You Must Ask for What You Want

As we go through life we need to learn how to ask for what we want.  As children we were good at asking for what we wanted.

You cannot expect to get what you want if you do not ask for it.  Most people around you are not mind readers.

There is a trend of people being passive-aggressive in trying to get what they want ~ or to punish people for not giving them what they want, even if they haven’t even asked yet.

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Thing is, that if you ask for something, most of the time you will get it.  Not all the time, but if you ask your family for something chances are if they know you really need it or that it would make you happy, they will give it to you ~ if they can.

Psychic readings and help from your guides and angels works that way too.  Your guides and angels won’t interfere in your life.  However, if you ask them to help you they will do what they can.

With readings, when sitting with someone like me, sometimes you and I have to ask a specific question in order to get a specific answer.  Or if there’s a loved one you want to talk to, sometimes we need to ask them to come through (sometimes they come through before we even ask, but not always).

Demanding and asking are two different things as well.  You need to be reasonable with what you are asking of someone.  Most people won’t give you loan after loan if you haven’t paid them back.  Most people won’t be willing to help you if you are not willing to help yourself.

What you will find though is that as you begin to ask for what you want in a way that expresses gratitude for what you already have, things will come to you more easily.

Is someone more likely to help you when you approach them with an energy of passive aggressiveness, or demand, or entitlement ~ or are they more likely to help you when you are grateful for that person in your life, for what you already have, and are grateful for any help they offer you?

Make sure you ask for what it is you want and need, knowing that you will get it if it is doable for whomever you are asking (whether it is help from someone on earth, or a spirit helper).

Are there any areas in your life where you need to ask for something?  Would letting go of your resentments of not having your needs met help you to feel better?

You can even ask your own higher self for help if you don’t yet know how to ask for what you need.  You could just affirm “Please help me to better communicate my needs and what I want from a place of love, knowing and trusting that what I require will come to me”.

 

 

 

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic phone reading can help. You can contact me here.

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A couple “best of” posts from 2011

So, a little bit more of awesome summer re-runs for you!

Just because I wrote them four years ago doesn’t mean they aren’t good.  Quite the contrary.  When I share posts from the past I only share the “best of” all the posts I’ve done, and ones that were not specific to a certain time or energy alert period.

Hope you enjoy them!

There’s a difference between compassionate and controlling behaviour

Compassion for others, and empathy, is a good thing. What affects one affects all. We are all connected.

Where we get into trouble is when we take on the issues/problems of others’. It is not compassionate to tell someone else what to do or to try and live their life for them. As a matter of fact, its not fair to them, and it does nothing for either of you.

We can ‘be there’ for others if they need us, or if they ask for our help. The thing is, most of us have a tendency to want to help others without them asking for, or wanting our ‘help’.

There are so many examples of this. In relationships of all kinds.

You can read the rest of There’s a difference between compassionate and controlling behaviour here.

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This is one of my favourites, I still refer clients to this blog post.  It is titled:

How the Human Experience is Like a Vacation

I often write and talk about us creating our own reality. I know beyond any doubt that we are here to have an experience, and that we are creating it. Some parts we create before we get here, some after we have arrived.

This can be compared to booking a vacation. Before your vacation, you decide where it is you want to go, who it is you are going with, where you will stay and what you will do while you are there. You plan your vacation.

Once you get to your destination, you can then decide whether or not to stick to your itinerary. Your choices of what to do while you are there become more clear.

You can read the rest of the post “How the Human Experience is Like a Vacation” by clicking here
 

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Its A Good Day to Have a Good Day

Every day is a good day to have a good day.  I just wanted this to be forefront on your mind this Sunday morning.

So often we focus on tomorrow, or yesterday, or some imagined crisis that might be coming up in the future.

Everything that happens in your life happens in one moment.  Even if its something you planned ahead of time (a vacation, a date, buying a house, attending an appointment…), it all happens in one moment.

