One Step Forward Two Steps Back

I have a lot of you coming to me saying that this is how you feel.  Like you start to get somewhere and then all of a sudden you are propelled backwards and you feel worse off than you were before.

It doesn’t need to be that way.  What is it you are trying to manifest for yourself?  Are you able to let go when you start your forward movement or do you move forward while trying to hang on to old stuff?  The ‘stuff’ can be ways of thinking or being, or fears or actual physical things or people.

Do you go with the flow when things start to move forward?  Or do you start trying to dictate exactly what it is going to look like?  Are you able to redirect yourself when something goes a little bit sideways or do you fight it tooth and nail and end up going backwards (instead of just sideways a little?).

Do you find that when things start to move forward you get a little bit nervous and then stop moving?

When things go forward do you allow yourself to practice gratitude about what is moving?  Or do you complain about what hasn’t yet come into form?  Do you always seem to find something to complain about even when things are going well?

I’m not writing this to place ‘blame’, or to make you feel lousy when you feel as if you move backwards.  I am writing this to bring your attention to why things work the way they do for you.  Mostly because I hear so often that when things start to get good, they then get worse than they were before.

If you can learn to celebrate the slightest movement forward, you will find that you are less likely to slide backwards.  Going backwards is a practiced vibration.  If you believe in “Murphy’s Law”, you will create Murphy’s Law moments occurring in your life.

If you are always allowing drama into your life and are constantly celebrating your ability to ‘overcome adversity’ you will in essence create more adversity to overcome.

What you focus on and what you talk about is what you will create more of.  So when a little thing goes well, if you talk about that and focus on that, then more will go well for you.  If you rant and rave and constantly talk about what is good in your life and really feel it and really appreciate it, you will get more of that!!
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Do NOT mistake Wishful Thinking for Manifesting

A lot of you also think that if you wish for a specific thing hard enough you will get it.  Sometimes it works that way, but when there is something you want it is generally a feeling that you are wanting.

Lets say you want to move into a specific house.  What you really want though is the feelings that you will have if you get that house.  You may see things moving in a positive direction for you moving.  You may even find that events and circumstances seem to be keeping you away from that particular house.  This could feel like you are moving forward, but then when that particular house isn’t available you feel as if you’ve gone two steps back.  What if you were to go with the flow and be grateful for where you are at and how far you have come.  You would find that although you might be at a bit of a standstill for a while (things going sideways on moving into that specific house at this specific time), if you were to go with the flow and keep your vibration high, you would wind up in the perfect spot for you whether it was that house or a better one (based on your high vibration).

This example would work the same for a job or in other circumstances, including finances, as well.  Like if you started to be saving up money and paying down debt and are working to keep your vibration high and attract good things to yourself.  Then your car breaks down and you wind up with either part of your savings gone or your debt back up.  If you keep your vibration high and go to a place of gratitude for having the money to fix your car, you will get more to be grateful for.  If you go to thoughts and a lower vibration of being angry or feeling like you are going backwards, you will create more circumstances that make you feel as if you are moving backwards.

Hoping and wishing that things will be different won’t work without the proper vibration on your part.  Making promises, even to yourself, that you are in no position to keep (yet) won’t make things ‘magically’ happen.  As a matter of fact, they can keep things away from you because the stress of knowing you don’t have it yet can actually create a vibration within you that will keep it away from you.

Your Expectations of Other People can also Create a Feeling of Moving Backwards

You cannot control other people or things.  If your are moving forward while having expectations from other people and they do not do what you want them to do when you want them to do it, it can feel like you are moving backwards as well.

In this case, you aren’t really moving backwards, your forward movement just stopped because you were wishing that someone else would do something and they didn’t do it.

If you can train yourself to know that you create 100% of your life, then you will be able to train yourself to keep your vibration high and roll with things that don’t look exactly like you thought they would.  You will be more able to keep moving forward without the feelings of being flung backwards.  You will begin to see setbacks as opportunities for re-direction rather than a “negative thing that keeps happening to me”.  This takes a lot of practice (and awareness) and it isn’t always easy, but it does make for a more comfortable, flowing life.

