Where have you been vibrating this year?

There are a lot of things coming to fruition right now. You have a TON of momentum from the energies of the spring.  Think about what you wanted six months ago.  Law of Attraction is bringing it to you now.

What type of momentum you have got going will dictate whether things get worse before they get better or just get better.

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If you have been releasing, then you will find that the upheaval will be easier to take. Things ARE changing and they will continue to change. For a lot of you reading this, you’ve been doing your homework and things are changing in the most wonderful way. A little stressful at times, yes. But you can actually see now how things just might work out in the end.

If you find yourself saying “I have been trying to manifest things in my life”, but you find things just aren’t working out the way you thought they would, chances are you have been hanging onto things you should not be hanging onto.  You certainly are creating your life~ all of it ~ some of the things you have been trying to hang onto just might get ripped away from you though.  That’s the thing with manifesting.  You can’t dictate exactly what it will look like.

If you choose to try and move forward while carrying all your old baggage with you, you will find it much harder going.  It will be like trying to drag a house with a string.

Letting go can be uncomfortable, but not letting go while trying to move forward to a better situation will just cause chaos for you.  It will be you causing chaos for you.  You can try and blame the Universe if you like, but the Universe is here to support you.  Every day we are getting downloads of new energy, the planet vibrates higher and higher, your manifestations are coming faster and faster.

Give yourself a break.  Let go.  Do what you can and let God handle the rest.  The more you go with the flow and the momentum of what was started 6 months ago (or many years ago for that matter), the better you will feel.  The better you feel, the better your future creations will feel.


Probably not a coincidence that your Angel Card Reading for this part of your week says “You Know What to do?”  Could it be time to let go and feel better?



If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

June New Moon ~ You Are Creating in Every Moment

Its a New Moon today.  What do you want in your life?  All year we have had infusions of light energy that are empowering us to create the lives we desire.  Our manifestations are getting faster and faster and stronger and stronger.

Unfortunately, a lot of you are still stuck in playing the ‘blame game’ and thinking of yourself as small and powerless.  You may see things seemingly falling apart for you.  You may think “I didn’t sign up for this, why is everything going wrong?”

It is because its time to MOVE.  You need to take 100% responsibility for your life and you need to stop pouting when things don’t look exactly how you thought you imagined them; and you need to keep your focus on what you WANT.

You need to stop blaming;  the economy, the government, your boss, your spouse, the big ‘corporations’, society, the banks…..  Yes, some of those things may seem like big blocks to your success, but they aren’t.  If you are not successful, you are the block to your success. 

When things work out for you, maybe you hold the energy that you are kinda grateful, but hey, things could be better.  You might be happy for a few minutes, maybe even an hour, but then your focus goes right back to what is wrong, or could use improvement in your life.

This is not to be mistaken with an energy of “Wow, I mastered that!  Onward and upward to the next challenge!”  The energy I’m talking about, that you need to get rid of, is “Wow, that was great; but I still have so much lousy stuff to deal with”.

Maybe when things go a little sideways you are kinda PO’d, and then you start blaming someone or something else for what has happened.  The ‘stupid’ company decided to downsize.  The ‘stupid’ corporations/grocery stores raised the price of food again.  The ‘stupid’ 1% raised the price of gas again.  All BLAME.

No, you can’t control your company, the price of food, gas or anything else, BUT, you can control yourself and your thoughts.  Every time you complain about something like that you create more of it.

You may find yourself saying, yeah, but I’m usually a positive person, and I am truly grateful when things go well, but they only go well for a short time and then I’m screwed all over again.

I can tell you exactly what is going on here and you probably won’t like it and that’s okay.  You do need to consider it though if you want things in your life to change.

So, you may be grateful that you have a job ~ then you continually bitch about your boss, coworkers, rate of pay or customers.

If you are self-employed, you may be grateful when you get clients or customers, but when you get paid you think “I’m grateful for this customer, but my bills are so high and there are things I want that I can’t have today, I am never going to get ahead at this rate”.

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You have a home, and you may say you are grateful to have it, but then you complain about what it looks like or a room that needs paint, or furniture that is old, or it is cluttered or hard to keep clean, or…..

You are in a relationship and you say you love your spouse and are happy, but then you complain about their habits, their attitude, the way they treat you, the fact they are too tired after work to do anything with you, their weight, their eating habits, whatever.

All of these thoughts/things are you creating.  They are you being happy situationally.  You are not authentically happy ~ you choose to pin your happiness on what all these little external things look like.

This doesn’t mean that you are never allowed to be in a bad mood, or sad, or cry, or mourn a loss.  It does mean that you must take every measure necessary to NOT wallow in it.   Nothing wrong with thinking “well, that threw me for a loop, I didn’t expect that” and to actually be a bit angry or down for a little while.

