreciate their customers.  This is a really BIG one to release from your subconscious if you are thinking about starting your own business.  How are you to run a business if in the back of your head you have a belief that you (a business owner), will be screwing people?  Even if you manage to tell yourself, “I will be different”, you will have it in your vibration and you will attract clients just like yourself ~ ones that constantly challenge you on your prices or your business practices because they are afraid that you are like all the rest.

Paying taxes is bad, the government just wastes the money

– Well, yes and no, but there is no sense in thinking about this or stressing on it.  I personally would LOVE to pay more taxes.  I pay less right now because I make less money.  See how that works?  If I make more money I will be paying more taxes.  I appreciate the roads I drive on, the parks I visit, having running water, electricity, garbage pick-up ~ the list goes on and on.  Yes there are wasteful things in government, but me thinking of them or bitching about them won’t change it, so I’ll just focus on the parts I like and appreciate.

Rich people are assholes

– Again not true.  Just look at Jon Bon Jovi and Oprah, or Warren Buffet.  Yes, a lot of rich people are jerks, a lot of poor people are jerks.  A lot of rich people are nice, a lot of poor people are nice.

People will hate me if I have money (or worse yet, I hate people that have money)

– Some will.  Usually poor people, and they will likely stay poor if they keep that line of thinking.  As will you.

I have a gift, it is wrong to charge money for it

– I’ve gotten this one before, I used to believe it too.  C’est la Vie.  Yes I have a gift, as do many other people on the planet.  Anyone can, with time and energy, learn to do what I can do.  I just happened to be born with it so it’s easier for me.  I can teach others to do it, I charge for this because I like to have my needs met ~ and after releasing some of the things on this list, I’m ready to get some of my WANTS too!  Some people like accountants have a gift with numbers, I could learn it from an accountant.  I would expect to pay my accountant to teach me.  At this point in my life it is MUCH easier to hire the accountant to do it for me so I can do what I love doing.

I could probably go on and make this a list of 100 things, but I’ll keep it here.  Please look deep and see what your recurring thoughts are.  Be aware of them, challenge them.  If you are not getting what you want, chances are it is just your subconscious mind talking you out of them.

 

Have you forgotten how to dream?

The ONLY time we forget how to dream, is if we do not think our dreams can come true.

There is nothing that we can have in this life that did not start with a thought, a Dream. Our thoughts are energy, and are very powerful. Whatever you think about you create.

It is very important to Dream, to imagine what you want in your life. The sad thing is, many of you have forgotten HOW to dream. So many things have happened over the course of your life that you think have happened TO you. If you can see how you helped to create them, then you will see that you are very powerful indeed. You will realize that you have what it takes to allow yourself to dream differently.

If your Dreams have turned into Nightmares, the following steps can help turn your life around.

Forget everything that has happened up to this point
There is no sense re-hashing all that happened to get you to where you are. Acknowledge that you are where you are because in some way you created it. You got here based on decisions that you made, and actions that you did or did not take. Once you take 100% responsibility for being where you are, you can begin to look forward instead of back.
An affirmation of “I created where I am, I can create where I want to be” may help.

Stop saying you can’t change
This is your ego talking. Of course you can change. You are never too old, too sick, or too stuck. You may not be able to change people or things around you, but you can change YOU. “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

Forget everything you have been taught
Often, our parents didn’t know how to consciously create their lives, they lived in a different dimension than we are living in now. In the past there was not the awareness that we have available to us now. They may have told us that dreaming was a bad thing, we had to “live in reality”. Things are different now, and “Reality” is whatever you want it to be. Living someone else’s “reality” can keep you very stuck.
School doesn’t teach this stuff either. Many of us learned the opposite in school. Go to school, get a job, have a family, be stuck in the cycle. It doesn’t have to be this way.

Stop making excuses
We could all come up with excuses why something won’t work. No matter what the situation, you can create an excuse for anything. If you cannot give up your excuses, you cannot allow yourself to Dream. If you are in the habit of making excuses, every time you start to dream, you will automatically, from habit, come up with an excuse why it won’t work. This will stop you before you even get started.

Stop blaming other people
Yes, it can be really hard to stay positive and look forward if you are living with someone who is very negative. BUT, you are responsible for where you are, and you and only you are responsible for who you let into your life. If you say you can’t get out of your situation, then you are making excuses. Take all of these steps together and use them to remove negative people from your life. Or remove your life from negative people. You are a powerful creator, if you can dream it, you can do it. Start imagining a life without them, instead of always thinking about your life with them.

Be willing to give up what you have
This can be the hardest one. Change is change. If you want things in your life to change, you have to change things in your life. If you are unwilling to give up your home, you cannot have a new home.
If you are unwilling to give up your relationship, you cannot have a new relationship. Sometimes you MUST give something up. Too often, you think “I worked so hard to get this, I can’t let it go now”. Unless you are 100% happy where you are, there will be something you have to give up to get what you want.
I guarantee you, that if you are stuck with trying to hang on to what you have, you will never be able to create new. All of your focus and energy will go to hanging on to what you have.
This does not always mean that you HAVE to give something up. However, you must be 100% WILLING to give it up. A closed fist cannot receive.

If you are so hell bent on hanging on to what you have, and are unwilling to let go, that is where your thoughts, and therefore your energy will go. You will continue to get even MORE of what you already have. In order to dream, you need to be able to look forward. To trust the universe will give you what you need. When your whole focus is on WHAT IS, you cannot possibly be dreaming about what COULD BE.