Here is a great audio from Abraham that expands on this and will help you to raise your vibration.

Abraham Hicks, how to leave fear out of your life and start attracting

(This audio in this ends around the 11:24 mark even though the video continues on after that).




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Who or What Do You Think is Controlling Your Life?

You have ultimate control over your own life you know.  You don’t really have to be controlled by anything or anyone outside of yourself.

I know that a lot of you reading this will have a list of 10 or more things that are external to yourself that you may say have some control over your life.  But it simply isn’t true.

Do you wish your life was different?  What is it you want?  Love, happiness, money, a career, a business, better health, time, freedom?  You can have it ~ really.

You may need to adjust the way you are speaking to yourself but you can have it.  Everything in your life starts with a thought.  The words you use in your internal dialogue is how you are thinking.

Who told you you can’t have what you want?  Was it your parents, your teachers, your bosses, society, the news?

Think about why you believe you can’t have it.  Is it even true?  Who said it?  Why did they say it?  When you look at them what does their life look like?  Are they happy?

You are living your life.  No one else is.

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You may need to do different things to get different results, but you are living your life.  When all the distractions and other people are not around, who are you left with?

Who decides what you are going to do with your time?  Who decides what distractions you are going to let get in your way?  Who decides how you are going to feel?

You are responsible for the choices you make.  If your life doesn’t look the way you want it to, take a good look at the decisions and choices you are making in any given moment.

Practice some awareness of your recurring thoughts; are they helping you or hindering you?

Live in the present moment; are you doing what you want to be doing in that moment?

If you are doing and thinking things that are the opposite of what you want to be doing and thinking, you may need to ask yourself what you are afraid of.

What is stopping you?  Why are you so afraid to live the life you want to live?

Make some decisions.  Think of what you are afraid to do, and then decide to do it.  Once you decide to do it, then the actual doing of it will be easier.

Don’t worry about judgements from others.  Don’t live a life full of regrets for things you did not do.  Make the hard decisions, then take action on them.  Don’t worry about what other people think.  It doesn’t matter.  What matters is what you think and how you feel.

Making decisions and taking action will leave you so exhilarated that you won’t have time to worry about what anyone else is thinking anyway.  You will be living the life you want, you will be happy.

You have one life, and you are the one living it, live it wisely.




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Energy Alert ~ October 6, 2015

I have to share this with you. There is a lot of pushy energy right now. It feels a little bit strange. After the intensity of September, October has been a little bit more calm, yet a lot of people are feeling like certain aspects of their life are an emergency.

All I can say to that is calm down. We’ve done a lot of clearing, and things are OKAY.

It is okay if you need to take it a little bit easy. It is okay if you feel like working hard. It is okay if you have a plan in your head but things haven’t completely come together yet. It is okay if you have to wait.

Don’t get yourself all riled up thinking that this has to happen, and it has to happen NOW!!!

It will happen in its own good time. Trying to rush it will just drive you bonkers. And it will drive the people around you bonkers as well ~ your emergency isn’t always the emergency of everyone else in your life.

Know that things are continuing to shift and flow and that you will need to be patient with these shifts. If you aren’t you will just feel more and more uncomfortable. YOU CAN’T PUSH A RIVER.

Go with the flow.

There’s a lot of energy swirling around right now, ground yourself, don’t get caught up in the drama of other people.  Do your energy work, and stay in your own energy.

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Watch your self-talk, it can help you or hurt you

You really need to watch how you are talking to yourself and what that little voice is saying to you as well right now.

If you are wondering what is wrong, and are looking at things that might be wrong, YOU WILL FIND THEM.  And you will find more and more the more you look.  We are in times of extremely powerful manifestations. Don’t keep manifesting more drama for yourself. I swear with some folks its like things have calmed down, and its so uncomfortable that its calmer they are actually looking for drama.  STOP IT!  Just because something hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it won’t happen. And NO, it’s NOT the end of the world.

Your self talk needs to be more gentle right now. Know that change is progressing in your life. Know that you need to go with the flow. If you look at where you are right this minute, you will realize you really are okay.

