How I Beat my Depression

Disclaimer:   I’m not a doctor.  I will not tell you that anti-depressants don’t work.

I am NOT a medical doctor and I am NOT telling you that you should stop listening to your doctor. I am NOT telling you to go off medicine if you are on it.  I am NOT telling you that you are to blame for any illness you have. 

The entirety of this post is to tell you what I learned, and what I have done to feel better. We are all on individual journey’s and what is right for me might  not be right for you. 

 

Okay, now that that is out of the way, here is the post:

How I cured myself of ongoing depression

When I write this this blog, it is always with the intention of helping you to live your best life. To overcome difficulties, to truly manifest the life that you desire.

I am here to help people. I know this.  It has been my calling since I was a child.  Even when I was very young, I can remember wanting to help people feel better.  I remember feeling that I had things to share that could help.

I have always had a strong connection with Source. I have always been able to feel the energy around me.  I didn’t always know what it meant.  I just knew I could feel it when someone was upset, or if they weren’t speaking their truth (still can).

I always knew that my energy was creating. ALWAYS.  Even if I did not have the words to explain it properly, it was an inner knowingness that I still cannot fully explain to this day.

Even though I have known this my whole life, I have still had challenges. I have still been sucked into negative vortexes and stayed there for much too long.  There have been times where I went for months or years ‘forgetting’ my connection to Source.  I have been in bad relationships.  I have lived with alcoholics, drug addicts, and abusers (I didn’t realize at the time that I couldn’t help everyone).  I have struggled financially.  I have suffered depression.  I have been single and wanted a relationship.  I have had health issues that seemed to hang on forever.  The list goes on, but I think you get the point.  I am sharing this with you to let you know that as much as I share inspiring things, I have been where you have been.  I am NOT there now, and I have not been there, except for very brief moments, for a very long time.  My life is good now, and I CREATED IT THAT WAY.  I share this because I KNOW, without a doubt that whatever you are going through, you DO have the power to change it.  YOU CAN CREATE DIFFERENT THINGS FOR YOURSELF.

Your thoughts create your reality.

I’ve probably said that 100 times throughout these writings over the years. I know a lot of you get this intellectually, but you still can’t quite get over the hump of making it work for you.  You do your affirmations, you try and think positive, you have vision boards, or meditations you do, but you still can’t seem to get past whatever it is.

I want to tell you a bit about my personal challenge with depression and perhaps how I beat it will help you with whatever challenge you may be going through right now.

We all have moments where we don’t feel our best. Some of us have moments when we are downright depressed ~ feel like crying, sleeping, killing ourselves, wondering what the point of life is etc.  Thinking and wondering if this is all there is to our life.  Feeling like we have wasted our precious time not doing what we came here to do.  Feeling helpless to change our circumstances.  I have been there in the past.  I used to go there a few times a year (ask my husband, he used to worry about me).  I NEVER go there anymore.  I can’t even find that feeling anymore.  Ever.

I won’t lie to you. There are times when I do feel a little ‘sad for no reason’.  Or ‘depressed’ if you will.  I no longer use the word ‘depressed’ though, because to me that word has a much more permanent feeling vibration to it.

In the past when I felt this way, I would talk to myself much differently than I do now.

In the past if I found myself feeling sad, or depressed, I would say things like:

Why am I feeling this way?

What is wrong with me?

Am I even living the life I’m supposed to be living. Shouldn’t it be easier if I am on the right path?

It’s not logical I feel this way, my life is good.

Why am I so sad?

Why am I so depressed?

Why does my life suck?

Why won’t so and so, do such and such.  I don’t like this situation, but I can’t change it, because they are acting a certain way (or doing a certain thing, or ????)  Their actions are screwing up aspects of my life.  If only they would change, I would be able to do something differently.

Why don’t I have the energy to get off my ass and do something? I know if I went for a walk I would feel better, but I can’t even find the energy to get dressed.

Why did I waste all those years?

Why am I wasting this day? Being all sad.  Its beautiful outside, I have a great family, why am I so stuck.

Why, why, why?

I think you get the picture.

Many people will tell you that depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain.  It’s not.  It starts with your thinking, gets followed up by your energy, gets exacerbated by the circumstances that appear in your life (because of your thinking), and then your brain starts to change.  It gets a new ‘set point’.  It’s like “what came first the chicken or the egg”.

