Your Judgement of People Changes How They Show Up For You

5th Dimensional Reality

How we perceive things; life, people, situations, creates what we see.  How do you perceive things?

I came across this video this morning and it really shows us how our judgements of a person can shape how we interact with them.  If you judge a person as one thing, that is how they will show up in your life.

This video shows just how much our perceptions and judgments of other people can change the way they appear.

We are all souls having a human experience and without these bodies we really are all the same.

Wouldn’t it be nice if we all saw the love in each other and accepted each other as we are?

6 Photographers, 1 Man, 6 Perspectives

 

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The Path of Least Resistance

creating my own reality

Thoughts are Things

This is a great Abraham audio.  No matter what you want, or what your challenge might be, this will help.  It has a really good explanation about your beliefs and your subconscious and your vibration.  I think all of you that are wanting something should listen to this.

For those of you that could relate to the relationship posts I have posted in the last couple of days, especially the one from yesterday, What are You Willing to Bring into a Relationship, this audio will probably help you a lot on that subject as well.

Love

Tamara

Abraham Hicks, You Don’t Need People Validating You

 

 

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What are you willing to bring into a relationship?

I talk to a lot of you that say you want a relationship.  Many of you have been hurt in the past and you have baggage that you have not yet released.

You say you want someone to make you happy.  You want someone who is trustworthy, who can make you laugh, who can ‘complete’ you.

Only happy people can share happiness.  Are you happy?  Can you bring happiness into a relationship?  Without conditions?  Just plain happiness and a sense of being okay with yourself?

If not, then what makes you think someone else can do that for you?  Would you want to get into a relationship with someone who didn’t like themselves just how they are?  Would you want to get into a relationship where the other person was a ‘project’ for you?  Someone that was so insecure in themselves that they needed constant reassurance that they were okay?  Someone who had so much baggage that they couldn’t trust you no matter what you did?  That were afraid to live their own life because they thought they needed to be someone or something else in order to attract the right partner?  Someone that once they got more comfortable turned back into themselves because they were being someone else to attract you?

Think about those things long and hard before you say you want a relationship.  What are YOU bringing to the table in a partnership?  You need to bring yourself.  Not a pretender, not an insecure hurt person, YOU.  The real you.

someone to complete me

So many of you think that you want a partner so badly.  That ‘if only I had a partner I would be okay ~  I am not okay on my own’.  Thing is, you would not make a good “partner”, you would simply make a good “dependent”.  All of your thoughts, feelings and self-esteem would be “dependent” on what the other person said or did or how they acted.  That is too big of a job for anyone to take on.  You need to be good with you and who you are ~ alone or in a partnership.

Anyone can find someone to spend time with.  If you are lonely you can date, or have sex or whatever you want.  Just don’t expect anyone to complete you EVER.  No one can, its an impossible thing to do and it is not fair to them, nor is it fair to you.  No one can “make you feel”.  Feeling is something that comes from INSIDE and is something you need to do for yourself.  There are lonely people who are surrounded by others and there are happy people who are alone.  IT COMES FROM A FEELING INSIDE.

Some of you say, I don’t want to date and waste my time on the wrong person.  What are you doing by sitting there waiting for the ‘perfect’ person to come along and fix your life for you?  Now THAT is a waste of time.  All those days where you could be out doing something with someone, laughing, having fun, and you choose to stay home and not ‘waste your time’.

If you want a relationship, start by being okay with who you are.  Don’t judge yourself by how other people see you.  Start being okay with how YOU see YOU.  There is the perfect person for you out there.

Relationships can absolutely help you grow.  But if you have stunted your own growth with your thoughts and feelings, no one can change you.  That is your job.  Thing is, there’s probably not a lot you need to do to change.  Except for maybe doing some energy work to let go of your old crap, and learning how to be yourself, how to appreciate yourself for who you are.  Once you do that then the perfect person can see the real, complete, happy you!

So, if you find yourself saying “I want a relationship”, ask yourself, are you ready for one?

 

 

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Abraham Hicks on Wanting A Relationship

what is love

I know a few of you are looking for relationships, and that some of you are even afraid because of your supposed “baggage” around relationships.

I wanted to share a couple of awesome Abraham Hicks audios with you.  Listen to them more than once if that’s what it takes.

I love the end of this first one when Abraham says “I wouldn’t tell you even if I knew” (if this was ‘the one’).

So, for all of you wanting a relationship, here you go.  If you aren’t in a space of wanting a relationship, there is still some good information on vibration in these ones.

Abraham Hicks 2014 “I want a life partner”

 

 

 

Abraham Hicks ~ I Want To Find My Love

This is a good one for those of you that have had a rough time in the past and really know what you don’t want.