If this makes you uncomfortable then you more than ever need to learn to live in your moment and allow things to unfold. Stop pushing, stop striving, just go with the flow. Let yourself feel okay with how things are. That way, when things do start to move forward again, it will be from a positive place, not a place of urgency, or drama, or angst.



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You Have Freedom Right in this Moment

Think about that.  Right this second, as you are reading these words ~ you have freedom.  Your circumstances don’t matter so much as your thoughts matter.  Freedom does not come later…it is now.

What are you thinking about.  Are you thinking about NOW, about this moment, or are you thinking about tomorrow, or yesterday?

Right this minute, as you read these words, just close your eyes and bring your thoughts to now.  You are breathing, that is a certainty.  Your body is taking care of that for you.  You have eyes to see, or you wouldn’t be reading these words.  You have some sort of an electrical screen in front of you, or you would not be reading these words.

you are free

Right this minute you are free.  Free to think and feel whatever you choose to think and feel.  You can think thoughts of freedom, or you can think thoughts of stuckness ~ you are not stuck though.  You are free.

What you think of is what creates your life, your next moments.  Which thoughts do you choose?

Happy thoughts of this moment?  Or discordant thoughts of what might be or what came before that cause you discomfort.

Choose to be free.  Choose to think about now, about right this moment, and how free you are.



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Its A Good Day to Have a Good Day

Every day is a good day to have a good day.  I just wanted this to be forefront on your mind this Sunday morning.

So often we focus on tomorrow, or yesterday, or some imagined crisis that might be coming up in the future.

Everything that happens in your life happens in one moment.  Even if its something you planned ahead of time (a vacation, a date, buying a house, attending an appointment…), it all happens in one moment.

That moment is always NOW.  No matter how much you think about tomorrow being Monday, and maybe focus on the stress that Monday will bring you ~ at this moment, it is Sunday…morning.  Tomorrow isn’t here yet.

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Even if you have something to do today that isn’t your favourite thing to do or that might be uncomfortable, you will only be doing it in the moment.  For example, if you have a phone call to make that you are dreading, if you just make the call and get it over with early in the day, then the rest of your day is free ~ to have a good day.  If you put it off until dinnertime, you will be thinking about it all day, you will have the discomfort of the call hours from now, but you will also have the stress of thinking about the call for hours.

Just stay in your moment today, enjoy it.  Life is Good and …

Today is A Good Day to Have a Good Day!



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How to Bend Time

As humans on earth, we have had the ability and opportunity to be able to bend time for quite a few years now.  Most humans have no idea that they can do this even though most have experienced it in some form over their lifetimes.

Sometimes when you are busy and lost in your moment, time seems to fly by.  Other times, it seems as if the whole world is dragging along and the day will never be over (or come).  This year has gone really quickly for all of us.  Even my son’s grade 9 friend said to me, “I can’t believe school is over, its like we didn’t even have a whole year”.

One of the reasons for this is because there is no such thing as time.  It is a man-made phenomenon and is a way for us, in our humanness, to measure one point with another.  Past, present and future are all happening NOW.  All of your other lives; including what you call your ‘past lives’ are happening NOW ~ just in a different dimension from the one you have your focus on.

Your loved ones on the other side are both ‘there’ and ‘here’.  They are simply in another dimension having a different experience.  They haven’t really gone anywhere, you just can’t see them from the dimension you are choosing to experience right now.

time does not exist

So, how can you bend time?

This ability is NOT just for certain people, or enlightened people, or people that have “gifts” like mine.  I can perceive things in a different way than most people, but that doesn’t mean that not everyone can do this.

1.  You need to come to the realization that there is no time except as you choose to experience it. You may not be able to feel it yet, but that’s not important, you just need to accept it as truth.

2.  You need to know exactly why you want to bend time.  This is important.  I will give you an example from a discussion I had with a friend yesterday.  She wants to take next Tuesday off work.  Her boss has told her she needs to do X amount of work before taking the day.  She feels like she doesn’t have enough time to do that much work without 7 hours of overtime on Sunday.  Her “why” of bending time is to achieve getting X amount of work done by Tuesday without taking Sunday family time away from her kids.

