None of us are really Wrong, We just have different perspectives

We all incarnated here on earth for our own reasons. We are here to do what WE came to do.  It is a very personal experience for each and every one  of us.

I have seen conversations between souls before they incarnate on earth. I have channeled messages from Higher Selves that explain why certain things are happening for some people.  All of them are related to experiencing this time of change on our planet and on holding a space of LOVE.

We all chose to be here at this time of change on Planet Earth. We are ascending to a higher dimension.  Before we came, we decided what type of life we would live.  Our souls are as individual as our personalities.  All of us are connected, all energy is connected, what impacts one CAN impact all, but we are also separate.  We don’t have to be the same as everyone else.

We all came to help in one form or another ~ generally. I know that my reason for incarnating was to assist with the process by proving that death is not real, it is just a change in form, that we really can connect with energy, and that everyone can ~ specifically.

So generally, we are here to help. And it’s the specifics, the way in which we do that, that is different for each of us.

I do a lot of energy work, and if I get too caught up in trying to explain it with science, it takes me off my path. I get extremely excited when I discover some science that explains what I do (it makes me feel less crazy), but I can’t go in search of science and explanation without dulling down my gifts.  It dulls down my gifts because it gets me too ‘in my head’, and has me questioning too much about the ‘how’ of my gifts work, rather than just doing it.  It puts my gifts ‘outside’ of me and stops the flow.

My husband on the other hand, wants to solve the puzzles. He came here to help (general), but more specifically, he wants to explore science.  He wants to know how the energy works with the science he learns.  His soul came here to do a puzzle ~ much like someone who does crosswords or jigsaw puzzles.  This helps with the evolution of the planet, just in a different way than I do it.

Everyone has come here for a different reason. Each and every one of you has a role to play.  Some are very connected to animals, some to mother earth, some to simply be very loving and add that loving energy to the collective, some want to be parents (I cannot list all the different aspects, there are thousands).  Not everyone understands that they chose to be here, but eventually they will figure it out ~ even if it is not until the body dies and they go back to energy.

Your trick at this point in time is to figure out what makes your heart sing. What makes you happy?  How do you want to spend your time?  Answer those questions and that will help you to find why you came here.

It doesn’t even matter if people don’t ‘get’ you. BE YOU and you will find ‘your people’.  It’s important that as you allow yourself to be you, you also allow others to be who they are, don’t try to change people.  They may be here for a very different reason and be on a different path than you are (this includes your family and children).  We can all co-exist ~ quite happily if we just all be ourselves.

And remember, it doesn’t need to be what ‘the masses’ would call special. You don’t need to be famous, you don’t need to impact hundreds or thousands of people.  You need to take care of you.  We need you to take care of you.  Happy, loving people make for a happier more loving collective.  One happy person, someone who smiles, who shines from within, can have a huge impact on everyone they come into contact with.  One loving, happy interaction can change everything.

Trying to fit into someone else’s mold will only make you unhappy. Please, BE YOU.  We need a happy you.  Whatever that is FOR YOU.




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Have you recently met one of your guides?

We are living in such amazing times.  The veils are thinning and many of you are beginning to see things.  Maybe you keep thinking you are seeing something out of the corner of your eye, or you see shimmering things, or shadows, or any other number of things that you can’t explain.  You think maybe you are just imagining it, but really you are seeing glimpses of other dimensions.

I had the coolest “dream” the other night.  I put dream in quotes because it wasn’t really a dream.  I know the difference between a dream and astral travel or being in different dimensions.  When we are “travelling” it is different.  It is much more vivid, we often have physical experiences ~ like we can feel it if we are hugged.  These are not dreams, these are visits.

The other night I met two of my friends that are not in their body.  It was so much fun!  I was so happy to see them!

I have to tell you, I can honestly say that “I have never seen these guys before in my life!”  However, I obviously knew them in another life, another dimension, and they knew me.  I don’t even remember their names!  But I do remember some of the details of the ‘dream’ and it was a wonderful visit.

The reason I titled this “Have you recently met one of your guides?” is because I know a lot of you have guides coming to you in this way to introduce themselves to you right now.  The energies are really good for making it easier to flip dimensions and visit with others (which is why you are becoming more psychic than you ever have been before).

Some of these people that you have been meeting in your dreams are your guides, some are your loved ones, and some (like the ones that visited with me), are just friends that aren’t in this dimension with us.

