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Are Your ‘Hopes and Dreams’ Congruent with Your Actions?

We are creators and we are attractors.  The Law of Attraction is real.  What we think about and focus on is what we create.  These are FACTS.

So what do I mean when I ask you if your hopes and dreams are congruent?  Is what you intend to happen really going to happen?

I have a few examples that I would like to give you, and you can decide for yourself if what you think you want is actually what you working towards, or if you are blocking yourself with actions or belief systems that will get you exactly what you don’t want.

Manifest your Dreams

Special Relationships, with Spouse or BF/GF

So, you want a good relationship.  One where you have someone who is respectable like you are.  Has similar values, even if they like different activities than you.  Someone who you can talk to, that respects you and that has as much love to give you as you have to give them.

At the moment you are trying to ‘manifest’ that your current relationship improve.  You live with a drug addict, but just know that if you treat them right and you keep working on ‘manifesting’ the perfect relationship, they will get help and stop using.

You cannot change or ‘manifest’ for other people.  What is likely to happen in this situation is that your current relationship will get worse and worse until one of you can’t take it anymore and the relationship ends.

This will free you up to have the type of relationship that you were imagining (see the first paragraph of this section).

If you pine over the lost relationship you are essentially blocking anything new coming in.  If you do not allow yourself to heal from the lost relationship, you are blocking anything new.

The harder you try to hang onto the current (unhappy) relationship, the less congruent your thoughts and actions are and the longer it will take to finally manifest the relationship of your dreams.


So you would like to ‘manifest’ having your debt paid off and having money in the bank.  Seems doable enough, just work hard.

Yes, that can work and often does.  But your actions need to be congruent with what you want.  If you keep spending money on ‘wants’ you will most likely never get your debt paid off.  Especially if it is credit card debt.  If you have credit card debt, pretty much every single penny you spend is spent on credit.  Every penny!

So, when you go out shopping, or start to focus on things you want and then spend money on them, your thoughts are not congruent with paying off your debt.

This isn’t to say that you NEVER spend anything ever on a want.  It means to be AWARE that if you spend that $5 on coffee, or that $100 on an outing, it is ADDING TO YOUR DEBT.  Anything that keeps you paying interest on a credit card, and not paying off the balance of what you owe, is the opposite of what you say you want to manifest.

It is not ‘what you want’ that isn’t manifesting here.  It is that your actions are different than what you say you want.



There are a couple of different scenarios here depending on whether you are working for someone else, or self employed so I will cover them both.

You are working for someone and you hate your job or want more money.  Or you really want to move up or do more, use more skills, but haven’t been able to.  You keep thinking about it, every day, but you don’t seem to ever make the time to look for more or apply for something else.  You just keep imagining what it would be like to be doing something else.  You are hoping for a head-hunter to find you or for the “job-fairy” to tap you with his magic wand and put you into your dream job.

Then you lose your job.  You think you have been trying to manifest a better job and suddenly you don’t even have one!  WTH!  Well, you manifested that.  Now you have to go out and look for a different job.  What you make of the situation will be up to you.

At this point many people will just feel sorry for themselves, feel desperate and only look at the same type of job they just left.  It is okay to take a job at this point to take care of your immediate needs, IF you ALSO (at the same time) apply for the type of job you would really want to do ~ your dream job.

You will fare much better if you just take responsibility for your creation, realize you must be a pretty powerful manifester to have done that for yourself, and keep focusing on the type of job you want.  Apply for the types of job you want.  You have already proven you can manifest in a big way, ride that wave and apply for jobs out of your comfort zone.

Self Employed

Okay, so you are self employed and are doing ‘okay’.  There are a couple of scenarios here.

1.  You start to feel successful and you are pretty busy so you STOP doing all the things that got you to that point.  Advertising, visualizing, schmoozing, talking to people; the list goes on ~ just think of what you did to get busy.

