Is being happy of the “ego”?

I write posts that are meant to be inspiring and to help you achieve all you need and want in this lifetime.  I have no desire to convert anyone into a certain belief system.  We all ascend and live life from where we are.  None of us are better or worse than each other.  We are simply different.

Aside from the basics (love, happiness), we all want different things.  We have different perceptions of what happiness is.  We all have different dreams or desires, or feelings of where we want to live, what we want to do in our lives.

If someone thinks differently than you do; if they choose to live a more humble life, does it mean you are egotistical for wanting more?  Absolutely not.  Can you want more and still be humble?  Yes.  Can you be happy and have financial wealth and still be of service to others?  Yes.

If you try and impose your will onto someone else, that is your ego.  If you are truly okay with who you are, and you truly feel love for all, you won’t have the desire to change anyone else.

This can be hard for a lot of humans.  Especially if YOU are happy, and there is someone around you who is not.  You want them to be happy, so you try and tell them what to do.  This is your ego.  Their path is different than yours, you need to let them live it.

Or if you are unhappy, and someone around you IS happy, you may try and tell them that what they are doing is wrong.  Like if they love their work and have money, and you do not, you tell them “you are so ‘in your ego’, you need to get more ‘spiritual’ and in tune with nature”.  Never mind that you are wealthy and get out in nature quite regularly, and are on councils that donate money to help nature and animals ~ you are ‘egotistical’ because you chose not to suffer in this lifetime.

I offer psychic and coaching services to help people who’s beliefs (and vibration) are similar to mine, but that feel alone; or that want to learn how to use the energies to have a positive impact on their life, or to realize the full potential of their soul.  I write what I vibrate so that people who resonate with what I say can find me.  I can help a lot of people realize their own potential and it is my life path to embrace and share this.  It is the perfect job for me.

dare different

I have been wealthy, and I have been totally broke, and everywhere in between.  One thing I know for certain, is when I was broke I was more likely to feel disempowered.  It was harder to be inspired to help anyone ~ if my basic needs were not met, I was less likely to have the time or the energy to write.  When I was struggling, I was not in the energetic vibration of Source.  Source is “all that is”.  If we feel less than all that is, it can be harder to vibrate or embody the light.  How can I help someone else if I cannot help myself?

Even as I wrote that paragraph above, I realized how different I am now than I used to be.  After re-reading that paragraph, I must point something out about how energy works.  When I used what I knew to create differently, I was no longer disempowered, I no longer ‘struggled’ no matter the circumstance.  Because of how I vibrate now the external circumstances of my life do not dictate how I feel.  Because I decided to consciously vibrate higher, and stay happy, whether I have or have not, I find that I have more ~ consistently.  Because my happiness is not dependent on external factors, it frees up the energy of the Universe to provide more for me.

The Universe will provide us with what we need.  If what I write can help you, then your guides, angels and your higher self will direct you here.  I don’t walk down the street, or knock on doors trying to convert people to my way of being.  We all have our own path and our own way.  I do put myself ‘out there’ so others of like-energy can see me.  I put myself and my channels out there so that I can help people in a way that resonates with them.  I expect that if my way of being-ness does not resonate with you, you will not have read this far.

I do not need to be converted, and neither does anyone else.

Sharing who you are and living a good life are not “ego”.  Telling someone else how they should be living is.

Full Moon In Scorpio Tonight – May 3 2015 Energy Alert

The full moon is at 8:41 pm PST tonight.  What do you desire?  This full moon has the energy of the Phoenix.  If you could rise from the ashes to a new life what would it look like?  You are completely supported to move beyond your limits.

It is time to let your unconscious become conscious.  You need this.  We have recently (since 2012) been bombarded with light codes on planet earth, and this time is no exception.  Use this influx of light to your advantage.