You are not crazy.  You are not imagining things.  You are not making up the feelings that you had while in your dream state.  You are visiting with other dimensions.

Dead people want to talk to you

Why do these visits only happen when I’m sleeping?

Because that is the only time you can get your ego out of the way.  When you have experiences when you are awake you question them, you don’t believe them, you discount them as something else.  You are wrapped up in a 3D reality and can’t fathom that you could be in another dimension while awake.

You call your intuition a ‘coincidence’, you think that if a loved one from the other side pops into your mind it just happened.  You don’t really believe you are thinking of them because they are with you.

You are not ‘wrong’ for this, it is just the way it is with most people.  We are human after all.  We have been programmed to only believe in a 3D reality.  Most of you aren’t trained to listen to your intuition, you are trained to mistrust it and squash it.

Anyway, pay attention to your dreams.  There are so many different dimensions trying to hang out with us right now.  Its pretty exciting, enjoy your dreams and enjoy the company of others.




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What is a Soul Group

We are all souls having a human experience and this experience is a very small part of who we really are.  When we were in our energy form, before we were born, we had an ‘energetic family’ of souls that we hung out with and we will be hanging out with them again when these bodies are gone.

These souls are our friends on the other side.  Often we’ve had many lifetimes with them.  We aren’t always born into the same family on earth, and sometimes we are born on the other side of the earth from them.  Sometimes we don’t even meet up with them on our earth travels.  Usually though, if we have incarnated at the same time as them it is for the purpose of being here together and having experiences together.  Sometimes these are learning experiences, and sometimes they are just for fun.

How to Recognize Your Soul Group

  • Usually people in the same soul group all look similar.
  • You meet someone and immediately resonate with their vibration or feel a deep connection
  • Sometimes a person in your soul group will be one of your biggest ‘challengers’ (or enemy).  You decided to come here together specifically for the challenge.
  • Sometimes we will have romantic relationships where there is a really strong pull ~ “I’ve never felt like this before” ~ but that are not necessarily ‘good’ for us in this lifetime.  It is the familiarity of the soul group that makes it feel more important.
  • Sometimes, if you look at your histories, you have other places, people or events in common ~ you gave yourselves ample opportunities to meet in this lifetime.

Your soul group is your spirit family, and not all of them incarnate at the same time as you.

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Do you sometimes feel ‘different’ than your biological family

Sometimes someone is born into a family and they feel like they simply don’t belong.  Maybe the whole family is short and has black hair and you are a tall blonde.  Or most people in your family are athletes and you are philosophical and would rather write poetry all the time.

This doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you.  You chose to be born into that family for a reason.  There is likely something you wanted to learn or experience with that family before growing up and moving on into your own adult life.

It can be a little bit uncomfortable sometimes to feel so different than your family, but if you can accept that it was for your soul growth and that it was your choice, then this change in perspective might be just what you need to feel better.

If you have someone in your family that seems ‘different’, recognizing that maybe they are just from a different soul group and that maybe you are new to each other can help the familial relationships.

Most of us will find at least a few people from our soul group on our travels.  Many people marry into their soul group.  Even if the marriage doesn’t last, the family ties to the in-laws do.  This is because they are your soul group.

Sometimes you connect with your soul group via a group of friends, or though work (or any other number of opportunities).

You WILL connect with your soul group, somehow, some way if you listen to your heart and let your intuition be your guide.

None of us ever comes here completely alone, there are many members of your soul group here with you to support and love you.




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Relaxing for Your Soul

What do you do to relax when you have some downtime?  Watch TV?  Read a book?  Play video games, sit on your phone on Facebook or some other game or social media?

The energy this week has been a little strange to say the least.  I did an energy alert the other day that still applies.  I went out today and came across a lot of people that were in a big hurry to go no where.  I am pretty sensitive to the energies ‘out there’ in grocery stores and in traffic, so I just put a purple flame around myself and my car and got myself home once my errands were done.

People that have no awareness of energies or of what planet earth is going through energetically are going bonkers.  They are so very uncomfortable.  I wrote about this years ago, and it is ramping up more and more all the time.  If you are reading this, you have at least some level of awareness that this 3D world is not ‘all there is’.  You need to take care this weekend to not engage the negative energy that a lot of people seem to be spewing.

My husband has been dealing with someone in his life for the last 24 hours that is kind of losing it.  She’s stressed out, and freaking out and appears to be completely irrational.  (everything is a matter of perception, so I am sure she has a different viewpoint ~ something like trying to control people and things that she cannot control?)