However, if you choose to wallow in it, rant on and on about examples of how this “always happens” and say stuff like “well I was happy, and then this happened, so now I’m not happy anymore” and then you follow it up with, “I don’t know why this keeps happening to me”.

I can tell you why this keeps happening to you.

It is the Law of Attraction

We are manifesting now faster than ever.  You squandered your opportunity to be really grateful when something good happened by saying, “thanks, but its not enough, now I am still lacking….”

AND when something went even a little bit wrong, you ranted about it for HOURS.  “Oh, the inequality of it all”.

If you would put as half as much energy into the gratitude for the little positive things, as you put into the dismay at the little negative things, you would see EVERYTHING turn around for you, AND FAST.

You are not to blame yourself either!!!

There is a huge energetic difference between blaming yourself and taking responsibility for yourself.  You have done what you know up to this point.  No sense in feeling guilt and blame for something you did in the past.  I wrote last week about the need to forgive yourself.  That was a precursor to the energy of the day today.

If you blame yourself, you are just energetically sending yourself right back into victim mode.  That won’t get you to where you want and need to be.

If you acknowledge your past and consciously forgive yourself and then take responsibility for yourself, you will change everything.  You will realize that everything that has happened up to this point in your life was your doing.  It may have been uncomfortable but it is discomfort that promotes growth.  If you were always comfortable you would never change, learn or grow.

By taking responsibility you can take a good look at all that has happened.  You can see how your thoughts, (which created your actions), brought you to where you are today.  Then you can change your thoughts and your vibration and give ‘er to create what you want more of.

When you can look at the events of your past and your present with gratitude for what they are showing you ~ THAT is when you will be able to empower yourself to do, have and be differently.

Change your thoughts, change your life.




If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Three words that will change your life forever (and they are not the ones you think)

You ever notice that we humans seem to always want to impose our will onto someone or something else?   I blog a lot about spiritual development and empowerment because there are so many things you can do and choices you can make to propel yourself into a future that you would like to see.  This includes developing your intuition.  The Law of Attraction is real and we can use it to our advantage ~ (for ourselves), or we can let it run our life without any conscious creation.

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Sometimes, you might mistake “Personal Power” for “power over others”.  These two things are not even remotely energetically related.  You have power over yourself, your actions, what thoughts you think, how you feel, and what you decide to do in any given moment.

Because you cannot control other people or external events to the degree that you think you should be able to, when you do try you come up against a brick wall.

You may try something ‘your way’, and when it doesn’t work the way you want immediately, you say “I can’t”.  Or you say “the Law of Attraction does not work”.  It does work though, 100% of the time which is precisely why you need to replace your “I can’t” with….

How Can I?

If you want to change your life very quickly, and easily, replace “I can’t”, with “How Can I?”

That one little tweak could change your entire life forever.

So many of you tell me “I want to enhance my gifts” or “How can I talk to my guides”, or “how can I develop my intuition”, or “how can I make more money” or “how can I find a relationship” (endless list, everyone has a unique question).

It is simple, stop blocking it.  You have the ability to use the Law of Attraction in your favour.  You also have the ability to use it against yourself.  You have the ability to get your own intuitive answers to questions as well.

You cannot get answers to questions you have not asked.  If you find yourself in a situation and you say “Well, I can’t do that” then the buck stops there.  The energy stops on that subject and your mind and your energy moves onto something else.  After all, “you can’t” and you are frustrated so there’s no point in trying.

When you get angry or frustrated or sad ~ that just exacerbates the situation.  Now you are adding lower vibrating thoughts (energy) to the mix of “I can’t”.  There’s usually lots of feeling behind that statement!

Once you say “I can’t” it doesn’t matter what anyone says to you that is contrary to your “I can’t”, you won’t believe them.  No one can buck your current of “I can’t, its impossible”.

I want you to try an experiment and leave me a comment on this blog post, or on Facebook.  I want you to start out by practicing a bit of awareness so that you can recognize how often you say “I can’t” to yourself.

Then, every time you find yourself saying “I can’t”; I want you to replace it with this phrase:

I don’t know how, but I’m open to finding out.

That’s it.  One little phrase will change your whole life.

Your guides, the Universe, God, Source, your loved ones, Angels… none of them can help you without your permission.  The minute you say “I don’t know how, show me”, you WILL get an answer.  YOU WILL GET AN ANSWER.

Sometimes the answer will be on how to specifically do what you were thinking about.  Sometimes your answer will be a parallel thought/feeling that will get you to the same end result you were thinking of, but via a different path.  Sometimes your answer will be no.  Sometimes your answer will send you off in a completely different direction.

It doesn’t matter HOW it comes, what matters is that you open the energetic doors to be able to hear your ‘intuition’ or helpers.


