You Are Responsible for Your Life

You are responsible for your life.  Not someone or something else, just you.

People can “do you wrong”, or “rip you off”, or make mistakes that impact you, but the more responsibility you take for yourself, the more empowered you will feel and be.

I was watching the news during Hurricane Sandy and they had a woman on and she said “Someone needs to tell us what to do!”  It was a while ago now, but I hear those words in my head over and over as I watch more and more people not taking responsibility for their own lives.  In this case it was a weather disaster and there wasn’t much that the government could do beyond what was already in place.  Rather than do anything at all, she was screaming and crying “someone tell me what to do”.  Say what?  Um, calm down, hunker down, get water, food and blankets and wait for reinforcements.  DO NOT run around the neighbourhood choosing to do nothing except wait for someone to tell you what to do.

Some of us will never be in a situation like that.  Not the hurricane/weather event situation ~ the hopelessness of needing someone to tell you what to do to help yourself situation.  Most people had warning of the hurricane.  A lot of them had food and clean water on hand, generators, candles ~ they had prepared for what was about to happen.  They were not asking for someone to tell them what to do, they were doing what they knew to do.

Snow Calvin

I also was watching a program about pharmacists being under a lot of pressure and screwing up prescriptions or not catching drug interactions.  One story was a woman who apparently stayed on a drug that was interacting with another drug for weeks.  She got very ill, went to the hospital, came out of the hospital and then wound up back there.  She was in the hospital for a long time after.  Now, I do have compassion for her, but having some personal power and responsibility in your own life goes a long way to keeping you safe.  If you start an new drug and get sick ~ hey maybe question the drug ~ look it up online even, the information is there for you, stop taking it ~ do something to take some responsibility for your own health and life.

The government, pharmacists, doctors, police ~ they are all fallible human beings just like the rest of us.  I’m sure that some don’t really care about you.  I am also sure that MOST care about you more than you even realize.   The thing is, you cannot put all responsibility for your safety or your happiness in someone or something else and come out unscathed.

This can work for personal relationships too.  I was in a job where I didn’t want to leave because I thought my boss couldn’t manage without me.  I would have felt bad leaving.  Then my boss up and quit and I was left with a different (none to friendly) boss.  Meanwhile I had missed out on a good job opportunity.  Really, where would blame go here?  I am not big on ‘blame’ so to speak; however I do take 100% responsibility for the fact that I missed that opportunity.  My boss on the other hand wound up with a great job ~ not that he didn’t care for the people he left (me), he just took responsibility for HIS life and jumped at an opportunity (guess that was why he was the boss).

Even with spousal relationships you need to take some responsibility for yourself.  You cannot ‘blame’ your spouse for your life.  You created the situation.  You can stay or you can go, you can put up with stuff, or not; but it is on you to be responsible for you.  You can rely on each other for some things ~ I rely on my husband for some things, he relies on me for some things, however we would NOT perish without each other.  We do not normally blame each other for things or make each other responsible for our happiness.

If you have no idea where the finances are at in your household, who is responsible for that?  No sense in blaming your spouse for hiding money, or being irresponsible ~ you didn’t get involved enough.  If there is not enough money coming into the household, do you blame your spouse, or do you empower yourself, take responsibility and make more money yourself.

You need to take responsibility for your own life.  You are powerful ~ stop acting like you are at the mercy of someone else.  Some of you will have a million excuses why this doesn’t apply in your situation.  I am sure there are exceptions but not very many.  If someone is doing something to you (or has done something to you), keeping the focus on them only disempowers you.  Why do that to yourself?   I have been ripped off, fought with, messed around on, and abused in relationships.  It happens (apparently more to some of us than others), but I learned many years ago that when that happens it is NOT the time to give the person even MORE power over you.  They obviously had some at one point, it’s up to you to say no more.

If you want to be and feel empowered then start from where you are.  Don’t think about someone else messing you up.  Maybe they did, but it’s up to you to take back your power and do something new.  Try writing a list of all the things you CAN do.  Then focus on that and start doing them.

walking in the rain

This blog post has been a bit of a rant, but I’ve just heard too many things over the past week where people were so very disempowered.  The intention of this blog is NOT to tell you not to trust other people either.  You can trust fully and still take some responsibility for yourself.  Pay attention to your life, practice awareness, double check things, prepare for the weather event if you happen to know it’s coming.  Don’t expect the government to bail you out if you get in a pickle, or when you retire.  You can do this.  It might be slightly out of your comfort zone to take some control over your own life, but it certainly isn’t impossible.