You have a choice.  You can try and control things that are out of control; or you can simply control yourself.  The choice is yours.  I can tell you 100% that it feels better to control yourself, but what you decide will be up to you.

This brings me back to relaxing your soul.  Your soul could probably use a break (as could your mind, heart and body).  So take it.  I suggest you DO NOT use electronics (video games, phones, PC’s, TV’s etc.) if you want to relax your soul.  It won’t have the desired effect.

Relax your Soul

What I do suggest is as follows:

9 Ways for You to Relax Your Soul this weekend (or anytime)

  • Go out for a walk in nature (better yet if it is near water ~ the negative ions are good for you in so many ways).
  • Take a nap
  • Read a book
  • Garden
  • Meditate
  • Sit in your yard or on your deck
  • Play with your kids
  • Play with your pets
  • Go for a ride (boat, horse, motorcycle ~ whatever your ride of choice is) ~ just avoid traffic

These are just a few suggestions, there are hundreds (or thousands) more ways you can relax.  The goal for this weekend is to relax in a way that nourishes and rests your soul.  You will feel so much better for it.  Whatever ‘chores’ you need to do will wait a few more days or till next weekend.

You don’t need to absorb the intense energy of other people by trying to force yourself into situations.  Listen to your inner guidance; the guidance that comes from your soul not your ego mind.  It will tell you this as well.

Have a fantastic relaxing weekend everyone,

I love you,



If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

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Abraham’s View on What Happens Before Birth


This is a pretty good video (audio) from Abraham, channeled by Esther Hicks.  I thought I would share it with you.  I found it to be quite interesting and similar to the channeled information I have received over the years.




No One Dies “Before Their Time”

We hear this quite often.  “They died before their time”.  I understand the phrase.  But really “No, they didn’t”.

They may have died before you were ready to let them go, but everyone dies at their time.  Not before, not after.  Doesn’t matter if they were 9 or 90 or in-utero or starting college, if it was not their time, they would still be here.

Our society looks at death as such an awful thing.  Its not.  We all do it.  No one doesn’t die.  It can be heartbreaking for us when one of our loved ones goes before we are ready, but I want you to know that they are okay.  When I connect with a loved one, they are all happy.

This can be really hard for you to hear if you have lost someone that was ‘younger’ than you would expect them to go.  I have talked to spirits of all ages, I have never talked to one that said “I wasn’t supposed to go”, NOT ONE EVER.  I have talked to spirits that said “Wow, didn’t expect that to happen”, but never “It shouldn’t have happened”.

no one dies before their time

We have soul agreements with pretty much everyone in our life.  Even if you lose someone and it seems ‘too early’, they came into your life for a reason.  Before they were born they knew when they might leave human form.  You agreed to be with them for the time they would have here.

Try and hold onto that thought, that even though you were not ready for them to go, they are not suffering.  They love you.  They are still with you, they are okay.  They want for you to be okay.  Without exception.

Talk to them, they can hear you.  They support you as best as they can in their current form.  And you WILL see them again.



For more information on this, you can read this post Signs that a dead loved one is around you.  Or you can book an psychic medium appointment with me and we can talk to them together.

Remember…You’ve Got This

You are so very powerful.  I don’t always know why I write what I write but I always trust that its what you need to hear.  You are reading this for a reason.  Whether you are reading it on the day I am writing it, or 100 years later, this is for you.

You are powerful, you have forgotten that.  Whether it is people in your life, or circumstances, or whatever, you might be struggling a little bit right now.  Things are changing here on planet earth.  There is no doubt about it.

When we resist these changes is when we feel as if things are being done to us.  This note is your reminder that you are a creator.  You are God, and you are so much more than you realize.
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If you can manage to look at all that is going on in your life and imagine what might unfold if you could just surrender.  Surrender to God, your Higher Self, ask the Angels for help.

Take a good look at who is around you and ask yourself if having them in your (head) space is healthy for you.  As you are going through your day, do you find that you have words or phrases running through your head that aren’t even really yours?  They belong to your partner, your parents, your disempowered friends?  If so, you need to replace them.  If you have empowering phrases running through your head, that is good.  If they make you feel like giving up, or that you don’t have any say in your own life and what you want anymore, then it is time to replace them.

