Sugar Coated Bullshit is still Shit

If you eat that sugar coated shit, you’ll get sick.  I need to write this for you today, not sure why, or who needs it, I think it’s a lot of people so here goes.

YOU NEED TO LET YOURSELF FEEL YOUR FEELINGS!!!

There is such a huge push to “think positive”, even if a situation is bad – its “think positive”.  Well, yes, we need to try and think positive when we can. BUT – If you are going through something, or see something that upsets YOU NEED TO LET YOURSELF FEEL IT!

Bullshit is bullshit, whether its covered in sprinkles and sugar or not. I’m not suggesting you try and feel badly, I’m not suggesting that you walk around angry all the time.  I AM suggesting that if you are having a negative feeling, DO NOT SQUISH IT DOWN.  Yes, things always work out.  Yes, gratitude and positive thinking can be really helpful, but if you try and bottle up a “negative” feeling, you will make yourself sick.  I KNOW THIS FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.

We are in an energy of releasing a bunch of stuff. I’ve been writing about it for weeks, or months (or years) now.  About our need to let go of things and move forward with life.  You cannot let go of something that you do not acknowledge.  I have talked to so many of you that are afraid of feeling anything but happy.  You don’t dare vent your anger anywhere in case you manifest something.

This post is your wake-up call. We’ve been going through very emotional times the past few years ~ especially this year.  YOU MUST LET YOURSELF FEEL AND RELEASE YOUR EMOTIONS.

I am an extremely positive person, happy almost all the time, can always perceive something better, have an innate ability to see how things will work out in the long run etc. BUT, I had a bit of an uncomfortable medical condition come up myself over the past 3 months.  It was mind boggling to me, because I am REALLY HAPPY.  I’m not faking it, I’m not pretending, I’ve become a master manifester, and my life is really good.  I know what’s been coming up for the “collective”, but I  thought that because I was so happy, I wasn’t being impacted.  Ha ha on me!

I asked my peeps about my medical condition AND I read up on a couple of things and this is what I got.

What my medical condition showed me, as uncomfortable as it was, was that there was something I wasn’t letting myself feel. I still don’t even really know EXACTLY what it was (as in a specific subject/situation).  Last weekend, I spent two days just with myself, meditating, working a little bit, but mostly working with my own energy.  I was told by my peeps (SAM), that I wasn’t feeling my feelings and that is why my health suffered some.  I can honestly say that I didn’t get it when my peeps told me that.  I’m so freaking happy most of the time.  According to Louise Hay, in “You Can Heal Your Life”, some of my condition pointed to “fear” and “anger”.  I had a hard time even reading that because I do not consciously feel fearful or angry.

What I have been doing with this information I have been given is to try really hard to let myself feel everything. I didn’t think I was sugarcoating things for myself when I was seeing the positive in things, but maybe I was…  that is what my condition was pointing to.  I know that our bodies are extremely intuitive and I know they hold energy.  OUR BODIES NEVER LIE.  Your body will let you know when you are blocking something.  My body was telling me something that I could not feel or intuit any other way.

I have a couple of friends that did not listen when this information first presented to them. Because they held back and held back on feeling or saying anything but “positive” things, they ended up losing all faith in (in their words), “New Age Positivity Bullshit”. They have gone from being “too positive”, to “too negative”.  Don’t let this become you.  We need a balance of light and contrasting dark in order to be balanced and live an authentic life.

I wrote this in Miami!

I wrote this in Miami!

Signs that you are blocking or pushing down (holding onto) negative feelings rather than allowing yourself to feel them.

  • You have an illness but can’t figure out how to heal it or why it’s there.
  • You are drinking too much (or smoking, or eating or ??). I know way too many women (and probably men too), that were having a glass of wine at the end of the day, that are now having a bottle of wine a day.  THIS IS NOT HEALTHY.  You are blocking some feelings and holding them in your energy field and body if you are masking your BS with any substance.
  • When you are feeling a bit depressed you are afraid to reach out to people close to you because you think that they will just tell you how good you have it and that you should think more positively.
  • When you feel angry at something, you tell yourself that its silly to be angry, that you should feel better, that other people have it worse, or some other thing that keeps the anger in your energy/body.
  • When someone near you dies, you know they are fine so you don’t let yourself grieve. You tell yourself, that you know they didn’t really die, they just changed dimensions and left their body behind.  Maybe you feel them around, it must have been their time, so it’s silly to wallow in that.  Grieving is NOT wallowing ~ its sadness at loss, and is a necessary process to go through – NECESSARY.  If you are suffering a loss and not letting yourself grieve, you are pushing your feelings down.
  • For the record, this applies to any loss. Work, marriage, home, anything.  Let yourself grieve the loss.  Grieving releases energy, it doesn’t make it worse.  It doesn’t ‘manifest bad things in your life’.

