Tamara Hawk – Psychic, Medium

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We all create our own reality.  Not only by what we say or do, but by what we believe.
 
A belief is just a thought that repeats itself over and over again.  Our beliefs shape our reality more than anything else.
 
There have been times in my life when I have been told that I have on “rose coloured glasses” or that I am not living in reality.  Well, I can tell you, for the most part, I am happy.  My life is good.  If my life is what I believe to be “good”, and I am happy and am able to spread love and light and abundance, what is wrong with that?  If that means I’m not living in someone else’s negative view of ‘reality’ then so-be-it.  I like my reality.
 
Would there be any point at all for me to believe that things are not as positive as I think and feel they are?  That when I am challenged by something, it is a ‘bad’ experience and will ruin my life?  When I have a challenge in my life, and I have had many, I chose to believe that I will get through it.  I chose to believe that in some way, whether I recognize it or not at the moment, it is for my highest and best good and on some level I have created it.  When I am particularly challenged, I look at ways to create something different for myself.  It’s not always easy, but I know, or at least I believe, that discomfort promotes movement, and movement promotes growth.  That is the way I chose to perceive my reality.
 
 
The following are some examples of ways you may talk to yourself, and in turn, shape your own reality.  Which category do you find yourself going to more often, the first or the second?
 
1). “There’s high unemployment and there is no work out there”.  If you believe this, then you will make that a reality for yourself.  You will go through your days acting on that belief.  You will not bother to look as hard because you believe there is no point to looking, there is no work.
2.) If you were to change the thoughts, the belief would follow.  “There are jobs out there, you just have to find them”.  You will go through your days acting as if the perfect job is out there for you.  You will look more, you will apply more, you will find a job that resonates with you.
 
1). “There is no point to starting exercise unless I am prepared to do it every day” (or 3x a week or whatever you believe).  You are more likely to not exercise at all because you believe there is no point and no benefit to just doing a little. 
2.) “Any exercise I can get is better than doing nothing”.  If that is your belief then you will get up and move a lot more.  You may find you have 5-10 minutes a day, or one hour every second weekend.  Once you do a little bit, if you believe it is helping, it will be helping.  You will feel good about the little bit you are doing and will possibly feel like doing more, because it will feel good.
 
1). If you own a business.  “It is hard to find good help”.  You will put out an ad for staff.  You will get X amount of applications.  You believe that good help is hard to find, so you will hire based only on the applications sitting in front of you, whether the people fit with your company’s mission and values or not.  After all, what is the point in looking any farther, ‘there’s no good help out there’.
2.) “There are many people out there that will resonate with the values of my company”.  You put out an ad.  You get X amount of applications.  None appear to be what your company is looking for.  You can either put out another ad in a different place and see who applies, or you interview people who might not have the experience who turn out to be very quick learners, are bright and share your values. 
 
1). “There’s no point in trying, nothing ever works”.  This one is pretty much a creativity killer.  If you hold this belief, you are likely to never try anything new.  Never let anything old go, and to feel stuck in your life. 
2.) “This doesn’t feel good to me, I think I’m going to do something – anything differently”.  Guaranteed, that if you change even one thing, do even one thing differently, you will see different results.  If you like the results great, if you don’t, change something else.
 
If you want to change your life, and your reality, start by changing your beliefs.  Challenge them regularly.  When you find your self-talk being negative, ask yourself if it really is truth.  If it really needs to be your truth.
 
So many of our beliefs are not even ours, but what we have been told in our lives.  We are told things by our parents, our teachers, our religious leaders, our government, our media.  Not everything you hear is truth.  Even if it is true for some people, it is not necessarily true for everyone.  It does not have to be true for you.  Unless you believe it to be true and take it on as a part of your belief system.
 
Starting today, give yourself permission to think for yourself and create your own beliefs.

Have you noticed the change in the energy?