3.  Once you know the why, you need to focus on the end game and only the end game.  In the case of my friend, she has 4 contracts to complete.  What she needs to do is tell herself “4 contracts by Monday”.  And then stop thinking about itThat is the hardest part by far for any human on this planet.

4.  Now, in this case she needs to sit down and start working.  She doesn’t need to think about anything except the task at hand.  The specific paragraph (or sentence or word), of the contract she is working on right this minute.  One paragraph leads to the next.

5.  You absolutely must stay in your present moment.  Just NOW.  If you mind wanders, bring it back to NOW.

Remember, time only exists because you think it does.  It has only the value that YOU put on it.  If you stay focused in your now moment then time is completely irrelevant.

If you focus on ‘I don’t have time’, then that is what you are creating, ‘not enough time’.

I’m not kidding, its that easy.

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The hardest part of the process of bending time

The hardest part of the whole process of bending time is allowing yourself to experience it.  Most of you won’t even be able to attempt this because most of you will refuse to focus on your current space and on what you are doing in that space.  You will convince yourself this won’t work before you try it.  Your subconscious mind and/or your logical, ego brain will scream “This is not possible!”

Notice that in the paragraph above I wrote “focus on your current space” and NOT “focus on your present moment”.  I did that on purpose, because there is no time so there is no moment.

I would absolutely love for you to leave a comment if you try this.  It would be amazing to hear some stories from those of you that decided to try it and what happened.  Other’s that read this will benefit greatly from your stories as well!

Only Live till Bedtime

I know that is a funny title for this post, but I do have a point with it.  Most of you are so stressed out, and so busy and so ungrounded that your anxiety levels have gone through the roof.  Or maybe its gone beyond that and you don’t have the energy to feel so anxious anymore, you just feel sick or shaky or burnt out.

It is really important to live in your moment.  It is not your moments that stress you out, its your perceptions of the future or the past that get you going.  There is nothing at all you can do about what has already happened in your life.  It is gone.

The astrological influences of the week are very much supportive of forgiveness.  Take some time this weekend to forgive yourself and others.  I myself have been writing out all of the things in my past that I forgive myself for (white paper, blue pen ~ there is something about the energy of writing vs. typing).  It can be tricky but it is a much needed activity for all of us at this time.  You cannot move forward in your life if you are full of regrets or anger or ‘should have’s’, or ‘could have’s’.  What is, is.  You only have now.

Enjoy your Nows

As much as you need to move on from the past, you also must not over-worry about the future.  This doesn’t mean you don’t do some planning for the future; nor does it mean you be irresponsible in your present.

You can save up for things you want, (including retirement), you can buy insurance, you can plant seeds today that will grow tomorrow, you can be thoughtful about what you would like to do for vacation this year or next.  It is just very important that you do not worry about it.  Worrying about what might happen tomorrow just steals your enjoyment of today.

Hospitals and doctors offices are FULL of people who are physically ill because of anxiety.  Anxiety is brought about by worrying about things that you can do nothing about, or by trying to do everything at once, or worrying about not ‘getting it done’, or ‘having enough’, or ‘what if’ this or ‘what if’ that.

You cannot create the life you want by living in anxiety and fear of your future or resentments from the past.  It doesn’t feel good, and Law of Attraction (not to mention your habitual ways of thinking) will just bring you more opportunities to be anxiety ridden.  I know this from personal experience.

It feels much better if you can live in your moment as much as possible.  If you “Only Live till Bedtime”, then you are more present.  Be loving, just until bedtime, be happy, just until you go to sleep tonight, be grateful, be forgiving, be aware, be conscientious, be courteous, be helpful.  All, just until you go to sleep tonight.

Tomorrow, you can ground your energy and do it all over again ~ just until bedtime though.

Give this a try.  If it feels right to you, add the Affirmation “Just until bedtime” to your list of things to say to yourself.  You will feel better for it.

With much love and appreciation,




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Energy Alert May 27, 2015

Just have to do an energy alert today because we have crazy energy this week.  You may feel very ungrounded, out of control, or like things are spinning so fast you don’t even know where to go.