What do you want?  With these light codes and this full moon comes our ability to manifest our desires, (and that which we do not desire).  It is important to be conscious of what you are bringing into your life.  We are manifesting in our lives very quickly now.

plant the seeds

You need to focus on what it is you want.  Not where you have been, but where you want to go.  What do you have now?  What do you want and deserve in your life?  You can create it.  Use the energy of this full moon to propel yourself forward.

This full moon will bring to light anything that you are living now.  Do you want to keep it?  Do you want to let it go?  What are your gifts?  What are your fears?  This full moon will help illuminate this for you, be conscious of your thoughts and pay attention to signs.  You have an opportunity to springboard yourself forward in a positive way now.

Are you trying to rescue someone else?  Are you living your own life, or are you trying to live someone else’s life for them, or are you living your life through someone else?  It is time to embrace your own life.  You cannot rescue others, you need to propel yourself forward, those who are meant to stay in your life will stay, those that are meant to go will go.

This is all good, you need to plant some seeds in your life at this time.  Do you want to grow beautiful flowers, or do you want to grow stinging nettles?  The choice is yours.  Just make sure you are conscious of what you are planting and take responsibility for it.

The energy we are in right now is wonderful if you let yourself feel it.  If you really let yourself feel what is NOW you will realize this is just a beginning.  Everything starts here.  Nothing from the past can hold you back unless you keep your focus on wanting to create more “old”.

If you are having a hard time letting go of someone or something, then consider doing a mini fire ceremony.  Write down on paper all you want to let go of in your life and then burn it.  Once you do that you can write down all the new things you would like to see (this is a very basic ceremony, you can certainly do a more intensive one if you want to).



If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

How dedicated are you?

I talk to a lot of people who say they are dedicated, but they don’t seem to do what it takes to get things done.

It is a beautiful day today, and a friend just asked me to come for a beer.  It sounds tempting, but aside from the fact my son has soccer tryouts and I have to get to the field, I also have a blog post to write.  And you are reading it.

I am dedicated to writing a post to share with you every day.  Today is no different.  Had I made plans before now I could have written this earlier today, but I didn’t.  I am not the least bit upset, I create my life.  You create your life ~ we create with our decisions.  I decide to write.

If you make decisions in life, its important not to get caught up in making excuses for not doing what you said you would do.  Its epidemic.  There’s a lot of “all talk no action” syndrome.  Sometimes I think the Law of Attraction training that’s out there has made this worse.

I want a successful blog, I imagine a successful blog.  (For me a successful blog is one that helps you on your path and eventually helps me with my income).  I have to write to have a successful blog though.

My son worked all day today.  When I went to pick him up from work to take him to soccer, at first he didn’t want to go.  He’d worked really hard physically and was pretty sore.  His dedication to his sport is what made him ‘suck it up’ and go play for 90 minutes though.  After his practice he said that he just told himself he could get through it.  He’d be able to rest later, for now he really wants to make the Gold Team so he’s going to go give ‘er (and he did, I watched him, he played hard).

(I started this post earlier before I took him to tryouts, I’m finishing it after).

This is my kid in 2006 after a 4 hour climb up Elk Mountain in Chilliwack.

This is my kid in 2006 after a 4 hour climb up Elk Mountain in Chilliwack.

You need dedication to get what you want

Just like if you want to lose weight, you have to exercise and eat right.  If you want a better job you need to apply for one.  If you want to pay off your bills, you don’t spend money on credit.  The Law of Attraction won’t bring you what you aren’t willing to go out and get.

Dedication does pay off.  Don’t give up.  Keep going.  Its going to work.



How do you wake up in the morning?

When I wake up in the morning, I usually lie there for about 10 minutes (sometimes much longer), and I stretch and think about all the wonderful things that I have (get) to do that day.  If I don’t have any plans, I think about all the things I could do if I want to.  I thank God for all the things in my life.  For what I did yesterday, and what I can do today.  I try for excitement and sometimes get it, but there are times I can only muster gratitude.  I always have something to be grateful for ~ waking up at all is a good one.  :-)

What do you do when you wake up in the morning?  How do you start your day?