Start now, before something happens.  There is nothing more powerful than to be able to handle yourself in a sticky situation.

Surrender

Can you surrender?  What does surrender even really mean?  Spiritually speaking, surrender is simply letting go.  There are a lot of things (or people) that we really don’t have any control over, so surrendering is what can help keep us sane.

The planetary alignments of the past few days, (and of today) are perfect to help with this.  The energies have been a little bit intense, and trying to control everything is making a lot of you feel badly.  To surrender doesn’t mean to give up ~ it more means to give up your need to control.  To let go and let your higher self take over for a little bit.

When you do let go of the need to control you open yourself up to receive more guidance.  When you turn off your ego and mind, and just simply surrender, your intuition can take over and you will be able to receive divine guidance.

Yesterday I wrote about the need to do now that you have learned.  We are learning so much, and heading in so many new directions it can get very overwhelming trying to decide on what to do next.  We fill up our plates with so much learning and seeking that we don’t actually do anything.

Surrender

How Doing and Surrender can happen at the same time

When you keep seeking and learning and it gets to be that overwhelming for you, you end up running around trying to do tiny pieces of what you’ve learned, you write lists of things you need to do, you get overwhelmed and you do nothing.  Your anxiety levels go up because you keep adding things that you need to get done to your list.

When you surrender, you actually open yourself up to more divine guidance and you intuitively know what to do next.  Everyone has this ability.  Its just not everyone that is willing to surrender to their higher selves and take that inspired action.

This is how it works even when I write these blog posts.  I am learning a lot of ‘techie’ stuff, and trying to implement some things a bit at a time as I go along.  The more I learn the more I realize I have a lot to learn.  This is what I touched on yesterday.

Now for the surrender part.  On any given day most of you have a whole bunch of things on your list of things to do.  You try and plan and control and figure out everything and how you will get it all done.  Some of you will run around doing things, some of you will get so overwhelmed that you just sit and have a glass of wine, some of you will just keep doing a bunch of stuff for the sake of doing something because you know you should be.  You get so wrapped up in your day and you cannot turn off your mind.

Imagine if you could just let your soul take over for a day?  If you just set your intention to feel good, have a good day, and surrender to whatever pops in for you from your intuition.  This is precisely what I did today.  I feel like I have so much to do today, I wasn’t sure where to start.  My logical mind was thinking “you have to email a bunch of clients, you have to get at least one email reading done, you need to exercise, shower, then get out and do those errands.  You also need to set up that techie thing for yourself, pay some bills, and write a blog post”.

Yes, I felt very overwhelmed and had no idea where to start!  Especially after staying up late last night, not writing my blog post until almost midnight and then sleeping in until 9:30.  I almost never sleep in and boy did I ever feel like I was ‘behind’ because I’d already ‘lost’ 3 hours of my day!

What did I do with this energy?  I surrendered.  Before I got to that place of surrender, I wasn’t even sure if I would get this post done before late-night again.  Before I surrendered I hadn’t sent any emails because there were so many to send I didn’t know who to start with.

The minute I ‘let go’ of what I ‘had’ to do and the need to ‘do something’ my higher self was able to take over and inspire me.  I got out of my ego mind saying what I had to do and my next step just presented to me.

So here it is just lunchtime and my blog post is getting done.  I have sent a few emails that I was inspired to send (the rest can wait a wee bit).  I’ve done a little bit of exercise, not a lot, haven’t had time yet, but I wanted to get some in, so I did.

When you surrender, it doesn’t mean you give up.  It means you ground your energy, quiet your mind, and listen.  Listen to your heart and your intuition and allow things to flow for you.  Sometimes when you surrender your higher self will tell you to simply rest.  This is what happened for me yesterday.  A couple of days ago I was starting to feel really tired, like I had been doing too many readings, and that I needed a clearing and some rest.  So that’s what I did yesterday.  I had a nap in the middle of the day.  I’m sure that’s one of the reasons my blog post didn’t get done until midnight.  But the point is, I listened to the divine guidance I was getting so I rested and I did some, no, a whole bunch, of energy clearing.

