I often have discussions with people about this.  Or maybe I should say, I often have people tell me that what I do is an “evil” thing that must be messages from Satan.  When I had my computer fixed in the fall, the fellow that fixed it deduced what I did based on the things that were on my computer.  He shared a scripture with me that included phraseology that said “our loved ones do not prophesize and they do not know what will happen in our future, if you get these messages then it is coming from Satan”.  I put this in quotes, but I am sure I haven’t quoted the scripture exactly, this is just what I got out of what he said.

I thought about what he said for a moment, and I agree with him except the part about coming from Satan.  I guess I’d never given it a lot of thought, but when loved ones come in to a reading to speak to you, they don’t tell you what is going to happen to you, they don’t come across as fortune tellers or try to tell you what to do.  For the most part they come to say hi and let you know that they are okay.  Your guides do the same thing ~ they guide you, they don’t tell you what you must do.  Your own intuition works this way too.  Ever have a feeling you shouldn’t go to a certain place, or take a certain route home, and then later found out that there was an accident on the road you avoided.  You weren’t told “you are going to be in an accident”, you were told, “take a different road”.  That is how a reading with me works.  You get signs and guideposts and an idea of where you are headed, what the road might look like and a ballpark idea of how long it might take you to get there ~ what you do with the information is up to you.

I just got an the following email last Friday:

From: Brad Daley [mailto:gcanuck2@gmail.com]
Sent: Friday, January 20, 2012 10:41 AM
To: tamaraha@telus.net
Subject: Witchcraft 

Deu 18:10  There shall not be found among you any one that maketh his son or his daughter to pass through the fire, or that useth divination, or an observer of times, or an enchanter, or a witch,

Deu 18:11  Or a charmer, or a consulter with familiar spirits, or a wizard, or a necromancer.

Deu 18:12  For all that do these things are an abomination unto the LORD: and because of these abominations the LORD thy God doth drive them out from before thee.

You are bringing your followers under a curse. Expect judgement.

Wow.  Believe it or not, I get this a lot.   There is a TON of fear in this email and I think it’s a shame.  I can pretty much say for certain that I don’t do “witchcraft”.  I do however work with energy.  Working with energy is more science and quantum physics than witchcraft.  Not that I have an opinion on witchcraft either way ~ I just don’t know much about it, and I do know that energetically speaking ‘what comes around goes around’ so I leave it up to you to decide for yourself what this means.

I am kind of getting off topic as far as my first sentence above was written, but I guess one of the (many) points I want to make is that a lot of what is written in religious scripture is written in a way to disempower people.   Just as a psychic that is inexperienced or not working with the light may disempower you, so may certain religious words.  There is as much in the religious scriptures about positive, uplifting prophecy and people speaking and listening to God, as there is about negative “prophets”.

If you ask certain highly religious people they will tell you that the bible was written by God.  When you ask, “did God take human form and pick up a quill and ink, and pen it himself”, they say, “well, no, he channeled it through his prophets”.  Then they will continue on to tell you that prophecy is negative (see above email).  Only my opinion, but this seems pretty contradictory to me.   We can all work with Divine Love and Light, or we can chose to work with the darker or more negative energies that are out there.

There are some psychics out there who try to control your life.  They will tell you what is going to happen and then tell you that there is nothing you can do about it, that it is preordained.  Some of these people thrive on control;  some just don’t know any better.  They get so caught up in the fact that they can see things, they don’t realize that a part of having this gift and working with the light is to empower people.  When they tell people that things are beyond their control, it is a form of disempowerment.

Most of us who were born with this gift have a deeper understanding of how it works.  We have a true desire to help people, not to control them.  Most of us work with the light.  Some work with darker forces though.  Most of us psychics working with the light, know that there are many paths one can take throughout their lifetimes and that it is up to you to decide what experiences you wish to have.  I believe I was given this gift to empower you to make your own choices, I have no desire to live your life for you.

There are a lot of online courses and exercises that teach you how to develop your own psychic abilities.  A lot of them are very good, here’s an example. Developing your psychic abilities.  The thing that most of them do not teach you is that you need to think of why you might want to develop these abilities.  Do you want to help others, or do you want to control others?  Psychic abilities are great, however, they are also a huge responsibility.  There are many people that have readings with me and base life decisions on what comes through for them.  It is important that if you do decide to do readings for others, you always keep in your heart that it is for the highest and best good of all.  When this is new to you and you realize that your own gifts are coming through, it can be easy to get caught up in the fact that you can see things for people and want to blow their minds with your ability to prophesize their futures for them.