Its also important to remember that you cannot use the Law of Attraction on, or manifest things for, someone else.  That is their job.  If someone around you has a situation that you want to help with, you can ask “How can I help”, but you must be open to receiving the message that you cannot help them.  Also, it will not work with “How can I manipulate this person into getting back together with me” ~ you cannot control other people ~ however, you could ask “How can I be happy, or how can I get ready for a relationship” ~ these questions are about YOU not someone else.

So try it.  Whatever you have been thinking you want or working towards, ask the question “How Can I?”

It will change your life.

Ready to attract … Abraham Hicks

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The title of this audio is about relationships, but it actually talks much more about our relationships to that which we want.

If you are trying to get in and stay in your vortex and create good things in your life, this is a ‘must listen’.

 Abraham Hicks – Ready to attract a relationship

You Cannot Suffer Enough to Pull Other People Out of Their Despair

There are people who will actually get pissed off at you for being happy.  Misery loves company and they want to bring you down.  They blame other people for what happens to them, and they think that you are full of shit if you are happy.  If you are happy it is because no one has screwed you over, it has nothing to do with your attitude and they can prove it.

They will give you a very long laundry list of examples of who screwed them over, how they did it, and of all the things that are going wrong and are challenging them.  They say you don’t have these challenges, you have it much easier than they do!

They do everything they can to justify why they are choosing to feel so shitty.  And YES, IT IS A CHOICE.  The more things they think of, the more things they create.  Seemingly out of the blue.  I got a ticket, I lost my job, my relationship is on the rocks, my kids are out of control.  They refuse to see any good in anything, and they do everything in their power to suck you into their vortex.

This can be especially challenging for those of you who are empaths.  You feel their pain, you often diffuse their shit for them.  You take it on and make it your own, and then you get depressed and sleep for days.

You know how powerful they are.  You know how powerful you are.  You just can’t seem to show them, no matter what you do, how to feel better.  You try and you try.  You share a different perspective with them (look on the bright side), you try and share and/or show all the possibilities.  You remind them that they are creators, and you try your best to uplift.

After sometimes hours of trying to pull them out of their funk, you start to give them examples of times your life went to shit and how you pulled yourself out of it.  You give them example after example of how things that “appear” bad, can actually be good.  They still don’t get it.

They may feel better for a while after you talk to them, but it never lasts.  The reason they feel better after talking to you is because you have taken on all their shit.  That’s why you start to feel bad.  You feel guilty for being okay.

This is not your stuff.  The person you were talking to takes no personal responsibility for their own stuff.  They have no idea that they are powerful beyond measure and that they create their own lives.  They blame everyone else for everything that happens to them.  You, being compassionate and empathetic start to feel what they feel (which is that we are responsible for how other people feel).  You are healers and light workers and you have taken on responsibility for how they feel ~ this is a distortion of your energy.

You have helped so many people just with your presence that you know you can help this person too.  That’s why you take on their stuff.  If you can just take on some of their stuff and lighten their load, then they will be able to see and feel a shift, and will be able to move forward a little more positively.

Thing is, this NEVER works.  That is why I charge for what I do.  If someone is paying me to help them shift their energy, they will do everything they can to take some personal responsibility for how they feel and they will WORK the shift.  People who feel very disempowered don’t see the value in this.  Us happy light workers just have our heads up our asses, and we don’t get it.  We’ve never been through this kind of tough stuff.


I’m writing this post because I’ve had a friend ask me a question.  This is the note she sent in its entirety.

Hello Tamara! Thanks for writing so much on your blog. Its helped me SO much. I was wondering, if you would answer a question on there for me, if it fits with you. I’m finding that I’m not as compassionate as I would (like) to be, feminine energy etc. I’m reading a lot of books and its all about anything is possible, don’t let anyone steal your dreams, be careful who you mix with etc. My challenge is not appreciating other peoples pov (point of view) when I come in to contact with who have a ‘victim’ mentality in regards to their situations. How best do I handle this by being human and also not letting them effect me. Its kind of an extension on your empathy post. If you could point me in the right direction I would really appreciate it, Su x

Humanity has been programmed to believe that taking care of ourselves first is selfish

Society was set up this way by some not so scrupulous souls.  They did not want anyone to know just how powerful we are so they set up religions, and belief systems so that those of us who are not ‘in power’ feel (and therefore are) powerless.  They did not want us to see and feel our own power, they could not control us that way.  They know that if they could keep us powerless then we could not uplift anyone else; we’d be too worried about how we were going to survive.