Do you say “I’m not a morning person”, grumble, pull the covers up, and wish you didn’t have to start at all?  Think about how you wish you didn’t have to get up and face your day?  Think about all the stuff you have to do that you don’t want to do?

Generally speaking, do you not spend at least some of your time waiting for tomorrow to come?  If you are waiting for your tomorrow to come, what is the point of starting your day with the negativity that comes with “I’m not a morning person”.  Remember, you are a creator, what do you think you create with negative thoughts?  What you think at the beginning of your day, when you wake up and imagine what is coming next, is what will create your day for you.

have a good day

Gratitude is very important

If you cannot be grateful for what you have, you are not likely to get anything more.

Here is a very simplistic example:  I give my son $20.  He takes it, grumbles something at me, and then proceeds to tell me how $20 isn’t enough.  He starts to list off all that he can’t get with that $20.  The more he thinks about it, the grumpier he gets.  Pretty soon, he’s stomping out of the house complaining that he doesn’t have enough money.

What do you think the chances are that I will willingly, and lovingly give him $20 next time?  What is the point?  It won’t be enough, he won’t be grateful, he will complain about what he doesn’t have.  I will be unmotivated to ever give him another $20.

For the record my son has never done this and likely never will ~ he knows how energy works and he’d simply wouldn’t do that to himself.  Notice those words ‘to himself’.  Not ‘to me’.  I am not responsible for how he feels.  That’s his job and he knows it.

So when you wake up in the morning, do you say “I’m not a morning person”, “I hate my stupid job”, “my family is ungrateful and stressful”, “I have no money (or relationship, or ???)”, “I wish I didn’t have to do this today”, “I don’t want to get out of bed for this lousy life”.

If this is you, essentially you are telling God that its not enough.  You are shutting down the flow of more.  Why would God give you more if you bitch and complain about what you already have?  It might sound ‘weird’, but seriously that is how energy works.  You want a better job, but what would be the point of the Universe providing it for you.  You keep saying that what you have isn’t enough.  What would be the motivation of the Universe to give you more?

Mt. Cheam out my office window on a cool February morning.

Mt. Cheam out my office window on a cool February morning.

Try saying some or one of these things to yourself before you get out of bed, and just observe the improvement in your life over time:

  • I am alive, I am alert, I feel fantastic!
  • I am going to make this a really good day
  • What will my perfect day look like?  (then see yourself living that day)
  • What can I do today that will get me closer to my goal(s)?
  • I love my family (and then think about all the things you love about them)

You could also read this Affirmation Prayer, it covers off a lot of positive things you can tell yourself to start your day.

Here is a list of what NOT to do.  These things will just bring you more of the same old stuff that you don’t want.

  • DON’T review yesterday and see all the places that you failed to reach your goals (ie.  I ate too much yesterday, I didn’t get my exercise in, I had a bad day at work, I fought with my spouse etc.).  Remember you are creating your day.  Your NEW day, TODAY.  What you think about is what you will get more of.
  • DON’T imagine going into the kitchen and fighting with someone in your family.  If you do that, your energy will precede you and you will get an argument.  Bring your energy to your heart centre instead.  Project love ahead of you.  When you feel that, nothing external can even touch you.
  • DON’T take an inventory of the ‘wrong’ things that people around you do.  This is a killer.  The more you focus on the ‘wrong’ the more ‘wrong’ you will see.  ‘Wrong’ is a matter of perception, stop looking for it.

Simply get in the habit of practicing gratitude and being in your heart, and you will find that your creations look a lot like what it is you want for yourself.


If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Tiny Elephants

Don’t be fooled by those tiny elephants, they will mess you up every time.  What do tiny elephants have to do with empowerment, goal setting and personal development?  They are everywhere and if you keep falling for their tricks you will be constantly spinning your wheels, wondering how you will get it done, and be stuck doing things you’d rather not do.