The thing is, you also need to realize that people need to go their own way.  Just like you, they are here to have experiences.  We all are.  It is not always a good thing to try and see so much for someone that you take away the experience of living.  As psychics, we are here to guide and to help.  We work with your teachers, guides and higher selves to help you along.  Your guides do not tell you what to do, they put things in your path that might assist you if you decide for yourself to look into it further.   That is what psychics are for also.  To guide you.

As a medium I can often also connect with loved ones that have crossed on.  Your loved ones won’t tell you what to do either.  When they come through in a reading, they come through to let you know that they are there for you, they are safe and they are still with you.  They do not desire to live your life for you, they just want to support you.

Just remember that when working with the light, you are doing things for a person’s highest and best good.  It is never in someone’s highest and best good to disempower them by telling them that there is nothing they can do.  Encourage them to follow their inner light to make the right choices.

As of yesterday, I am snowed in.  What that means is I have a little extra time on my hands to do some phone psychic readings.

The majority of my plans have been changed for the week to include a lot of time at home.  Most of the places I would go around here involve using my car and its hard to drive a sunfire safely in a foot and a half of snow.

So, if you’ve been holding off because you know January is one of my busy times, you don’t need to.  I’ve got more time for you in the next few days.

Love Tamara

Positive, loving energy, creates and draws more positive and loving energy. Denser, fearful energy creates and draws more negative feelings and denser energy.

In my own life right now I have some great examples of how I decided what it is that I really want. This is personal, but hey, I’m an open book, and if it helps even one person it is worth it.  So here goes.

I decided a while ago, that the thing(s) I wanted most in life was to be happy (less stress), be healthy, and to be financially secure (ie get my bills paid down). We have a construction company and (without going into too much detail) it got slow for quite a while and our debt load got HUGE. I also had some health problems for a while (that are thankfully better now, not perfect, but better).

So, I will share how am I handling it, what I am affirming, and maybe it will help you with deciding what it is you want and how to get it.

For the happiness factor. Every day, I focus on what I can do, and keep moving forward. There are certain things I do to be happy. The biggest one is to know and affirm that I am right where I need to be and to know that I can do, be or change anything in my life in any given moment. It is often a personal choice whether or not to be happy. Don’t tune me out here, I know a lot of you are saying “easy for you to say”.

However, if you have been reading my blog for a while, you will know that this last spring I went through a pretty tough time. My health wasn’t all that great, and I was super tired and depressed. The one thing that kept me going was that I knew I would get through it. I remember thinking “One day I will look back at this as the hardest period of my entire life”.

So, in order to “be happy’ and ‘be healthy’, the first thing I did was acknowledge that it was something I was going through and that I would come out the other side of it. I went to my doctor, my naturopath, a Soul Realignment Practitioner, got my energy cleared, my house cleared out of all its ghosts, prayed a lot, tried to get out of the house when I could … the list goes on. I kept moving in the direction I wanted to be heading. I tried really hard not to focus on how lousy I was feeling.

As much as our energy is powerful, so are our brains. We actually build ‘bridges’ in our brains for repetitive thoughts and behaviours. This is how habits are formed. We have all had times in our life where something has happened that was so painful that we thought we might not survive it. If you are reading this, you survived it. You need to focus on the fact that you will survive it this time too. No matter how hard it is, you will survive it. This does two things, it enhances an energy of creating better feelings, and it also keeps your brain from creating negative bridges. (ie. This hurts so bad, I’m going to die vs. I can get through this, I always do)

Something I have always worked on is not worrying about the stuff I cannot control. This can be hard to do for many people. When you are not feeling good about who and where you are you are likely to take on controlling behaviors. Even with the small stuff.

For example: My PC has been breaking down. I messed with it myself for a week and then decided it was beyond my abilities to fix it so I brought it in to be fixed. It was in the shop for a few days and I got it back. I thought all was well, but a couple of days ago noticed that I was missing an awful lot of e-mails. I get tons of emails and my in-box was actually manageable ~ I knew something was amiss. So I checked it out and one of my email addresses was not sending emails to my in-box. It took just over a day of working with my Web Hosing company (they were super helpful), and I got my emails up and running again.

Half-way through this weeks-long process (at least I hope its done now and that what I think is half-way is), my husband came home and commented on how calm I was despite all these issues and the time it was taking.

