Full Moon in Scorpio Channel, May 10. 2017 The shifts are coming fast and furious now

I really had no intention of doing a post or energy alert today, however I went outside to do some energy work and ground my energy, and started getting a very clear message for you.  This one is straight from my peeps.  I have never before written and referred to myself in the 3rd person, but this message is not from me, (not one word I don’t think).  It took some courage for me to step aside and let them talk directly to you, but they were so insistent on taking over that I could not really do this channel any other way.

I added a few words for clarification that are me.  Anything you see in this colour is something I added after the channel.

We have a Full Moon in Scorpio today and it is a really good time to let go of things that are no longer serving you.  The below channel is about the shift in our dimensions.  Maybe today would be a good day to ponder leaving some of your 3D beliefs behind?


love and peace

Message from my peeps, affectionately/collectively known as Sam

We are entering a new energy on earth.  This shift has been pre-destined and if you are reading this you have incarnated at this time to experience and assist with this shift.  To help raise the vibration of the planet.  This in turn will have an impact on the entire universe.   You asked to be here, right now.

Do not be afraid.  Things are changing quickly.  You have asked for this change, you have been expecting this change.  Many of you have been asking for more…  more intuition, more synchronicities, more love, more peace, more oneness and equality.  The time is here.

The 3rd dimensional reality that you have been living is coming to an end.  The earth is shifting into the 5th dimension.  Tamara has written about this before, she has been writing it for many years.  Her understanding of this shift has expanded exponentially since she first started to experience it.

What we want to share with you is that when you expand from the third to the fifth dimensions, you do not need to leave your body.  Many of you have been afraid to allow this shift because you have been afraid that if you do, you will need to die and leave.  This is not the case.  The 5th Dimension is a state of being.

Tamara used to say that she did not want to give up the 3rd dimension completely because she had so much fun playing with all the physical aspects of life.  Since allowing and embracing the 5th dimensional energies she has not lost any of what she has always enjoyed – on the contrary, her enjoyment of life is much more enhanced.  She appears on the surface to be the same person/soul she always was (and really she is).  However, she now spends very little time in a 3rd dimensional reality if any at all most days.  The things that have changed the most for her are her ability to manifest her daily experiences, and how she feels.  She still eats and sleeps and does everything she used to do, she plays, and sings (only when she is alone, we are working on that) and drives a car, and still loves cuddling.

On some level she always knew it was like this because she has always seen other dimensions.  But the part of her that was based in a 3D reality was afraid.  When she would connect with loved ones on the ‘other side’, she would see them doing all the things that other humans do, but they did not seem to have the (physical/dense) ‘bodies’ and they only did them because they wanted to do them.  They built things with their hands because they wanted to, not because they needed to.  It appeared to her that on the ‘other side’, no one had to do anything, (any thing they wanted would simply manifest for them) but if they wanted to, they could do it.

This is where the planet earth is headed.  In the 5th dimension there is much less striving, less having to do things, more creating things, more experiencing things.  The experiences you have will be based on your beliefs and your habits of thinking and creating.  The reason why most of you feel like you are suffering through this is because you are resisting the changes.  You are unwilling to let go of your old limits.  You are afraid.  You were programmed to be afraid.  This is not a fault, it is a progression. (something to be let go of)  The more you allow these energies to flow through you, the easier it will be.  If the biggest worry you have is that you will die if you allow your progression to the 5th dimension, then that is a small worry indeed, the 5th dimension is a state of being that can be attained while having a physical body ~ and there are much worse things than being back in spirit.  On the other hand, fighting the dimensional change, being fearful of the dimensional change will be one of the most uncomfortable things you have ever experienced.

Not everyone on earth will accept this dimensional shift.  Those that choose not to will need to wait until their next incarnation to experience the level of love and happiness that can be found in the newly experienced 5th dimension.  You will see many people that resist this change ~ you are seeing them now in your daily experience.  They are stressed, they are angry to the point of being aggressive at times, they are suffering.  You do not need to suffer.  As you allow your own personal ascension to a higher dimensional state you will be able to feel love for others that you did not feel before.  You will be understanding without judging and without seeing them as ‘less than you’, you will allow everyone their own experience.   

Do not be afraid by the changes you are seeing.  Your politics, your financial systems, your religions, your personal spiritual awakening, the resonance of mother earth, the shifts on her surface, these are all a part of the change.