I first heard about tiny elephants about 25 years ago, and I quite regularly ask myself if what is coming up is a tiny elephant, or if it is something that is a good thing no matter when it presents.

What are tiny elephants?

Tiny elephants are those things, that when you first decide they might be a good idea seem like they are so far off in the distance that they are no problem at all.

Just like an elephant that is very far away on the horizon it seems like a small thing.  As it gets closer and closer it gets bigger and bigger, and more daunting and scary.  Its not so far off now and you realize that it is not what you first thought.

You can relate these tiny elephants to goal setting or saying yes to projects.

Tiny elephants while setting goals

Lets say you set a goal to run in a marathon next spring.  You have a whole year to train for it.  You tell yourself you are going to do it, sign up for it and involve some friends.  Suppose its a really rainy cold April and you don’t get out and start training.  Then summer comes and it feels too hot to run.  Then the fall hits, and now its getting cold and snowy.  You still aren’t training to the extent you should be to be fit for a marathon in a few months.  You think you still have a lot of time though.  Then its February and that goal seems huge and undoable now.  What seemed small a year ago (tiny elephant), is now right in front of you, and it is immobilizing because it is just too big now.

Or maybe you want to lose 50 pounds.  In order to make it easy for yourself you set your timeline as 10 months from now.  Because you have 10 whole months to do it, you put it off and put it off.  Thinking that the ‘end date’ is so far into the future, that you have a lot of time.  Then all of a sudden you realize you only have 7 weeks left to go before your date is set, and your “elephant” is huge and looming.

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Tiny elephants and committing to a project

Lets say a friend asks you if you can help them move house 6 weeks from now.  You think, sure yeah, I can do that.  I wouldn’t do it if it was this weekend, but I can do it later.  Then as the date gets closer, the ‘elephant’ gets bigger.  The day before moving day you realize that you don’t have time to commit a whole day to that, or that you aren’t strong or healthy enough to help.  It was so far away when they first asked a long time ago, it seemed like such a small thing to have to do.

Or your boss comes up to you and asks you to take on a big project.  They tell you that you have 2 months to complete it.  You are pretty swamped at work, but two months seems like a long time.

The energy behind tiny elephants

When you are trying to consciously create the life you want it is important that you act from integrity.  Do what you say you are going to do.  If you are constantly creating in your life by looking at things as if they were very small just because they are a long way off you are setting yourself up for stress and possibly failure.

Get yourself in the habit of looking out for tiny elephants and setting yourself up for success.  When you are presented with something like this, ask yourself if it is something that you would do now.  If you can’t see yourself doing it now, chances are you won’t do it in the future.



If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.


Do you walk your talk?

This is kind of a trick question, because of course you walk your talk.  The tricky part is, do you know what you are saying?

Everything you have in your life right now is a result of things you have thought (or said to yourself), either with or without awareness.  All of it.

Thoughts are things.  Thoughts create.  Intention is everything.  There are so many of you that say you want something in your life but you stay the same.  Day in and day out, not a change anywhere to be found.

You may say you can’t change because of the people around you.  This is not true, you just think it is true because you keep telling yourself it is true.  What if you could change your thoughts and have the things/people in your life shift and change?  You can.

Sometimes you are just too afraid of what the new life might look like.  What if I change and this job, person, place goes away?  Well, what if it does?  Do you want what you want or do you want to manipulate what is around you?

You can try and manipulate the things around you, and maybe it does work to a limited degree for a certain period of time, but in the end you just end up not getting what you want anyway.

You are getting what you think about.  In trying to manipulate something to your will you are essentially saying that you cannot have what you want (happiness? money? a good relationship?), unless this person/thing is acting or looking certain way.  So in walking your (self) talk you are creating unhappiness.

I know a lot of you get this on an intellectual level, but do you really get it?  When you post inspiring memes on social media about change and thoughts and creating the life you want, do you just post it and think “that sounds nice”, or do you post it read it and then really embody what it was you posted?  Probably not, most people don’t.