I myself, have many projects on the go and it feels like none of them are going anywhere.  Just when I think I have a handle on one thing 10 other things come up that appear to need my attention.  I am doing a whole bunch of things at once, and still feel like very little is getting done.  Every time I start one thing; something happens and I am spun off in another (completely opposite) direction.

energy alert may 27 2015


Don’t worry about it, things will get back to normal (probably after the full moon next Tuesday).  You are likely feeling pretty overwhelmed at the moment.  Do what you can to ground your energy and relax.  There is very little that you will do, or try to make happen that will be 100% in the flow.

You may be talking, and find that you misuse words, or can’t find the word at all, or make words up, or just ramble on and say nothing.  You aren’t ‘losing it’, you are just being thrown about by this energy we are in the middle of.

You may need to spend some time prioritizing.  We all have things we MUST do but for this week, make that list as short as you possibly can, and only do what is required of you.  This energy just isn’t supportive of getting a lot (of useful work) done.

With relationships of all kinds, you may notice shifts.  Stay in your own energy, don’t judge and just go with the flow.  Things will present to you, or become apparent to you of where your energy is going that it doesn’t need to go in relationships.  Yes, we need to be kind, yes we need to be thoughtful, no we do not need to make other people’s stuff our own.  Compassion; yes.  Codependency; no.  If you are an empath, PROTECT/BLOCK your energy.  That’s it.  There is no requirement that you take on other people’s crap.

You have enough of your own stuff going on, you do not want to even imagine taking on everyone else’s stuff in this energy.  Your own energy is like riding in a bumper car; forward, backward, in circles, people and things (walls) bumping you in all directions; DO NOT ride in other people’s bumper cars as well as your own.  You will feel like you are having a nervous break down.

Just like with real bumper cars.  If you get mad when something bumps you and sends you off track, or if your car won’t drive straight, or if you get turned around, or can’t drive fast enough, you get off the ride being rather angry.  If you stay in your own car and relax, you might just be able to have some fun and laugh your way through the week.

So what to do with this wild energy ?

  • Ground your energy.
  • Breathe deeply.
  • Write a list of only things you MUST do; AND LEAVE THE REST UNTIL LATER (later might be when inspiration hits; it might be next week, it doesn’t really matter, just take it off your list for now).  Its not that you won’t get anything done, more like you won’t get everything done.
  • Be gentle with yourself (rest if you need it, eat well, relax, do yoga, meditate)
  • Be gentle with others.  Don’t try and resolve big issues with other people this week.  Most everyone is going through this; you won’t sound rational if you try to talk through this with anyone.
  • Drive carefully.
  • Don’t make any huge decisions/purchases etc.
  • Release as much as you can from your past; or from old belief systems etc.

The main thing is to honor yourself.  The energy is a little bit like a tornado and trying to be too rigid and hard on yourself or others during the next week or so will be like trying to dust your furniture in  a dust storm in the middle of the desert.

This is not to say that you cannot get anything done; it is more like ‘expect the unexpected’ and don’t put too much on your plate.  You can still have some forward movement, but more like baby steps, not big leaps.

Hope you find this helpful,





You will always have challenges

Life can be challenging at times.  Sometimes your challenges come from something that is outside of yourself and sometimes it comes from within.

The thing is, you will always have them.  If you don’t you will suffer boredom and maybe even depression.  You need challenge.

When something happens that is outside of your control it is challenging.  You cannot control other people or things, and sometimes it can be painful to deal with challenges that have been bestowed upon us by others’.  Thing is, you will get through it.  You need to believe in yourself and your higher power and allow yourself to see a different future for yourself.

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Nothing ever stays the same forever.  We are either growing or dying and without change we would wither.  Good things evolve, and bad things evolve.  We can help or hinder this process with our thoughts and the energy we choose to put out into the world around us.  In any given moment, we have a choice on where to project our thoughts.  Sometimes it can be more difficult to redirect our thoughts, but it is never impossible.

Even if there are no external challenges in your life, you will create some.  That is the nature of being in human form.  You came here to experience life and you will have experiences.  If you have no challenges you will get bored and you will need to do something.  Even if you are in a healthy, happy relationship, and extremely healthy and wealthy, your Soul will call you to embrace a change or a challenge.  Look at Richard Branson, I don’t even know how many companies he has started, but it seems like he’s always got his hand in something new.  This is because he needs a challenge; it is apparent he is not doing it because he needs more money.