You are powerful.  This doesn’t mean you have any power over others, it means you have ultimate power over your own thoughts, choices, manifestations.  You are not required to live in fear.

If you are feeling anything less than stellar at the moment, I want you to go and get yourself a piece of paper.  White paper, blue pen, and write down all the positive potentials of what you could create in your life.  Your potentials, your creations, your “what if everything turns out perfectly for me, what would that look like”.  If you hear any negative voices that don’t belong to you, replace them with your own voice.

Your Higher Self Wants to Talk to You

You need to be heard.  Your higher self needs to be heard by your human self.  You have access to your own intuition via your higher self.  Your higher self wants to talk to you.  You just need to get rid of the chatter of all the other people in your life.  Get rid of the chatter of your ego.

You do not need to be anything for anyone (except if you are a parent, but that’s a different story, and you still need to take care of yourself).  If you could be or do or have anything what would it be?  Write it down.

Some of you are so focused on what others want for you you can’t even answer imagine potentials.  Keep working on it, you will get there.  You need to empower yourself to be what you want to be.  Not what someone else wants you to be.

Sharing and cooperation are good, losing yourself is not.  Remember sharing and cooperation are a two way street.

If you can get quiet with yourself, your intuition will help you find your way.



If you think you would like some help connecting with a part of yourself that you think you have lost (which isn’t really lost, its just been ignored for a while), I can certainly help with that.  You can see more about psychic readings, here.


Can you surrender?  What does surrender even really mean?  Spiritually speaking, surrender is simply letting go.  There are a lot of things (or people) that we really don’t have any control over, so surrendering is what can help keep us sane.

The planetary alignments of the past few days, (and of today) are perfect to help with this.  The energies have been a little bit intense, and trying to control everything is making a lot of you feel badly.  To surrender doesn’t mean to give up ~ it more means to give up your need to control.  To let go and let your higher self take over for a little bit.

When you do let go of the need to control you open yourself up to receive more guidance.  When you turn off your ego and mind, and just simply surrender, your intuition can take over and you will be able to receive divine guidance.

Yesterday I wrote about the need to do now that you have learned.  We are learning so much, and heading in so many new directions it can get very overwhelming trying to decide on what to do next.  We fill up our plates with so much learning and seeking that we don’t actually do anything.


How Doing and Surrender can happen at the same time

When you keep seeking and learning and it gets to be that overwhelming for you, you end up running around trying to do tiny pieces of what you’ve learned, you write lists of things you need to do, you get overwhelmed and you do nothing.  Your anxiety levels go up because you keep adding things that you need to get done to your list.

When you surrender, you actually open yourself up to more divine guidance and you intuitively know what to do next.  Everyone has this ability.  Its just not everyone that is willing to surrender to their higher selves and take that inspired action.

This is how it works even when I write these blog posts.  I am learning a lot of ‘techie’ stuff, and trying to implement some things a bit at a time as I go along.  The more I learn the more I realize I have a lot to learn.  This is what I touched on yesterday.

Now for the surrender part.  On any given day most of you have a whole bunch of things on your list of things to do.  You try and plan and control and figure out everything and how you will get it all done.  Some of you will run around doing things, some of you will get so overwhelmed that you just sit and have a glass of wine, some of you will just keep doing a bunch of stuff for the sake of doing something because you know you should be.  You get so wrapped up in your day and you cannot turn off your mind.

Imagine if you could just let your soul take over for a day?  If you just set your intention to feel good, have a good day, and surrender to whatever pops in for you from your intuition.  This is precisely what I did today.  I feel like I have so much to do today, I wasn’t sure where to start.  My logical mind was thinking “you have to email a bunch of clients, you have to get at least one email reading done, you need to exercise, shower, then get out and do those errands.  You also need to set up that techie thing for yourself, pay some bills, and write a blog post”.

Yes, I felt very overwhelmed and had no idea where to start!  Especially after staying up late last night, not writing my blog post until almost midnight and then sleeping in until 9:30.  I almost never sleep in and boy did I ever feel like I was ‘behind’ because I’d already ‘lost’ 3 hours of my day!

What did I do with this energy?  I surrendered.  Before I got to that place of surrender, I wasn’t even sure if I would get this post done before late-night again.  Before I surrendered I hadn’t sent any emails because there were so many to send I didn’t know who to start with.

The minute I ‘let go’ of what I ‘had’ to do and the need to ‘do something’ my higher self was able to take over and inspire me.  I got out of my ego mind saying what I had to do and my next step just presented to me.