Thinking that any of these things have control over you is what causes you the most discomfort.  In the 5th dimension, you are the only one that creates your experience.  No one can take you from you unless you willingly allow it.

End of Channel

I want to reiterate something Sam said.  That the 5th dimension is a state of being.  “Death” is a completely different dimension, it is not the 5th dimension, far from it.

Okay, so that is what they had to say.  I have no words to describe the love I felt while channeling them.  I did add some words in blue above in hopes to explain a little bit more of my oh so human perspective.

With love and gratitude



When I do the next energy work session for you starting at the end of the month, I will include some energy work to help with the symptoms of ascension you may be experiencing during these intense times.

If you are feeling blocked and think that some energy work will help you, your next group remote energy clearing healing starts on May 25, you can see more details here. 28 Day Energy Clearing/Healing Offering ~ Starts May 5, 2017 This is a full week longer than this energy work usually goes.

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The Path of Least Resistance

creating my own reality

Thoughts are Things

This is a great Abraham audio.  No matter what you want, or what your challenge might be, this will help.  It has a really good explanation about your beliefs and your subconscious and your vibration.  I think all of you that are wanting something should listen to this.

For those of you that could relate to the relationship posts I have posted in the last couple of days, especially the one from yesterday, What are You Willing to Bring into a Relationship, this audio will probably help you a lot on that subject as well.



Abraham Hicks, You Don’t Need People Validating You



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Don’t be afraid of repeating the past

We are in a very new energy now.  There is no need at all to revisit or be afraid of what came before.  Things are just different now.

We are much more aware of the Law of Attraction, and how we manifest in our lives.  We are no longer ‘fated’ to repeat past behaviours or scenarios for ourselves.  It is much easier to manifest what we want in our lives.

This is due to the earth being in a 5th dimensional reality, and also due to science.  We know more now about how to use energy to our advantage and now that it is backed by quantum science our belief has gone up.

When you believe that you can create your life, your reality, your days, you do so more consciously.  You take responsibility for your decisions and your actions.  You can think and act from a place of knowing you are a creator.

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You don’t need to be fearful of repeating the past

Its okay to let go of things that came before.  You may have had setbacks in relationships, or finances, or with your work or family, but you don’t need to be afraid of repeating them.  Simply being aware of what happened before, and being aware of what you are vibrating, thinking and doing now can keep you from ever having to repeat a destructive pattern.

You are not the same person you were then.  You have re-invented yourself.  Trust yourself.  Listen to your inner guidance.  Does what you are contemplating make you feel happy in your heart?  Or are there red flags going up all over the place?  Are you listening to your intuition, or are you ignoring signs and signals and pushing forward with old familiar patterns anyway?

So what is the difference between being nervous and a red flag?

If you see a sign that something is not right for you, and you try to justify it, then that is a red flag.

Relationship example:  In a relationship if you have been with abusive people before or with someone who has had substance abuse problems and you are now with someone new you have to ask yourself how it feels and be truthful with yourself about what it looks like.

Red flags would be seeing them use substances in an unsafe or destructive way; or them saying something very hurtful, or physically harming you.  These are red flags that should not be ignored.  Even if you have been together for 9 months and they have been okay up to this point, pay attention to the red flag before proceeding.

How to know if its just your own ‘baggage’ in a situation like this.  If you are with someone and they say something that hurts your feelings, but that is not abusive (more just pushes your buttons a bit and brings you back to the past), then that would be your baggage.  Can you talk to them about it?  Is it safe to share your feelings?  (not in a reactive way, but in a responsive way).

If you look at the relationship from the past you will see that there were red flags all over the place but maybe you ignored them.  See the past for what it was, don’t ignore the flags this time, but don’t bring the past into your present situation either.

Work Example:  You decide you want to change careers.  Maybe you changed jobs or started a business in the past and it didn’t go well.

Now you have found a new job that will pay the bills but is a little more esoteric, or creative, or different from what your upbringing taught you.  Or, you have decided to start a business that makes your heart sing.  These things can certainly make you nervous, but they don’t necessarily mean you are repeating a mistake from the past.

Your past and your family might get into your thoughts and tell you that this is not possible.  That it is a pipe dream and you can’t have a job that makes you happy and allows you to live comfortably.  You may have subconsciously believed that last time you tried and your old beliefs contributed to it not working out.