I was calm because I knew I could not control it. Why get totally upset over something I can’t control? I was trying. I was working on it every day, moving forward, trying this and that, taking my PC in to a professional when all else failed. I was doing what I could and letting go of the rest.

That doesn’t mean I didn’t care that I couldn’t get back to my clients. Or that I didn’t care I wasn’t getting blog posts or work done. It was that there was nothing I could do about it except what I was doing so why get all riled up! (and yes, meditation does help – a lot).

I need to mention too that I was working on this blog post on Friday morning when my website had a “FATAL ERROR”.  I could not get back to this post, and when I tried to pull up www.tamarahawk.com online, every page said “FATAL ERROR” so anyone going to my site on Friday would have seen only that.  I must admit I was a bit worried that my website was gone and I would need to recreate the whole thing from scratch.  I chose to go and sit and meditate for a while and then contacted my techie friends and webhosing company and they were able to get it back online for me.

It could have gone either way, I could have focused on all the lousy aspects of what was happening, or I could “Let go and Let God” and just do for the sake of doing. I chose to let go. (Please do not confuse letting go for giving up).

Now for the second thing I am trying to create. Getting my bills paid down or off. (I know a lot of you will be able to relate to this one).

That last sentence I wrote is NOT how I manifest things. We need to focus on what we want and focusing on bills and debt, no matter what the context, will not get them paid off, it will just create more bills and debt.

I focus on money and cheques coming in from both businesses. I focus on money going into a savings account. I focus on the knowing I will have what it is I really want and need. I focus on anything positive I can think of around having abundance.  I pay people I owe instead of buying myself something new that I do not need.

So now here is the part that some of you may find difficult. You need to ACT like you have what you want, and ACT in a way for you to get it. So many ‘guru’s’ are talking about manifesting things and saying you can have whatever you want. Yes you can. They say to act as if you already have it. However, you also need to ACT in a way that will get you there.

An easy example:  You do not lose weight by eating and acting like a fat person, and you do not create abundance by spending money you do not have.

Here’s another personal example that I hope will explain this in more detail and that you can relate to. I have been trying to get together with a friend for quite a while. We live a few hours apart and we are planning on getting together for a weekend. She is prepared to go next weekend, but I am not sure. I have not committed to next weekend away because at this moment, I am needing to wait for other people or things (remember, I cannot control those things), before I know if I can afford a weekend away.

I was thinking about this situation and wondering about Manifesting it. It crossed my mind that if I can manifest anything, why don’t I just plan it and then manifest the weekend trip. Kind of a “build it and they will come” mentality.

This is why I am not doing that…..

Firstly. As I wrote in the beginning paragraphs, the things I want to manifest the most are being happy, healthy and financially secure. Which includes less stress.

Here is how trying to manifest my weekend away to happen quickly can create stress and bite me in the you know where.

If I commit now to a weekend away for next weekend there are a few things that could happen. The biggest one being is that I will be relying on other people/things, and this will create MORE STRESS. The stress of waiting, the stress of ‘will I let my friend down’, ‘will the cheques come in’, the list goes on.

If I commit and the expected accounts receivable for the construction end of things does not come in, then I will feel badly on many levels. I will either have to go into more debt to go for the weekend OR I will have to cancel the weekend with my friend at the last minute.

In either of those scenarios I will be moving away from one of the main things I want in life. I will either be spending money I do not have yet, creating MORE debt, or making my friend unhappy, which will create more unhappiness and stress.

So, here is where I stand. I will be patient and I will wait. I know beyond any doubt that me and my friend will get together. I just cannot control other people or things so I cannot control the when of it. I will not spend or commit to spending money that I do not have, nor will I put myself and my friend in a position where we feel badly about a last-minute cancellation.

You do always get what you create. It is just a matter of deciding what you want and letting go of the how’s or when’s. If you are facing any decisions like this, just remember to always go back to what it is that you want the most and create from there.

Things are feeling well. I just love this time of year. It is amazing and beautiful how Mother Nature works. Just when the leaves are ready to be falling from the trees, the wind starts up and helps things along. We have had 3 or 4 windstorms over the last week.

Our lives are like that too, we just don’t often realize it. As humans we have a tendency to try and hang onto our leaves even though it is time for a change, time to live for a short time in emptiness, just like the trees.

Imagine if the trees tried to hold onto their leaves all winter. An impossible task to be sure, but that is what humans do. Even though they know its time for a change of seasons and scenery, they just hang on.

If only humans could let go as easily as the trees do. Spring ALWAYS comes, new leaves ALWAYS grow. There is always fresh and new and just as beautiful as it was before.