We are the powerful ones as well; we just need to de-program ourselves.  For me personally, my deprogramming was hard.  I felt a lot of guilt.  Much like peeling the layers of an onion, my deprogramming is still a work in progress.  It was this deprogramming though that is bringing my words to you.  If I felt powerless and guilty all the time, I wouldn’t be writing anything to help you.  I wouldn’t be connecting to Source for you and doing readings either.  I was raised to believe that with faith we could do anything, but I was also raised that money was bad and was a limited resource.  That if I had money then someone else would go without it.

Did your parents ever say “finish your dinner there are kids on the other side of the world starving”.  What does you not eating your dinner have to do with a child on the other side of the world?  Its not like you could teleport your dinner to them.  This is the start of ‘guilt programming’.  I have access to this, but others do not, I must feel badly about it because my parents say so.

You likely have beliefs like this around money as well.  A part of you may say “I better make sure I don’t have any”.  You have heard ‘programs’ about money your whole life.  References to ‘the little guy never gets ahead’, or how people who provide your food to you are ‘gouging’ you.  (or gas for your car, or heat for your home, government and taxes ~ all BAD GUYS).  These people are “EVIL” and you don’t want to be like them.  You’d better make sure you don’t have anything or people will be mad at you and judge you just as they, and you, judge others.

Remember, you having something cannot take something away from someone else.  The Universe has an unlimited source of everything.  This in turn means, that when you empower yourself, NO ONE can take anything from you either.

About 15 years ago I started to share that the separation of humans on our planet was getting bigger and bigger.  Many of you are noticing this as well, you’ve heard the phrase “the rich are getting richer, the poor are getting poorer”.  That saying is about money though.  You need to realize that this is happening on a Spiritual Level as well.

Those that are spiritually rich are getting spiritually richer, and those that are and have been disconnected from source are feeling more and more disconnected and disempowered.  They are programmed to believe that if they have something good, then someone else is doing without.  It doesn’t matter the subject, financial wealth, “special” relationships, job/work, health.  They have been programmed to believe that they live in a LIMITED environment and they will do WHATEVER THEY CAN, EVEN AT THE RISK OF THEIR OWN HEALTH AND SAFETY, to prove this point.

You CAN’T tell them any different and have them hear you.  They may listen, they may say ‘okay’, they may feel better for a short time.  But they can’t hear you.  That is not a part of their reality and you cannot create someone else’s reality for them.

When people come to me for help, they are ready to shift their reality.  As a matter of fact, 99% have already started to shift their reality and they need my help to understand it and use it and bring their understanding or life to the next level.  There are many people who pop by my website, read a few lines and just move on.  They search for “Psychic” and want someone to tell them their fortune and what they must do and I’m not that person.  These are NOT people I can help, and these are NOT the people who contact me.

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We ALL Have Something to Mourn

There is not a person on the planet that has not lost something that was very important to them. A loved one who has died; a relationship that ended; money that disappeared; health challenges; jobs lost… the list goes on and on.  We have all lost something important to us.

The difference between a ‘victim’ and someone who uses the loss to propel themselves forward on a new path is how long they CHOOSE to mourn.  We all mourn our losses.  How long your choose to mourn a loss is up to you.  A week, month, year, decade, the rest of your life?

You help no one by engaging them in looking backwards.  It is a choice to stay stuck in a place of living in the past.  Even if the present is challenging, you know from personal experience it can be shifted by changing your perception and how you look at it.

If you choose to look back and to focus on the discomfort you are living now, you will continue to attract more discomfort.  That is the Law of Attraction.  Period.  You know that if you practice awareness of your thoughts and actions you can in a matter of 67 seconds change your reality.

You are an empath though, it pains you to see others suffer.  So back to the title of this post.  Your suffering will not help anyone else ~ EVER.  You can have some compassion for others without taking their stuff for them.  You will need to disconnect from their energy, cut those cords.  Then you will need to make darn sure that they do not re-attach, or if they do, you will need to cut them again.

You need to stop feeling guilty for being okay.  You have been through challenges too, you took at least some personal responsibility for how you felt or you wouldn’t be where you are today.

You need to limit the amount of time you spend with them.  This can be hard because you care.

Which leads to:  You will need to get to work on your own personal programming.  The programming that tells you it is not fair to be okay when others are suffering.  The part that says you must give to others even if you have nothing yourself.  Like, what the heck?  How can you give something you do not have.  You cannot lift other’s out of the gutter if you are in the sewer.

You need to remember that at times when you were feeling badly no one could MAKE you feel any other way.  They could take your mind off of things perhaps, they could give you a pep talk, remind you who you are, help you look forward; but ~ it was YOU that chose to ride the wave of positivity that they helped you create.  YOU.  There may have been times where someone pulled you out of a funk and after they left you went right back to where you were before.  Did they do this to you?  NO.  You changed your thoughts from where you were when you were with them, to something in the past, or how bad things were.  YOU DID IT.