Starting in 2009 things got a little weird, energies got strong, then things started to change. In September, it seemed to come to a head, as if everything left us, or was in the process of leaving us. It was as if everything that was old, or not serving our Highest and Best Good was leaving. The changes were massive. The energy was difficult at times. Some of you lost things from your life that had been around for a very long time. There were a lot of souls that went so far as to actually leave the earth, and the human life they were living. It was time to let go of a lot of the things that brought us to where we were at that time.

Following the release of the things, people, and energies that came early last fall, was a sense of emptiness. I spoke to so many people that felt lost and confused and just didn’t know what to do. It felt stagnant for a lot of people. So many felt like there wasn’t much point anymore. The things they used to think were fun didn’t have the allure that they had before. There was a general feeling of ‘why bother?’. Some felt like they had lost their passion for life and fun. Many just seemed to take a time-out from life and living.

In mid-January 2010, the energies started to change again. There was a sense of movement. If, in the fall, you had successfully let go of everything that was no longer serving you, you suddenly felt this month that maybe there was something to this life after all. For some of you, it is new people coming in to your life. So many of us are feeling the need to connect with like-minded others at this time. Those that had been spending a lot of time alone are suddenly drawn to join groups, or make friends, get out there and do something.

Its like all the plans that were put on hold for months are now coming to fruition. There is a need, a drive, to move. Some are welcoming new relationships into their lives, some are getting new and different job opportunities coming their way. There’s a big opportunity for change and movement at this time. What would you like in your life? Go for it. Sometimes change involves risk, but there is no better time than right now to take that leap, explore your options, spread your wings and take advantage of all the new things presenting to you.

I am usually pretty good at being in the moment, and practicing awareness.  However, the past little while has been a bit of a challenge for me.  I have had tons of stuff going on and I’ve sometimes wondered how I can do it all.

My Aunt passed away on January 8th, after a very brief yet intense illness.  Her and I were very close, she was my mentor, my confidant, my friend.  We had a “Celebration of Life” for her on Sunday.

As I wrote a few weeks ago, my husband broke his leg in September and has been off work since.  He went for surgery yesterday to have pins removed.

Tomorrow, my son has dental surgery for a growth he’s got on his gums.  Likely not too serious, but they have to knock him out and a mom worries anyway.

This Friday night I am participating in a paranormal investigation.  My first with a new P.A.R.A. team.  Very exciting.  I will let you know how it goes once all is said and done.

I’ve had tons of e-mails coming in and I’m working on booking in readings from those that are still on my waitlist.

Over the past while my horse has been slightly neglected.  I say slightly because I keep him at a barn where they take awesome care of him.  He’s well fed, gets put out in the morning to romp around and is brought in and kept warm and dry at night.  I have been trying to get down to exercise him but its been a challenge over the past while.  He grounds me, keeps me in the moment and I can’t help but Practice Awareness when I am with him but I haven’t been to the barn since Saturday.  Over the last month I have only been down to the barn just enough to keep him from going crazy from lack of attention. Thinking that I absolutly must get to see him on Thursday.

So, here I was, this Tuesday morning, I was happily going along my way and getting ready for the day.  I had booked four clients in today starting at 9:30 a.m.  I got up early, had my workout and shower and was having a cup of coffee before taking my son to school.  My husband had to leave the house and needed help with the truck.  I often will help to lift things into or out of the truck with him, normally not a problem.

This particular morning I was feeling a little rushed, seeing how many emails I could answer before my appointments started.  I was thinking about all the things I had to do, the things I had done, what I needed to get done later, and what I could rush through to get to where I wanted to be.  A typical case of rushing around too much and not being in the moment.

So I went outside with my husband and proceeded to grab one side of a very heavy piece of equipment, and halfway through lifting it I got the most intense pain in my back.  Ouch.  I could hardly move.  I hobbled into the house and tried to stretch it out a bit but it didn’t work.  I then popped a couple of Robax Platinum’s hoping that that would help to relax the muscle.

Suffice to say, I ended up cancelling my readings for the day…I couldn’t even get down the stairs to where I do readings, never mind actually sit with someone without wincing or groaning. 

