Time to Put Your Ideas to Work – Get a Plan!

We are in such a great time of creation on earth right now.  Its time to get with the program and get a plan to get this energy working for you instead of against you.

I am a big proponent of going with the flow and doing what you are inspired to do in any given moment and this really does work ~ most of the time.

For myself, I meditate at least once a day, usually twice, and sometimes even more than that.  I have been writing a blog post every day this year so far.  The more I write and share my channels and inspirations, the more inspired and the more channels I get.  This is the Law of Attraction at work!

I have opened a doorway for myself.  I set the intention to share what I know, and to share what Spirit shares with me.  Thing is, it doesn’t always come to me at a time when I have the time to sit and write.

I have so many subjects and blog posts I want to share with you, plus the energy alerts have been coming fast and furious the past few months.  There have been times when I am just sitting watching TV with my family, and I need to get up and write down a blog post for the next day.  Or we will be driving somewhere and something hits me so I write down all I can about it on my phone and email it to myself (only when I am a passenger of course).  Or, another common occurrence, is when I’m lying in bed and BAM!  Out of the blue Spirit starts sharing something with me so that I can share it with you ~ I just have to get it written down to share.

This is awesome, and I have no complaints at all.  I love the flow, the information I am getting for you (and for myself as well), and the inspiration.  It feels so good.

Thing is, I also have a lot of other projects on the go right now.  I sat down on Sunday morning last week and thought of all the things I am inspired to do.  There is so much I want to do that I actually found myself getting just a little ungrounded.

Being ungrounded when you have so much on the go can really slow you down….

sometimes you need a plan

Here is where my plan is coming in

I will share my plan with you and maybe you will be able to use aspects of it to help yourself as well.

  • The first thing I needed to do is ground my energy.
  • I can be a workaholic.  I am well aware of this fact and sometimes neglect my ‘downtime’ and my friendships.  So the second thing I did was schedule my downtime and friend visiting for the week.  I tend to make it a fairly low priority most of the time, but I know how much it can energize me to just let loose once in a while.
  • I picked what days I was going to work with clients and I blocked them out on my calendar and booked clients in.   I knew I may end up working with clients on other days as well, time permitting (see the point above about being a workaholic), but I have my ‘set’ days picked already.
  • I wrote SEVEN blog posts on Sunday last week (including this one ~ with minor edits this morning).  As much as I never seem to run out of inspiration (apparently I write as much as I talk), I now had 7 blog posts all ready to go for the week.  I will still likely do more through the week as the inspirations hit (or if I channel an energy alert, I will post it on the day I get it which I did on the New Moon), but I was now free to work on some of my other projects.  I won’t have to stop in the middle of anything else to get a blog post done.  I will likely still be emailing myself in the middle of the night with outlines, but I will be free to focus solely on my moments without worry about getting a post done.
  • I have blocked out time for other writing as well.  Whether its an inspired blog post or some work on a book, writing time is scheduled in.
  • I have  a couple of things I want and need to learn about, so I have given myself time in my plan for that too.
  • I am working on a lot of projects around the house.  I’ve scheduled in time for these projects, and time for shopping as well.  Over the past couple of weeks I have found myself starting house projects before the sun even comes up.  Something peaceful about getting started before the rest of the world.

So I now have a plan.  I made sure that I did not put MORE into my plan than any reasonable person could expect to get done.

It all started with grounding my energy.

As I wrote above I really do like to go with the flow and live in every moment and allow inspired actions to take over most of the time.  It is just in the making of the plan that enabled me to start getting things done.  I’m not one to set things in stone for myself but in not having any plan at all I was feeling very overwhelmed and ungrounded and like I would never get to everything I wanted to get to.  The Law of Attraction will help here as well.  Feeling good and knowing that I do indeed have time to do all I want to accomplish will bring me more ‘good feelings’ and more ‘accomplishment’ in my experience.

I have left lots of ‘wiggle room’ in my scheduled plan to do other things, but it turned out to be a very productive week.

If you try these tips I’d love to hear how they work for you.


How Facebook Works Just Like the Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction will bring to you what you are focused on whether it is something you want or something you do not want.  For example, if you are focusing on war or poverty, you will find that war and poverty come into your awareness all the time.  The ails of the world will bombard you constantly and you will have a harder time keeping your vibration high.  If your vibration is not high, you will be less able to spread love on our planet and our planet needs lots of love right now.