You are where you are now because you embraced your power and DECIDED to feel better.  You woke up one morning and said “I want to feel good” and you did.  Because you were ready for whatever reason, it felt almost a little bit easy to you.  You picked up some books, listened to audios, spent time meditating or whatever it was you did.  You said “I’m going to be okay dammit, I don’t care what anyone else thinks”.  You broke up the (self) pity party and sent the guests home.

Ever since you have been trying to uplift others.  It feels so good, YOU feel so good, you really want everyone to feel as good as you feel.  You revert back to the old adage “misery loves company”, and you sometimes end up being company for miserable people.  This lowers your vibration and you feel horrible.

You can see their light.  You can feel their soul.   You can understand, you have been where they are.

Your solution then is to keep your vibration where you want it.  Your #1 priority needs to be that you feel good.  Even us empaths can disconnect when we DECIDE.  Tell yourself “I will stay in my own energy”, affirm that and then do it ~ use that part of the power that you know you have.

The victims and disempowered people will stop showing up for you that way.  Even victims have moments of happiness.  They will only show up for you when they are in that state if you keep your own vibration.  They will be more able to see their own light if you stay in yours.  Or they won’t and you need to be okay with that!  If you are okay with it and it makes them uncomfortable they will have less and less contact with you.

Maybe their life will get worse, or maybe it will get better.  That part is not your responsibility.  If you are okay, you have the potential to positively impact tens, or hundreds, or thousands, or millions of other people.  Think about that.  You cannot spend your time lowering your vibration for one person at the risk of NOT helping millions.

You do not need to do this with anger (that would be lowering your vibration).  You do it with love and respect.  Love the people you cannot help right this minute.  You can pray for them, but you need to pray for who you know they are.   You do not pray and send energy to what is wrong with them.  Just as war does not stop fighting, focusing on what is “wrong” with someone will not help what is ‘right’ shine in their life.  It is okay to send them love and to pray that they feel better.  It is not effective to dictate what will make them feel better.  That is their job and their choice.

So, I guess in summary, I would like to point out that you can have compassion and empathy for others without losing your own sense of what you have accomplished, and without losing your own high vibration.  If you ever find yourself being angry or argumentative with someone who is complaining about being a victim, you need to disconnect from them.  You cannot fix everyone, even though your light worker soul wishes you could.  If you take care of your own vibration FIRST it will be easier to let them be and send them love.

You have planted some seeds.  Your work may be done at this point.  You cannot control how your ‘neighbour’ either fertilizes these seeds, or poisons them.  That will be their choice.


If you are ready to have someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Abraham Hicks talking about Your Manifestations

This is a really good audio about manifesting I wanted to share with you.  Its titled “Why am I Bothered by People” ~ but its not really about that.

It explains how to redirect your thoughts, why sometimes affirmations don’t work, and how sometimes what you think is the ‘issue’ is really a different issue ~ but one that has the same feelings active.  You get what you vibrate (think about).  How and why “I can’t” will keep you stuck.


It also delves into your programming and subconscious beliefs and how they impact your life.  I had written about that a few days ago (May 18).  The woman asking the question actually says “Am I doomed?”  I have had people ask me that question in psychic reading/psychic counselling sessions.  And Abraham, via Esther Hicks gives a really good answer to her.  Along with a way to help yourself feel better in any situation.

Hope you enjoy it, its a good one…



 If you are very confused about where you are vibrating, or would like some additional help with clearing your energy, or figuring things out, please feel free to contact me for a psychic reading, or life/energy coaching.

You will always have challenges

Life can be challenging at times.  Sometimes your challenges come from something that is outside of yourself and sometimes it comes from within.

The thing is, you will always have them.  If you don’t you will suffer boredom and maybe even depression.  You need challenge.

When something happens that is outside of your control it is challenging.  You cannot control other people or things, and sometimes it can be painful to deal with challenges that have been bestowed upon us by others’.  Thing is, you will get through it.  You need to believe in yourself and your higher power and allow yourself to see a different future for yourself.

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Nothing ever stays the same forever.  We are either growing or dying and without change we would wither.  Good things evolve, and bad things evolve.  We can help or hinder this process with our thoughts and the energy we choose to put out into the world around us.  In any given moment, we have a choice on where to project our thoughts.  Sometimes it can be more difficult to redirect our thoughts, but it is never impossible.

Even if there are no external challenges in your life, you will create some.  That is the nature of being in human form.  You came here to experience life and you will have experiences.  If you have no challenges you will get bored and you will need to do something.  Even if you are in a healthy, happy relationship, and extremely healthy and wealthy, your Soul will call you to embrace a change or a challenge.  Look at Richard Branson, I don’t even know how many companies he has started, but it seems like he’s always got his hand in something new.  This is because he needs a challenge; it is apparent he is not doing it because he needs more money.