If you are now operating from a new energetic space, where you know you are a creator, this nervousness doesn’t necessarily mean its a red flag.  In the case of starting a business, you may need to keep your day job while you grow your business, but it does not mean that the past will repeat itself.

We are in a new energy and you are now able to operate from a completely new space.  If you find things coming up for you that are similar to the past don’t let it scare you.  Remember, you can do it differently this time.  You don’t need to be afraid of being stuck with the same scenario as last time.

Everything changes all the time, and you have changed and evolved a lot in the past few years.  Trust yourself, trust your intuition, create from a high vibration (not just wishful thinking) and all will work out.




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Post on Manifesting from December 2011

5th Dimensional Reality

I wanted to share this post with you.  I wrote it 4 years ago, but it still applies.  With all the changes in the energy and the downloads of light we have been getting I think you will find it helpful if you are trying to create new in your life.  I share some insights from my personal life in this one as well.

Too many people think they can use only the Law of Attraction (and no work) when trying to get things in their life, but they don’t use it properly.  This blog post might help you out if you are trying to “manifest” something for yourself.

Its titled:

“Manifesting … what can we control?”

I have written a lot before about control. Most importantly that we cannot control other people or things. However, we can control our own life and how we react to things.

Positive, loving energy, creates and draws more positive and loving energy. Denser, fearful energy creates and draws more negative feelings and denser energy.

In my own life right now I have some great examples of how I decided what it is that I really want. This is personal, but hey, I’m an open book, and if it helps even one person it is worth it.  So here goes.

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You Have Freedom Right in this Moment

Think about that.  Right this second, as you are reading these words ~ you have freedom.  Your circumstances don’t matter so much as your thoughts matter.  Freedom does not come later…it is now.

What are you thinking about.  Are you thinking about NOW, about this moment, or are you thinking about tomorrow, or yesterday?

Right this minute, as you read these words, just close your eyes and bring your thoughts to now.  You are breathing, that is a certainty.  Your body is taking care of that for you.  You have eyes to see, or you wouldn’t be reading these words.  You have some sort of an electrical screen in front of you, or you would not be reading these words.

you are free

Right this minute you are free.  Free to think and feel whatever you choose to think and feel.  You can think thoughts of freedom, or you can think thoughts of stuckness ~ you are not stuck though.  You are free.

What you think of is what creates your life, your next moments.  Which thoughts do you choose?

Happy thoughts of this moment?  Or discordant thoughts of what might be or what came before that cause you discomfort.

Choose to be free.  Choose to think about now, about right this moment, and how free you are.



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Dependency ~ it is NOT a positive vibration

We need to get away from this energy of dependency.  It is not healthy for the dependent person, nor is it healthy for the person being depended on.

We absolutely DO need to come together in cooperation and sharing; but dependency is another thing altogether.

Yes, your children are dependent on you.  But only for a short time.  If you “child” is an adult and they are dependent on you, they are stunted.  If your teenager cannot do things for themselves and cannot make a decision to save their life, they are overly dependent.

There are exceptions to this of course for medical reasons, but for the most part we need to allow others to grow and we need to allow ourselves to grow.

Dependency is where we cannot take care of ourselves ~ or when the people in our lives cannot take care of themselves without us.

If we allow others to be overly dependent on us, we are stunting them and we are controlling them.  We are saying that we do not trust them to take care of themselves and make good decisions.  We are taking away their power.  It is more about controlling them than helping them and it is more about us than it is about them and their abilities (and personal power).

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If we are overly dependent on someone else, we are giving away our personal power.  We are not trusting that we can get things done and create our own lives.  We set ourselves up to be blindsided.  We set ourselves up to be controlled and manipulated.

When we are in a relationship with a significant other we need to remember that we are two souls having a human experience.  We come into these relationships to share and grow.  NOT to control, not to rely fully on someone else for our happiness and well being.

Your well being is your job.  Your spouse’s well being is their job.  If you take too much responsibility for someone else, you are stunting them.  If you expect someone else to take care of you and you depend on them for everything, you are stunting yourself.  You and they will get tired out.

There are also a lot of people dependent on the government.  On ‘them’.  Dependent on the system to feed them, to provide hydro power, to provide safety and security.  This can work when everything is going well, but all you need to do is look at the news.  At people who go through a natural disaster or something and because they are completely dependent on ‘the systems’ they fall apart.