This is a really over-simplified explanation, but I think it will do the trick.

So, how can Facebook teach you to use the Law of Attraction?  Its simple.  Just look at your newsfeed.  I often will hear people complaining that there is so much negativity on Facebook these days.  Or too many cat videos, or any other number of things.

I can tell you that on my newsfeed I rarely see anything negative ~ and I only see cat videos if I have taken the time to watch a different cat (or any animal) video in the recent past.

Law of Attraction

Why?  Because Facebook uses algorithms to see what you look at, what you spend time on, the articles you click, the things you “like”, comment on and share.

If you come across something negative on your Facebook news feed and take the time to “read more”, or share it saying “this is so negative”, or click through a link to the article, Facebook will give you more of it.  Facebook doesn’t care if you say “I hate this” in the comments, they just see that you commented, so you must want to be engaged with that type of content.

Voila, more negative content for you.

The universe works that way too.  If you give something your attention, the universe says “he/she must like this and want more of it because that is what they are giving all their attention to” ~ so that is what you get more of.

Next time you find yourself saying “everything is so negative these days”

Ask yourself, “What am I giving my attention to?”

I can guarantee that what you are giving your attention to is what you are experiencing more of.




If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Controlling your vibration

you can control your vibration

Have you forgotten that you are a vibrational being?  That you can control your vibration, and that you can get what you want with the Law of Attraction if you are aware of your vibration.

Most humans have forgotten they are vibrational beings, and they are acting like observational beings.  Observing what is, rather than changing your vibration and creating what is.  Are you stuck on how things “should” be, or are you focused on solutions to what is?

This has some similar points to a post I wrote a bit ago called “Three Words that Will Change your Life Forever“.

So, another audio by Esther Hicks, channeling Abraham.





If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.


Manifesting and the Law of Attraction

something better waiting


We are manifesting things much more quickly than we ever have before.  Sometimes what me manifest looks exactly as we imagined.  Other times, it appears that we don’t get what we wanted or what we asked for.

That is why when we use the Law of Attraction to manifest things in our lives we need to focus more on how we will feel when we get what we want, rather than the details all the time.

In relationships for example, we may be picturing our perfect relationship with the person we are with now, but maybe the person you are with now is unable to be who you want him or her to be.  In that case the Law of Attraction might actually have you end your current relationship so that the perfect relationship can come.

I want to re-share a couple of posts I did from 2010 that talk about the fact you cannot control other people or things in your life.  You can control how you feel, what you do and how you do it, but you cannot control everything in your life.  Sometimes your higher self will take over and get you what you want in a different way than you thought you wanted it.  Once you are there though, you realize that it is better than you could have imagined.

Part 1 – How Much Control Do You Have Over Your Life?

Part 2 – You Cannot Control Other People or Things


If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

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Where have you been vibrating this year?

There are a lot of things coming to fruition right now. You have a TON of momentum from the energies of the spring.  Think about what you wanted six months ago.  Law of Attraction is bringing it to you now.

What type of momentum you have got going will dictate whether things get worse before they get better or just get better.

Just a reflection

If you have been releasing, then you will find that the upheaval will be easier to take. Things ARE changing and they will continue to change. For a lot of you reading this, you’ve been doing your homework and things are changing in the most wonderful way. A little stressful at times, yes. But you can actually see now how things just might work out in the end.

If you find yourself saying “I have been trying to manifest things in my life”, but you find things just aren’t working out the way you thought they would, chances are you have been hanging onto things you should not be hanging onto.  You certainly are creating your life~ all of it ~ some of the things you have been trying to hang onto just might get ripped away from you though.  That’s the thing with manifesting.  You can’t dictate exactly what it will look like.

If you choose to try and move forward while carrying all your old baggage with you, you will find it much harder going.  It will be like trying to drag a house with a string.

Letting go can be uncomfortable, but not letting go while trying to move forward to a better situation will just cause chaos for you.  It will be you causing chaos for you.  You can try and blame the Universe if you like, but the Universe is here to support you.  Every day we are getting downloads of new energy, the planet vibrates higher and higher, your manifestations are coming faster and faster.