Then you stop it.  Work gets slower and slower and you wonder why.  It is because you STOPPED doing all the things that made you a success to begin with!  You ‘manifested’ your success with your actions, now you’ve stopped your actions, what do you expect to ‘manifest’ next?

2.  You get tired of what you are doing and decide that maybe you want to do something new.  You put all of your focus on being done with what you were doing and work slows down immediately and just to your liking.  You think, “Hey, I’m a powerful manifester and my work dried up, I don’t have to do that crap anymore unless I feel like it”.

Then you run out of money and realize that maybe you need to keep doing what you were doing before and come up with an exit strategy for your business instead.

Its not that you hated your job, you just needed a break.  Most of your clients were nice, and the cheques when they came were pretty awesome after all.

You have proven to yourself that you are a great manifester and you know that 90% of manifesting is your thoughts, feelings and attitude, so even though you are kind of broke you start reading inspiring books (or even my blog) to learn how to manifest even better.  You know you can do it, if you just focus and feel good, your phone will start ringing again.  You have your client base and some work will come.

Here’s the thing with that;  your ACTIONS are not congruent with what you want.  When you first started your business, you did all kinds of things to build it (see #1 above).  If you are not DOING, something, then nothing can happen for you.  Visualizing and ‘trying to manifest’ won’t work if you are not taking inspired action.

So, are your actions congruent with what you want?  Take a good look at what you want and then take a good look at your life.  If they don’t match up then it may be time to take a really close look at what you are doing or not doing.  Are you making conscious decisions or are you just ‘hoping’ that things will be better one day if you think about it long enough.

If you would like some help with moving in any direction in your life a psychic reading can help.  You can contact me here.

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Chronic Pain and Emotions

I learned something new last week, and I am sharing it because it is nothing short of amazing.  I was able to relate it to my own life and my own circumstances and I am guessing that you will too.

If you have an injury or other chronic pain, the severity of it and how long it lasts will be DIRECTLY related to how you felt at the time of the injury, and how you continue to feel as you go along with your recovery (or lack of recovery).

I can tell you my story of how I stopped my chronic pain in my ankle that had kept me from doing much exercise for 7 months (since last July!!).

This is going to sound really simple, and it is.  The only unfortunate part is that it took me this long to figure it out.

Chronic Pain

So in November 2013 I started going to a gym and working out with a personal trainer 3x per week.  Yes, I have extra weight, however my MAIN reason for going was to get strong and feel good and healthy.  I have arthritis, flat feet and at the time my lower back would go out on occasion.  I really wanted to strengthen my body and lessen my pain.

It was working, I could do squats for 15 minutes, walk through my yard doing lunges, do tricep dips off my kitchen chairs, hold a plank for a few minutes and could even do some push-ups. (not a lot of them, but I could do them!)

I loved going and felt great.  2x a week I worked out with a really knowledgeable trainer who knew about my ‘pain issues’ and would tailor the workouts to me.  She would always watch to make sure my form was good, ask me about my pain level for the day, and point out if my knees or ankles were twisting in a bad way.  Her motto was “make sure that you don’t cause injury and make it so you can’t work out at all”.

1x a week I worked out with another trainer that didn’t really even notice when someone had bad form, or point out that they were trying to do shoulder presses while slouching or that they were twisting or bending wrong.  When I worked out with him, I basically just watched myself.  It was okay, because he was helpful in some ways and I liked him personally, and the workouts felt good.

Then in late spring of 2014 the trainer I loved was let go.  I figured that I would keep going to the gym, they had another experienced trainer and I started working out with her.  I rarely got corrected on my form, I had to do that myself, or ask if they would watch my legs closely for form.  It seemed like the main objective of my new trainer was all about weight loss.  She’s a super skinny 30ish year old and she talked and talked about weight.  She had signs up, saying “the scale doesn’t matter as much as how you feel”, but it felt like all she ever talked about was what we were eating.

I was mildly annoyed because one of the reasons I had extra weight on was because I was injury prone due to lack of using my muscles properly.  I was trying to work out to strengthen the muscles properly so that I would not have so many injuries ~ stronger muscles = less injuries = weight lost as far as I’m concerned.