You need to empower yourself.  You need to help empower those that are dependent on you.

There are many ways in which we DO need to come together to support each other, cooperation is a good thing and there is strength in numbers.

But one person can only carry someone else for so long.  It is not sustainable.  Not if either of you want happiness.

Just as ‘the system’ can only carry the ‘masses’ for so long; and only so long as things remain static.  Any changes to the earth, the financial system, the balance of power, and ‘the masses’ will need to depend on themselves.

This is not meant to be a doom and gloom post, quite the contrary.  You are stronger than you think.  The people who are in your life that are dependent on you are stronger than you think.  We all need to cooperate together and to empower one another.  It will make the world a happier place.




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I’m So Excited Today!

My son is coming home this evening!  He is 14 (will be 15 at the end of the month), and he’s been in Ontario since August 6th visiting with a friend.

Remember when we were kids and we didn’t have ‘helicopter parents’ and we were allowed to go and have adventures!  Some of my biggest and best memories are from that age.  I just talked to him on the phone and he has made so many friends over the past two weeks he almost doesn’t even want to come home.


Me and Jake


I am so happy for him, he will remember this trip for the rest of his life.  He decided he wanted to go, and then he worked and made his own money and planned his trip.  He had schoolwork to finish before booking so he got that all done and off he went.

As much as he’s had a blast and worked hard for what he wanted and learned some good lessons about how to get what you want out of life; he’s given himself a bigger gift than he even knows.  He now knows that ‘anything is possible’.  It wasn’t that many months ago that going to visit his friend was just a pipe dream; he didn’t have a job or any money or any idea of how to get there from here.  I’ve taught him about how to manifest what he wants, create his life, how to work with energy and use the Law of Attraction.

I do think he was a little bit nervous (not that he’d ever admit it), but he did it anyway.  He looked at the ‘big picture’ of what he wanted, not the little steps like flying alone, being away from home in another province for 2 weeks (his first time away from home for any length of time).

Too many of us go through life never having adventures.  We think about the small uncomfortable (“scary”) steps and stop before we even get started.  We say “Oh, that first step (in my son’s case, flying alone), is too scary, think I will stop now so I don’t have to get out of my comfort zone”.  We never get anywhere by stopping ourselves before we even get started.

Me and my family Christmas 2007

Me and my family Christmas 2007

When I first had my ‘baby’, I made him and myself a promise.  I promised that I would allow him to be his own person.  Yes, its my job to guide him and teach him how to navigate this world, but who and how he wants to be is his choice in the end.  He is a human being, not a possession.  I trust I raised him well and that he has a good head on his shoulders.  I feel I can trust him with his (age appropriate) adventures.  The more he spreads his wings and fly’s the farther he will go in life.  I am so very proud of my son, brave, willing to do what it takes to get what he wants….usually, (he is still a teenager after all).

What about you?  Do you challenge yourself?

Do you have adventures, or do you try and stay in your comfort zone?  Do you allow yourself to have experiences?  Do you leap or play it safe?  Can you see what you want in the future and are you willing to do what it takes to get you there?

How has it worked out for you?





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Do You Want to Be Like Everyone Else?

Its funny what is considered ‘normal’ in our society right now.  Its normal to struggle, its normal to work 5 days a week at a job you don’t like, its normal to fight with your spouse, its normal to walk around with blinders on, its normal to be horrified when you watch the news….

The list of what is normal is long.  Thing is, many people are simply afraid to do anything differently, to do anything that makes them not normal.

It might be ‘normal’ to complain about the 1% (or 5%), but its not normal to study what they do differently than all the normal people in society.  What if being less than normal is what gets them what they have?

Normal people think that money is the root of all evil.  Normal people think that if they have money they will turn into a-holes.  Normal people think rich people are stuck up.  Normal people often feel stuck in their lives.  Normal people don’t listen to their intuition.  Normal people don’t take chances and go for it in their lives.  Normal people don’t work for themselves.  Normal people value their false sense of security.  Normal people watch TV and play games on their phone instead of reading books and learning.  Normal people work for money instead of having their money work for them.


why be normal

Normal is boring, normal is uncomfortable, and normal is disempowering.

Do you have normal financial habits?