 

Here is what you can do if you are afraid to feel negative feelings.

  • Probably the MOST important, is find someone you can talk to about your feelings.  Someone you trust to allow you to feel without telling you that you are just being negative.  Someone that can listen without adding on more negativity, and who won’t let you wallow either.
  • Do some meditations and some inner child work. Sometimes it’s useful to look back at your first memories of your childhood and look closely at some of your  ‘go to’ phrases and belief systems.
  • You don’t need to keep focusing on negative crap, however you can allow it to come up so you can look at it, question it, see it for what it is, and let it go.
  • When something pisses you off, rather than immediately turning it around to something more positive, let yourself feel it for a little bit. Essentially blowing the energy OUT, instead of pushing it down.
  • Recognizing that “this sucks” and feeling your way through it is NOT being negative. Letting yourself acknowledge that it sucks and getting angry, sad, etc. and THEN moving forward afterwards is okay.  You must acknowledge that shit is shit and not just try and cover it up.
  • Think of the grieving process as releasing energy.
  • Do NOT look for old crap from your past that isn’t there. If you notice something, notice it, feel what you need to feel, and move on.  You don’t need to MAKE yourself feel negative emotions, you need to ALLOW yourself to feel the ones that come up.
  • Pray to Source, and ask your Angels for help, they are there for you. Ask them to help you feel.  If you get afraid of your feelings, then ask for help with that too.

Too many of you are suffering because you are not letting yourself feel.  Please feel.  Don’t be afraid, don’t hide.  Allow your feelings to help you weed out what isn’t good for you anymore, to help you grow.  Sometimes powerful negative feelings are just what you need for positive change to happen in your life.

 

For those of you who are offended at the profanity in this post, I apologize.  I was raised to ‘watch my mouth’.  I do however swear, sometimes a lot, sometimes not at all.  This is simply the way it was presented to me, and how it chose to come out in this post.  In the vein of feeling what I feel, and of living authentically, I chose not to ‘sugar coat’ my language.

As always, with Love

Tamara

 

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Inspiring Audio from Jim Carrey – We are Eternal

Jim Carey

There is no separation….

I heard this audio today and really wanted to share it with you.  It talks about how everything is energy.

Hoping it helps inspire you through the weekend.

 

 

 

 

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Try this, it will change your life

Change is so hard, yet it is so easy.  We are so habituated to our patterns sometimes that any deviance from those patterns can make us feel uncomfortable.  That is the hard part, the discomfort of doing something differently.

The easy part is that once you change your mind the universe conspires to help you make those changes.  Once you have made your decision there is nothing that can stop you.  You get momentum behind you and things just begin to flow in the direction of your thoughts.

Once you have decided that something needs to change how do you keep your thoughts on what you want and what do you do next?  What steps can you take to keep your vibration high enough that things flow to you in an easier way?

Do this…

When you go to bed tonight and when you first lie down, think of things you are grateful for.

Gratitude works like magic.  Just like when we complain, we get more to complain about, when we practice gratitude we get more to be grateful for.

Thinking of the things we are grateful for raises or vibration and allows for more positive things (energy) in our lives.

If you are someone who has a hard time relaxing your brain because you are thinking of all the things on your to-do list for tomorrow then bring a pen and paper to bed and write down those things as they pop in for you.  Don’t worry about them, just write them down and let them go.  If they are important you can deal with them when the time comes ~ which is tomorrow. 

Mt. Cheam out my office window on a cool February morning.

Mt. Cheam out my office window on a cool February morning.

When you wake up tomorrow morning, decide to let yourself do one thing differently from what your normal routine is.

Get off autopilot.  You want changes to come, you are trying to allow them to flow, make one even small decision and stick to it.

  • Take a different road as you are driving to work.
  • Buy a different type of coffee, or the same type from a different place.
  • Go for a walk at lunchtime if you don’t normally do that.
  • Get in that exercise you have been putting off
  • drink more water
  • skip the donut

It doesn’t really matter what the change is or how big or small it is.  Just do anything differently.  You can do more than one thing differently if you want, but keep your changes manageable so that you barely notice them.