Where in your life do you need to surrender and go with the flow?

Give it a try, I would love to hear how it went for you.

 

 

Learning is Good, But Are You Doing?

Most of you who are reading this are reading this because you are open to learning new things.  Many of you are avid readers and read things online and in books.  Some of you take lots of training courses, and are in a state of constantly learning.

This is fantastic.  I am always wanting to learn new things as well.  I’ve taken classes in Reiki, and Matrix Energetics, Shamanism, Angel Card Reading, etc. etc. etc.  I have always done readings but it is fascinating to me to learn more about other modalities as well.  I find that most of them do tend to blend together and they all have similarities in the way that they work with the Quantum Field of infinite possibilities.

I’ve also taken classes in web design and more computer classes than I can list here (and I’m still not an expert!!).  I read every day, I watch webinars, take seminars to learn business as well as energy.  I’m always involved in something.

Sometimes you just have to DO IT though!

As much as I have taken all those classes, I still consistently work with and use what I have learned.  I don’t use everything that I for work purposes, some I just learn for fun, but when it comes to most of what I learn, I take the time to implement it.

You need to do that too.  Its great that you want to learn, but if you don’t use it then what is the point?

Don’t get stuck in a spiral of needing to keep learning before you do something with what you have learned.  You will likely not become an expert at 100% of the new things you learn, but that doesn’t mean you can’t play with it a bit.

learning vs doing

I find that what happens for a lot of you is that you learn and learn, and want to learn more, suck it up like a sponge, and then say “I’ll use it later”  or “one day”.  You won’t ever get anywhere if you don’t take some action at some point and actually use what you know.

For me, my delay is usually with implementing new business practices.  Because I work with energy every day, sometimes sitting down at my computer and doing ‘techie’ work just doesn’t appeal to me.  The thing is though, I take classes on this stuff.  I attend webinars and I read books.  I need to remind myself that I “know enough” to get started.  I can have ‘perfectionist’ tendencies just like everyone else and I need to push myself as well.

Sometimes good enough is good enough.  You need to get moving.  If you don’t use some of what you know, its useless.  You don’t need to be an expert, or turn it into a business, but give it a try.  You took the time to learn it, maybe it will be fun.  Besides if you don’t ever practice it, it will be no use to you.

You don’t even need to use what you have learned for anything specific, but do use it.  If you go and learn Reiki for example, you don’t need to find a family member with a health problem to help.  You can use it on yourself for a ‘general’ healing and notice how you feel; or do Reiki on your pets and see how they respond.

You need to practice what you’ve learned and you need to use it.  Play with it.  Don’t take it too seriously.  Don’t be afraid to do something new with what you’ve learned.  Our world needs people who are willing to get off the sidelines and DO what they are capable of doing.  And you won’t know just how capable you are until you try!

 

Are You BEing You?

You need to be you ya know. The world needs you just as you are. Not as you think maybe you should be to please anyone else.  Be you.  JUST YOU.

I hate to put this in writing, BUT…. I have talked to many people today who seem to be having problems with ‘other people’.

Left to their own devices, they feel they would be just fine, but other people keep screwing them up (or over, or under, or whatever).

Here is a tip.  Don’t let the opinions of other people mess with your head, your heart, your feelings or what you know is right for you.

Happy you are you

Other People’s Opinion of You Don’t Count

This doesn’t mean that you need to be mean or ‘firm’ with people who don’t get the real you.  You simply just need to stop giving them your attention.  Even if you live with them, or bump in to them all the time, or if you must talk to them (for the sake of the kids, or because they are at your work), just don’t give them your attention.

You need to be you.  Whenever you give your attention to someone and that causes YOU to feel badly, you are not being yourself.  I am NOT saying that they are causing you to feel anything, that is impossible.  I am saying your attention to them, is allowing you to feel uncomfortable.

Let them think or be or do whatever they want.  Its not your business, nor is it your problem.  Your only focus should be on you.  Not everyone will love you or respect you or agree with you, not your problem.

Find people who are more like you when you are being you, and hang out with them.  Then you can be happily YOU more often.