My life is pretty good; sometimes it even gets boring.  I don’t have a job I have to drive to, so no commute time; if I want time off I take it; if I feel like sitting in the sun in my yard, I work (or relax) outside.  I have some minor health challenges, and sometimes I have minor financial challenges; but really because of the way I perceive them, they are hardly ‘challenging’ at all.  They are simply a part of life.  If something comes up and it doesn’t feel good, I do what I can to change it

That is why I chose to blog every day.  This is day 143.  Writing something for you every day is challenging.  I do a lot of my own technical work as well, that is challenging.  These are challenges I set up for myself so my life would not be boring.  I have had boring in my life and its no fun either.

So if you have challenges in your life that you need to get through, just focus on one day at a time and keep moving.  If you keep moving forward, pretty soon that particular challenge will be behind you.  Then you can get on to the next one.  Most things take some time.

If you learn how to use energy to your advantage and if you straighten out your vibration and live in your now, you will be manifesting the life you desire in no time.  And it will still be challenging!




If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you are looking for a mentor or coach to help you to recognize how you are blocking yourself, and you would like to learn how to consistently raise your vibration, I can help with that too.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

What is more important; “Working” at Clearing Limiting Beliefs OR Practicing Awareness?

How important is it to know what your subconscious limiting beliefs are?

I have written about belief systems before.  Your conscious beliefs, and your subconscious beliefs.  We all have them engrained within our minds.

I would like to start by explaining in very simple terms the four main states of consciousness.

make your own path

What are the States of Consciousness?

Beta.  When you are in the beta state you are alert and wide awake.  You can concentrate.  Your brain makes connections quickly and can do work that requires attention.  Neurons fire quickly, and it is easier to come up with ideas and solutions to problems.  (Beta training biofeedback is sometimes used to treat ADD).

Alpha.  In alpha state, you are relaxed, can visualize and is the best state for creativity.  Alpha is much more relaxed than Beta.  Brain activity is more like waves than rapid fire.  In this state you can expand your awareness and you may experience feelings of peace.  You are less fearful, and much more relaxed, your heart rate and breathing will slow down.  This is a good place for visualizing what you want to create in your life.   Going into the alpha state ‘on purpose’ will help to alleviate stress.

Theta.  The theta state is the state you are in when you mediate.  It creates memories and it is where intuition comes from.

In theta you are very relaxed.  Your brain activity is almost like that of sleep, but not quite.  Theta can bring up old memories that you had forgotten, it makes you more receptive, you are able to get more inspiration and inner images in your mind’s eye.  In theta state you may feel like you are floating, or like your mind is expanding outside of your body.  The deepest levels of meditation get you in a theta state, as does self hypnosis.

Theta is the best state for re-programming your mind, recalling dreams and learning things quickly.


Delta.  In delta, you are in a state of detached awareness.  This is where healing can occur and is also where sleep is.

Delta is the slowest of all the brain wave frequencies.   It is associated with deep sleep.  Some frequencies in delta release HGH (Human Growth Hormone), so it assists with regeneration and healing.  That is why our bodies need to rest when ill.

Our subconscious resides in delta.  Intuition also rises from the delta state.

Where do most of our belief systems come from?

Children are in theta state for the most part until they are around 7-8 years old.  Theta is the place in which our minds are programmed.  For most of us, the beliefs we hold, (even if subconsciously), were created in a time that we do not even remember.

Your beliefs around personal safety and security, money, health, aging, work, and how the world operates in general were mostly programmed into you before you were 10 years old.  They are often subconscious and you may not even know you are thinking them.  These come from your parents, your family, your tribe, your city, your surroundings and your experiences.

You can also pick up belief systems as you go through life based on your experiences.  If you allow yourself to be bombarded with TV or Radio programs that instill an idea into your mind, you are being programmed.  Think of magazines and television that shows girls unrealistic expectations of what it is ‘normal’ to look like; or of “reality” TV (Survivor, Big Brother) that shows people pitted against one another, or shows that have humans fighting over resources when the ‘modern world’ ceases to be (The Hundred, The Walking Dead etc.).  Or the news that shows how uncontrolled things are and propagates war and distrust against other countries.

You can pick up belief systems from someone in your life that introduces you to a new concept.  They tell you about it and you have no other experience with it.  They essentially tell you their truth, you accept it as your truth, and the Law of Attraction brings it to you.  This can be a positive or negative experience depending on their truth.  Be discerning; are they happy?  Are they miserable?  If they are miserable, do your own research on the subject before their beliefs become your beliefs.

You may have had a relationship where you were not valued, or worse yet were physically or psychologically abused.  You may have been told things over and over that eroded your self-confidence.  This can also shape beliefs of worthiness moving into the future.