So anyway, I wound up with a bad injury to my left leg.  My hip and lower back hurt, my knee was killing me, and my ankle felt like the tendons were all pulled out of shape.  This had been chronic for me since July of 2014.  So that is my story, now I want to share…

What I did to feel better and lessen my chronic pain issues

A couple of weeks ago, I read an article about pain and the article said that your mind-set ‘at the time of your injury’ would actually impact how long your injury lasted.  I know and understand how our energy impacts our bodies so I started to think a bit about how this might apply to me and my ankle injury.

I realized just how pissed off I was that my favourite trainer had been fired.  I was angry that I was paying A LOT of money for personal training and didn’t feel I was getting what I paid for.  I had a few more months on my membership.  I asked the trainers to watch me closely and they didn’t seem to bother most days.

I had my last workout with them in July, and I started with the process of rehabbing myself.  I know enough about stretching and muscles that I was able to at least keep my lower back and knee from hurting too much most of the time.

My ankle was another story though.  It really felt like tendons and I tried to rest it and be gentle with it but it wasn’t getting better.  I couldn’t even go for a walk without suffering for a day or two after.

I kept getting emails and letters from the gym and would find myself almost annoyed at them. Subconsciously thinking “you guys suck, you hurt me!” and reliving the intense pain of last summer.

So, after reading that article and thinking about it, I decided to cut ties with the gym completely. I unsubscribed from their email list and “un-liked” them on Facebook. They did have some good things to share, but my annoyance, and therefore the energy I created was not worth it.

Fast forward to today.  On Monday (just 5 days ago), when I got the weekly email, I unsubscribed.  I did some energy work and meditation.  I cut energy cords to the gym and the trainers.

Now it is Friday.  My ankle has NOT HURT for a few days.  I have been out shopping and walking and NO PAIN in my ankle.  I will say that the muscles on the left back thigh and butt are a little sore, but it is muscle sore from using the muscles differently (properly with no limping).  Because my ankle feels better, the whole “shape” (the way I’m walking) of my left leg is different (more back to normal).

I shared this with my husband a couple of days ago and he had a story to add that shows another example of how this works.

In 2009 he broke his leg and wound up in physiotherapy for a few months.  He was really happy to be getting into the best shape he’d been in in years.  He enjoyed the fact that he could use the gym and pool for free for as long as he wanted on the days he worked with the physiotherapist.

He noted that some of the guys there (in physio) just didn’t seem to be getting better.  Their pain never lessened and they constantly complained.  Most of them were angry at the time of their accident, and stayed angry for a long period of time.

My husband healed up quickly and was back to normal (or better) within a few months of breaking his shin bone.

Do you have chronic pain or pain from an injury?

If you do, can you see or feel your emotions?  Not just the emotions about the pain itself, but the general emotions in any area of your life?

I wrote a post about fibromyalgia a few years ago because I noticed that a very large percentage of my clients that had fibromyalgia were really pissed off about something in their life.  Most thought their anger or upset was justified and they had no intentions of letting it go… just something to think about.

If you want to look into this a bit more, there is an awesome book that I refer to myself quite often, called “You Can Heal Your Life”, it is by Louise Hay and you can get it from Amazon by clicking on the book picture here if you like. (If you buy after clicking that link I will make a few pennies in their affiliate program, if you have a problem with that, feel free to Google amazon instead).

If you are feeling a little stuck and you can’t quite figure out what your emotions and vibration are trying to tell you I can help.  You can get more information about  psychic readings here.

***  Disclaimer:  I am NOT  a doctor.  I DO work extensively with clients on an energetic level.  This post is not meant to replace a doctor’s advice.  If you need medical assistance please contact your doctor.

Chakra Clearing Meditations – Throat Chakra

This post is the fifth in a series.  Meditation for the 5th, Throat Chakra.

These meditations should be done in order.  You should have now meditated on the Root Chakra, The Sacral Chakra, the Solar Plexus Chakra and Heart Chakra.