You Are Not at Anyone Else’s Mercy

Sometimes you might think that you are stuck with (or around) someone and you cannot be your best self while around them.  I do see how this happens (I used to be in a work situation where it was hard to be myself).  The thing is, you do not need to let that keep you from being you.

You may need to keep quiet (or keep your opinions to yourself) around certain people, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t you.  It is much easier to hold your energetic space when you don’t engage with people who are vibrating at such a different level.

The thing with this is, if you can really be the YOU that you know you are, the you that loves, the you that is aware of intuition, that knows there is more to life than this, you will be better off ~ even around difficult people.

The absolute best part of this though is that once you are able to hold your vibration, to BE YOU, more often, the less the challenging people will even show up for you.  They won’t be a vibrational match to you, so they will go.  Even if they still live, or work in the same general space as you, you simply won’t be interacting with them as much.

As you interact with them less, and continue to be the lovely you that you know you are, you will attract more and more people into your life that help you be you.  That will allow you to be you.  People that will be so “gosh darn happy” that you are you ~ even you will start appreciating yourself.

Love

Tamara

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Power vs. Control

We are in some very powerful times on our planet.  2014 was a really intense year for all of us.  So much came up for us to evaluate or re-evaluate.  Some things just needed to be rejigged but a LOT of stuff needed to be let go of.

The good news.  Finally the energy from last year is clearing.  The bad news.  If you didn’t bother to practice some awareness and allow things that needed to go, to go, you are likely really uncomfortable right now.

More good news though.  The Universe and the changes of the collective consciousness on our planet are extremely supportive of each and every one of you awakened humans.  2015 is proving to be a fantastic year for stepping up and living your life ~ on your terms.

For all of you reading this, whether you are dealing with old energies or new, you are being prodded to step back into your rightful place of Power.  You are a powerful creator and you no longer have to be ruled by external forces.  There is nothing that you cannot do or be if that is what you want.  The trick here is to realize what you can and cannot control.

Being Powerful doesn’t necessarily mean you have any Control at all

Your power is a personal thing.  It is how you feel and how you create and how you do things in your life.  It is all about you.

It comes from within and is activated in you when you wake up in the morning knowing that you are creating your day with your thoughts and actions.  If you think you can or you think you can’t you are right.  You are using your power.  You have the power to create, the power to tear down, the power to expand or the power to contract.  Every time you use your power to remind yourself that you can do it, you are “Em-Powered”.  If you use this same power to tell yourself you are stuck or that nothing is within your control you are “Dis-Em-Powered”.

Control is something that humans try hard to maintain.  It rarely works though because you seem to be constantly trying to control external things or other people.  Because it is impossible to control other people or things, when you try, you give your power away.

In this disempowered state, you then affirm that “they made me feel”, or “they made me stuck”, or “this situation/economy/job is causing me to… (fill in the blank)”.   Not that they made you, they just didn’t do what you wanted them to do.  Or in the case of the economy or your work, you are only stuck if you believe you are.  Suddenly it feels like they have (or it has) all the power and you feel powerless.

power and control

Power comes from the Soul.  Control comes from the Ego.

The only thing you need to do in a situation where you feel powerless is to state it differently.  You are never stuck unless you give up.  Giving up doesn’t always mean doing nothing.  Sometimes giving up means taking action.  Sometimes ‘giving up’ means fighting for what you want.  Giving up in this instance, means giving up control.

When you give up control you can find your power.

If you are in a relationship and the person you are with is acting in a way you do not like you feel powerless.  In this case, you are powerless to change them.  You cannot control them.  However, you are not the least bit powerless.

If you release them (or it) from your expectations and stop trying to control them (or it), you immediately get your power back.  It really is that simple.

When you are able to bring yourself back into your own power, you can say to yourself “okay, here I am, here they are, there is nothing at all I can do to change them”.  Then you can succinctly state what you want.  “I want to feel better” or “I want more money”, or “I want to work or live somewhere else”.

The minute you give up on trying to control them and you put your focus back on yourself your personal power kicks in.  Once you begin to feel your power your intuition will be able to kick in.  You won’t be blocking it by trying to control external factors.  You will free up that energy to be able to steer you in the direction you want to go, and you will find that you start to get NEW ideas flowing to you.  You will never be open to the new ideas, unless and until you let go of the need to control the way other people or things are.