Give yourself a break.  Let go.  Do what you can and let God handle the rest.  The more you go with the flow and the momentum of what was started 6 months ago (or many years ago for that matter), the better you will feel.  The better you feel, the better your future creations will feel.


Probably not a coincidence that your Angel Card Reading for this part of your week says “You Know What to do?”  Could it be time to let go and feel better?



If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

June New Moon ~ You Are Creating in Every Moment

Its a New Moon today.  What do you want in your life?  All year we have had infusions of light energy that are empowering us to create the lives we desire.  Our manifestations are getting faster and faster and stronger and stronger.

Unfortunately, a lot of you are still stuck in playing the ‘blame game’ and thinking of yourself as small and powerless.  You may see things seemingly falling apart for you.  You may think “I didn’t sign up for this, why is everything going wrong?”

It is because its time to MOVE.  You need to take 100% responsibility for your life and you need to stop pouting when things don’t look exactly how you thought you imagined them; and you need to keep your focus on what you WANT.

You need to stop blaming;  the economy, the government, your boss, your spouse, the big ‘corporations’, society, the banks…..  Yes, some of those things may seem like big blocks to your success, but they aren’t.  If you are not successful, you are the block to your success. 

When things work out for you, maybe you hold the energy that you are kinda grateful, but hey, things could be better.  You might be happy for a few minutes, maybe even an hour, but then your focus goes right back to what is wrong, or could use improvement in your life.

This is not to be mistaken with an energy of “Wow, I mastered that!  Onward and upward to the next challenge!”  The energy I’m talking about, that you need to get rid of, is “Wow, that was great; but I still have so much lousy stuff to deal with”.

Maybe when things go a little sideways you are kinda PO’d, and then you start blaming someone or something else for what has happened.  The ‘stupid’ company decided to downsize.  The ‘stupid’ corporations/grocery stores raised the price of food again.  The ‘stupid’ 1% raised the price of gas again.  All BLAME.

No, you can’t control your company, the price of food, gas or anything else, BUT, you can control yourself and your thoughts.  Every time you complain about something like that you create more of it.

You may find yourself saying, yeah, but I’m usually a positive person, and I am truly grateful when things go well, but they only go well for a short time and then I’m screwed all over again.

I can tell you exactly what is going on here and you probably won’t like it and that’s okay.  You do need to consider it though if you want things in your life to change.

So, you may be grateful that you have a job ~ then you continually bitch about your boss, coworkers, rate of pay or customers.

If you are self-employed, you may be grateful when you get clients or customers, but when you get paid you think “I’m grateful for this customer, but my bills are so high and there are things I want that I can’t have today, I am never going to get ahead at this rate”.

he who has gratitude

You have a home, and you may say you are grateful to have it, but then you complain about what it looks like or a room that needs paint, or furniture that is old, or it is cluttered or hard to keep clean, or…..

You are in a relationship and you say you love your spouse and are happy, but then you complain about their habits, their attitude, the way they treat you, the fact they are too tired after work to do anything with you, their weight, their eating habits, whatever.

All of these thoughts/things are you creating.  They are you being happy situationally.  You are not authentically happy ~ you choose to pin your happiness on what all these little external things look like.

This doesn’t mean that you are never allowed to be in a bad mood, or sad, or cry, or mourn a loss.  It does mean that you must take every measure necessary to NOT wallow in it.   Nothing wrong with thinking “well, that threw me for a loop, I didn’t expect that” and to actually be a bit angry or down for a little while.

However, if you choose to wallow in it, rant on and on about examples of how this “always happens” and say stuff like “well I was happy, and then this happened, so now I’m not happy anymore” and then you follow it up with, “I don’t know why this keeps happening to me”.

I can tell you why this keeps happening to you.

It is the Law of Attraction

We are manifesting now faster than ever.  You squandered your opportunity to be really grateful when something good happened by saying, “thanks, but its not enough, now I am still lacking….”

AND when something went even a little bit wrong, you ranted about it for HOURS.  “Oh, the inequality of it all”.

If you would put as half as much energy into the gratitude for the little positive things, as you put into the dismay at the little negative things, you would see EVERYTHING turn around for you, AND FAST.

You are not to blame yourself either!!!