What came first the thoughts, the depression or the changes in the brain chemistry?

First off. I NEVER ask “Why” anymore.  It is what it is.  When I used to ask myself why, I would come up with a million reasons why I could be depressed.  Guess what that got me?  More reasons to be depressed.  Even things that were not originally on my radar came up.  Things that were out of my control came up (a lot).  Other people and their issues came up.

forgive and forget

 

These are real world “tips” of what I do, and questions I ask myself, when that feeling of depression comes over me now:

  • I am an empath, and I truly do feel the energy of others and take on their crap ~ unknowingly sometimes. So the first question I ask is “Is this mine?”  For me personally, and probably for you too if you are reading this, that is the FIRST question you should ask yourself.
  • Is there something that I have control over that I can change? (often the answer to this is no, because we cannot change other people or things)
  • Am I tired? or  Am I hungry?
    It amazes me how we have ‘trained’ ourselves out of listening to our most basic needs. We ‘hold it’ when we need to go to the bathroom, we don’t nap when we are tired, we don’t eat when we are hungry.  This is something that I have been personally working on for a while now.  Listening to what my PHYSICAL BODY NEEDS.  I BET that those of you who feel depression, could answer “Yes” to one of these two questions AT LEAST 50% of the time.
  • Am I trying to be something I’m not?
    Much of our depression comes from trying to conform to what other people’s expectations are of us. We are an artist trying to be a bookkeeper; or a healer trying to elicit change by working in a government office; or an executive trying to be a full time mommy;  or a science geek trying to serve fries with a smile.  Or a happy person that feels guilty that they ‘have it so good’ (yes, this is a ‘thing’).  Or a stay at home wife that feels the need to be ‘perfect’, and always be keeping the house clean, to make her husband happy ~ after all he’s working and she’s not (I threw this in there because this particular issue COMES UP A LOT with my clients).   Anyway, ask yourself. “Am I trying to fit my round peg into a square hole?”I must tell you, that there is nothing wrong with working a job (bookkeeper, serving fries etc.), to support yourself. It is whether you are focusing on using the job to get what you want (rent/food money/savings/debt paid off/a great vacation); or whether you are focused on being stuck in the job forever.  When you use the job to get ahead you are empowered.  When you think you are stuck doing what you do not like forever you are disempowered.
  • Another thing I do VERY differently when these down moods hit me, is I say “This will pass, it always does”.  (as opposed to having a laser focus on the fact I feel like crap, and trying to figure out why)
  • Often I will take a nap and listen to an audio. I choose the audio based on what seems to be specifically ‘bothering’ me in that moment. I have linked to many of my favorites over the years on this blog.  Meditation Posts.
  • I will read an inspiring book.
  • I will go for a walk (sometimes you really gotta push yourself for this one).
  • I will go out and sit in the grass, or hug one of the big trees out in my yard (easier than going out in public).
  • I remind myself that this just happens sometimes, it’ll go away (if I let it).
  • Instead of asking “why” questions in my head, which creates a snowball of negative energy, I sit and write lists of things I am grateful for.

The only time my depression HAS EVER lasted more than a morning, (or maybe a day), is when I thought about how depressed I was or asked myself the “why” questions I have listed above.

For me personally, the best thing I do for myself when I feel like this, is that when nothing seems to be working to pull me out of it, I go to sleep for a time (10 minutes to 3 hours). Nothing will screw up your head, thoughts and energy more than fatigue.  (Think of cranky babies that have no coping skills because they ‘missed their nap’.  Just because you are ‘older’ doesn’t mean you aren’t human with human needs).

I gotta tell you, I almost didn’t write this post. I didn’t want to get into ‘blaming’ you for your depression.  And I am NOT blaming you for your depression. Depression is a REAL thing, and it does change who we are, our brain chemistry, and how we show up in the world.  The ENTIRE reason for this post is that I myself suffered from depression and I came out of it … ON PURPOSE.

I am hoping that these things will work for you. I understand if they don’t (they won’t always work for everyone, we are all so unique).  I am not here to judge anyone.  I just wanted to share what worked for me, hoping and praying that it will work for you.  If just ONE person, the hours it took me to write it will be well worth it.