All these things help to shape your belief systems.  I do have some good news though.

What is more important; “Working” at Clearing Limiting Beliefs OR Practicing Awareness

Most of you worry about which of your belief systems are ‘holding you back’ in your life.  You practice the Law of Attraction; you have at least a basic knowledge of how energy works; you logically believe that we create your own reality, but you still feel like you are held back.

You may do some energy work to figure out what these belief systems are.  You may work on clearing subconscious negative beliefs with Psych-K, or theta healing, or one of a hundred other healing modalities.

Now for the coolest thing ever.

What if you just practiced awareness instead?

What if you know that thoughts are energy, intention is everything, and energy creates.  What if you wake up one day and realize that by focusing on your upbringing or your life up to this point, and on trying to ‘figure out’ what your subconscious beliefs are you are actually thinking and vibrating your limiting beliefs?  The more you focus your attention on your limiting subconscious beliefs, the more they show up for you.

What if you simply allowed yourself to be aware of what thoughts you are having?  If you are aware of your thoughts, you will know what your beliefs are.  You will know if your beliefs are “limiting” beliefs or beliefs that help you based on how you are feeling when you are ‘talking to yourself’.   If you find yourself feeling a certain way that is uncomfortable (anger, discouragement, ‘I can’t’  etc.), then pay attention to that.  Why is it uncomfortable?  It is a given, 100%, that it is a thought you are having that is causing the discomfort.

Now you need to look at that thought and ask yourself if it is true for you now.

You too often go through your day on auto pilot.  You don’t know what your subconscious beliefs are because you let your subconscious rule your life while you are focusing on a different moment in time.

There is NOTHING more liberating that being in your moment and being AWARE of what thoughts are running through your head.  When you are aware of them, you can challenge them by asking if it is true in this moment.  That will lead you to become aware of what you have been vibrating and attracting more of, and it will also lead you be able to think different thoughts.

Your feelings are your guide.  Your feelings will tell you if your belief is true for you or not.  You can be programmed a certain way, but you can just as easily de-program yourself by being aware of what you are thinking and feeling.  You were programmed because you were told something at some point, you believed it, so it showed up for you that way.  The more it showed up, the more you believed it.  Now it is an ingrained belief.

All you need to do is practice awareness of what you are thinking and change what is not serving you.  Even you that are reading this that are logical thinkers can do this.  You understand the ‘concept’ of energy and the Law of Attraction.  So if you take the next step, this will work for you.


How do I challenge a belief/reoccurring thought/creation pattern


You were raised to parents that had very limiting beliefs around money.  You constantly heard:

  •  the little guy never gets ahead
  • the ‘people at the top’/government are all corrupt and will just screw you over, take your money, you will never get anywhere because the world is just like that.  The people who have lots of money are evil and do harm to others.
  • you may as well spend all your money and run up your credit and have some fun, because you will never get ahead anyway, life won’t be worth living if you don’t
  • just get a union job in the mine (or at the manufacturing plant, or wherever) and work there your whole life, it is the only security you will ever have

Because you have these ‘subconscious’ thoughts in your head, they pop up at the most inopportune moments.  When you are thinking of saving up for something, your beliefs keep you from doing it, you spend instead.   You were never exposed to the concept of having money work for you.

When you are thinking of doing work that is ‘outside the box’ your subconscious tells you that you shouldn’t do that, its not safe unless you have a ‘good job’ that will provide money for you.

Even if you manage to get a job outside the box or start your own business, if you have been programmed with negative beliefs you will sabotage yourself.  If you have a belief that successful people with money at the top of their field are evil, you will constantly do things subconsciously that hold you back from success.

At every turn your subconscious is running your life.  But if you were to practice being aware of these thoughts, you could challenge them, and make them disappear.  Essentially, clearing them out.

So you think of following your heart and intuition and getting a job you love.  Your subconscious plays all these programs for you, its not safe, if you do well you are evil, you will never get ahead etc.  What if you were to say to yourself “is this true?”  Then what if you could look online and find dozens (or thousands or millions) of examples that prove to you that its not true.  Then what if you could practice having different thoughts?

Now that you know what they are they do not need to have power over you anymore.  If thinking differently causes you anxiety, you could do some EFT Tapping to relieve the anxiety so you can forge ahead with your plans.

Remember you have had years, or a lifetime of proof that your beliefs are true ~ simply because the Law of Attraction works and you have attracted examples for yourself that support your beliefs.

The trick is to replace the beliefs with new ones, NOT to keep looking for more limiting beliefs, and NOT fighting the ones you have.  Its all about creating new belief systems for yourself.

Give it a try and see just how easily it can work once you go with it.