My life is pretty good; sometimes it even gets boring.  I don’t have a job I have to drive to, so no commute time; if I want time off I take it; if I feel like sitting in the sun in my yard, I work (or relax) outside.  I have some minor health challenges, and sometimes I have minor financial challenges; but really because of the way I perceive them, they are hardly ‘challenging’ at all.  They are simply a part of life.  If something comes up and it doesn’t feel good, I do what I can to change it

That is why I chose to blog every day.  This is day 143.  Writing something for you every day is challenging.  I do a lot of my own technical work as well, that is challenging.  These are challenges I set up for myself so my life would not be boring.  I have had boring in my life and its no fun either.

So if you have challenges in your life that you need to get through, just focus on one day at a time and keep moving.  If you keep moving forward, pretty soon that particular challenge will be behind you.  Then you can get on to the next one.  Most things take some time.

If you learn how to use energy to your advantage and if you straighten out your vibration and live in your now, you will be manifesting the life you desire in no time.  And it will still be challenging!




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What Makes You Happy?

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So a friend of mine asked the question on Facebook, “What Makes You Happy”.  There were a TON of responses.  Here are some of them.  Not necessarily verbatim, but the gist of what people said:

  • I start by choosing to be happy and count my blessings
  • Taking a risk (and winding up happy)
  • I cannot find my true happiness outside my family
  • My happiness has been fleeting and did not last, vitamins helped with depression
  • Going to the movies
  • Being self-sufficient
  • Happiness is not something I find, it is something I strive to be

There were quite a few comments of people that were having a hard time finding happiness.  Happiness truly does come from within.  Sometimes we can get so focused on the stresses of life that we actually forget that it is okay to be happy.  We may (or may not), be surrounded by people who are unhappy and it brings our attention to all that is wrong in our world.

Just look at children.  Children know how to be happy.  All they need is some love and attention.  It is unfortunate that so many people are teaching their children that life is too stressful to be happy.  Children should be teaching US how to be happy and in our moment, but what I see is parents that are so stressed out and living in a different time; past, or future, that they cannot be present with their kids.  That just makes more stressed out adults in the future.  If you want to see a stressed out child, just look at a stressed out adult that cannot be present in the moment with their child.  When a child needs attention, and an adult is only giving them a half-assed attempt at attention, the child will scream and kick up a fuss.  Then the adult thinks it is the child that is causing stress.  That’s not the case, it is the adults lack of undivided attention in the moment that is stressing out the child.  Children can be wonderful mirrors to your life.  If you are blessed enough to have a child in your life try just spending time with them, colouring, reading, or playing with blocks, or going for a walk and looking through their eyes.  If you don’t have a child in your life, just go to the park and watch the children ~ you can learn a lot.

Truly, happiness comes from moments not lifestyle.  You have a choice in each and every moment whether to be appreciating a moment, or focusing elsewhere.  You can even find happiness in doing the dishes if you want to.  You could focus on your ‘messy, ungrateful family’, or you can focus on the fact that you can lose yourself in the moment of the dishes.  Feeling the warm water on your hands, the squeaky cleanness of plates, how your kitchen looks now that the dishes aren’t on the counter anymore.  If you go into your moment and keep your thoughts present, you will be able to find you have many more happy moments.  Happy moments make for a happy life.

Gratitude 2

This is something I have personally been working on myself as well.  Staying in a constant state of appreciation ~ it brings a lot of happiness.  I don’t have everything I want in my life, I never will because as I get what I want, I expand my consciousness and want more (or different).  Just know that when it comes right down to it, it doesn’t matter what external things you want, if you are not happy, none of it will matter.  Without happiness and appreciation nothing external will make you happy anyway.

Don’t let anyone else tell you how to be happy.  Just BE.  Be in your moment, appreciate, and see and experience just how happy you can be. If your thoughts wander to another place, or another time that is uncomfortable, just bring yourself right back into your present moment and find something that is here and now to focus on and appreciate.