That moment is always NOW.  No matter how much you think about tomorrow being Monday, and maybe focus on the stress that Monday will bring you ~ at this moment, it is Sunday…morning.  Tomorrow isn’t here yet.

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Even if you have something to do today that isn’t your favourite thing to do or that might be uncomfortable, you will only be doing it in the moment.  For example, if you have a phone call to make that you are dreading, if you just make the call and get it over with early in the day, then the rest of your day is free ~ to have a good day.  If you put it off until dinnertime, you will be thinking about it all day, you will have the discomfort of the call hours from now, but you will also have the stress of thinking about the call for hours.

Just stay in your moment today, enjoy it.  Life is Good and …

Today is A Good Day to Have a Good Day!

 

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

A Video From One Of My Favourite Authors ~ Gregg Braden

Okay, so I must admit I just love Gregg Braden and how he blends science and spirituality.  I met him briefly in Phoenix in 2010 where he was doing a talk at the “Celebrate Your Life Event”.  I said to him “This is so exciting, I don’t know how you can contain yourself!”  All he said to me was “Do I?”, and after I thought about it, I realized he doesn’t really ‘contain himself’, he is very passionate about his work and his discoveries.  I love his dedication to sharing information with us all.

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A scientist, with so many insights and study into ancient cultures (Hopi, Aztec’s etc.), spirituality, quantum physics, and even Darwinism, he puts everything into easy to understand perspective.  He shows how the key to our future lies in the wisdom of our past.

Here is an audio of him on “The Dream It Alive Show” from March of this year.

 

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

To all the Father’s out there on Fathers Day

I wasn’t sure if I was going to write a post to Dads today.  I wrote one on Mother’s Day for my mom, but my dad wasn’t really around much when I was growing up.

I was actually lucky that my dad wasn’t around.  He had some big issues and for a while there it skewed my own relationships and ability to feel safe in a relationship.

It wasn’t until I met my husband and saw the great capacity he has to love that I realized just what a real dad is.  I had never met a man that loves his sons in the way he does and for that I will be eternally grateful.  He changed my life when I met him and showed me a whole new way of being in this world.

Of course, I did a lot of my own internal healing before I was even able to meet him.  Prior to me doing my work with and for myself, I never would have been in the state of vibration to allow such a great guy into my heart space.  That is for another post though.

Happy Fathers Day

For all the Dad’s out there that are no longer married and try really hard to connect with your kids, thank you.  For all the women out there that try really hard to encourage this, thank you.

I have many dad friends that totally adore their children.  I have many clients that adore their children.  For some, it is easy to have a relationship with their kids.  For others they have to fight tooth and nail just to be able to see them.

I have many clients that use their children as weapons against their ex spouse.  Please don’t do this.  Your kids hear what you say to your friends on the phone or in the backyard even if you don’t say it right to their face.  If you have issues, please work on yourself, don’t let your own issues taint the vision children have of their dad.

I acknowledge that there are men out there that have gotten involved in drugs, or are partiers or simply ditch their kids for other reasons.  I can tell you from the hundreds of readings I have done (and dads I have talked to either living or passed over), they don’t ever do this from a place of feeling good about themselves.  They do not leave because they don’t care about their kids, they leave because they truly believe their kids are better off without them.

Its also important to remember that when a relationship breaks down, it is generally not the kids that dad is leaving.  Just because dad has left the home, the city or the province, does not mean that he has abandoned his kids.  He has not abandoned his kids unless you haven’t heard from him in years.

I won’t say much more on the subject, but I wanted to point out that fathers need to have their voices heard too, and there are way too many loving men out there that are getting the run around when they try and connect with their children.

I just wanted to acknowledge them and send them some love on this Father’s Day if they are not able to see their kids.
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Revisiting some more posts from 2010

I wanted to share some posts from a few years ago again.  These ones are from March & April of 2010, and are my favourites from that time.  I hope you enjoy them.