 

Always with Love,

Tamara

 

I will not tell you that anti-depressants don’t work. I’m not a doctor.

I am NOT a medical doctor and I am NOT telling you that you should stop listening to your doctor. I am NOT telling you to go off medicine if you are on it.  I am NOT telling you that you are to blame for any illness you have. 

The entirety of this post is to tell you what I learned, and what I have done to feel better. We are all on individual journey’s and what is right for me might  not be right for you. 

 

If you are feeling blocked and think that some energy work will help you, your next group remote energy clearing healing starts on August 21, you can see more details here. 28 Day Energy Clearing/Healing Offering ~ Starts August 21, 2017 This is a full week longer than this energy work usually goes.

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Or, connect with me on Facebook

 

 

 

Energy Alert – New Moon in Leo – July 23, 2017

Its a New Moon today.  Today is a great time to set some intentions on what you want in your life.

We have been through a lot so far this year.  June was really intense, and July may have felt a bit more relaxed for some, but there still has been a lot of activity.  We had solar flares last week and many of you may have been feeling tired and out of sorts.  Some have been feeling tummy issues, or dizziness.  Some have had headaches or strange ringing in your ears.  We are upgrading really quickly right now, so take it easy if you need to.

On August 7, 2017 we enter eclipse season.  The 7th is a Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Aquarius.  This is the beginning of massive changes, it is a portal to transformation.  Now is a good time to release anything that does not serve you.  Release mundane habits in your life that hold you back.  Release old resentments, old habits.  You don’t need to release them by focusing on them, you can release them by acknowledging them, and choosing to think, act and behave differently.  Don’t beat them with a stick, just turn your back on them and walk in a new direction.

Today (and tomorrow if you are reading this later), is a really good time to journal what you want in your life.  What is going on, or what in your life just doesn’t feel so good anymore?  When you journal and think about creating your new life, focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.  If you feel like you are holding too much weight, or are not healthy enough, journal about focusing on moving your body, or on what foods you can add into your life.  Do not focus on what has been, as that will get you more of what has been.  Do it this way for any subject you would like to see change in.

Stop avoiding your life.  Take a look at it.  What do you want?  If you are one that consistently says “I will do it later”, then realize that ‘later’ is NOW.  Go to your heart, feel what you feel, decide what you want and how you wish to live.  If you can make some of these decisions now and start to act on them, you will be propelled forward.  If you decide through non-action to keep doing the same old things, the power of this season will propel you to more of that.  If you want different, think different.

When you are thinking about what you want, remember, go to your heart and listen.  You must do what you need to do for you.  Teach the people around you to do what they need to make them happy (this can be done simply by being an example, and letting them be them).  This doesn’t mean you walk away from your relationships, (or maybe it does for some of you), it means you be authentically you.  Allow those around you to be authentically them.

Don’t go outside yourself and judge and try to control external circumstances, things and people.  Go within, and think only thoughts of what you want.  If you take care of you, the universe will help you take care of your life.  The more you live from your heart and focus on what you want and act on your inspired thoughts the easier your path will be.  If you want something to change, you have to start with you.

Nothing can hold you back from what you want right now except you.  Your thoughts are energy.  That energy will create your world.

Your Patience and Diligence just might pay off this month!

I want to share with you a trend I have noticed in my own life and in the life of my clients over the past year or so.  Last year was a 9 year in Numerology.  This year is a 1 Year.  The nine year is a year of letting go, and the one year is a year of new beginnings.  At the beginning of this year there was quite a bit of hype about everything being new and fresh and easier.  This is NOT what most of us have experienced in the first 6 months of this year.  It has been hard for most of us.  (I know its July, I said ‘6 months’ because July has been a little calmer.)

Now for the good news!!!

Many of you planted seeds last summer of what you wanted to see in your life.  This was the beginning.  You decided that you needed to let go of some of your ‘stuff’.  You may have felt a little fed up, or you may have just felt an need for exciting change.  You set your intention and allowed it to flow…  Fast forward to 2017 and nothing happened!  If anything, life seemed harder.  Things you thought you wanted and things you were working on manifesting simply have not been showing up for you.