There is a huge energetic difference between blaming yourself and taking responsibility for yourself.  You have done what you know up to this point.  No sense in feeling guilt and blame for something you did in the past.  I wrote last week about the need to forgive yourself.  That was a precursor to the energy of the day today.

If you blame yourself, you are just energetically sending yourself right back into victim mode.  That won’t get you to where you want and need to be.

If you acknowledge your past and consciously forgive yourself and then take responsibility for yourself, you will change everything.  You will realize that everything that has happened up to this point in your life was your doing.  It may have been uncomfortable but it is discomfort that promotes growth.  If you were always comfortable you would never change, learn or grow.

By taking responsibility you can take a good look at all that has happened.  You can see how your thoughts, (which created your actions), brought you to where you are today.  Then you can change your thoughts and your vibration and give ‘er to create what you want more of.

When you can look at the events of your past and your present with gratitude for what they are showing you ~ THAT is when you will be able to empower yourself to do, have and be differently.

Change your thoughts, change your life.




If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Three words that will change your life forever (and they are not the ones you think)

You ever notice that we humans seem to always want to impose our will onto someone or something else?   I blog a lot about spiritual development and empowerment because there are so many things you can do and choices you can make to propel yourself into a future that you would like to see.  This includes developing your intuition.  The Law of Attraction is real and we can use it to our advantage ~ (for ourselves), or we can let it run our life without any conscious creation.

on earth as it is in heaven

Sometimes, you might mistake “Personal Power” for “power over others”.  These two things are not even remotely energetically related.  You have power over yourself, your actions, what thoughts you think, how you feel, and what you decide to do in any given moment.

Because you cannot control other people or external events to the degree that you think you should be able to, when you do try you come up against a brick wall.

You may try something ‘your way’, and when it doesn’t work the way you want immediately, you say “I can’t”.  Or you say “the Law of Attraction does not work”.  It does work though, 100% of the time which is precisely why you need to replace your “I can’t” with….

How Can I?

If you want to change your life very quickly, and easily, replace “I can’t”, with “How Can I?”

That one little tweak could change your entire life forever.

So many of you tell me “I want to enhance my gifts” or “How can I talk to my guides”, or “how can I develop my intuition”, or “how can I make more money” or “how can I find a relationship” (endless list, everyone has a unique question).

It is simple, stop blocking it.  You have the ability to use the Law of Attraction in your favour.  You also have the ability to use it against yourself.  You have the ability to get your own intuitive answers to questions as well.

You cannot get answers to questions you have not asked.  If you find yourself in a situation and you say “Well, I can’t do that” then the buck stops there.  The energy stops on that subject and your mind and your energy moves onto something else.  After all, “you can’t” and you are frustrated so there’s no point in trying.

When you get angry or frustrated or sad ~ that just exacerbates the situation.  Now you are adding lower vibrating thoughts (energy) to the mix of “I can’t”.  There’s usually lots of feeling behind that statement!

Once you say “I can’t” it doesn’t matter what anyone says to you that is contrary to your “I can’t”, you won’t believe them.  No one can buck your current of “I can’t, its impossible”.

I want you to try an experiment and leave me a comment on this blog post, or on Facebook.  I want you to start out by practicing a bit of awareness so that you can recognize how often you say “I can’t” to yourself.

Then, every time you find yourself saying “I can’t”; I want you to replace it with this phrase:

I don’t know how, but I’m open to finding out.

That’s it.  One little phrase will change your whole life.

Your guides, the Universe, God, Source, your loved ones, Angels… none of them can help you without your permission.  The minute you say “I don’t know how, show me”, you WILL get an answer.  YOU WILL GET AN ANSWER.

Sometimes the answer will be on how to specifically do what you were thinking about.  Sometimes your answer will be a parallel thought/feeling that will get you to the same end result you were thinking of, but via a different path.  Sometimes your answer will be no.  Sometimes your answer will send you off in a completely different direction.

It doesn’t matter HOW it comes, what matters is that you open the energetic doors to be able to hear your ‘intuition’ or helpers.


Its also important to remember that you cannot use the Law of Attraction on, or manifest things for, someone else.  That is their job.  If someone around you has a situation that you want to help with, you can ask “How can I help”, but you must be open to receiving the message that you cannot help them.  Also, it will not work with “How can I manipulate this person into getting back together with me” ~ you cannot control other people ~ however, you could ask “How can I be happy, or how can I get ready for a relationship” ~ these questions are about YOU not someone else.