You are walking your (self) talk.  When you read these blog posts do you just get it intellectually and then say, wow, I bet that works, I’ll try it later?  If so you are telling yourself that you cannot get there from here.  You can’t start now.  It won’t work until….

Thing is, that is your talk.  That is your walk.  Always waiting for something outside of you to change.  If you really want what you say you want, you need to change yourself.  And you need to do it RIGHT NOW.  Not later, not when the timing is right, but NOW.

walk your talk

I think I am a fairly positive person.  How do I know if I am walking my talk and what that talk is?

The easiest way to see which talk (self talk or what you ‘say’ on Facebook), you are walking is to observe where your thoughts and actions go when you are under stress.  If all your “enlightened speak” goes out the window when someone pushes your buttons or when things don’t go your way, you are NOT walking the talk you say you are.

What is it that is holding you back?  That has you walking the talk of your subconscious beliefs or of what is limiting you instead of what will move you forward?  Pay attention to what you are saying to yourself.  Thoughts are things.  Your thoughts are energy.  Energy creates.

You need to be able to be okay even if things around you aren’t exactly how you want them to be yet.  You change what you can, you leave what you can’t.  I’ve often said in my posts that I do what I write about.  And I do.  I walk my talk.  Is my life perfect? No.  Do I have everything I want right now?  Not yet (and when I get it I am sure I find other things I want, so I will never not be striving for something more ~ least not until I’m dead).  Am I happy?  Usually.  Do I pay attention to what I am creating? Absolutely.

When something comes at you sideways in life (or a challenge), the first thing you need to say to yourself is “I created that.  Wonder why?”  Your curiosity will often give you an answer.  Listen to your intuition.

Maybe your intuition will tell you that you were vibrating (thinking about) what you don’t want and that is why you got it.  Or maybe your intuition will show you how this discomfort is promoting your growth.  As in “oh, that was uncomfortable, but look where I ended up”.

Sometimes it takes a while before we can see how a challenge actually promotes our growth.  Look back over your life at some of your challenges or hardest, saddest times, and see how all those things brought you to where you are today.

Once you can do that you will see that this challenge will also bring you to where you need to be.

That is why it is so important to realize that you are walking your talk.  You are creating.  Take responsibility for it and you will see how your creations can serve to move you forward or keep you stuck.




Are You Rockin’ Your Life Yet?

Are you feeling good today?

If you can’t answer yes to that question, then I have another question for you.

What are you hanging onto that isn’t serving your Highest and Best good?


Collectively we have had a lot of releasing going on lately.  Are you working with or against this releasing energy?

Are you living your life or are you going along on auto-pilot, letting your subconscious mind and old belief systems run all your day to day thinking?

I’m sure you have heard the phrase “if you want things in your life to change, you have to change things in your life”.

I know first hand how hard change can be, but let me tell you, staying the same is a lot harder.  It is your thoughts that create your life.  It is your lack of awareness of your thoughts that is going to mess you up.  Be conscious of what you are thinking.  I’ve said this almost 100 times in my blog posts.

NOW is the time.  We have never been more supported.  Supported by our “peeps”, ascended masters, our Angels (you must ask them if you want help), the changes in the planetary energy, the astrological influences, the influences of numerology…. there is support everywhere.  You just need to use it.


Whatever follows your I AM, is what you are creating more of…

This should either make you really happy, or it should scare the crap out of you.  If you are in the habit of saying “I can’t”, “I am sad”, “I am powerless in this situation”, “I am waiting for someone else (… to decide, to do it for me, to act)” then you aren’t creating from a place you want to be creating from.

If you can say “I am optimistic”, “I am willing to try”, “I am grateful”, then you are creating more positive things for yourself.

You don’t need to be perfect.  You just need to pay attention to your thoughts and your creations.  You are powerful.  Even if you can say “I don’t know how, but I will do this”, that is a very empowering statement.