I said to my husband “I wonder if someone is trying to tell me something?”  I must say, I know we create our own “stuff” ~ good and bad.  He pointed out that normally when I am going to lift something like that I stretch and bend and make a big production of limbering up beforehand and today I didn’t. 

I’m a thinker, always looking for a higher meaning to things.  I considered that my higher self didn’t want me to be doing readings today, or that I was meant to be doing something else with my day.

When it comes right down to it though, its just AWARENESS.  I got too much into my head, and autopilot, and rushing to get things done and didn’t take the time to get ready and lift properly.  That’s it.  Not divine intervention, not a curse, not anything, just ME. 

A great reminder for me to be in the moment and Practice My Awareness.

It can be very hard to lose someone you are close to.  Whether they become sick, or they pass suddenly, it can be a shock to us.

It is even harder for those that do not know that our existence here on earth is just a very small part of who we really are.  We are all born to earth with our own reasons for being here.  Sometimes we consciously know the reason we are here, more often than not we are not aware of it until after our passing.

When you have lost, or are in the process of losing someone you love, please allow yourself to grieve, and allow yourself to be sad.  Grieve for yourself though.  Not necessarily for your loved one.  Your loved one is fine.  Your loved one is not losing anything. Your loved is going home to be in and of the light again.  They have nothing to worry about.

It is those of us left behind that are losing something.  We feel the loss and separation from the person who has left us.  They don’t feel the separation, we do.  When they go home to the light they are more connected than they ever could have been while in the earth energy.

Do not think of what they did not have the chance to do in this lifetime.  No matter what their age, if they are going home, they are done here.  They have completed what they came here to do, and can now go home, knowing that they succeeded with what they came here for.  They can see us here, they can join us for family events if they want to, they are not ‘missing’ anything.

There are many souls that decided to come to earth during this time of change.  Just as they have come to earth during other times of big shifts and change on the earth.  A lot of these souls are now done here.  The change has occurred, there has been a massive shift in the collective consciousness over the past 10 years.  There are many wonderful, loving souls that came here to assist with that.  They are done.  They now get to go home.  You WILL see them again. 

So do not grieve for them.  Do not feel sad for them.  Allow yourself to grieve for yourself, feel sad for your own loss, to say good-bye.  Tears can be cleansing.  Just remember to be sad for the loss of the love and friendship you had with your loved one, for the space they occupied in your life.  Fill that space with love; use prayer, meditation, whatever it takes to help yourself get through the loss.  Just do not grieve for where they are now, because now they are home.

With love and gratitude for the space you all have in my life.
Tamara

MISSION

To make the world a better place through love.
To write something that will hopefully remind you of your own greatness.
To share and co-create positive experiences with the other players in the game of life.
To collectively, with you, co-create a heaven on earth experience for as many as are willing to experience it.
To create with integrity.
To trust that those who I am meant to connect with will be in my life.

VISION:

The world is a wonderful place already, it is just that so many here don’t remember our Source and where we came from. With my gifts, I see and I know what is at play in the higher realms of our collective existence. It is my vision to share what I know with everyone who is open to hearing it.  You have the knowledge within you.  In your Soul, your DNA, in your very essence of who you are. Hopefully, something of what I write will resonate with you and remind you of where you came from and why you chose to be here.

That we can all remember Love. In tricky situations, think, “What would love do?” Keeping our egos, fears, and need to be right out of the equation.

A world where I can shine my light so others can see it, and they in turn can shine their light for others to see. As we join and shine, our light will be collectively brighter and, in turn, our entire existence and world will be brighter.

That we have compassion and practice non-judgement towards all souls that are on a different path than we are.

To create a sacred space within my blog, where everyone can go and read, and remember…

VALUES:

I love and appreciate every soul on this earth for what they bring with them. Yes, every one…

I appreciate the game of life for what it is. A place to experience, to love, to grow, to create, and to share.