This eclipse season and gateway will help things finally move.  You have an opportunity in the remainder of this year to set your course for the next years of your life.  The seeds you planted last year just may finally start to spout after this New Moon, and even more so over the next couple of months.

There are two very different ways you may have been perceiving this:

If you have old habits of lack, or negativity, or powerlessness, or any other lower vibrating energy, it has come to the forefront.  Things may feel as if they have been getting worse and worse.  You are probably very impatient and may have even given up trying by now.

If you have old habits of trusting that things always work out for you, that you always land on your feet, you may have had this set-point be quite challenged so far this year.  You are probably still ‘holding the faith’ that things will work out and that the universe always has your back.  You likely have been patiently waiting for the changes to occur while diligently tending your garden, fertilizing, watering, and waiting for the new to sprout so to speak.

On an energetic level, what has been happening this year is that things have been coming up for us so that we can transcend them.  Negative thinking and habits are getting stronger and creating more angst, positive thinking and habits are allowing you to keep going forward.

So many things (subjects), have been coming up to push your buttons this year.  Just keep moving past them.  If something comes up for you and you can realize it came up so you can let it go and do it differently, you will be in a much more positive space than if you keep looking backwards.

If something comes up and you say “Why does this always happen to me? What is ‘wrong’ with my energy, maybe I am just destined to be poor (or single, or sick, or unhappy).”  You will be creating more of that.  What you need to see is that it has come up so that you can change your thoughts, change your habits, change your life.

Either way, you are very powerful.  You are a creator.  What you choose to create with your thoughts over the next months up to the end of the year is what you will create for the next cycle of years to come.

Nothing outside of you can create for you.  Not politicians, bankers, guru’s, family, landlords, aliens, spouses, neighbours, me… (you get the point).  NOTHING is external.  It is all inside of you.  If it was external then 100% of the people on the planet would be in the exact same position.  We would have no homeless, or all homeless; or no successful people or ALL successful people.  Everyone is in a different energetic place, because they are all choosing to create different things.  Whether they are choosing consciously or unconsciously is another story.  DO NOT GIVE YOUR POWER TO CREATE YOUR LIFE AWAY.  Get out of ‘blame’, and empower yourself to create the life YOU want.

With love,

Tamara

 

I have finally been given the go-ahead from my peeps on when the next energy session will be!

If you are feeling blocked and think that some energy work will help you, your next group remote energy clearing healing starts on August 21, 2017.  You can see more details here. 21 Day Energy Clearing/Healing Offering ~ Starts August 21, 2017

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Full Moon in Scorpio Channel, May 10. 2017 The shifts are coming fast and furious now

I really had no intention of doing a post or energy alert today, however I went outside to do some energy work and ground my energy, and started getting a very clear message for you.  This one is straight from my peeps.  I have never before written and referred to myself in the 3rd person, but this message is not from me, (not one word I don’t think).  It took some courage for me to step aside and let them talk directly to you, but they were so insistent on taking over that I could not really do this channel any other way.

I added a few words for clarification that are me.  Anything you see in this colour is something I added after the channel.

We have a Full Moon in Scorpio today and it is a really good time to let go of things that are no longer serving you.  The below channel is about the shift in our dimensions.  Maybe today would be a good day to ponder leaving some of your 3D beliefs behind?

 

love and peace

Message from my peeps, affectionately/collectively known as Sam

We are entering a new energy on earth.  This shift has been pre-destined and if you are reading this you have incarnated at this time to experience and assist with this shift.  To help raise the vibration of the planet.  This in turn will have an impact on the entire universe.   You asked to be here, right now.

Do not be afraid.  Things are changing quickly.  You have asked for this change, you have been expecting this change.  Many of you have been asking for more…  more intuition, more synchronicities, more love, more peace, more oneness and equality.  The time is here.

The 3rd dimensional reality that you have been living is coming to an end.  The earth is shifting into the 5th dimension.  Tamara has written about this before, she has been writing it for many years.  Her understanding of this shift has expanded exponentially since she first started to experience it.

What we want to share with you is that when you expand from the third to the fifth dimensions, you do not need to leave your body.  Many of you have been afraid to allow this shift because you have been afraid that if you do, you will need to die and leave.  This is not the case.  The 5th Dimension is a state of being.