If you feel like you are experiencing a windstorm in your life, maybe its time to take a look at what its time to drop. You need to make space for the new to arrive in spring.

Now for an update on my status this week.
As most of you know that read my posts, I have my horse up for sale. He’s been taking up a fair bit of my time, which is fine by me. I have been swamped with emails from people wanting readings, which is also fine. I have been fitting in as many as possible over the last couple of weeks, however, I am waaaayyyyy behind in responding to requests. I have only been able to respond to you as I am able to book you in.

Now, my computer has decided to start crashing. I noticed about a month ago that there were a few people I had sent emails to that appear to not have received them. I thought it was an error on their end, perhaps that my mail had gone into their spam folder or something. However, on looking in my sent items, there is no email to them!! Their original email has an arrow on it showing I replied, but I can’t find it, nor can they.

That was the first symptom. Now the second is that my video and online radio stopped streaming on the weekend. Its been 3 days since I’ve been working on my PC but still haven’t got the issue resolved.

Now the reason for this post. This morning my computer completely crashed. The “Blue Screen of Death” popped up for no apparent reason and my PC shut down and re-started. I decided to put this post out there while I am able to.

I do all my bookings and such via email. Its not bad enough that I am behind in replying to you, now I need to take my PC into be serviced. I need things resolved once and for all. My PC memory and hardware are quite good, so its some software glitch somewhere (likely from upgrading from Vista to Windows 7). Anyway, if you are waiting to book a time with me, hopefully this explains why I’m so far behind this time.

With love,
Tamara

When you begin seeing 11-11-11 in your daily life, it is a reminder that you are creating your life experiences in this moment. I remember a client asking me once what it meant to see so many 11′s and I told him “be aware of what you are thinking”. He was surprised and appeared disappointed that that is what it was.

The thing is, a lot of people expect that when they start to get signs, it is all about what is “out there”. My client expected that my answer would contain information about what was outside of himself.

What the ‘answer’ is, is that your guides and/or higher self are bringing to your attention that you are in a moment of creating and to remind you to keep your thoughts positive, loving and forward.

If you see 111′s, take a good ‘look’ at what you were just thinking about in that moment. Were you thinking about what you wanted, or were you thinking about what you didn’t want? Either way, its a reminder that you can change your thoughts, or expand on them. Which of course will change your life.

Over the past (long time), I have been writing about letting go. If you have successfully let go of something, even if it is just with your heart, now, on 11-11-11 is the perfect time to look at what you want to create. 1 is the beginning. It is a fresh start. A new energy. Those of you who have been working on letting go and self-change may feel a huge shift this week, and especially today.

Chances are, if you are reading this, you have already shifted your way of thinking from the 3D, and are embracing the fact that we are Souls in human form.

If you are reading this, and have not made any changes, or let anything go over the past while, you may be finding yourself a bit worried. Don’t. The “Window of Change” (according to the Mayan’s), is from 1980 to 2016. With of course December 2012 being the focus for many people.

11-11-11 is a big deal energetically, but if you had not been ready for a shift beforehand, or if you didn’t have any shifts that you needed to make (rare, but I suppose possible), you will still be impacted by the “Collective Energy” of everyone and everything on the planet. Ride the ‘wave’ of energy, allow for the flow, the new, and you can’t help but feel good.

It is good though, not stressful at all, just busy and moving forward. I even managed some time for myself this past weekend. I spent almost the whole weekend at the barn. It seems like its been years since I’ve taken so much time for myself. I know it probably hasn’t been years, it just feels like it because I needed it so badly. I still have my horse for sale but I will be working with him until he finds a new home. I’m not desperate to sell him, just knowing that its time.

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Some of the highlights from the last newsletter are as follows:

I am taking on mentoring clients again. I had a really good deal mentioned in my Newsletter that won’t be repeated on my website, but I will have a mentoring page up online when I get the time. If you’ve been thinking about it and don’t want to wait until I get the page up, you can email me.

I have also decided to open my home to psychic kids and their parents to get together and talk about what is going on with them. It will likely be on Sundays, with registration at $25 per Sunday. I haven’t had enough interest in this yet to go ahead with setting a date, but once again, if you are reading this, and would like to take part, send me an email. I will get around to adding a page about this too.

I also talked again about developing your own abilities, to see more about this, you can check it out here. Developing your Psychic Abilities

That’s it for now, I’m off to do some readings, and then go see my horse after!!!

Have a great day!