Set yourself an alarm to go off every 90 minutes and breathe

Every 90 minutes (or whenever you think about it), stop what you are doing for 2 minutes and practice breathing.  Breathe deeply, all the way into the bottom of your belly.  Relax your body, let your shoulders fall, feel your ribcage expanding.  Do this for five breaths every 90 minutes.  That’s it.

Just for today (or tomorrow) ~ try it, I promise you will notice a shift in your energy.  Try it for a week, or a month, and you just may change your whole life.

You need to become more aware of your habits and your ways of thinking.  Allowing yourself to be on auto pilot all the time is ruining your life.

Doing even these 3 simple steps will begin to make changes in your brain and the way it works.  Keep it up for 21 days and you will have formed some new habits and some of your old neuro-pathways will have been replaced.

 

 

 

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Why is it important for you to clear your energy?

We all pick up on the energy of other people, places or things.  If you are reading this you are likely more sensitive than a lot of people.  You are all intuitive.  You walk into a place and can feel if it feels “nice”, or “homey” or “dense” and like you want to get out of there.  That is your intuition.  It is you feeling the energy.

Some of you feel this energy more than others, some of you are outright empaths, some of you pay attention to these energies, and some of you walk around completely unaware that you are ‘wearing’ the energy of other people.

It can be compared to a campfire.  When you sit around a campfire you end up smelling like a campfire.  You might put your clothes in the laundry hamper, and then a couple of days later you open the hamper and it smells like campfire.  If you left the clothes for a month or a year they would still smell like campfire.  You need to wash your clothes in order to get the smell of the campfire off.

Most of us shower every day (or every couple of days), and we wash off our hair and our skin.  If we didn’t the dirt and sweat would keep on piling up.  It wouldn’t just go away on its own, it needs to be cleaned off.

mediation visualization

It is also important that you wash your energy

Just like the smell of smoke from sitting around the campfire, the feeling of energy can stay with you for a long time unless you make a conscious effort to clean it off.

Sometimes doing some energy work, meditations, or clearing your energy can completely change your mood, energy levels, or sometimes your entire life situations.

This is a list of some of my favourite guided meditations to clear this energy.  I suggest you do at least one of them daily to help clean your energy and improve your life.

Meditation to Heal from Negative Energy – I especially use this one if I have been around someone who is really angry or negative or venting in my direction.  It clears you and your whole house (or workspace, or any other place that you focus on).

Guided Meditation/Visualization for Cutting Energy Cords – I use this one if I feel like someone has stuck an energy cord in me.  This can happen if there are ever negative feelings, going either from them to you or you to them.  Energy cords can also attach if you care just a bit too much about someone else’s ‘stuff’.  This works well to cut cords to past relationships, and to your parents.  Love energy stays, just what is no longer serving you goes.

Clearing and Shielding With Archangel Michael – this one is good too.  Very quick, easy and effective.  Helps to put up your shield of protection as well.

Dragon Sun Grounding Mediation – this is another quick and easy one you can do.  For those of you who find there is drama at work, this is a good one to do when you get home.  It is generally very good for simply grounding your energy as well.

 

 

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What if There is Nothing Left to OVER-COME? Now it is time to BE-COME

For years now we have been in an energy of letting go, overcoming challenges, removing blocks, clearing chakras and energy fields, and trying to get rid of what is no longer serving us.

What if that is all over now?

It is for a lot of you.  You’ve done the work.  You have succeeded in clearing out all the old, now what?

It’s time to BECOME who you want to be.  You can.  And it doesn’t need to be the least bit difficult.

All you need to do is let go of “how things have always been”.  Our world HAS changed, we HAVE changed.  Its already done.  Any discomfort you are feeling now is trying to bring the old world into the new world.

It simply won’t work.  The old paradigms won’t work in the new energy.  This goes for the monetary system, how and where we live, what we eat, the energy of competition vs. the energy of cooperation, how we get our electrical power, the old reliance on oil, being immersed in masculine energy without embracing the divine feminine energy,  the separation from our earth and between different races of people; think you get the meaning, everything has changed.

If you try to bring your past into your present it won’t work.  You have a clean slate now.  What do you want to create?  Who do you want to Become?

transform

It really can be easy if you let it flow.  The hardest part is making a decision.  Once you make your decision you will find that things fall into place for you quite easily.  The Law of Attraction will bring you people and circumstances that will assist you in moving forward and creating the life you imagine.