I am going to be taking on some coaching clients this spring, and I am going to help a handful of people change their life in a very positive way.  If you are not rocking your life the way you want to be right now, I can help.  If you want to be in on this let me know.

We all have the same opportunities….

Over the years I have had people tell me that I have it easy.  Even as a teenager my sister told me that I was “lucky“, she said “you always get what you want” etc.  Some people say that to me now as well.

I do realize that I am a little bit different than a lot of people.  But if you are reading this you are different than a lot of people too.  That’s the thing about us humans, we are all different.

Where we are in our lives basically boils down to a few things.  People who feel more successful think and do different things than people who feel unsuccessful.

You can have two people who have the exact same life and one will feel more successful than the other.  That feeling comes from within.  The one who feels more successful will be the one that looks ‘on the bright side’, the one who feels less successful will talk or think about what went wrong.  It is these feelings that will create more of the same old same old in your life.  Right down to the people that show up for you on a daily basis.  Do they annoy you, or uplift you?

the path you take today

So, what is the same for all of us as humans?

At our core you all want the same things (love, happiness, appreciation, to feel safe …), but how those things manifest for each of you is different.

  • Our opportunities are the same.
  • We all have the ability to practice (and use), our intuition.
  • We all live on an abundant planet.
  • If you are reading this you have access to the internet, which is training, information, knowledge, friendship.

What’s Different?

  • The decisions you make.
  • Where you put your focus.
  • Your knowledge and education.
  • Your amount of motivation.
  • The amount of time you will spend on getting what you want.
  • What you are willing to do to get what you want.
  • What you are willing to give up in order to make changes to get what you want.


It is your thoughts and your energy that create for you.

I’m loathe to focus on the negative parts of my own life, but I think that by sharing some things from my own challenges it will help you see that ultimately, LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT.  I can share these things, then let them go.  But because I meditate every day, and “I’m over it”, I am pretty sure that as I share I will have very little feelings involved.  I can write this stuff out or talk about it with no ego involvement, just a detached observer.  I am actually very grateful for my challenges because it enables me to be a lot more compassionate when I do my readings ~ for a lot of stuff I see in readings, I’ve ‘been there done that’.  It helps me help you better.

Okay.  So my parents divorced when I was 1 year old.  My dad hit my mom and I saw it.  My dad was an alcoholic and a heroin addict and I remember visiting him in jail when I was 10.  I also remember being afraid to see him because I never knew who would show up (someone on drugs & happy, or someone needing drugs and upset, or just drunk and mean).

I quit school 3 or 4 times in grade 10 and never went back.  (I got my GED in my 20’s because I needed it to get a promotion at work).

There have been times in my life where I completely ‘forgot’ that I was psychic.  And I mean completely.   I had zero connection with source zero intuition and felt just as lost as most other people on the planet.

In my 20’s I lived with a verbally abusive guy that did coke (then started freebasing).  I truly thought that I was the crazy one. (This is just one of many times in my life where I had ZERO intuition).

I also dated a few other alcoholics/drug addicts/abusive men.

I have been a single mom with a son.  Of course his dad also ended up being an abusive alcoholic, drug addicted abusive man that screwed around on me.  We were both happy when I became pregnant, and split up when I was 3-4 months pregnant.

I wound up on stress leave from work at one point when my son was 2.  My doctor prescribed anti-depressants for me (I didn’t take them, I worked on healing myself and my situation instead).  A LOT of ‘depression’ is simply caused by our situations.  Change the situation and the depression goes away.  That’s why I quit my high-paying government job for good when my son was 3.  I wasn’t ‘clinically’ depressed, I was in a bad situation.  My health was more important than the money.

I have been physically ill as well.  Where for months I couldn’t do squat.  If I ever had to do anything, I had to do it first thing in the morning, because after about 10 am, I needed a nap.  I was in constant physical pain, exercise made me more tired…

let go of the past

Its not always easy but what is your excuse?