So here it is just lunchtime and my blog post is getting done.  I have sent a few emails that I was inspired to send (the rest can wait a wee bit).  I’ve done a little bit of exercise, not a lot, haven’t had time yet, but I wanted to get some in, so I did.

When you surrender, it doesn’t mean you give up.  It means you ground your energy, quiet your mind, and listen.  Listen to your heart and your intuition and allow things to flow for you.  Sometimes when you surrender your higher self will tell you to simply rest.  This is what happened for me yesterday.  A couple of days ago I was starting to feel really tired, like I had been doing too many readings, and that I needed a clearing and some rest.  So that’s what I did yesterday.  I had a nap in the middle of the day.  I’m sure that’s one of the reasons my blog post didn’t get done until midnight.  But the point is, I listened to the divine guidance I was getting so I rested and I did some, no, a whole bunch, of energy clearing.

Where in your life do you need to surrender and go with the flow?

Give it a try, I would love to hear how it went for you.



Video of the Month by Hannah Shotbolt

So I wrote a blog post the other day You are God, and Jesus was a man.

I came across this video titled “You Are God” and I enjoyed it, thought you might as well.  Note, the video is slightly controversial and she curses ~ a lot.  So if F-Bombs bother you, don’t watch it.

If you just want to spend 10 minutes listening to young woman talk about God while doing her nails then have at it.

Love Tamara

We Are Souls Having a Human Experience

We are souls having a human experience, if you follow spiritual teachings at all, you have probably heard this many times in your life.

Can you even really comprehend what that means though?  Really?

You are So Much More than What You Think You Are

You are So Much More than What You Think You Are


Most people will say this but not even really feel what it means.  It means that this human existence you are living is only about < 1% of who you really are!!

1%.  Let that sink in.  All the drama in your life, all the troubles, worries, problems…  LESS THAN 1%. of who the REAL YOU is.

So who are you and does any of this life matter?

First off I want to say YES this life matters!!  All life matters.

You are ENERGY.  Everything is energy.  Even things that seem to be solid are just particles with energy in between.  Your Soul is energy.  When we die, we do not disappear ~ the energetic form we take changes, yes, but energy cannot disappear.

This can turn into a pretty heavy subject, but for now, I just want you to imagine what the rest of yourself might be like.  The 99% that most of you are not even aware exists.

As Souls, in our purest form, we are love.  One thing that every Spirit Person I have ever talked to has said.  “It is different here than it is where you are experiencing”.  That is not a typo.  “Where you are experiencing”.

We are experiencing things from a place that gives us limited, human perspective.  Everything our Soul does or feels or is, is an experience.  It is not ‘good’, it is not ‘bad’ it just IS.  It can feel ‘loving’, it can feel ‘fearful’.  It can feel ‘uncomfortable’ (fear), or ‘pleasant’ (love), but it is just an experience.

This life you are living is not who you ARE.  The people in your life are not a reflection of who you really are.  Your experiences are not YOU, they are just experiences.

Mini Meditation to Connect to Your Source

Right now, I want you to try something.  Close your eyes and breathe.  Take in a long, slow, deep breath and hold it in for 4 seconds.  Gently release the breath through your mouth.  Repeat.

Focus on your breath, relax, and just feel.  Expand your energy and your consciousness.  Hold the intention to connect with your Higher Self, it may feel easier to do if you put your focus on your crown chakra and your connection to Source.

This is a very small exercise but will hopefully show why learning how to meditate is so important.  If you can quiet your mind, you can begin to connect to your Soul.

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Once you establish your Soul connection you will feel a difference.

You will still be human, with human emotions, but you will be able to feel what it is like to exist as a Soul.  I don’t think any of us that are in a human body will truly be able to know exactly what it is like to be body-less and mind-less, but I can tell you from personal experience that once you get and feel that connection to your Soul your perspective of things will change.
So, you ARE a Soul having a human experience.  When I do psychic readings, it is your soul I am talking to, connecting with.  This is not outside of you, it is a part of you that you do not normally listen to and connect with.

(Yes, as a Medium, I do connect with Souls other than yours at times).

With practice, you can connect to your soul on your own, get your own answers.  Many times the answers won’t even matter from your Soul perspective.  But for the ones that do matter, remember, you are much more than you appear to be from this limited place we live in.  You are a Soul, having a human experience.