Tamara used to say that she did not want to give up the 3rd dimension completely because she had so much fun playing with all the physical aspects of life.  Since allowing and embracing the 5th dimensional energies she has not lost any of what she has always enjoyed – on the contrary, her enjoyment of life is much more enhanced.  She appears on the surface to be the same person/soul she always was (and really she is).  However, she now spends very little time in a 3rd dimensional reality if any at all most days.  The things that have changed the most for her are her ability to manifest her daily experiences, and how she feels.  She still eats and sleeps and does everything she used to do, she plays, and sings (only when she is alone, we are working on that) and drives a car, and still loves cuddling.

On some level she always knew it was like this because she has always seen other dimensions.  But the part of her that was based in a 3D reality was afraid.  When she would connect with loved ones on the ‘other side’, she would see them doing all the things that other humans do, but they did not seem to have the (physical/dense) ‘bodies’ and they only did them because they wanted to do them.  They built things with their hands because they wanted to, not because they needed to.  It appeared to her that on the ‘other side’, no one had to do anything, (any thing they wanted would simply manifest for them) but if they wanted to, they could do it.

This is where the planet earth is headed.  In the 5th dimension there is much less striving, less having to do things, more creating things, more experiencing things.  The experiences you have will be based on your beliefs and your habits of thinking and creating.  The reason why most of you feel like you are suffering through this is because you are resisting the changes.  You are unwilling to let go of your old limits.  You are afraid.  You were programmed to be afraid.  This is not a fault, it is a progression. (something to be let go of)  The more you allow these energies to flow through you, the easier it will be.  If the biggest worry you have is that you will die if you allow your progression to the 5th dimension, then that is a small worry indeed, the 5th dimension is a state of being that can be attained while having a physical body ~ and there are much worse things than being back in spirit.  On the other hand, fighting the dimensional change, being fearful of the dimensional change will be one of the most uncomfortable things you have ever experienced.

Not everyone on earth will accept this dimensional shift.  Those that choose not to will need to wait until their next incarnation to experience the level of love and happiness that can be found in the newly experienced 5th dimension.  You will see many people that resist this change ~ you are seeing them now in your daily experience.  They are stressed, they are angry to the point of being aggressive at times, they are suffering.  You do not need to suffer.  As you allow your own personal ascension to a higher dimensional state you will be able to feel love for others that you did not feel before.  You will be understanding without judging and without seeing them as ‘less than you’, you will allow everyone their own experience.   

Do not be afraid by the changes you are seeing.  Your politics, your financial systems, your religions, your personal spiritual awakening, the resonance of mother earth, the shifts on her surface, these are all a part of the change.

Thinking that any of these things have control over you is what causes you the most discomfort.  In the 5th dimension, you are the only one that creates your experience.  No one can take you from you unless you willingly allow it.

End of Channel

I want to reiterate something Sam said.  That the 5th dimension is a state of being.  “Death” is a completely different dimension, it is not the 5th dimension, far from it.

Okay, so that is what they had to say.  I have no words to describe the love I felt while channeling them.  I did add some words in blue above in hopes to explain a little bit more of my oh so human perspective.

With love and gratitude

Tamara

 

When I do the next energy work session for you starting at the end of the month, I will include some energy work to help with the symptoms of ascension you may be experiencing during these intense times.

If you are feeling blocked and think that some energy work will help you, your next group remote energy clearing healing starts on May 25, you can see more details here. 28 Day Energy Clearing/Healing Offering ~ Starts May 5, 2017 This is a full week longer than this energy work usually goes.

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Or, connect with me on Facebook

The Path of Least Resistance

creating my own reality

Thoughts are Things

This is a great Abraham audio.  No matter what you want, or what your challenge might be, this will help.  It has a really good explanation about your beliefs and your subconscious and your vibration.  I think all of you that are wanting something should listen to this.

For those of you that could relate to the relationship posts I have posted in the last couple of days, especially the one from yesterday, What are You Willing to Bring into a Relationship, this audio will probably help you a lot on that subject as well.

Love

Tamara

Abraham Hicks, You Don’t Need People Validating You

 

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a phone psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Don’t be afraid of repeating the past

We are in a very new energy now.  There is no need at all to revisit or be afraid of what came before.  Things are just different now.