If you look at the lists above, where do you fit in?  Can you get yourself into that “What’s Different” list and start making changes?  What is it that you are willing to do to make changes in your life and feel better?

No one can rescue you.  You need to make some decisions and take a good look at the list above to see what is different in people who are more successful.  What is different in people who overcome difficulties?

I had a mentor when I was going through some of these things, and she was a great help to get me to where I am now.  She taught me so much in my 30’s that I am sure she was instrumental in helping me get my energy (and life) straight.  Without her, I would not be where I am today I’m sure.  As much as no one can rescue you, some people can help you create the life you want.


I am presently taking on more mentoring clients.  If you are truly ready to make a change, to do what it takes, to release the old and embrace the new, I can probably help you.

You can look here for a bit more information on psychic coaching and mentoring.

Take note.  I DO charge for mentoring. If you are not ready to make a financial commitment that equals your energetic commitment then it might not be for you at this time. You can take a look at my psychic readings page if you would like just a one-off appointment.


How long does it take to heal?

I have an answer to that question.  Some of you will be happy to hear it, some will probably stop reading after I reveal the answer.  Either way, I hope it helps you.

So, how long does it take to heal?  The answer…..

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as long as you expect it to based on your perceptions, beliefs and life experience.  Really, healing can be instant.

Physical Wounds

I have been healed from three separate physical ‘issues’ instantly.  As in one minute I had them, the next minute I didn’t.  THREE TIMES.  I will admit to you that one of the three didn’t ‘stick’ after 2 years, but the other two have not recurred in upwards of 4 years.  These were ‘unfixable’ things.  Unfixable except for surgery or years of physiotherapy.

One of the things about physical healing is that sometimes it is our body warning us of something (ie. a pain).  Another is that there are certain diseases or pains or injuries that will happen in certain parts of our body that point to an energetic (thought) imbalance.  You can refer to this book by Louise Hay for more information on that.  There are times you will need to heal an emotional hurt before a physical hurt can heal.

healing comes from within

How long does it take to heal emotional wounds?

This depends on your state of mind.  Your thoughts, your willingness to see a different perspective.

  • If you feel like a victim you will take longer to heal.
  • If you try to impose your will onto someone else it will take longer.
  • If you continue to tell yourself over and over that it hurts, its hard, you won’t get over it for a long time, it will take a long time.
  • If someone has told you it will take two years, and you believe them, it will take 2 years.
  • If you dwell in the past it will take a longer time.
  • If you constantly focus your thoughts on unrealistic expectations of what things ‘should’ be like, it will take a long time to heal.
  • If you go see a therapist that lets you go on and on and on about how much your life sucks it will take a long time to heal (or maybe forever, I’ve known many people who never “heal” from therapy ~ they start and stay in therapy for the rest of their life).
  • If you affirm over and over “I will never get over this” ~ guess what ~  you will never get over it.

How to help yourself heal yourself

Thoughts are energy.  Thoughts are things.  Intention is EVERYTHING.  I’m sure I’ve been saying this in my blog for years, and its true.

  • The first thing you need to do is allow yourself to cry or kick or scream or whatever it is you need to feel and get out of your system.
  • Get in the habit of being able to sit (or stand) and breathe really deeply and relax your body.  Meditate and ground your energy.  In order for your body to hold anxiety and stress your muscles need to be tight.  So relax your body, your state of mind will follow.
  • Practice awareness.  Be very aware of when you are talking negatively to yourself and stop it in its tracks.  You will know if you are talking negative to yourself because you will feel badly.  So get in the habit of when you feel badly, you stop and pay attention to what you were just saying to yourself.
  • Find affirmations or things to say to yourself that you can believe.  If you can’t believe them they will be worthless to you.  Don’t say “I feel good” if you feel like crap.  It is perfectly reasonable to say “I know I won’t feel like this forever, I will feel good again at some point.”  Your thoughts/words are things and will create your next moments.
  • Read this post and see if you can feel better for Just 5 Minutes.
  • Keep yourself distracted if you can.  If you have something you do (hobby, work, exercise), that keeps your mind off your troubles, then do more of it.
  • Come to the realization that YOU create your life.  No one else does that for you or to you.  If you created this (whatever hurts), you can also create better.