Throat Chakra Attributes

– Located in the throat
– Colour – blue, like the sky.
– The physical attributes of the Throat Chakra:  Thyroid, regulating metabolism, communication, neck throat jaw, upper lungs.
– The Fifth Chakra has to do with surrender.  Personal vs. divine will.  Speaking our truth.  Speaking and truly hearing others.  You need to hear and be heard.

Meditation for Healing the Throat Chakra

7 Things You Can Do to Feel Better & Improve Your Mood

We all go through challenging times, me too.  This week has been somewhat challenging for me and I know that my thoughts will help to create my feelings and my feelings will help create my reality.

Thoughts, intentions, feelings ~ they are all energy.  We truly do attract into our lives what we are vibrating.  Sometimes when I find myself worrying or thinking about something I will make a conscious effort to change my vibration.

I would like to know that whatever is ‘on its way’ is better than what I am in the process of going through right this minute.  I know that if I lower my vibration I will just create more of the same ‘stuff’.

Feel good now

These are the ways that I use to get into a better mood

1.  I (always) stop thinking about things I can do nothing about.  There are a lot of things I can do, but there are a lot of things that are simply beyond my scope of control.  If I keep thinking about them it just makes me more depressed.

2.  I sometimes will listen to (or read) Esther Hicks channeling Abraham.

3.  I will sometimes go for a walk.

4.  Sometimes, if I am feeling particularly stressed and am having a hard time getting out of my head, I will just go to sleep.

5.  I will listen to a meditation that I need to follow along with in my head.  Hard to follow along and think about something else at the same time.

6.  This is one I do OFTEN.  I will write myself a list of things to do that will get me closer to what it is I want.  I wrote such a list last night, and today I have been going through this list.  If you do this, keep the list simple.  If you put too much on it you won’t do any of it.  My list for today had only 4 things on it.  There are many more things I want to do and that I probably will do today, but focusing specifically on this list keeps me from thinking about challenges.

7. Sometimes I will go out with a friend.  I am thoughtful with this one though.  If I think that by spending time with someone else will get me talking about what I DON’T want or having me focus on the ‘problems’ I have, then I make sure I spend time alone.

What do you do to feel better when you are in an uncomfortable mood or going through a challenging time?

Leave me a comment, I’d love to hear from you.

If you find that you need more guidance than I have shared in this post, you can book a psychic reading here.

Chakra Clearing Meditations – Heart Chakra

This post is the fourth in a series.  The one many of you have been waiting for!  It is the meditation for the 4th Chakra or Heart Chakra.

These meditations should be done in order.  You should have now meditated on the Root Chakra, The Sacral Chakra, and the Solar Plexus Chakra.

Heart Chakra Attributes

– Located in the centre of the chest area (known as the Heart Centre)
– Colour is Green
– The physical attributes of the Heart Chakra:  Immune system, heart, upper back, lower lungs, blood and circulation, arms hands and skin.
– The Heart Chakra has to do with love:  “Devine power of love”.  Feelings of safety, feeling respected and connected with others and the Universe.  If the lower Chakras are not functioning properly, the heart Chakra will stay closed and shielded.  THIS IS WHY IT IS IMPORTANT TO DO THESE MEDITATIONS IN ORDER.

Meditation for Healing the Heart Chakra

Projecting Your Now into Your Future

I know you do this.  I do this sometimes (much less than I used to).  We all do this.  We project whatever is happening for us right now into our future.  Whether it is real or not.

I write a lot about living in the Now.  And the mindfulness of the now really is a nice place to be, but as humans we have a tendency to bring our now into our future, and sometimes it can feel pretty bleak.

When we are going through a hard time it is easy to project that hard time into the future.  It is too easy to think that things will stay like this forever.  To feel badly, and not be able to see our way clear to a time when things might be better.  You cannot see a potential future where you might feel happy and comfortable because NOW is uncomfortable.