Love
Tamara

There is one more that I have written that will be included in this post. I think it will be the last one of its kind (for now anyway). When I wrote the first one, I didn’t realize that it would end up being a series on different types of relationships that no longer serve our highest and best good. I write what I am inspired to write on any given day. My inspiration comes from more than one source. The majority of the time it is from my own personal teams of guides teachers and angels. Sometimes when I have had many clients in a short span of time that all have the same issues related to relationships, I realize that I need to put something out there so that those of you who are not able to get a reading can still benefit from what many people’s guides (including my own) are telling me about the times we are in.

As mentioned in my last post, not all these posts relate to all relationships. There are a great many of you that are living in very positive “twin flame” relationships where you are both able to live your lives filled with love and growth.

I am hoping to be able to channel a post or posts in the future that will better serve those of you who are already in your mutually supportive relationships. Even in very good relationships there are energy and communication exercises that you can do to make things even better.

But that is a future post. For now, here is the post about relationships that are very ‘different’ ~ but still need to be released.

With love,
Tamara

A Special Relationship that Serves to Open Your Heart Chakra

A lot of times when I do readings for people and they are asking about a relationship, they will tell me “I’ve never felt like this before, we must be soul mates”. Usually during these readings, the person that you are focusing on is no longer in your life and you are not letting them go. I am totally convinced that you will be able to find a psychic that will tell you, yes, you have had past lives together, and you are soul mates and that they will come back to you. The world is full of “psychics” that will tell you just what you want to hear.

A lot of the time when I say that you need to let the person go, you will say… “I just can’t, we must be meant to be together, I’VE NEVER FELT LIKE THIS BEFORE”. I am here to tell you that just because you feel a strong connection with someone does not mean that you must be soul mates or that you are meant to be together.

There are many reasons that we feel strong connections with others. It doesn’t always mean that they need to be a romantic partner in this lifetime.

The most common reason for these feelings is that the person that you are obsessed with has helped you to open up your heart chakra. I could count on one hand the number of readings I’ve done when matchings like this are meant to be and I’ve done a LOT of readings. If you are meant to be, chances are you are together and happy and are not calling me to ask why he or she has walked out of your life.

When your heart chakra opens up it can be a feeling like no other. Its amazing. It is warm and fuzzy, and something that most of us aren’t accustomed to once our childhood has ended.

In cases like this you simply need to realize that you likely DO know this person from the other side. You might meet up with them again after you both cross back over and go home. However, chances are, you had an agreement before you came here. The object of your affection agreed to come into your life for a while and be a wonderful part of your life and to help you open up your heart chakra. Once your heart chakra has been opened you can more freely allow someone in to share your life.

It is usually no more than that. Once they have assisted you in opening your heart chakra, their job in your life is done. It’s a wonderful gift they have given you. It doesn’t mean that you are meant to be with them romantically in this lifetime.

Most of you say things like “I am confused as to whether or not he/she likes me. When I call or email them, they are really nice and open but I don’t get a lot of indication that they want more”. They are nice and open because they are ’nice’ people, they probably do like you and don’t want to hurt you. Its usually ‘nice’ people that can assist you with your heart chakra. They aren’t usually the type of person that is going to hang up on you or ignore your emails. (although sometimes they do when you get too pushy). They know that it wouldn’t work for the two of you. Most of the time they do care for you on some level… they just don’t want to ‘be with you’, or they would be.

Take the gift of an open heart, receive it with grattitude, and find someone else with an open heart to share your life with.

Times are changing and our souls (higher selves) so badly want us to be happy. That is the reason why so many things seem to be falling apart. There are many relationships that exist in the old reality. The new reality that we are moving into is one of happiness, love, enlightenment and an enjoyment of life. When what surrounds us does not hold the higher vibrating energies of love it needs to be disowned before we are able to raise our vibration and live the life of the wonderful light beings that we are.

We cannot continue to live life in the old way. It simply won’t work. To try and do so will just create a hell on earth for us. The only way out is through. I am not saying that the process of clearing out the old won’t be uncomfortable, sometimes even painful. It can be very uncomfortable, and sad, and can really put us out of balance. The key is to realize that you can and will survive. Do not dwell on what was. Allow yourself to go through the steps of grieving (Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance). There is nothing wrong with staying in bed for a week. There is nothing wrong with crying your eyes out and screaming into a pillow. This can be a therapeutic part of the process.

