Tamara Hawk – Psychic, Medium

I often write and talk about us creating our own reality. I know beyond any doubt that we are here to have an experience, and that we are creating it. Some parts we create before we get here, some after we have arrived.

This can be compared to booking a vacation.  Before your vacation, you decide where it is you want to go, who it is you are going with, where you will stay and what you will do while you are there. You plan your vacation.

Once you get to your destination, you can then decide whether or not to stick to your itinerary. Your choices of what to do while you are there become more clear. Sometimes you realize that you can do way more than you first thought you could, so you change your mind and decide to have a different experience than was planned. You have different information than you did while you were at home, so you make different choices. You may meet someone who has lived there for a long time and talk to them. They may tell you some things about where you are, and where you are planning to go. You may like that information and take it and continue on your journey. You may be horrified to hear about the place you are heading and decide to go somewhere else or do something else instead. Basically, the choice is up to you.

Some of you, while on your vacation, will say, “I can’t change that!! I’ve already paid for it, or planned it, or its already in the works and it can’t be stopped”. Or some will say its simply too much of a hassle to make the change, may as well do it, even if it won’t be as enjoyable as I first thought.

Life is like that too. If you believe that you can’t change it, or that it can’t be stopped, it can’t. You have made that your reality by stating it. If you think its too much of a hassle to change it, you will be stuck doing something that you likely won’t enjoy much, simply because you can’t be bothered to make the effort to change it.

We are Souls having a human experience. We chose the life we wanted to come into, our parents, people we wanted to meet, our country, our city. For whatever reason, our Soul wanted to have certain experiences. Now that you are here you can change your mind if you want to.

Stop thinking that “oh, this is just meant to be”. It doesn’t have to be like that. Change your mind, change your experience, change your life.

Compassion for others, and empathy, is a good thing. What affects one affects all. We are all connected.

Where we get into trouble is when we take on the issues/problems of others’. It is not compassionate to tell someone else what to do or to try and live their life for them. As a matter of fact, its not fair to them, and it does nothing for either of you.

We can ‘be there’ for others if they need us, or if they ask for our help. The thing is, most of us have a tendency to want to help others without them asking for, or wanting our ‘help’.

There are so many examples of this. In relationships of all kinds. Of siblings, or friends, or spouses, or parents. Each and every one of us has come to this earth to experience certain things. Each and every one of us has within us the ability to make decisions and choices. Just because someone that you love is making choices that you do not agree with does not mean that they need your help. It does not mean that their choices are wrong. It may be the right choice for them at the time.

Even if someone you love is on drugs or is living in poverty, or is having some other ‘problem’, does not mean that you are required to ‘fix’ it for them.  How do you know that what you are thinking is for their highest and best good?  Why is it your business to live the life of someone else?

If they are an adult, they certainly have the capacity to make other decisions, other choices and change their life. You can change your life if you want, they can change theirs if they want. If they do not want to change, you cannot make them change. If they want change in their life and they need help, they will probably ask for your assistance. If they are in a really bad spot, they may ask you to ‘rescue’ them from a situation. You cannot rescue someone from something they have created. They need to make some different choices. You may be able to ‘assist’, but do not try to take control of their life, their situation, and make it your own. It will not work.

There are so many different examples of this.  I will provide a few, but what I am talking about is certainly not limited to what I have written here.

Example One.

There is a person you love who is using drugs and living a life you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy.  Once in a while an intervention might work, but if the person does not want help, whatever you do will not work. You can threaten, give them a place to live, give them 100 tools to get off the drugs, but they will find their way back to where they were if they do not want to live a ‘clean’ life, of if they have much deeper issues of self-worth. You can give them all the love in the world, but they will continually put drugs above all else, until they make a different choice.  Above their love for you, above their own well-being, above love for anything else.  All you can do is pray for them, send them loving energy and hold the intention that they get what they need for their own highest and best good. It is not up to you to decide what their highest and best good is.

Example Two.

I have known quite a few women in abusive relationships. I have even ‘helped’ two different friends get out of abusive situations. The thing with this is, that does not work either unless the person really wants out and asks for your help. Even then, it might not work.  I had a friend that was in an abusive relationship and she came over one day and had a tooth knocked out and had a black eye. She told me she wanted to get out of the relationship – badly. She oscillated back and forth from wanting to get out and blaming herself for her man’s anger.

I did what I could to help her to get out though. First, I called a shelter, told them about her situation, and then gave her the number for the shelter. The woman at the shelter told me that most women in that situation go back to the man. I didn’t quite believe it at the time, if someone had the opportunity to change something so awful, why would they go back? My friend did not call them though. Not right then.

The police ended up at her house one night and brought her to the shelter. She stayed there for a couple of weeks. She got her own place. I helped her to furnish her place and get it ready for her and her kids. I was happy for her, she was out.