We are much more aware of the Law of Attraction, and how we manifest in our lives.  We are no longer ‘fated’ to repeat past behaviours or scenarios for ourselves.  It is much easier to manifest what we want in our lives.

This is due to the earth being in a 5th dimensional reality, and also due to science.  We know more now about how to use energy to our advantage and now that it is backed by quantum science our belief has gone up.

When you believe that you can create your life, your reality, your days, you do so more consciously.  You take responsibility for your decisions and your actions.  You can think and act from a place of knowing you are a creator.

don't fear your past

You don’t need to be fearful of repeating the past

Its okay to let go of things that came before.  You may have had setbacks in relationships, or finances, or with your work or family, but you don’t need to be afraid of repeating them.  Simply being aware of what happened before, and being aware of what you are vibrating, thinking and doing now can keep you from ever having to repeat a destructive pattern.

You are not the same person you were then.  You have re-invented yourself.  Trust yourself.  Listen to your inner guidance.  Does what you are contemplating make you feel happy in your heart?  Or are there red flags going up all over the place?  Are you listening to your intuition, or are you ignoring signs and signals and pushing forward with old familiar patterns anyway?

So what is the difference between being nervous and a red flag?

If you see a sign that something is not right for you, and you try to justify it, then that is a red flag.

Relationship example:  In a relationship if you have been with abusive people before or with someone who has had substance abuse problems and you are now with someone new you have to ask yourself how it feels and be truthful with yourself about what it looks like.

Red flags would be seeing them use substances in an unsafe or destructive way; or them saying something very hurtful, or physically harming you.  These are red flags that should not be ignored.  Even if you have been together for 9 months and they have been okay up to this point, pay attention to the red flag before proceeding.

How to know if its just your own ‘baggage’ in a situation like this.  If you are with someone and they say something that hurts your feelings, but that is not abusive (more just pushes your buttons a bit and brings you back to the past), then that would be your baggage.  Can you talk to them about it?  Is it safe to share your feelings?  (not in a reactive way, but in a responsive way).

If you look at the relationship from the past you will see that there were red flags all over the place but maybe you ignored them.  See the past for what it was, don’t ignore the flags this time, but don’t bring the past into your present situation either.

Work Example:  You decide you want to change careers.  Maybe you changed jobs or started a business in the past and it didn’t go well.

Now you have found a new job that will pay the bills but is a little more esoteric, or creative, or different from what your upbringing taught you.  Or, you have decided to start a business that makes your heart sing.  These things can certainly make you nervous, but they don’t necessarily mean you are repeating a mistake from the past.

Your past and your family might get into your thoughts and tell you that this is not possible.  That it is a pipe dream and you can’t have a job that makes you happy and allows you to live comfortably.  You may have subconsciously believed that last time you tried and your old beliefs contributed to it not working out.

If you are now operating from a new energetic space, where you know you are a creator, this nervousness doesn’t necessarily mean its a red flag.  In the case of starting a business, you may need to keep your day job while you grow your business, but it does not mean that the past will repeat itself.

We are in a new energy and you are now able to operate from a completely new space.  If you find things coming up for you that are similar to the past don’t let it scare you.  Remember, you can do it differently this time.  You don’t need to be afraid of being stuck with the same scenario as last time.

Everything changes all the time, and you have changed and evolved a lot in the past few years.  Trust yourself, trust your intuition, create from a high vibration (not just wishful thinking) and all will work out.

 

 

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a phone psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Post on Manifesting from December 2011

5th Dimensional Reality

I wanted to share this post with you.  I wrote it 4 years ago, but it still applies.  With all the changes in the energy and the downloads of light we have been getting I think you will find it helpful if you are trying to create new in your life.  I share some insights from my personal life in this one as well.

Too many people think they can use only the Law of Attraction (and no work) when trying to get things in their life, but they don’t use it properly.  This blog post might help you out if you are trying to “manifest” something for yourself.

Its titled:

“Manifesting … what can we control?”

I have written a lot before about control. Most importantly that we cannot control other people or things. However, we can control our own life and how we react to things.

Positive, loving energy, creates and draws more positive and loving energy. Denser, fearful energy creates and draws more negative feelings and denser energy.