 

Comfort Zone Meme

 

What is Normal?

 

Spring Cleaning and Soul Cleaning ~ There are similarities

 

Fear, Anger and Frustration

 

Visits from Spirits

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Why I Write

I write these blog posts for you.  All of us are on a journey, it is a journey of your Soul.  A journey that will end with all of us going back home.  I believe we come here to have experiences, and I believe we are meant to find the path to what fulfills us in this lifetime.

I write to help teach you how to become all that you wish to become.  To empower, to help you find your own way.  I know not 100% of what I write will resonate with you.  That is okay, you can take what you need and leave the rest.  There is no other person on this planet that is exactly like I am.  There are many of you who are in a very similar energetic space to me and that receive comfort from reading my words.

As much as life is supposed to be fun, sometimes uncomfortable things do happen that are not in our control.  This is another one of the reason’s I write.  To let you know that you are not alone if you are feeling challenged.  To inspire you to let yourself off the hook from trying to be the perfect “enlightened human”.

You Chose to Live Here

You Chose to Live Here

I always focus on the positive in every situation ~ because every situation does have a positive side (even if it takes a while to see what it is).  However, I know that when you are in the middle of something it can feel overwhelming sometimes.

I have written about challenges before.  I just now realized I have two blog posts with the exact same title ~ “You Will Always Have Challenges” that I wrote two months apart, one in April and one in May.  I think the reason why I am sharing this the way I am is because so many of you reading this are very ‘light’ souls and some of you really want to feel more ‘enlightened’.  Enlightened doesn’t mean perfect. 

When you are challenged with something it can be easy to say “What the heck, I thought I was doing everything right, why is this happening?  If I was doing a better job here I would feel good all the time and I would be able to fix everything (and everyone).”

Thing is, you can’t control all the people on the planet and we all have situations or people that challenge us.  We are in a time of great change on our planet and with these planetary changes comes some ‘growing pains’.  It is not just you, it is not just ‘us’, it is the entire Earth, all her people, and other parts of the Universe as well.

People will come and go from your life; they will annoy you or inspire you;  you will love, you will feel less than loving sometimes; you will feel up and you will feel down.  None of these is YOU.  They are aspects of your Soul and Human self, but none need to define who you are or why you are here.

You don’t always need to let overwhelm overcome you.  Whenever I am dealing with someone that my (less than loving) human side would like to just bop in the nose, I say “What would Jesus do?”

I’m not religious but I do see the value in some of what some religions teach.  And I think Jesus is a pretty cool guy ~ I have actually ‘met’ him in channels quite a few times and once in my car.  He could keep his head in almost any situation (from what we see in the bible), and when he had challenges he went to a place of  ‘love’.  You’ve heard that phrase “Jesus is Love”.  Well, just asking yourself ‘what would Jesus do?’ can help refocus your energy on love.

what would jesus do

I’m way off topic here… just like me to ramble on (after all I talk for a living).  I was writing about why I write.  I write because I need to write.  It is obviously one of my ‘life purposes’ ~ or at least one of the ways my ‘life purpose’ manifests.

I don’t even know why I am writing what I am writing today.  Honestly, most days that I write I just sit down and think “What does someone need to know”, and it starts to spew out.

I guess to sum up, I would say I write because I know that someone needs to hear this.  If it wasn’t you, you probably haven’t read this far.  I am a channel and I try to help.  I firmly believe that if someone needs to hear these words they will be directed here.

I don’t need to ‘save the world’ and neither do you, (can’t imagine the stress of trying).  I do need to  share what I know though.

Hope you got something out of my daily rambling.

(I’d love to hear in the comments or on Facebook if this meant anything to you or was helpful in any way).

With love

Tamara

 

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

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Is being happy of the “ego”?