“I want to meet a great guy” ~ (or great gal), if this is what you are saying to yourself, this one might help you.

 

 

 

 

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Two More “Best Of” posts from October 2011 ~ Relationships

I want to share a couple of my older posts with you again today. Some of these are timeless.  Both of them talk about relationships and I think it is timely to revisit them because so many relationships have gone through transformations or have ended over the past few months.

choose love

Why do we put so much of who we are into how someone else sees us?

The hardest part of my job is when I see the need for someone to move on from something and they don’t want to. This is happening to a great extent with relationships right now.

Times are changing and our souls (higher selves) so badly want us to be happy. That is the reason why so many things seem to be falling apart. There are many relationships that exist in the old reality. The new reality that we are moving into is one of happiness, love, enlightenment and an enjoyment of life. When what surrounds us does not hold the higher vibrating energies of love it needs to be disowned before we are able to raise our vibration and live the life of the wonderful light beings that we are.  Read the rest of this post here.

Relationships and Your Heart Chakra

This post contains “A Special Relationship that Serves to Open Your Heart Chakra”.  And explains how relationships can help us heal.  It covers how to let go, and explains the feeling of “I have never felt like this before” when in a relationship.   Read the rest of this post here.

 

 

 

 

 

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Abraham Hicks on Divorce, Family and Other Relationships

divorce and co parenting

This is an awesome audio.  I know that many of you are going through the end of relationships (both marriage and other situations).

This audio talks about blame, guilt and being in or out of the vortex, its awesome.

Abraham Hicks: divorce as least resistance

Whether you are going through the loss of a relationship or not, it is worth a listen.  However, if you are going through a divorce, or have been through one recently ~ especially if you have kids, this is a MUST HEAR.

Enjoy…

love

Tamara

 

 

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Couple More “Best Of” posts from September 2011

This first one might be timely for any of you that have experienced a relationship that involved some type of abuse.  We have just come out of Venus Retrograde and I know that relationships have shifted for a lot of you.

Confused by an Abusive Relationship?

So I wrote this post a couple of weeks ago and was sitting on it trying to decide if I should post it or not. Most of my blog posts just kind of come out of seemingly nowhere and I just pound them out as they come. With this one, on re-reading it the day after I wrote it, I thought it sounded a bit angry and cynical. For those of you who have been reading my blog for a while, you may recognize it as being different from what I normally write. For those of you new here, I apologize if the following post sounds harsh. Really, I’m not normally abrasive….  Read the rest of this post here

Love Yourself

What message do you want to spread?

I have a couple of ladies that come to visit me every couple of weeks. The one that has been coming the longest is Judy and she is a very sweet woman. We usually end up talking for about 5 or 10 minutes and they usually leave me a copy of the Watchtower or Awake. They are Jehovah’s Witnesses and they are doing what they can to help spread their word.

Now I know a lot of people don’t like the Jehovah’s Witnesses coming to their door and they make fun of them or get mad at them. I don’t agree with everything thing they say, and its a shame that they are so fearful, but really, they are just like me and you and they are doing what they know.

We actually have some very good conversations. For the past few months they had been talking about Armageddon – a lot. I told them that each and every day is Armageddon for someone, somewhere.  Read the rest of this post here

 

 

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Venus Retrograde is Almost Over ~ Have you made a shift?

Venus is about to go direct after about 5 weeks of being retrograde.  There has been a big push for change in relationships.  If your relationships are no longer serving you, you may have decided to leave and start fresh.  Even if you are in a positive relationship, you may have noticed changes (this can also be work/family/friends or other relationships).

These changes are coming from within you.  They are all about your relationship to yourself.  You may be looking at external things and shifting relationships with others, but really it is all a part of you learning to love and care about yourself.

Have you taken advantage of this energy?  Are you learning how to love and care for yourself?  Have you learned to value yourself?  Are you taking some responsibility for how you feel and what you allow in your life?

We are coming into eclipse season again and its all about change and transformation.  Will you allow it to flow for you?  Can you trust the changes that have been started?  Can you go with it and embrace the new?  It will be more comfortable for you if you do.

live your dreams

Nothing can stay the same forever, everything changes ~ we are either growing or dying.  You do have some control over what your changes will look like.  Just remember to honor yourself.  Honor who you are and what you came here to do.

You don’t even need to know exactly what the changes will be or what you came here to do.  You may need to simply BE for a little bit longer, listen to your intuition, allow your higher self and divine guidance to let you know when it is time to act.