In my own life right now I have some great examples of how I decided what it is that I really want. This is personal, but hey, I’m an open book, and if it helps even one person it is worth it.  So here goes.

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You Have Freedom Right in this Moment

Think about that.  Right this second, as you are reading these words ~ you have freedom.  Your circumstances don’t matter so much as your thoughts matter.  Freedom does not come later…it is now.

What are you thinking about.  Are you thinking about NOW, about this moment, or are you thinking about tomorrow, or yesterday?

Right this minute, as you read these words, just close your eyes and bring your thoughts to now.  You are breathing, that is a certainty.  Your body is taking care of that for you.  You have eyes to see, or you wouldn’t be reading these words.  You have some sort of an electrical screen in front of you, or you would not be reading these words.

you are free

Right this minute you are free.  Free to think and feel whatever you choose to think and feel.  You can think thoughts of freedom, or you can think thoughts of stuckness ~ you are not stuck though.  You are free.

What you think of is what creates your life, your next moments.  Which thoughts do you choose?

Happy thoughts of this moment?  Or discordant thoughts of what might be or what came before that cause you discomfort.

Choose to be free.  Choose to think about now, about right this moment, and how free you are.

 

 

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Dependency ~ it is NOT a positive vibration

We need to get away from this energy of dependency.  It is not healthy for the dependent person, nor is it healthy for the person being depended on.

We absolutely DO need to come together in cooperation and sharing; but dependency is another thing altogether.

Yes, your children are dependent on you.  But only for a short time.  If you “child” is an adult and they are dependent on you, they are stunted.  If your teenager cannot do things for themselves and cannot make a decision to save their life, they are overly dependent.

There are exceptions to this of course for medical reasons, but for the most part we need to allow others to grow and we need to allow ourselves to grow.

Dependency is where we cannot take care of ourselves ~ or when the people in our lives cannot take care of themselves without us.

If we allow others to be overly dependent on us, we are stunting them and we are controlling them.  We are saying that we do not trust them to take care of themselves and make good decisions.  We are taking away their power.  It is more about controlling them than helping them and it is more about us than it is about them and their abilities (and personal power).

create your reality

If we are overly dependent on someone else, we are giving away our personal power.  We are not trusting that we can get things done and create our own lives.  We set ourselves up to be blindsided.  We set ourselves up to be controlled and manipulated.

When we are in a relationship with a significant other we need to remember that we are two souls having a human experience.  We come into these relationships to share and grow.  NOT to control, not to rely fully on someone else for our happiness and well being.

Your well being is your job.  Your spouse’s well being is their job.  If you take too much responsibility for someone else, you are stunting them.  If you expect someone else to take care of you and you depend on them for everything, you are stunting yourself.  You and they will get tired out.

There are also a lot of people dependent on the government.  On ‘them’.  Dependent on the system to feed them, to provide hydro power, to provide safety and security.  This can work when everything is going well, but all you need to do is look at the news.  At people who go through a natural disaster or something and because they are completely dependent on ‘the systems’ they fall apart.

You need to empower yourself.  You need to help empower those that are dependent on you.

There are many ways in which we DO need to come together to support each other, cooperation is a good thing and there is strength in numbers.

But one person can only carry someone else for so long.  It is not sustainable.  Not if either of you want happiness.

Just as ‘the system’ can only carry the ‘masses’ for so long; and only so long as things remain static.  Any changes to the earth, the financial system, the balance of power, and ‘the masses’ will need to depend on themselves.

This is not meant to be a doom and gloom post, quite the contrary.  You are stronger than you think.  The people who are in your life that are dependent on you are stronger than you think.  We all need to cooperate together and to empower one another.  It will make the world a happier place.

 

 

 

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I’m So Excited Today!

My son is coming home this evening!  He is 14 (will be 15 at the end of the month), and he’s been in Ontario since August 6th visiting with a friend.

Remember when we were kids and we didn’t have ‘helicopter parents’ and we were allowed to go and have adventures!  Some of my biggest and best memories are from that age.  I just talked to him on the phone and he has made so many friends over the past two weeks he almost doesn’t even want to come home.

 

Me and Jake

 

I am so happy for him, he will remember this trip for the rest of his life.  He decided he wanted to go, and then he worked and made his own money and planned his trip.  He had schoolwork to finish before booking so he got that all done and off he went.