What you focus on really is what you create more of.  The steps are simple, decide what you want and then stop blaming other people or circumstances for why you don’t have it yet.  Listen to your intuition.  Make some changes.

 

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What Should I Do?

We are so bombarded with messages from media and other people.  Sometimes it feels like we are told so often what we should do or be or how we should think, what our lives should be like that it can be easy to completely forget who we even are.

You are told that you should want to be in a relationship with someone, that single people are happier, that married men live longer, that you should work hard, that you should not work so hard, that you should drive a certain kind of car, or be green and bike or walk, and that you should eat fresh veggies, that you shouldn’t eat veggies from farmers markets because they have salmonella, that you should only eat organic, that you shouldn’t bother buying organic because organic has no more nutrition than regular, that you need to have kids, that you can wait longer to have kids than ever before with all these medical breakthroughs, that you should get a mentor and have intuitive guidance, that you shouldn’t waste any money at all on mentors or psychics, that you should not have a j.o.b. and that the only way to get ahead is to be self-employed, that you shouldn’t bother starting your own business because its hard and the lean times are stressful, that you should rake your leaves so your yard looks nicer, that you should leave your leaves because it is better for the ecosystem, that you should drive a car that uses electrical power, that you should cut down on using electricity, that you should vote and be heard, that your vote does not count, its all fixed so don’t bother….

do what you want

This list is truly ENDLESS….  I could have made that last paragraph TEN THOUSAND pages long I’m sure.

I have the bestest idea ever.  How about you do WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!!!

I don’t suggest that you do anything that will harm another person, but I can tell you that no matter what you do, there will be someone on this beautiful planet of ours that will have a different opinion than you do.  That is what makes your life so wonderful.  We are all a part of the same Universal Energy, but on the human/ego level we all have different tastes.

So, the message for today.  Do what you want as long as its not directly harming someone else!

 

Gratitude Works to Create Miracles

Okay, I know I have written about gratitude two days in a row already, but I want to share something really neat with you.

I have been going through a little bit of financial pressure lately.  I am working quite a bit lately and we also have a construction company that my husband runs.  I was sick for around two months last year and could not work.  The construction side of things was also somewhat slow last year and we had a couple of huge unexpected bills present to us.  We have gotten behind in a lot of stuff.  And I mean REALLY behind.  I have been working more than ever, which is good.  Nothing like a little financial pressure to get you off your butt and working harder.  :-)

I happen to believe 100% of everything I write, and I know and trust that everything will work out eventually.  I’m going to be 49 this year and I have been through tough times before (lots of them ~ a long story). Every single time things have gotten really hard for me it has inspired some sort of change in my life.  I don’t always know what that change will be but I do know it will be okay.  One change I am observing right now is the amount of work I am doing and how I am doing it.  I am seriously motivated and inspired!

This is my 38th day of writing a blog post a day.  I have never shared so much all in a row.  The coolest thing for me is that I really do embrace ALL of what I write.  I don’t write theory, I don’t write stuff that I read somewhere and recycle to share with you.  I write what I know.  I have been aware of and worked with energy my whole life, and I have seen it work miracles.  I have many times in my life thought I was “magic”, because of what seemed to materialize for me out of nowhere.

Gratitude Works

A Personal Story of my Most Recent Miracle

So here is a personal story that I wanted to share with you.  On Wednesday, I wrote a blog post about practicing gratitude and shared it.  Then later that day, I wrote a follow-up post about practicing gratitude that I was planning on posting and sharing on Thursday morning.

As I said, we are very behind on a lot of bills.  I still owed $405.00 for my son’s enrolment in soccer last year.  $475 was due in August 2014, and over the past few months I had only mustered up paying $70 towards it.  I felt horrible when I thought about it, so I only thought about it once in a while.  I focused mostly on just keeping a roof over our heads and food on the table and such.  The year before we had made enough money that we actually sponsored the whole soccer team for 50% of the cost of their jerseys AND paid my son’s fees.  I know that this financial setback won’t stay forever, I am just staying positive and grateful.  I focus on what makes me happy knowing darn well that it works.  And knowing that I also need to work. (NO sitting around doing nothing and hoping and “Manifesting“, its time for action!)