You must however, somewhere, even if it is deep inside, continue to hold the belief that you will end up okay in the long run. Be patient with yourself. You don’t need to rush through the process. Treat yourself as you would treat a friend who is going through the same thing. (If it’s been months or years that these negative feelings have been going on, professional assistance may be required).

There are so many people on this planet that have been sad and unhappy for years with their domestic situation. They keep hoping and wishing that their relationship will get better. They are often physically sick, they cry often, feel out of balance a lot of the time. Just when they think things are getting better, the relationship falters again.

The reason behind this is that the relationship has outgrown its usefulness. Perhaps at one time the two of you had things to do together in this lifetime. Perhaps have children or learn certain things from each other. With some relationships, once that is done it is time to move on.

Do you want to be happy?

You say you want a certain person. Yet, you have been so unhappy in their presence. It is your own Soul that is requesting the growth. You are stunted in that relationship, it is no longer serving your highest and best good and you are no longer growing. You are not at your best while in it. It just keeps getting more and more uncomfortable.

Sometimes you realize this yourself and let go and sometimes you don’t let go, the other person does. This can be devastating. It is important to remember your own self-worth though. If someone has been treating you badly it can be hard to hold onto that self worth. Over time, self doubt has been creeping in until you feel you can no longer hold your own light. It feels as if it has been snuffed out. Why are you trying to hang onto someone that is treating you badly?

You go through your days wondering where your flame went. You yearn to have it back, but the mistake you are making is that you expect someone else to be the one to show it to you. The responsibility is yours. You need to acknowledge that the light is there, that it has always been there. It has just been muted because you have been looking at yourself through the eyes of someone who is not loving you the way they should be.

You mistakenly felt like the only light you had was via the other person. With the loss of them you feel as if there is no light left. That is not the truth. You have just allowed your light to fade for a time and it is now time to allow it to grow and illuminate your life.

Once you can recognize your own divineness, you will feel better. You may not feel amazing right away (or maybe you will), but you will feel good enough that you can get through today. Having the faith that you will be okay, that you can move on, that one day the pain won’t be there anymore.

Pray. A lot. Ask for help and support from Creator, and all your angels and your own personal teams of guides, teachers and angels.

Spend time with people who love and appreciate you for the human angel you are

As we come up to 11/11/11, those of you that are Spiritually ready for movement, but not yet willing to give things up on your own, are having things ripped away from you, and this is very uncomfortable indeed.

You cannot hang onto the past much longer. Our governments are in trouble (middle east is a good example), our financial systems are in a HUGE transition, our power sources, etc., the list goes on. There is not much that is not changing right now.

In the long run things will be better. Yes, there is a discomfort that comes with change, that is to be expected. However, the longer you try to hold onto the old, the more uncomfortable things need to get.

The list of things people are hanging onto is as endless as the global changes, relationships, friendships, jobs, houses, spouses, cities, animals, habits ~ you name it, you want to keep it: at all costs. Unfortunately, it is costing you dearly.

It is for this reason that I have my horse up for sale. Do I want to sell him? Not really, he’s a good friend, provides me a lot of enjoyment, and he is happy and secure where he is. I have been told from my peeps in no uncertain terms though that he needs to move on to another home. I don’t know exactly when, or where he will go, but I have put out the willingness to find him another home. I don’t want it to come down to crunch time and be forced to re-home him just anywhere, to a home where he might not be well taken care of, or worse yet, wind up as dog food. Is it hard? You bet. Does it sometimes make me cry? Yes. Will I feel a huge loss when he is gone? Most certainly.

BUT. And this is a big BUT. If I decided to not listen to what I know, to hang onto him for as long as possible, to work my darndest to make it work, what would be likely to happen? I would be forced into some sort of a situation, whether it be financial, health, having to change cities….something…. that would help me move on from him. I would rather avoid the heartbreaking discomfort, and just live with some sadness for a while until the next thing in my life presents itself.

So many of you are in the same boat. Some with animals, like me, but more of you with people or jobs. Just hanging on and hanging on. How uncomfortable does your life need to get before you let go?

Even Garth Brooks wrote a song about it. “Unanswered Prayers”. Whenever we let go of something, something else takes its place. EVERY TIME. Think back to other times in your life that you thought you just couldn’t live without something … you are reading this, therefore, you are still here. You did live though it. And more likely than not, you have had some good times in the meantime.

It is impossible for the old and new to co-exist. One needs to go. In order for your life to feel like it is flowing, and moving forward, you must let go. What is meant to stay with you will stay.

The seed of the new cannot take hold and grow if it is surrounded by the shell of the old.