Here is an example of projecting your present into your future

My husband is in construction and usually does ‘one-off’ jobs.  Meaning, he will work at one job site for a day or two, and his next job will be at another jobsite.  There are times where he is working a huge project with ongoing work, but those are few.  Most of the time his phone rings, he books work for the next day, or next week, and that’s it.  Sometimes he is booked up until the middle of the next week.

Sometimes though, he has nothing booked at all.  Has no calls to return, nothing.  In this case when my husband has no work booked business seems slow.  We may or may not have accounts receivable due in.  But in a circumstance like that it is easy for him to project into the future from this moment.  The way things look right this minute business is slow and it looks and feels depressing.

It doesn’t even matter what the subject is.  Business, relationships, finances, it could be anything.  If you are wanting a relationship and don’t have one, if you are feeling lonely, don’t project that into your future.  You won’t be lonely forever.

If you look at your life, it has been a series of events.  Most of the big positive events in your life came out of nowhere (now here).  Jobs, relationships… one day you wanted one, one day you got one.


Make it a good one!

Make it a good one!

As an example, my husband, today, has no work booked.  That doesn’t mean his phone won’t ring and he won’t have work for tomorrow, it just means he has none today.  He had none yesterday either, and on Tuesday he only worked for half a day.  In the past he would have freaked out and projected that into his future. (He’s so lucky to have me 🙂 lol)

There is nothing that he or I can do to MAKE his phone ring.  He spends a little bit of time on his business every day (because that is what you need to do when you work for yourself), sometimes its visiting jobsites, sometimes working on his website, sometimes just catching up on paperwork, or fixing tools, or any of the other things he does that I don’t have a clue about.  He ‘works his business’, whether he has a paid job that day or not.

He has learned to not let desperation or hopelessness sink in — he has learned not to project today into tomorrow.  In the past when he has created a vibration of lack, or of not having enough, all that happens is he attracts clients that have the same vibration.  These clients end up not wanting to pay a fair price for equipment and hard work.  He either doesn’t get the job or works for free.  Either way he’s wasted his time and ends up still being in a place of lack.

Those feelings don’t feel good.  Those feelings don’t need to last.  You don’t want to create a future for yourself based on those uncomfortable feelings.  You need to do what you can do in this moment for yourself, and you need to feel as good as you can.

This week, instead of spending his time projecting his present into his future, we went down to Home Depot and got some drywall and paint and we are doing some much needed work in our bathroom.  We haven’t had time and its something needs to be done.  Because he is not wasting time and energetic resources projecting ‘lack of work’ into his future, he is doing something that is making him feel good, and will also likely get his phone to ring for work next week.

Affirmations to keep from projecting your uncomfortable now into the future

1.  Tomorrow is another day.

2.  Everything I have in my life right now, was not there one day, and the next day it was.

3.  Everything always works out for me.


If you want some help to see potentials for your future, you can book a psychic reading with me.








Chakra Clearing Meditation – Solar Plexus Chakra

This is the third meditation in the blog post series of Healing the Chakras meditations.  The Third Chakra is the Solar Plexus Chakra.

You should have done the Root Chakra meditation, and the Sacral Chakra meditation first.

Solar Plexus Chakra Attributes

– Located in upper belly, below the breast area.
– Colour is yellow.
– The physical attributes of the Solar Plexus Chakra:  Pancreas (insulin secretion, blood sugar balance), liver and digestive system, lower back.
– This Chakra has to do with our sense of self.  “Honouring yourself”.  Self worth, self esteem, empowerment, purpose.

Meditation for Healing the Solar Plexus Chakra

Next up, the Heart Chakra

Baby Steps

We live in such a rushed, ‘I want it now’, instant gratification world.  If only you could see what good things can come with a little bit of patience.

Energetically impatience actually slows things down.  When you are impatient, you are actually focusing on what you do not want, which is your present situation, which is ~ guess what ~ exactly what you will get more of.

Almost everything we have or want or will get in our lives will come to us gradually.  If you want to be in a committed relationship, you will not meet someone this afternoon and be married tomorrow.