I write posts that are meant to be inspiring and to help you achieve all you need and want in this lifetime.  I have no desire to convert anyone into a certain belief system.  We all ascend and live life from where we are.  None of us are better or worse than each other.  We are simply different.

Aside from the basics (love, happiness), we all want different things.  We have different perceptions of what happiness is.  We all have different dreams or desires, or feelings of where we want to live, what we want to do in our lives.

If someone thinks differently than you do; if they choose to live a more humble life, does it mean you are egotistical for wanting more?  Absolutely not.  Can you want more and still be humble?  Yes.  Can you be happy and have financial wealth and still be of service to others?  Yes.

If you try and impose your will onto someone else, that is your ego.  If you are truly okay with who you are, and you truly feel love for all, you won’t have the desire to change anyone else.

This can be hard for a lot of humans.  Especially if YOU are happy, and there is someone around you who is not.  You want them to be happy, so you try and tell them what to do.  This is your ego.  Their path is different than yours, you need to let them live it.

Or if you are unhappy, and someone around you IS happy, you may try and tell them that what they are doing is wrong.  Like if they love their work and have money, and you do not, you tell them “you are so ‘in your ego’, you need to get more ‘spiritual’ and in tune with nature”.  Never mind that you are wealthy and get out in nature quite regularly, and are on councils that donate money to help nature and animals ~ you are ‘egotistical’ because you chose not to suffer in this lifetime.

I offer psychic and coaching services to help people who’s beliefs (and vibration) are similar to mine, but that feel alone; or that want to learn how to use the energies to have a positive impact on their life, or to realize the full potential of their soul.  I write what I vibrate so that people who resonate with what I say can find me.  I can help a lot of people realize their own potential and it is my life path to embrace and share this.  It is the perfect job for me.

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I have been wealthy, and I have been totally broke, and everywhere in between.  One thing I know for certain, is when I was broke I was more likely to feel disempowered.  It was harder to be inspired to help anyone ~ if my basic needs were not met, I was less likely to have the time or the energy to write.  When I was struggling, I was not in the energetic vibration of Source.  Source is “all that is”.  If we feel less than all that is, it can be harder to vibrate or embody the light.  How can I help someone else if I cannot help myself?

Even as I wrote that paragraph above, I realized how different I am now than I used to be.  After re-reading that paragraph, I must point something out about how energy works.  When I used what I knew to create differently, I was no longer disempowered, I no longer ‘struggled’ no matter the circumstance.  Because of how I vibrate now the external circumstances of my life do not dictate how I feel.  Because I decided to consciously vibrate higher, and stay happy, whether I have or have not, I find that I have more ~ consistently.  Because my happiness is not dependent on external factors, it frees up the energy of the Universe to provide more for me.

The Universe will provide us with what we need.  If what I write can help you, then your guides, angels and your higher self will direct you here.  I don’t walk down the street, or knock on doors trying to convert people to my way of being.  We all have our own path and our own way.  I do put myself ‘out there’ so others of like-energy can see me.  I put myself and my channels out there so that I can help people in a way that resonates with them.  I expect that if my way of being-ness does not resonate with you, you will not have read this far.

I do not need to be converted, and neither does anyone else.

Sharing who you are and living a good life are not “ego”.  Telling someone else how they should be living is.

If you don’t like it, don’t engage with it

There’s been a theme with the energies this week.  I find it mildly amusing but I want to share it with you because it might make a difference in your life.

So what I’ve noticed is people giving attention to what it is they do not like, yet continuing to engage with it.

I got a message on Facebook yesterday from someone who does not like or agree with what I write.  He says that we are living in a Karmic cycle, we are prisoners on earth, have no control over anything at all, and need to just stay miserable (I am paraphrasing).  Anyway, why does he even read my blog?  He obviously does not like it.  Strange.

Then on the radio this morning, some guy calls in and tells the DJ that he hates the music on the radio station.  Um….push the button and change the station?