So try it.  Whatever you have been thinking you want or working towards, ask the question “How Can I?”

It will change your life.

Ready to attract … Abraham Hicks

how to attract

The title of this audio is about relationships, but it actually talks much more about our relationships to that which we want.

If you are trying to get in and stay in your vortex and create good things in your life, this is a ‘must listen’.

 Abraham Hicks – Ready to attract a relationship

You Cannot Suffer Enough to Pull Other People Out of Their Despair

There are people who will actually get pissed off at you for being happy.  Misery loves company and they want to bring you down.  They blame other people for what happens to them, and they think that you are full of shit if you are happy.  If you are happy it is because no one has screwed you over, it has nothing to do with your attitude and they can prove it.

They will give you a very long laundry list of examples of who screwed them over, how they did it, and of all the things that are going wrong and are challenging them.  They say you don’t have these challenges, you have it much easier than they do!

They do everything they can to justify why they are choosing to feel so shitty.  And YES, IT IS A CHOICE.  The more things they think of, the more things they create.  Seemingly out of the blue.  I got a ticket, I lost my job, my relationship is on the rocks, my kids are out of control.  They refuse to see any good in anything, and they do everything in their power to suck you into their vortex.

This can be especially challenging for those of you who are empaths.  You feel their pain, you often diffuse their shit for them.  You take it on and make it your own, and then you get depressed and sleep for days.

You know how powerful they are.  You know how powerful you are.  You just can’t seem to show them, no matter what you do, how to feel better.  You try and you try.  You share a different perspective with them (look on the bright side), you try and share and/or show all the possibilities.  You remind them that they are creators, and you try your best to uplift.

After sometimes hours of trying to pull them out of their funk, you start to give them examples of times your life went to shit and how you pulled yourself out of it.  You give them example after example of how things that “appear” bad, can actually be good.  They still don’t get it.

They may feel better for a while after you talk to them, but it never lasts.  The reason they feel better after talking to you is because you have taken on all their shit.  That’s why you start to feel bad.  You feel guilty for being okay.

This is not your stuff.  The person you were talking to takes no personal responsibility for their own stuff.  They have no idea that they are powerful beyond measure and that they create their own lives.  They blame everyone else for everything that happens to them.  You, being compassionate and empathetic start to feel what they feel (which is that we are responsible for how other people feel).  You are healers and light workers and you have taken on responsibility for how they feel ~ this is a distortion of your energy.

You have helped so many people just with your presence that you know you can help this person too.  That’s why you take on their stuff.  If you can just take on some of their stuff and lighten their load, then they will be able to see and feel a shift, and will be able to move forward a little more positively.

Thing is, this NEVER works.  That is why I charge for what I do.  If someone is paying me to help them shift their energy, they will do everything they can to take some personal responsibility for how they feel and they will WORK the shift.  People who feel very disempowered don’t see the value in this.  Us happy light workers just have our heads up our asses, and we don’t get it.  We’ve never been through this kind of tough stuff.


I’m writing this post because I’ve had a friend ask me a question.  This is the note she sent in its entirety.

Hello Tamara! Thanks for writing so much on your blog. Its helped me SO much. I was wondering, if you would answer a question on there for me, if it fits with you. I’m finding that I’m not as compassionate as I would (like) to be, feminine energy etc. I’m reading a lot of books and its all about anything is possible, don’t let anyone steal your dreams, be careful who you mix with etc. My challenge is not appreciating other peoples pov (point of view) when I come in to contact with who have a ‘victim’ mentality in regards to their situations. How best do I handle this by being human and also not letting them effect me. Its kind of an extension on your empathy post. If you could point me in the right direction I would really appreciate it, Su x

Humanity has been programmed to believe that taking care of ourselves first is selfish

Society was set up this way by some not so scrupulous souls.  They did not want anyone to know just how powerful we are so they set up religions, and belief systems so that those of us who are not ‘in power’ feel (and therefore are) powerless.  They did not want us to see and feel our own power, they could not control us that way.  They know that if they could keep us powerless then we could not uplift anyone else; we’d be too worried about how we were going to survive.