You need to talk yourself into holding a belief that you will get past this. How long it takes will be a very individual process.  Maybe you need to do it on your own, or maybe you will need help.  Just remember thoughts are things so keep them positive and forward looking.




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Acknowledge it, then release it…

There is a lot coming up for release this Full Moon Lunar Eclipse.  For all of us.

Sometimes it can be really overwhelming.  Just know, that you never get more than you can handle ~ even if it feels like too much.  I’ve have a lot of my own stuff coming up this week as well.  None of it ‘bad’, per se, but it is because of how I am choosing to look at it.  Your perspective of these energies will dictate how you will feel in the longer term.

If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, ungrounded or unsure at all, ask your Angels to help you.  Angels are very powerful beings and they can transmute pretty much any energy.  They can help you to clear things out, and help you to feel better.  The thing is, you have to ASK them for help.  Because of the Law of Free Will, they cannot help you without you asking.

You may be finding yourself feeling like people are pushing your buttons right now.  This is perfect!  We are in a time of great energy shifts and if we were too comfortable we wouldn’t shift anything.  Your higher self is asking what needs to be cleared and released.  The people pushing your buttons are helping you!

You create your life.  Period.  You can create consciously, or you can create unconsciously.  Even if someone says something to you that you find to be offensive, you created that.  This can be a hard one.  “Why would they say that!”

They said it because on some level you wanted (needed) to hear it.  Often people will say something that is a part of a program that is running in your own subconscious mind.  This can be a really hard pill to swallow because our egos scream out that there is no way we asked for that!

see the stars

I am not writing this to cause you to blame yourself for anything.  There is a big difference between blame and taking responsibility.  When you blame yourself (“I asked for that”, or “I deserve that”), instead of taking responsibility (“okay, what do I need to learn from that?”, or “why did I manifest them saying that?”), it will be the difference between feeling powerful and being a victim.

I’m also not writing this to cause you to justify the behaviour of other people.  I am not suggesting that you stay in a relationship with someone that is abusing you, or stay in a job where your boss constantly undermines you or makes you feel bad.  I am suggesting that you take a look at their words, and maybe use them as a catalyst to MOVE.  Any time you are being abused or taken advantage of you should remove yourself from that situation (whether energetically or physically).  Sometimes we end up making excuses for other people ~ over and over and over again.  Don’t blame yourself, and don’t blame them, in this case maybe you just need to shift your situation.

If you are in the process of making decisions in your life of what to let go of or what to keep, someone can say something to you that will help you make that decision.

If there’s a situation you are unsure of and the energy (or words), are getting more and more and more uncomfortable, ask yourself “How or why am I creating this?”  If you can relax and go deep enough into the feeling of this, you WILL get an answer.  You need to stop blaming and justifying though.  Look at it with the intention of finding out the deeper meaning.  And remember ~ relax.

Maybe you need to change your vibration.  Maybe you need to leave that situation and on some level you know it but just won’t make that move, maybe you need to get more and more and more uncomfortable before you take that leap.  Maybe your higher self is asking for ‘the straw that broke the camel’s back’.   You cannot make changes to anything unless and until you acknowledge that it exists.  So look at discomfort and see what needs to change.  Is it something external, or is it something internal like a belief system that is keeping you stuck?  If you get really honest with yourself your intuition will come up with something that will help you.

I’ll be honest.  When someone says something to me that feels undesirable, I don’t always go straight to ‘why did I manifest that’.  Usually, being human, I think “what an a-hole”.  However, because I know what I know, once I am over the initial shock of what they said, I ask myself “What have I been thinking, or what is in my vibration that brought that experience to me”.

Remember this, things are being brought up to be released for a reason.