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Then a friend emails me and says her daughter is mad and not talking to her.  Her daughter is 17 (we will call her “Joan”).  She says it doesn’t feel good that her daughter is mad.  So I say, let her be mad.  Don’t engage with the angry part of her.  Joan has reasons for being mad and they are actually pretty good reasons.  Joan has no reason to be mad at mom though ~ mom is just closest.  In this case what mom needs to do is engage the loving part of her daughter.

The more mom observes the anger and engages the anger and tries to change the anger, the more anger mom will experience from Joan.  Mom needs to sit down and focus on the love.  She can bring some light and love energy in through her crown chakra from Source.  She can then focus on her own heart.  She can think about how much she loves her daughter.  She can imagine that love and light in her heart Centre going out to her daughter, surrounding her daughter in a white or pink light that is all love.

When her daughter walks into the room she is in, mom can engage by talking about the weather, or say good morning, or whatever and simply not engage the anger.  Her daughter is not “anger”.  Her daughter is love, but she is hurting.

The more mom engages with the hurt by trying to force change the more it could be exacerbated.  The more mom engages with the love, the more open and loving the energy created can be.  Joan will feel this love.  Joan might not be ready to be fully loving, but if all Joan feels is love it will be hard for the ‘disconnect’ with mom to grow.

Joan might not say anything at all, or she might say mean things.  But it won’t matter.  Mom will be able to recognize that Joan is angry, and she can simply keep engaging the love.  It takes two to have an argument ~ 100% of the time.  Joan might try to ‘attack’ mom to support her pain body.  But if mom doesn’t engage the pain body, but just projects love (while holding a ‘matter of fact’ attitude), Joan will not be able to stay the same.

Mom won’t be vibrating anywhere near where Joan is, so Joan won’t be able to stay mad and be in the same room with her.  Joan might even leave the house for a while, but if mom holds that love energy Joan will feel it no matter where she is.  If mom is overly worried, she will project ‘worry energy’ not ‘love energy’.

We get what we focus on, mom doesn’t want to create more reasons to worry, so she needs to focus on more reasons to love.

Is this easy?  Not always.  Does it work? Absolutely.

Some of you (like the fellow who messaged me yesterday) might say I have my head, you know where, but I have seen this work ~ over and over and over.

I have deleted the message that I got yesterday, and have meditated to remove myself from that energy.  I could have replied to him, but I don’t want to engage that energy, we all have our own paths, and I do not wish to get sucked into his vortex of creation.  After this post, I won’t mention it again.  I do not wish to see more of that.  I do not wish to engage.

Hold your vibration and only engage that what you wish to see more of.

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Revisiting some older posts…2008

So, its Easter weekend.  A Full Moon Solar Eclipse.  I have been writing blog posts for 95 days straight now.

I have committed to writing a post a day, so far so good.  I am thinking of giving myself permission to take a day or two off once I hit 100 days in  a row, but I must admit, I gave myself permission to take a weekend off last month, and I kept right on blogging.  I do enjoy sharing with you.

I find that once I sit down at my pc, the words just flow.  Even if I was tired, or busy, or just wanting to sit and rest, the words come when I sit down.

I have wanted to revisit some older posts for a while now, and I think this weekend is the perfect time to do it.  I have almost 300 posts on this blog, and I realize you probably haven’t read them all.  At some point I will post my favourites from each of the past 7 or so years.

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So in no particular order, here are some of my favourite posts from 2008.

Let it Go…Meditation for Cutting Energy Cords

 

Meditation for Centering, Grounding and Protecting Your Energy

 

Moving into Your Future

 

Why Women Gain Weight After They Get Married

 

Choosing a Psychic

 

Hope you enjoy these old posts.  Want to point out that when I first posted the blog about Women gaining weight I got a lot of feedback on it, some of it not so good.  One fellow emailed me and actually tore a strip off me and was pretty mad.  So, if you are an egotistical man that treats women like objects, you probably should not read it.