We are the powerful ones as well; we just need to de-program ourselves.  For me personally, my deprogramming was hard.  I felt a lot of guilt.  Much like peeling the layers of an onion, my deprogramming is still a work in progress.  It was this deprogramming though that is bringing my words to you.  If I felt powerless and guilty all the time, I wouldn’t be writing anything to help you.  I wouldn’t be connecting to Source for you and doing readings either.  I was raised to believe that with faith we could do anything, but I was also raised that money was bad and was a limited resource.  That if I had money then someone else would go without it.

Did your parents ever say “finish your dinner there are kids on the other side of the world starving”.  What does you not eating your dinner have to do with a child on the other side of the world?  Its not like you could teleport your dinner to them.  This is the start of ‘guilt programming’.  I have access to this, but others do not, I must feel badly about it because my parents say so.

You likely have beliefs like this around money as well.  A part of you may say “I better make sure I don’t have any”.  You have heard ‘programs’ about money your whole life.  References to ‘the little guy never gets ahead’, or how people who provide your food to you are ‘gouging’ you.  (or gas for your car, or heat for your home, government and taxes ~ all BAD GUYS).  These people are “EVIL” and you don’t want to be like them.  You’d better make sure you don’t have anything or people will be mad at you and judge you just as they, and you, judge others.

Remember, you having something cannot take something away from someone else.  The Universe has an unlimited source of everything.  This in turn means, that when you empower yourself, NO ONE can take anything from you either.

About 15 years ago I started to share that the separation of humans on our planet was getting bigger and bigger.  Many of you are noticing this as well, you’ve heard the phrase “the rich are getting richer, the poor are getting poorer”.  That saying is about money though.  You need to realize that this is happening on a Spiritual Level as well.

Those that are spiritually rich are getting spiritually richer, and those that are and have been disconnected from source are feeling more and more disconnected and disempowered.  They are programmed to believe that if they have something good, then someone else is doing without.  It doesn’t matter the subject, financial wealth, “special” relationships, job/work, health.  They have been programmed to believe that they live in a LIMITED environment and they will do WHATEVER THEY CAN, EVEN AT THE RISK OF THEIR OWN HEALTH AND SAFETY, to prove this point.

You CAN’T tell them any different and have them hear you.  They may listen, they may say ‘okay’, they may feel better for a short time.  But they can’t hear you.  That is not a part of their reality and you cannot create someone else’s reality for them.

When people come to me for help, they are ready to shift their reality.  As a matter of fact, 99% have already started to shift their reality and they need my help to understand it and use it and bring their understanding or life to the next level.  There are many people who pop by my website, read a few lines and just move on.  They search for “Psychic” and want someone to tell them their fortune and what they must do and I’m not that person.  These are NOT people I can help, and these are NOT the people who contact me.

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We ALL Have Something to Mourn

There is not a person on the planet that has not lost something that was very important to them. A loved one who has died; a relationship that ended; money that disappeared; health challenges; jobs lost… the list goes on and on.  We have all lost something important to us.

The difference between a ‘victim’ and someone who uses the loss to propel themselves forward on a new path is how long they CHOOSE to mourn.  We all mourn our losses.  How long your choose to mourn a loss is up to you.  A week, month, year, decade, the rest of your life?

You help no one by engaging them in looking backwards.  It is a choice to stay stuck in a place of living in the past.  Even if the present is challenging, you know from personal experience it can be shifted by changing your perception and how you look at it.

If you choose to look back and to focus on the discomfort you are living now, you will continue to attract more discomfort.  That is the Law of Attraction.  Period.  You know that if you practice awareness of your thoughts and actions you can in a matter of 67 seconds change your reality.

You are an empath though, it pains you to see others suffer.  So back to the title of this post.  Your suffering will not help anyone else ~ EVER.  You can have some compassion for others without taking their stuff for them.  You will need to disconnect from their energy, cut those cords.  Then you will need to make darn sure that they do not re-attach, or if they do, you will need to cut them again.

You need to stop feeling guilty for being okay.  You have been through challenges too, you took at least some personal responsibility for how you felt or you wouldn’t be where you are today.

You need to limit the amount of time you spend with them.  This can be hard because you care.