If you want to have your bills paid off and money in the bank it will not happen overnight while you sleep tonight.  (winning the lottery is very rare and is not recommended as a retirement or debt payment plan).

Our children don’t start to talk and then run the day after they are born.

Having patience doesn’t mean you don’t still focus on, and work toward your goals and dreams.  It means that sometimes you have to take baby steps.

Most rich people got rich by waking up each morning and doing something towards their goals.  They either earned or saved or sold or learned.  They did something.  Maybe they earned and reinvested their earnings.  Maybe they saved up until they had enough to buy into an opportunity.  It took time and baby steps.  They did not “get rich quick” ~ they got rich by laying the groundwork and one baby step, one dollar at a time.

If you want your bills paid off and money in the bank, chances are you cannot be there tomorrow.  You can start to focus on what you want (savings and no bills), and you can do something every chance you get to get there.  Every chance you get in this case might be forgoing the morning coffee at your favourite coffee place and putting $4 towards a credit card bill.  This might not seem like very much but if you did it every day for a year (5 days a week), you would have your debt paid down by OVER $1000 dollars.  That is a BIG baby step.

If you want a relationship ~ a good one ~ you need to first be okay with yourself.  If you aren’t presently 100% happy with who YOU are, you need to start taking some baby steps to feel better.  (My website and blog are full of ideas so look around and keep reading).

If you do feel good with yourself, your next step would be to actually get out (or get online), and start to meet people.  Baby steps.  You cannot get married or have a relationship without first meeting someone.  So take that step and GET OUT.

one step at a time

You have probably heard that the “Universe will conspire to give you what you want”.

Another way that I heard that while I was growing up was “God helps those who help themselves”.

So, be patient, take some baby steps.  You WILL get to where you want to be if you are willing to be grateful for all the little things.  They will add up and become big things.





Chakra Clearing Meditation – Sacral Chakra

This is the second meditation in the blog post series of Healing the Chakras meditations.

If you have not done the Root Chakra Healing Meditation yet, then please go back and do it first.

Sacral Chakra Attributes

– Located at the base of the belly, just below your navel.
– Colour – Orange
– The physical attributes of the Sacral Chakra:  Kidneys, bladder, reproductive organs.
– The Sacral Chakra has to do with relationship energy.  Often is also related to finances.

Meditation for Healing the Sacral Chakra

Chakra Clearing Meditations – Root Chakra

This post is the first of seven in a series on Chakra Healing Meditations.

I am always checking meditations out on YouTube.  I have my favourites that I listen to on occasion.  I find one and I pick one to listen to as I go to sleep.  I can’t remember the last time I went to sleep without turning on a meditation or self hypnosis audio to listen to as I drifted off.

Our subconscious minds are so very powerful.  I like to take advantage of my sleep time to put positive or useful things into my subconscious.  It can also help if you have problems falling asleep.

So, I came across some by Dr. Nipun Aggarwal.  There is an audio for each Chakra.  The chanting and beat while listening will help your Chakras.  The audio in this post is for the Root Chakra.  You need to start with the Root Chakra Meditation before doing the next ones.  Do it for as many days as you are drawn to do it ~ if your root chakra is balanced, you may only feel the need to do it once, for most of you, it will be a few times, and for some of you it could be a couple of weeks.  Trust your intuition and feelings for how many days to listen.

Once all seven posts are up, do listen to them one day at a time and in order.  Do not listen out of order, and do not do more than one Chakra per day.

Root Chakra Attributes

– Located at the base of the spine.
– The colour is red.
– The physical attributes of the Root Chakra: teeth, bones, nails, blood and building of cells.
– The First Chakra has to do with our sense of belonging.  When balanced, it creates a sense of “We are all one”.  If there were issues in childhood about our sense of belonging and protection, it can impact the root Chakra.

Root Chakra Healing Meditation


Tomorrow I will post the healing meditation for the Sacral Chakra.