I didn’t hear from her for about a month. I called and left a couple of messages, and sent emails but didn’t hear a peep. Then one day she called me and was living about 4 hours from here, she had a great job and was being promoted. Once again I was really happy for her.

Then a year went by and I didn’t hear from her. Once again, I tried to leave a message but her phone was disconnected. I sent emails but never got a reply. I bumped into a mutual friend that told me she had left the country for a while. Her family lived in the US and she was with them, once again I was happy for her. I did wonder though, why she wasn’t in contact with her good friends that loved her.

After two years of just hearing bits and pieces of what was going on with her, I heard that she was coming back into town to be with the man who abused her. She had kept in contact with him all that time. She didn’t keep in contact with those of us who loved her. We thought that she was just getting on with her life and was doing well (I know sometimes people need to cut off contact in order to start again).

I learned that she cut off contact with those of us who wanted to help her do it differently. She has made it glaringly obvious that she does not want our kind of help, or maybe she just isn’t ready for it.

This is a perfect example of how we cannot live other peoples lives for them. Some of her friends are actually still very angry at her for not taking the help that was offered. I’d be lying if I said that I understood it at the very moment it was happening. It was quite a while ago, but I think I was angry at first too. How could she do that? After all we did to help her, and she chose him over us? It made no sense.

I have since realized that she provided a valuable learning opportunity for me. Yet another one (I’ve had a lot of them prior to this which are different story’s altogether).

I can have love and compassion. I can pray that she gets what SHE needs. Not what I want FOR her – what SHE wants and needs for her. I can pray that she stay safe, and I can send her loving, healing energy. I just can’t try and take over her life for her and rescue her.

Would I do it again if I had another friend in the same situation? Or if she came to me really asking for my help. Yes, I would. In a second.  But for now, I will let her go. I will let her live her life as she wants to live it. Not how I would like her to live it.

Example Three

You have a family member that is living in poverty. You want them to have a better life and have what you have. You buy them groceries, pay their rent, even to the point that you leave yourself short or get into debt. This may be okay in certain circumstances. For example if they are just going through a tough spot. However, I see it all the time where a person that is completely capable of taking care of themselves relies on other people to get by.

When they have money they spend it on themselves and expect friends or family to take care of the “important” stuff, like hydro and food. Continually giving them money does not help them. It just keeps them stuck. Money is not love, you can’t tell someone what to spend their money on or where to work or how to live. Those choices are up to the individual.

Once again, this does not mean that you do not have love and compassion for that person, it means you love them enough to allow them to live their own life.

If they ask for help, perhaps you can help them.  Perhaps you cannot.  There is nothing loving about living someone’s life for them.  It is not helpful to get angry at someone because they are not living their life as you would have them live it.  That is called controlling.  There is nothing loving about trying to control someone else.  Love is allowing people to be and do and create what it is they want.

I would also like to make it clear that this does not apply to children, people who are mentally ill, or those who are physically unable to take care of themselves.

Hi all,

Wow, its been a long time since I have done a blog post. I won’t promise anything, but I am hopeful that I will be writing more over the next little while.

All is well at the moment. I had a bit of a tough spring but things seem to be improving for me now. I had some pain issues, some fatigue issues, some depression issues…it seems to be ongoing but it is much much better than it was. I now have a new understanding for people who are going through chronic pain issues. Perhaps what I went through was a way for me to understand this better.

Early in the year I actually thought that maybe my time here was done.   I thought maybe it was time to go home.  Since then, things have been steadily improving and I am feeling quite healthy and happy most days.

I am now putting 15 minute readings on hiatus. As it stated on the Psychic Readings page of my site, the 15 minute readings were temporary and it is now time for me to stop offering them for a short time.

I haven’t been doing many in-person readings either. I may resume these full speed in the fall but I am not totally sure yet. I am still available for phone and email readings though.

As a society we have been going through a lot of shifts and changes of late. There are more to come but if enough of us on our planet can hold the light and the love we will come through it just fine.

For me personally, I am an extreme empath. I have been doing a lot of work on how to protect myself from unwanted energies. It is a work in progress. It doesn’t seem to matter what is going on in our world, I feel it. I feel it deeply and it can take a lot for me to block certain things out, and on occasion, things that I would rather not have in my energy wind up there and it can take a while for them to be cleared. I occasionally get outside help with this and it seems to make quite a difference. Sometimes the help comes from my guides and angels on the other side, and just as often, the help comes from a human angel.

I just want to thank all of you for the love you bring to the world, and the love you have sent my way over the past few months. It was felt and is appreciated.

Until next time…hold your love and your light…

I have been running a little behind the past while. I’ve had quite a few appointments but had some personal stuff going on so haven’t been able to do quite as many as I normally do.