Which leads to:  You will need to get to work on your own personal programming.  The programming that tells you it is not fair to be okay when others are suffering.  The part that says you must give to others even if you have nothing yourself.  Like, what the heck?  How can you give something you do not have.  You cannot lift other’s out of the gutter if you are in the sewer.

You need to remember that at times when you were feeling badly no one could MAKE you feel any other way.  They could take your mind off of things perhaps, they could give you a pep talk, remind you who you are, help you look forward; but ~ it was YOU that chose to ride the wave of positivity that they helped you create.  YOU.  There may have been times where someone pulled you out of a funk and after they left you went right back to where you were before.  Did they do this to you?  NO.  You changed your thoughts from where you were when you were with them, to something in the past, or how bad things were.  YOU DID IT.

You are where you are now because you embraced your power and DECIDED to feel better.  You woke up one morning and said “I want to feel good” and you did.  Because you were ready for whatever reason, it felt almost a little bit easy to you.  You picked up some books, listened to audios, spent time meditating or whatever it was you did.  You said “I’m going to be okay dammit, I don’t care what anyone else thinks”.  You broke up the (self) pity party and sent the guests home.

Ever since you have been trying to uplift others.  It feels so good, YOU feel so good, you really want everyone to feel as good as you feel.  You revert back to the old adage “misery loves company”, and you sometimes end up being company for miserable people.  This lowers your vibration and you feel horrible.

You can see their light.  You can feel their soul.   You can understand, you have been where they are.

Your solution then is to keep your vibration where you want it.  Your #1 priority needs to be that you feel good.  Even us empaths can disconnect when we DECIDE.  Tell yourself “I will stay in my own energy”, affirm that and then do it ~ use that part of the power that you know you have.

The victims and disempowered people will stop showing up for you that way.  Even victims have moments of happiness.  They will only show up for you when they are in that state if you keep your own vibration.  They will be more able to see their own light if you stay in yours.  Or they won’t and you need to be okay with that!  If you are okay with it and it makes them uncomfortable they will have less and less contact with you.

Maybe their life will get worse, or maybe it will get better.  That part is not your responsibility.  If you are okay, you have the potential to positively impact tens, or hundreds, or thousands, or millions of other people.  Think about that.  You cannot spend your time lowering your vibration for one person at the risk of NOT helping millions.

You do not need to do this with anger (that would be lowering your vibration).  You do it with love and respect.  Love the people you cannot help right this minute.  You can pray for them, but you need to pray for who you know they are.   You do not pray and send energy to what is wrong with them.  Just as war does not stop fighting, focusing on what is “wrong” with someone will not help what is ‘right’ shine in their life.  It is okay to send them love and to pray that they feel better.  It is not effective to dictate what will make them feel better.  That is their job and their choice.

So, I guess in summary, I would like to point out that you can have compassion and empathy for others without losing your own sense of what you have accomplished, and without losing your own high vibration.  If you ever find yourself being angry or argumentative with someone who is complaining about being a victim, you need to disconnect from them.  You cannot fix everyone, even though your light worker soul wishes you could.  If you take care of your own vibration FIRST it will be easier to let them be and send them love.

You have planted some seeds.  Your work may be done at this point.  You cannot control how your ‘neighbour’ either fertilizes these seeds, or poisons them.  That will be their choice.


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Abraham Hicks talking about Your Manifestations

This is a really good audio about manifesting I wanted to share with you.  Its titled “Why am I Bothered by People” ~ but its not really about that.

It explains how to redirect your thoughts, why sometimes affirmations don’t work, and how sometimes what you think is the ‘issue’ is really a different issue ~ but one that has the same feelings active.  You get what you vibrate (think about).  How and why “I can’t” will keep you stuck.


It also delves into your programming and subconscious beliefs and how they impact your life.  I had written about that a few days ago (May 18).  The woman asking the question actually says “Am I doomed?”  I have had people ask me that question in psychic reading/psychic counselling sessions.  And Abraham, via Esther Hicks gives a really good answer to her.  Along with a way to help yourself feel better in any situation.

Hope you enjoy it, its a good one…



 If you are very confused about where you are vibrating, or would like some additional help with clearing your energy, or figuring things out, please feel free to contact me for a psychic reading, or life/energy coaching.