You will be called to walk your talk though.  For those of you that are not walking your talk it will feel a lot like suffering.  That comes from old energy and isn’t quite so comfortable in our new energy.  The new energy is all about living your truth.  When you live in your own truth you will be able to live the life you have imagined for yourself.  You will take responsibility for yourself, and you will release blame and you will flourish.

Be yourself, Love yourself.  If you can learn to love and nourish yourself, you will have more than enough to share with others.

 

 

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Does your spouse ‘owe’ you?

I’ve been noticing another trend lately in relationships and it is keeping a lot of you from being happy with your S.O.

It is the mindset that your spouse owes you something.  Too often in relationships communication is lacking and someone ends up feeling as if their needs aren’t being met.

It doesn’t seem to matter that they have NOT clearly stated what their needs are, or that they go through their days pretending that everything is okay when its not.  This just breeds resentment and a feeling that your spouse owes you ~ because you’ve ‘put up with’ certain things for so long.

This resentment is a relationship killer and often causes one spouse to take on passive aggressive tendencies.  The distance between spouses grows and grows and eventually things fall apart and the relationship ends.

It doesn’t need to be this way.

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How to turn things around in your relationship

You owe it to yourself to change your own energy, and in turn allow the relationship to grow and change.  Only then will you know for sure how good your relationship can be (or if its time to go).

The first realization you need to have is that NOTHING is going to change unless YOU change.  You are not entitled to a good relationship ~ you need to be an active participant in making a good relationship.

You need to take 100% responsibility for yourself and what you have created in your relationship. 

This doesn’t mean that if your spouse is abusive you need to stay and take it, but you can take responsibility for yourself and the fact that you have stayed this long.  If you take this responsibility, then you can take responsibility for deciding to leave.

  • If you have been holding back when communicating with your spouse, that is on YOU, not on them.  There is no reason to hold things in for so long that you blow up one day; practice communicating every day.
  • You need to appreciate what your spouse does, not what is lacking.  So your spouse never empties the dishwasher or folds laundry.  Do they do other things?  Change light bulbs, mow the lawn, work hard to provide money for the family?  Everyone does something positive.  You need to appreciate what they do take care of.  If you are constantly finding fault, your spouse will start to do less because they will begin to feel like nothing they do is good enough.
  • Write down a list of things that are amazing about your spouse.  Remember, they don’t owe you anything, for the most part they are there because they want to be there for one reason or another.
  • Don’t do things for your spouse that they can do for themselves.  A lot of relationships get out of balance because one person is always trying to take responsibility for someone else’s life.  This can never be sustained long term.  We all need to live our lives, if someone is always doing everything for us, we start to feel disempowered or needy (or worse yet, tied down and stuck).
  • When you communicate with your spouse, you need to realize that you are two souls having a human experience.  Your spouse is not there to complete you ~ that is your job.  They are there to share with you.  To grow with you.  Sometimes to challenge you.

We are meant to be in relationships because we want to be.  Not because we are waiting for the ‘payback’ of all our years of putting up with imbalance.

You can change things for the better but you need to do it with LOVE.  Not anger, not resentment, not from a place of feeling entitled.

If you want your relationship to change, you need to change.  Change some of your expectations, change your energy to love, focus on what is good and right in your relationship, appreciate what is working in your relationship and expand on that.

You will never know how good your relationship could be if you don’t focus on love and appreciation ~ every day.

 

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I love you

what is love

The words “I love you” should never mean, “I don’t love myself”.

It doesn’t matter how much love you give to or share with another, it should never take away from the love you give yourself.

You can love someone else without disrespecting yourself.

If anyone ever asks you to do something that makes you uncomfortable, or that puts you yourself at risk, or takes away from who you are inside, that is not love.

“If you loved me you would….”

That’s a bunch of hooey.  You can love someone without doing something, being something, or feeling something that you would rather not.  Loving someone does not require you to endanger yourself, physically, emotionally or spiritually.

Anytime you ask someone to do something uncomfortable for them, that is not love.  Anytime someone asks you to do something uncomfortable for you, that is not love either.

(I am not talking about asking your spouse to vacuum, yes vacuuming can be uncomfortable, but that’s not the kind of discomfort I am talking about.)

Love is love.  Love is accepting.  Love is allowing ~ allowing someone to be all of themselves.  Not just who you want someone to be.

If you truly love someone, you want them to be happy.  Period.

Not just for them to be happy if it makes you happy.  That is not fair, to them, or to you.

In relationships we are meant to grow together, not to stunt the growth of someone else.  To love is to love, fully, completely without conditions.  Let no one stunt your growth and do not stunt the growth of others.

If you love yourself enough you won’t need to control anyone else, and you won’t feel the need to let anyone control you.

 

 

 

 

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