As I wrote above EVERY SINGLE TIME in my life that I have had a setback, it has somehow worked out.  EVERY TIME.  So, on Wednesday night my son was at soccer practice and I was just getting ready to go and pick him up.  Grateful that he was still playing at all.  Holding that space of gratitude and trust that I always hold when I am not focusing on what I don’t want.

My phone rings and it is the Football (Soccer) office.  She says “Hi there, I have something to tell you.  A man walked into the office this evening and asked if there were any parents who were having difficulties paying for their kids soccer.”

Then she says, “I told him yes, and he paid your soccer fees, it is all taken care of for you”.

I burst out crying.  Some RANDOM stranger walks into the soccer office and pays the fees for my son’s soccer!!  An anonymous stranger!!! Out of the blue!

All I can say is THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU to whoever this random stranger is.  I was grateful two days ago and now I have yet more to be grateful for!

If that isn’t a miracle, an Angel being sent to help me out I don’t know what is.

 

7 Things You Can Do to Feel Better & Improve Your Mood

We all go through challenging times, me too.  This week has been somewhat challenging for me and I know that my thoughts will help to create my feelings and my feelings will help create my reality.

Thoughts, intentions, feelings ~ they are all energy.  We truly do attract into our lives what we are vibrating.  Sometimes when I find myself worrying or thinking about something I will make a conscious effort to change my vibration.

I would like to know that whatever is ‘on its way’ is better than what I am in the process of going through right this minute.  I know that if I lower my vibration I will just create more of the same ‘stuff’.

Feel good now

These are the ways that I use to get into a better mood

1.  I (always) stop thinking about things I can do nothing about.  There are a lot of things I can do, but there are a lot of things that are simply beyond my scope of control.  If I keep thinking about them it just makes me more depressed.

2.  I sometimes will listen to (or read) Esther Hicks channeling Abraham.

3.  I will sometimes go for a walk.

4.  Sometimes, if I am feeling particularly stressed and am having a hard time getting out of my head, I will just go to sleep.

5.  I will listen to a meditation that I need to follow along with in my head.  Hard to follow along and think about something else at the same time.

6.  This is one I do OFTEN.  I will write myself a list of things to do that will get me closer to what it is I want.  I wrote such a list last night, and today I have been going through this list.  If you do this, keep the list simple.  If you put too much on it you won’t do any of it.  My list for today had only 4 things on it.  There are many more things I want to do and that I probably will do today, but focusing specifically on this list keeps me from thinking about challenges.

7. Sometimes I will go out with a friend.  I am thoughtful with this one though.  If I think that by spending time with someone else will get me talking about what I DON’T want or having me focus on the ‘problems’ I have, then I make sure I spend time alone.

What do you do to feel better when you are in an uncomfortable mood or going through a challenging time?

Leave me a comment, I’d love to hear from you.

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Projecting Your Now into Your Future

I know you do this.  I do this sometimes (much less than I used to).  We all do this.  We project whatever is happening for us right now into our future.  Whether it is real or not.

I write a lot about living in the Now.  And the mindfulness of the now really is a nice place to be, but as humans we have a tendency to bring our now into our future, and sometimes it can feel pretty bleak.

When we are going through a hard time it is easy to project that hard time into the future.  It is too easy to think that things will stay like this forever.  To feel badly, and not be able to see our way clear to a time when things might be better.  You cannot see a potential future where you might feel happy and comfortable because NOW is uncomfortable.

Here is an example of projecting your present into your future

My husband is in construction and usually does ‘one-off’ jobs.  Meaning, he will work at one job site for a day or two, and his next job will be at another jobsite.  There are times where he is working a huge project with ongoing work, but those are few.  Most of the time his phone rings, he books work for the next day, or next week, and that’s it.  Sometimes he is booked up until the middle of the next week.

Sometimes though, he has nothing booked at all.  Has no calls to return, nothing.  In this case when my husband has no work booked business seems slow.  We may or may not have accounts receivable due in.  But in a circumstance like that it is easy for him to project into the future from this moment.  The way things look right this minute business is slow and it looks and feels depressing.

It doesn’t even matter what the subject is.  Business, relationships, finances, it could be anything.  If you are wanting a relationship and don’t have one, if you are feeling lonely, don’t project that into your future.  You won’t be lonely forever.