You might not have much more to clear.  During September we truly were scraping the bottom of the barrel of what needed to go.  Things we thought were done with may have come up so that you could release the last remnants.

ITS ALL NEW NOW.  Embrace the new energy, allow things to change, imagine the life you want.  Then simply go for it!!!  Don’t worry about what anyone else is doing or what society or the ‘news’ tells you.  YOU are the creator, create what you want, you’ve got this!

 

 

 

 

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Dependency ~ it is NOT a positive vibration

We need to get away from this energy of dependency.  It is not healthy for the dependent person, nor is it healthy for the person being depended on.

We absolutely DO need to come together in cooperation and sharing; but dependency is another thing altogether.

Yes, your children are dependent on you.  But only for a short time.  If you “child” is an adult and they are dependent on you, they are stunted.  If your teenager cannot do things for themselves and cannot make a decision to save their life, they are overly dependent.

There are exceptions to this of course for medical reasons, but for the most part we need to allow others to grow and we need to allow ourselves to grow.

Dependency is where we cannot take care of ourselves ~ or when the people in our lives cannot take care of themselves without us.

If we allow others to be overly dependent on us, we are stunting them and we are controlling them.  We are saying that we do not trust them to take care of themselves and make good decisions.  We are taking away their power.  It is more about controlling them than helping them and it is more about us than it is about them and their abilities (and personal power).

create your reality

If we are overly dependent on someone else, we are giving away our personal power.  We are not trusting that we can get things done and create our own lives.  We set ourselves up to be blindsided.  We set ourselves up to be controlled and manipulated.

When we are in a relationship with a significant other we need to remember that we are two souls having a human experience.  We come into these relationships to share and grow.  NOT to control, not to rely fully on someone else for our happiness and well being.

Your well being is your job.  Your spouse’s well being is their job.  If you take too much responsibility for someone else, you are stunting them.  If you expect someone else to take care of you and you depend on them for everything, you are stunting yourself.  You and they will get tired out.

There are also a lot of people dependent on the government.  On ‘them’.  Dependent on the system to feed them, to provide hydro power, to provide safety and security.  This can work when everything is going well, but all you need to do is look at the news.  At people who go through a natural disaster or something and because they are completely dependent on ‘the systems’ they fall apart.

You need to empower yourself.  You need to help empower those that are dependent on you.

There are many ways in which we DO need to come together to support each other, cooperation is a good thing and there is strength in numbers.

But one person can only carry someone else for so long.  It is not sustainable.  Not if either of you want happiness.

Just as ‘the system’ can only carry the ‘masses’ for so long; and only so long as things remain static.  Any changes to the earth, the financial system, the balance of power, and ‘the masses’ will need to depend on themselves.

This is not meant to be a doom and gloom post, quite the contrary.  You are stronger than you think.  The people who are in your life that are dependent on you are stronger than you think.  We all need to cooperate together and to empower one another.  It will make the world a happier place.

 

 

 

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Meditation: Clearing The Past From The Emotional & Mental Bodies

clearing the past meditation

 

I looked up this meditation for myself last night and gave it a listen and I liked it so I’m sharing it with you.  We cleared out all summer long, and the energy of September is helping us clear out even more now.  Mercury being retrograde also brings up things (people) from our past at times and this can bring to our attention things that we thought we were “over” but aren’t.

For some of us its like we had a dirty bucket full of water.  We have thrown out all the murky water over the last three years and now we are scrubbing out the bottom of the bucket.  The good news is, its almost clean of anything that is holding us back.

Anyway, this meditation from Ellaeenah JadeFire just might assist with some residual energy that might be ready to go.

Its okay if you want to turn it on before bed and you end up falling asleep to it, it will still help.

Meditation: Clearing The Past From The Emotional & Mental Bodies

 

 

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How To Stay In Your Own Energy ~ Quick Tips for Empaths

Empath

Okay, so this is my first video blog post.  I did it in one go rather than redoing and editing etc. so its not perfect, but at least I finally did my first one.  I have been thinking about doing some video blogs for ages.

This is all about Staying in Your Own Energy, and not being blown about by the energy of everyone else all the time.  I also talk a little bit about how to protect your energy.

Hope you find it to be helpful.