As much as he’s had a blast and worked hard for what he wanted and learned some good lessons about how to get what you want out of life; he’s given himself a bigger gift than he even knows.  He now knows that ‘anything is possible’.  It wasn’t that many months ago that going to visit his friend was just a pipe dream; he didn’t have a job or any money or any idea of how to get there from here.  I’ve taught him about how to manifest what he wants, create his life, how to work with energy and use the Law of Attraction.

I do think he was a little bit nervous (not that he’d ever admit it), but he did it anyway.  He looked at the ‘big picture’ of what he wanted, not the little steps like flying alone, being away from home in another province for 2 weeks (his first time away from home for any length of time).

Too many of us go through life never having adventures.  We think about the small uncomfortable (“scary”) steps and stop before we even get started.  We say “Oh, that first step (in my son’s case, flying alone), is too scary, think I will stop now so I don’t have to get out of my comfort zone”.  We never get anywhere by stopping ourselves before we even get started.

Me and my family Christmas 2007

Me and my family Christmas 2007

When I first had my ‘baby’, I made him and myself a promise.  I promised that I would allow him to be his own person.  Yes, its my job to guide him and teach him how to navigate this world, but who and how he wants to be is his choice in the end.  He is a human being, not a possession.  I trust I raised him well and that he has a good head on his shoulders.  I feel I can trust him with his (age appropriate) adventures.  The more he spreads his wings and fly’s the farther he will go in life.  I am so very proud of my son, brave, willing to do what it takes to get what he wants….usually, (he is still a teenager after all).

What about you?  Do you challenge yourself?

Do you have adventures, or do you try and stay in your comfort zone?  Do you allow yourself to have experiences?  Do you leap or play it safe?  Can you see what you want in the future and are you willing to do what it takes to get you there?

How has it worked out for you?

 

 

 

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

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Do You Want to Be Like Everyone Else?

Its funny what is considered ‘normal’ in our society right now.  Its normal to struggle, its normal to work 5 days a week at a job you don’t like, its normal to fight with your spouse, its normal to walk around with blinders on, its normal to be horrified when you watch the news….

The list of what is normal is long.  Thing is, many people are simply afraid to do anything differently, to do anything that makes them not normal.

It might be ‘normal’ to complain about the 1% (or 5%), but its not normal to study what they do differently than all the normal people in society.  What if being less than normal is what gets them what they have?

Normal people think that money is the root of all evil.  Normal people think that if they have money they will turn into a-holes.  Normal people think rich people are stuck up.  Normal people often feel stuck in their lives.  Normal people don’t listen to their intuition.  Normal people don’t take chances and go for it in their lives.  Normal people don’t work for themselves.  Normal people value their false sense of security.  Normal people watch TV and play games on their phone instead of reading books and learning.  Normal people work for money instead of having their money work for them.

I DON’T WANT TO EVER BE NORMAL

why be normal

Normal is boring, normal is uncomfortable, and normal is disempowering.

Do you have normal financial habits?

We have been programmed that it is BAD to receive.  We are taught “It is better to give than to receive” ~ that is normal.

I totally think it is great to give.  I give by offering my services to you, I give by writing and sharing with you every day.  However, I also think it is great to receive.  If I don’t receive, I have nothing to give.  If I wasn’t open to receiving anything, I would be going to some other job 9-5 and struggling and I wouldn’t have any time available to help any of you.

According to our higher selves, its NOT NORMAL to go without all the time.  According to what ‘society’ says, it is very normal to go without, as a matter of fact society tells us that 99% of the population goes without while 1% has everything.

This is not a good normal.

Can you get your mind around the fact that the same people that are telling you it is normal to go without, that you always have to give and its bad to receive are the ones that are taking from you and giving you nothing in return?

The 1% (or 5%) of the population that think differently than you do are the ones that are successful.  If you want to be and feel successful in your life, you are going to have to do something that is outside of your normal comfort zone.

You will have to do some things that upset other people around you.  You will need to do things that perhaps the 95% will judge you for.  But you will have to do it eventually if you ever want your life to change.

You never ever have to crap on other people to get what you want.  All you have to do is think outside the box and STOP BEING SO NORMAL!!!