All is okay with me, there’s nothing wrong, just some things that I have had going on that have kept me from writing as many blog posts and from getting to some emails.

At this time I am not doing in-person readings. I haven’t actually done one since December of last year. I will likely resume the in-person readings at some point, but I really have no idea when.

I am going to have a special through March 2011 for anyone who would like to book a one hour phone reading. It will only apply to One Hour phone readings.

If you book with me via email and pay for your reading before the end of March 2011, a one hour phone reading will be $200.00.
(That is a 20% discount off the regular price.)

Please focus on peace and send love to Egypt and her people.  We are all one and the people of Egypt are our people, they are us, just living life in a different place on earth.  I often write about Love vs. Fear and now is the perfect time to focus on love.   The more love we can send to that area of the world, the more likely things are to work out in a positive way.

Right now in Egypt, people are standing together.  It is a peaceful protest.  The people of Egypt are starving and have not had a voice.  They are finding their voices now.  Even the military is backing off and just keeping watch in a peaceful way.  The soldiers are watching their friends and families protest, they do not wish to harm them.  The officers and higher ups are rich and get their money and power from the president, but they don’t dare ask the soldiers at this point to kill their loved ones.  They are not sure that their authority would not be challenged if they did that.

If the people end up trying to storm the president and remove him by force the military (which has historically been known as the “King-Maker” in Egypt), will likely take over.  Its ‘funny’ one of the reasons why there is not enough money in Egypt is because the military consumes most of the finances in order for the country’s leaders to have a lot of expensive military ‘toys’.

The police are off the streets now, and there is less conflict.  The people just want their voices heard, and Hosni Mubarak removed from office. 

On the news we hear about the “Economic Consequences” if this happens.   “Mubakrk is a friend of  the United States and of Israel”. 

The White House, the entire United States, Canada, Israel and many other countries are IN FEAR.  Our leaders are fearful and what they are saying is helping to spread fear all over the globe.

It is up to US, those of us who know better.  Those of us who KNOW that by feeling love, projecting love and spreading love, anything can change, anything can be overcome.  Please stay in your heart centre, send love to Egypt and her people and our world leaders.

Do not be led into the fear of the unknown.  The leaders are afraid of the unknown – let them be.  We must know and feel that change needs to happen, and we must allow things to change, but through love not through fear.

The leaders are worried that Islamic Militants will take over, or that whoever gets into power will close the Suez Canal….or worse, that the price of gas will rise!  For the record, aside from the price of gas, the other couple things are very unlikely to happen…especially if we can send our love.  With enough love energy, negative things CANNOT happen.

There is talk about the fact that the price of gas has gone up to over $100 per barrel, that tourism is taking a big hit, that the “bond rating” of the country has gone down, and that Egypt may even become bankrupt.  Really, really???  The bond rating???  People are starving, and our leaders are worried about a Bond Rating???  Where have our priorities gone?

This is all pretty much a self-fulfilling prophecy for the United States and other Western countries because of the way the Bonding Agencies and the financial markets are operated.  Things need to change.  Our financial systems need to change.  Maybe, just maybe, this will be one of many catalysts that will help with this.

We all know that things on our planet are changing (if you are reading this, you are likely to know these types of things, the people who do not know this already wouldn’t likely be reading this).  I’ve been writing about this for years, as have many others – including the Hopi and Aztecs.

We are not all that different from Egypt.  Listening to the news and hearing the announcers talk about the people not having food, or homes, or a decent wage with which to live ~~ this is NOW.  And it is not just there ~ someplace else ~ far from our homes.  It might not be quite as apparent but it is happening here in Canada, and in the United States and all over the globe.  People cannot afford to eat, to have homes, to live in comfort.

WE ARE ONE, what affects one, affects ALL.  I am so grateful for the people of Egypt ~ they have the courage to help make the world a better place. 

Once they are successful at removing Mubarak, and they will be one way or the other (whether he goes now or just promises not to run in the next election), they will likely endure more hardship.

Egypt may wind up bankrupt, may wind up being a very poor country for a while.  There may well be another revolt after this one.  It could take a year, or more for things to get back to normal.  However!!  Thank God for these people!!!

I hear all the time that “things need to change”.  I have written many times over the years how uncomfortable change can be.   The people of Egypt, (and of Jordan and of Yemen and Tunisia before them), are stepping up, are willing to put everything on the line, their lives, their country, in order to facilitate change!!

Most of us in the West, no matter how uncomfortable our lives get, or how much we bitch and complain about the way things are, would not be willing to put so much on the line, to lose in order to gain.  To do without in order to eventually have everyone do better.

So we need to pray, and send lots of LOVE and lots of THANKS to those people who have had enough, and are doing something to make their lives, and therefore the world a better place. 

Thank you, people of Egypt…with Love

Tamara