Stop focusing on the HOW of what will happen
You need to be able to see your dream, trust that it can/will manifest for your highest and best good, and then LET IT GO. Too often, you have a dream, and then you start to wonder “How can that happen? I’d have to win the lottery or something.” This thinking will get you nowhere. It is NOT up to you to know HOW it will happen. It is just up to you to Dream about it happening. To believe it CAN happen. You created what you have. You CAN create what you want.

Take some ACTION
This is the most important step. If you allow for the things already discussed this will be easy, you will feel inspired and your energy will flow in the direction you want to go. If you haven’t allowed yourself to do the above, it will feel down right impossible to do.
If you say “I can’t”, or “It’s not my fault”, or “I’m not giving that up” you are speaking from your ego, and there is no way to create a better situation from there.
If you say those things to yourself, you will never take any action. Why would you? After all, you have convinced yourself that ‘you can’t’.
Action doesn’t always need to be big action either. No matter where you are, spiritually, physically, emotionally, if you allow yourself to dream, where you want to be is always somewhere else. Taking action, simply means taking a step in the direction that you want to go. Even just reading this blog post over and over, and being willing to think differently can be a first step. Praying for help can be a first step. In the past I myself have prayed “help me be willing to change or see things in a new way”.
YOU WILL NOT GET FROM HERE TO THERE WITHOUT TAKING A STEP.

You cannot just meditate and affirm your way to a new life. It can help for sure, but it won’t magically create something for you if you won’t change anything or take a single step. There is not one successful person on the planet that got that way by ONLY meditating, dreaming or thinking. Every single one of them took some form of action to get them where they are.

With dreams it is important to realize that they happen over time. You are not going to just wake up one day and be living a different life if you have not allowed yourself to have a different thought first.

Ask for what you REALLY want

So many of us are afraid to ask for what we want, thinking that we won’t get it anyway.

The Universe is an amazing place and you really can have what you want. You just need to ASK. If you do not ASK, you will NOT get. We don’t always know WHERE it will come from, but I guarantee that if you start asking for what you want, and start expecting that you will get it, it will come.

We are living a 5D reality now, and creating what we want is getting easier and easier. Stop thinking small, start thinking big!

What you want does not need to be a THING, it can be a state of mind, or love, or happiness, ANYTHING!

This video shows just how some things can come in an unexpected way. These are ‘things’ but it is still a wonderful video – I just had to share.

Are You Just Faking It?

Are you being honest with yourself? Are you being true to yourself? I mean really really honest?

As much as the energy has shifted yet again in the past few weeks and many of you are moving forward with your lives and new experiences, a lot of people are still feeling stuck in so many areas. You may be pretending that everything is okay, but deep inside things just don’t feel right. If you are feeling stuck, even a little bit, then please read on.

You are feeling stuck because you are not trusting your intuition. You likely have had some really good ideas, and really good fantasies about what you want your life to look like. The thing is, you are not acting on any of it. You are stuck in fear. You may post inspirational things on facebook, or tell your friends that life is great, but you don’t really FEEL it.

You think that ‘fake it till you make it’ works. In some cases it does, but only if it is followed by good feelings and some action. If you constantly focus on what is not in your life, and you keep doing the same things (actions), every day, then you aren’t really faking it till you make it anyway. You are just faking it. Every time you post something positive on social media, if you cannot bring yourself to believe it, you are actually sabotaging yourself. You post it, then think “if only this was real and I really felt this way”. By doing it that way, you are basically affirming that you are not there yet.

There is zero point to posting something positive if you feel negative, or being ‘fake’ online and pretending to be something you are not. It creates distance between you and others, and can also create a distance between you and your own higher self. Not saying that if you are having a negative emotion or experience that you need to wallow in it, or focus on it (unless that is what you chose to do – sometimes acknowledging it can help clear it). How about focusing on feeling a little better. There is nothing wrong with saying “I feel like crap, but I know it will pass”. There is nothing wrong with asking for help if you need it. The only error is in being UNTRUE. You feel the discord of the untruth within you. Those you come into contact with can feel the untruth. Not being true to yourself just creates that much more distance between what you want and what you have.

You need an affirmation you can believe. If you just fake it, then the energy behind it will hinder not help you. You need to come up with things that you can believe. It is better to start small with something you can believe, than to start with big things that have you affirming backwards. “I know one day I will feel better”. “My life has always been my CHOICE, I take responsibility for that, and know I can change it”. “If things are not as I want them to be, it is up to me to change them, God, please help me feel better so I can make these changes, even little ones”. These are all things you could say to yourself to get yourself to where you want to be.

It is time to let yourself be. Be you. Make changes, make moves, get rid of old stuff that is no longer serving your highest and best good. Sometimes you can’t tell if you are just dreaming or if maybe it really is doable. This is where trusting your intuition comes in. You need to be able to discern what is really being shared with you via Universal Energy. If you have a dream, and it won’t go away, and the dream feels good, chances are it is a really good first step for you.

There are no 100% guarantees in life, except that if you do not consciously make a change, then either nothing will change, or things will change in a way that you do not want them to. You have ultimate control over what happens to you and how you deal with it. Don’t let fear stop you. You made it this far. You have had other changes in your life that were likely scary and you made it through. Be true to yourself, stop faking life and start living it.