I’d love some feedback.  Unless you hate it, in which case I don’t need feedback.  🙂

 

 

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I Don’t Care What Other People Think!

How often do you find yourself saying those words?  To yourself or to other people?

Did you know that people who are truly okay with who they are and what they are, almost never say those words.  EVER.

The ones who use that phrase the most are the ones who are most impacted by what other people think or say about them.  If you are okay with yourself and allow yourself to be you, and express yourself the way you want to, those words don’t normally cross your mind.  You are vibrationally congruent with your own life and who you are.

Those words (I don’t care what anyone else thinks) come with a huge energetic frequency of “I’m not okay, but I’m not going to tell anyone I feel like that, I will just disengage from those people who might think badly about me.”

We all care to a certain degree what other people think of us.  It is part of being human.

I can’t remember the last time I said those words though (or even thought or felt them).  Not because I am any better than anyone else, I know I’m not.  Its because I ‘came out of the psychic closet’ decades ago and in order to do that I had to be okay with me.  Before I truly embraced my psychicness, I kept it hidden and when I did “let the cat out of the bag” and someone judged me harshly, I said “I don’t care what people think!”  ~~ yet of course I did, or I would have put myself right out there sooner.

Like I do now.  For the past few years I have been writing about what I do and sharing what I channel, and putting it all out there for the whole world to see.  Not because I don’t care what other people think, but because I am quite simply, okay.

BE yourself

How do I Be “Okay” With Who I am?  And How Can You Be?

I work on my own vibration constantly.  I am an empath, and even those of us that are NOT empaths are bombarded on a daily basis about what is ‘right’ or ‘normal’ or what we should be or should do.  Its hard not to care at least a little bit.

I meditate every single day at least once, usually twice, and I clear my energy and keep my vibration as high as I can at any given time.  What this gets me is that I attract people into my life that are like minded (that are vibrating at least close to where I am vibrating).

People who are jerks almost never show up in my reality.  I don’t have people saying things that offend me, so I don’t have the need to say ‘I don’t care what they think’.

I also know and acknowledge that everyone has their own path and their own point of view, so I am not easily offended by strangers.

The more focus you put on the dense or negative energy that you see, the more you will get.  That’s it.  The more you say I don’t care about these people, the more of these people you will get ~ you share a vibration with them.

I remember a few years ago, I had a mentor that said “If you don’t have haters, you haven’t made it yet”.  Well, I hadn’t had haters up to that point (a couple people who didn’t totally believe in psychic’s but not haters).  Well, shortly after I guess I ‘made it’ because all of a sudden I had all kinds of people hating on me and all kinds of difficult clients.  I couldn’t figure out what was going on.  Until I realized what was running through the back of my head (my subconscious mind), that my mentor had taught me.

As soon as I realized it, I was like, WTH have I done!  I acknowledged what happened, and I went back to being me.

If you find that you keep saying to yourself I don’t care what other people think, it may just be time to re-evaluate how you feel about yourself and let yourself BE the wonderful you that you came here to be.

If you don’t hate on you, then no one else can either.  And yes, it really is that simple.

 

 

 

 

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Get Out In Nature

I have been trying to unplug a little bit more often.  Its hard because, like you, being online is a big part of what I do.  I write every day, I post to My Facebook Page every Day.  I book clients online, I do a lot of personal and professional work on my phone and my computer every day.

There is rarely a day that goes by where I am not doing some sort of work online.  I am okay with that, but sometimes we just need to decompress.

I have cut down the amount of time I spend on emails.  I try and schedule in my ’email time’ at certain times of the day rather than just checking it and getting wrapped up in responding to everyone the minute they message me.  Some days I get close to 100 emails and it can get overwhelming if I don’t schedule a specific time just to respond.  (I do check daily at least though, so rest assured if you email me, I will get back to you).

get out in nature

I am committing to myself that I am going to get outside more.  I used to get outside a lot more than I have been, walks at the river was my favourite.  I had hurt my ankle last year though and couldn’t go for my walks as often as I used to.  I am happy to say that my ankle is about 95% healed now so it shouldn’t be something that stops me from enjoying the outdoors.

I came across this video today and wanted to share it with you.  I think it is awesome and that you might enjoy it as well.  Not sure if its more ‘giggles’ or just ‘sad’ that we have become so plugged in.

Its a really good reminder that we need to keep what is important in our lives and what will energize us and make us feel good.

Nature RX Part 1

 

 

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