We have been programmed that it is BAD to receive.  We are taught “It is better to give than to receive” ~ that is normal.

I totally think it is great to give.  I give by offering my services to you, I give by writing and sharing with you every day.  However, I also think it is great to receive.  If I don’t receive, I have nothing to give.  If I wasn’t open to receiving anything, I would be going to some other job 9-5 and struggling and I wouldn’t have any time available to help any of you.

According to our higher selves, its NOT NORMAL to go without all the time.  According to what ‘society’ says, it is very normal to go without, as a matter of fact society tells us that 99% of the population goes without while 1% has everything.

This is not a good normal.

Can you get your mind around the fact that the same people that are telling you it is normal to go without, that you always have to give and its bad to receive are the ones that are taking from you and giving you nothing in return?

The 1% (or 5%) of the population that think differently than you do are the ones that are successful.  If you want to be and feel successful in your life, you are going to have to do something that is outside of your normal comfort zone.

You will have to do some things that upset other people around you.  You will need to do things that perhaps the 95% will judge you for.  But you will have to do it eventually if you ever want your life to change.

You never ever have to crap on other people to get what you want.  All you have to do is think outside the box and STOP BEING SO NORMAL!!!

You are more than you think you are

You are more than you think you are.  You are not your “stuff”.

Do you really have the power to create anything you want?  Is our life pre-destined?

Yes, and sometimes yes.

The trick to creating anything you desire in life is to know what all of you desires.  Your whole soul, not just the ego part of you that is living this life in this body.

Do you ever wonder why things don’t seem to fall into place sometimes?  Maybe its because you are not living the life you came here to live.

That is why meditation and quiet contemplation is so important.  We are bombarded with how things should be from the time we are born.

You are uniquely you, and you need learn about and embrace that part of yourself.  The whole of you.

It is when you try to ‘create’ the life you think you want and it is not in alignment with what your soul came here to do that you feel uncomfortable.

“My soul wants to be a healer, but I come from a family of lawyers”, I need to create a law degree.  Won’t work.

“My soul wants to work with animals but I have been told my whole life that it won’t work because there is no money in it”.  This won’t work either.

“My soul wants to live in a yurt in the forest and live off the land, but my family would be horrified because they are all doctors”.  Nope.

The list of examples of going against your Higher Self is vast.  I myself, used to work for government and I often changed positions (working for the same Ministry ~ which was ‘social assistance’), and tried to change and improve things from there.  I worked really hard to empower staff, and help clients.  Thing is, as much as I made a little bit of a difference, the majority of the people I worked for and with just didn’t vibrate where I was.  The entire population of clients and staff, and government in general was extremely disempowering.  I could not buck the current of the vibration of the establishment.

The pay was good, the benefits were awesome, everyone I knew thought I had it made.  I kept working my way up the ladder and with each position I had more responsibility and thought I could have more of an impact to make the workplace better.  I truly thought that one day I would get into politics and be able to make things better that way.

Thing is, the farther I got up that government ladder, the more my hands were tied.  There were outdated policies, procedures and vibrations.  I came to the realization that I was being sucked into a negative vortex and it was making me physically ill.

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That’s when I decided to Create something different

I was a single mom with a mortgage and car payment who had a decent paying job and a lot of opportunities for advancement.  When I started getting physically ill from my work environment, I started to think more about what would make me happy and enable me to be a better mom.

Once I decided, things started falling into place.  I didn’t even know where I was going, but I sure knew what I was leaving.  I meditated a lot, I prayed a lot.  I made sure I had enough savings that if I was ‘unemployed’ for any length of time I could still support me and my son.  My worst case scenario was going back to a job I no longer flourished in or just get a job in private sector (neither options were any worse than where I was right then).

Was I scared?  A little bit.  But I was more scared of being a crappy mom and an unhealthy human.  Things worked out.  It is so much easier to spread love and healing energy with my current role in humanity than it was from where I used to be.  For years I struggled more financially than I would have if I stayed where I was, but for me the trade off for me was worth it.

Now I can help people who want the type of help I offer.  People who don’t want my help just aren’t drawn to me.  I am not forcing myself to be someplace that isn’t ‘right’ for me.

I am no different from you.

You Can Create the Life YOU Want Too

You need to listen to your Higher Self.  Your repetitive thoughts, your dreams.  You cannot let just money or status or ego rule your life for you.  You will be your happiest if you follow your dreams.