If you look at your life, it has been a series of events.  Most of the big positive events in your life came out of nowhere (now here).  Jobs, relationships… one day you wanted one, one day you got one.

 

Make it a good one!

Make it a good one!

As an example, my husband, today, has no work booked.  That doesn’t mean his phone won’t ring and he won’t have work for tomorrow, it just means he has none today.  He had none yesterday either, and on Tuesday he only worked for half a day.  In the past he would have freaked out and projected that into his future. (He’s so lucky to have me :-) lol)

There is nothing that he or I can do to MAKE his phone ring.  He spends a little bit of time on his business every day (because that is what you need to do when you work for yourself), sometimes its visiting jobsites, sometimes working on his website, sometimes just catching up on paperwork, or fixing tools, or any of the other things he does that I don’t have a clue about.  He ‘works his business’, whether he has a paid job that day or not.

He has learned to not let desperation or hopelessness sink in — he has learned not to project today into tomorrow.  In the past when he has created a vibration of lack, or of not having enough, all that happens is he attracts clients that have the same vibration.  These clients end up not wanting to pay a fair price for equipment and hard work.  He either doesn’t get the job or works for free.  Either way he’s wasted his time and ends up still being in a place of lack.

Those feelings don’t feel good.  Those feelings don’t need to last.  You don’t want to create a future for yourself based on those uncomfortable feelings.  You need to do what you can do in this moment for yourself, and you need to feel as good as you can.

This week, instead of spending his time projecting his present into his future, we went down to Home Depot and got some drywall and paint and we are doing some much needed work in our bathroom.  We haven’t had time and its something needs to be done.  Because he is not wasting time and energetic resources projecting ‘lack of work’ into his future, he is doing something that is making him feel good, and will also likely get his phone to ring for work next week.

Affirmations to keep from projecting your uncomfortable now into the future

1.  Tomorrow is another day.

2.  Everything I have in my life right now, was not there one day, and the next day it was.

3.  Everything always works out for me.

 

If you want some help to see potentials for your future, you can book a psychic reading with me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Baby Steps

We live in such a rushed, ‘I want it now’, instant gratification world.  If only you could see what good things can come with a little bit of patience.

Energetically impatience actually slows things down.  When you are impatient, you are actually focusing on what you do not want, which is your present situation, which is ~ guess what ~ exactly what you will get more of.

Almost everything we have or want or will get in our lives will come to us gradually.  If you want to be in a committed relationship, you will not meet someone this afternoon and be married tomorrow.

If you want to have your bills paid off and money in the bank it will not happen overnight while you sleep tonight.  (winning the lottery is very rare and is not recommended as a retirement or debt payment plan).

Our children don’t start to talk and then run the day after they are born.

Having patience doesn’t mean you don’t still focus on, and work toward your goals and dreams.  It means that sometimes you have to take baby steps.

Most rich people got rich by waking up each morning and doing something towards their goals.  They either earned or saved or sold or learned.  They did something.  Maybe they earned and reinvested their earnings.  Maybe they saved up until they had enough to buy into an opportunity.  It took time and baby steps.  They did not “get rich quick” ~ they got rich by laying the groundwork and one baby step, one dollar at a time.

If you want your bills paid off and money in the bank, chances are you cannot be there tomorrow.  You can start to focus on what you want (savings and no bills), and you can do something every chance you get to get there.  Every chance you get in this case might be forgoing the morning coffee at your favourite coffee place and putting $4 towards a credit card bill.  This might not seem like very much but if you did it every day for a year (5 days a week), you would have your debt paid down by OVER $1000 dollars.  That is a BIG baby step.

If you want a relationship ~ a good one ~ you need to first be okay with yourself.  If you aren’t presently 100% happy with who YOU are, you need to start taking some baby steps to feel better.  (My website and blog are full of ideas so look around and keep reading).

If you do feel good with yourself, your next step would be to actually get out (or get online), and start to meet people.  Baby steps.  You cannot get married or have a relationship without first meeting someone.  So take that step and GET OUT.

one step at a time

You have probably heard that the “Universe will conspire to give you what you want”.

Another way that I heard that while I was growing up was “God helps those who help themselves”.

So, be patient, take some baby steps.  You WILL get to where you want to be if you are willing to be grateful for all the little things.  They will add up and become big things.

 

 

 

 

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