If you are very confused about where you are vibrating, or would like some additional help with clearing your energy, or figuring things out, please feel free to contact me for a psychic reading, or life/energy coaching.





Energy Alert, Thursday, May 14, 2015

Ahhh…. the energy has released a little bit.  This week we’ve been bombarded with energies that didn’t exactly have us feeling at our best.  It feels so much freer today.  Anyone feel like dancing?

We have been getting a lot of downloads lately.  To help with Ascension, to help with changes to our DNA required to cope in the higher frequency dimensions.

Just a reflection

Some manifestations you may be noticing:

  • You might be hearing strange things.  Either ringing in your ears, or high pitched noises, or (what I hear), is almost like a high pitched white noise.  This is due to some of the energetic downloads we are getting.
  • You might be having some weird heart palpitations.  This is an energetic download.
  • You might be having some serious ‘coincidences’ show up in your life.  Or just be having downright ‘psychic’ moments.
  • You may find your dreams are more prophetic, or you think of something and it happens, or people that you think about show up in your life.

I said to my husband this morning “we need to build something with Lego’s today”.   (because I have some Lego’s that I am re-homing, and thought it would be nice to have a picture of them put together).  His response was “Oh my God, I just had a dream last night that I was building with Lego’s!”   (for the record, building with Lego’s is NOT something that’s the norm in our house).

  • Or you are looking for a something very specific, and you put the intention out, and suddenly what you thought about is right in front of your eyes.  Like maybe there’s something you think “would be nice to have one day”, or “maybe I should get a new ____”, and you come across someone selling it at the side of the road, or you see it in your Facebook Newsfeed ~ the exact thing you were thinking of; at the exact price you wanted to pay and can afford.  Or ever better yet, someone offers it to you out of the blue (this happened to both my husband and a friend of mine; they both had someone give them something that they thought they would like to have ~ no focusing, no wishing; just a simple thought “I think I want one of those”).
  • Or you think “wow, some people sure are miserable”; and then the next store you shop at has a miserable clerk (just be nice to them anyway, maybe they are just having a bad day).  Spread that love you feel in your heart all over the place.

Make sure you keep your thoughts positive.  You are seeing everything through the ‘eyes’ of your vibration.  You are creating moments and you are seeing what is to come.  ALL OF IT will be easier for you if you can see the good in life in general.

These are exciting times.  Remember who you are.  Even the Angel Cards for this week said just that.  Remember who you are.

We are all vibrational beings, and we all have the ability to consciously create with our vibration.  Remember who you are so you can create from a higher vibration.  There is NO NEED for the same old same old ‘auto-pilot’, pre-programmed matrix that we have lived in up to this point.

All it takes is to be aware of what you are thinking and vibrating.  If it is good and focused on what you want, then keep it up.  If it is not what you want, then change your thoughts.

I am really excited for you, this is an amazing time we are living in!

Love Tamara

Okay, I have to add this P.S. to this blog post because of something that happened when I was getting ready to publish it.

Yesterday I was thinking of some things that I might do or change in my life.  Just at the pondering stages.  I did a little bit of research online, and ‘put it out there’ to the Universe knowing that I would get direction.

Last night I had a dream that told me quite clearly that the subjects I was pondering yesterday were NOT the way to go.  So today, I was like “Okay, send me in another direction then”.  And I just left it.

When I was done this post, I went to my Facebook Page to take a look and to get ready to share the post on Facebook.  This is what I saw:

Facebook Page

You will see that this is a post from last fall.  I had it as a ‘pinned post’, which meant it should show up at the top of my Facebook page until I took it off.  It DISAPPEARED off of my Facebook page, newsfeed, everywhere, poof it was just gone last October 1st.  I couldn’t find it anywhere, and when I queried FB it said that ‘sometimes pinned posts will just disappear’.

So, I am going to listen to the Universe and I am going to do another workshop.  It will likely be at my home in Sardis and will be limited to 6-8 people or something like that.  If you are reading this, you are ‘hearing it first’.  If you think you may be interested pop me an email or comment on this post.  I will see how much interest I get before I pick a date.

New Moon April 18, 2015

It is a New Moon tomorrow.  I am writing this post a day early because I know a lot of you read this at night and this post will help you for tomorrow.

new moon

The New Moon is a perfect time to focus on manifesting what you want in your life.  It is a good time for healing and personal growth.  It is time to plant your seeds of intention.  As the light of the moon grows over the next month, so will your wishes.

So at some point tomorrow, take some time to focus on what you want in your life.  Write down a list of anything and everything you would like to see come into your life.  It can be something concrete, or a feeling, or way of being.  It can be related to anything, relationships, work, money, home…there are no limits.

You can set goals or plan for the future.  Remember to keep it positive and focus on what you want to see in your life.