Some people say that “money is the root of all evil”.  Money is not the root of all evil.  Lusting after money and doing something you hate for the rest of your life just for the love of money isn’t good though.  How can you spread love on our planet if you are miserable all the time?

I am NOT saying that you should quit your job without a plan and leave yourself open to negative consequences.  I AM saying that if you are unhappy and feel like you are on a wrong path to weigh out your options and consider doing something different, allow yourself to imagine what your dream life would look like and then create your reality from there.

You can’t control external things (like me trying to ‘change the government’), but you can control what you do with your own life.  Clean up your energy vibration from where you are now, and then follow your heart and your soul and you will be just fine.




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Motivation; Reward or Self Sabotage?

Do you set goals?  Do you ever reach them?  How often do you “REWARD” yourself?

If you don’t set goals, why not?  Are you afraid you won’t reach them anyway so why bother?  If that’s the case you probably have a hard time getting what you want out of life.  If you cannot imagine having it, it is very hard to manifest it for yourself.

If you set goals and never seem to reach them have you ever wondered why?  You start out all gung-ho and things seem to be going okay, but the end result seems to constantly elude you.  Here are some things to think about.

Are you Motivated?

When you decide you want something, you absolutely must be motivated to get what you want.  If you are doing it for someone else, or because you think its something you should do, you will find any motivation you had at the beginning waning pretty quickly.

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Are you rewarding yourself too much?

This is the most common thing I see in my clients that are not getting what they want out of life.  Yes, we need a reward or a rest once in a while, absolutely.  But the way some of you think about reward seems to be a bit skewed.

If you aren’t reaching your goals, ask yourself “Am I rewarding myself or am I sabotaging myself?”

A reward come at the end of a job well done.  See that word in there ~ the END of a job well done.  Not 15 times in the middle of a job (goal), at the end.  If you put in an effort for a short time, and then say “phew, that was hard, but I feel good, I think I’ll take a reward” you will never reach your goals.

The reason you won’t reach your goals is because with your self sabotage you will be constantly setting yourself back, the results you see will be mediocre at best, and you will not have the staying power to get to the end of your goal.

This pretty much applies to any subject, doesn’t really matter what it is.

You are working at paying off your credit card bills and loans and you are doing really well, you are beginning to see some results.  Its only been a couple or few months but…

You “reward” yourself by buying something ~ on your credit card.

My son is working really hard to get an online class completed so he can go to see a friend in Ontario for a couple weeks this summer.  He is working really hard at it and says he really wants to go but the class has to be completed first. 

His tendency is to ‘reward’ himself by taking two days off in a row to do nothing and he loses momentum on the class.  It actually slows him down because he has to reread a bunch of stuff.  If he took shorter breaks he’d get a lot more done. (I’m sharing tips with him but letting him learn by experience on how he wants to do this, it will serve him well into the future).

You decide you want to lose weight.  You are doing really well.  You lose 7 pounds.

You eat a whole pizza in one night and weigh 5 pounds more in the morning and lose motivation.

In all these scenarios’ you are just shooting yourself in the foot.  You are probably someone that says “this is taking too long”, or “I need to see some reward or its not worth even trying”, or something like that, you probably have a hard time losing weight, paying bills or getting goals set and reached.

You need to change your mindset.  Rewards are good.  Too much of a sense of entitlement, or too many rewards are just self sabotage.  You don’t need to reward yourself constantly, you are not two.  Instant gratification won’t get you what you want.  Having the staying power to set a goal, work towards it ~ unfaltering, is what is going to get you there.

If you must have a reward, take one, but take something other than something that is going to sabotage you.

If you are trying to pay down bills, don’t give yourself a financial reward on credit ~ give yourself a day off to do nothing, or hang out with friends or go to the beach instead.

If you are trying to lose weight don’t eat a whole pizza once a week ~ have one slice every 3 weeks.

If you are trying to complete a project, stop giving yourself excuses not to work on it.  We all have excuses.  Instead of excuses, maybe just get up and take a walk around the block, or play a game or go for a swim, wash dishes, mow the lawn, shovel snow, or something to decompress, then get back to it.

It really is up to you if you reach your goals or not.  Watch your self talk and ask yourself if the big reward of reaching your goals is more important than all the little unimportant things along the way.




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