Tamara Hawk – Psychic, Medium

Posts Tagged ‘energy’

The hardest part of my job is when I see the need for someone to move on from something and they don’t want to. This is happening to a great extent with relationships right now.

Times are changing and our souls (higher selves) so badly want us to be happy. That is the reason why so many things seem to be falling apart. There are many relationships that exist in the old reality. The new reality that we are moving into is one of happiness, love, enlightenment and an enjoyment of life. When what surrounds us does not hold the higher vibrating energies of love it needs to be disowned before we are able to raise our vibration and live the life of the wonderful light beings that we are.

We cannot continue to live life in the old way. It simply won’t work. To try and do so will just create a hell on earth for us. The only way out is through. I am not saying that the process of clearing out the old won’t be uncomfortable, sometimes even painful. It can be very uncomfortable, and sad, and can really put us out of balance. The key is to realize that you can and will survive. Do not dwell on what was. Allow yourself to go through the steps of grieving (Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance). There is nothing wrong with staying in bed for a week. There is nothing wrong with crying your eyes out and screaming into a pillow. This can be a therapeutic part of the process.

You must however, somewhere, even if it is deep inside, continue to hold the belief that you will end up okay in the long run. Be patient with yourself. You don’t need to rush through the process. Treat yourself as you would treat a friend who is going through the same thing. (If it’s been months or years that these negative feelings have been going on, professional assistance may be required).

There are so many people on this planet that have been sad and unhappy for years with their domestic situation. They keep hoping and wishing that their relationship will get better. They are often physically sick, they cry often, feel out of balance a lot of the time. Just when they think things are getting better, the relationship falters again.

The reason behind this is that the relationship has outgrown its usefulness. Perhaps at one time the two of you had things to do together in this lifetime. Perhaps have children or learn certain things from each other. With some relationships, once that is done it is time to move on.

Do you want to be happy?

You say you want a certain person. Yet, you have been so unhappy in their presence. It is your own Soul that is requesting the growth. You are stunted in that relationship, it is no longer serving your highest and best good and you are no longer growing. You are not at your best while in it. It just keeps getting more and more uncomfortable.

Sometimes you realize this yourself and let go and sometimes you don’t let go, the other person does. This can be devastating. It is important to remember your own self-worth though. If someone has been treating you badly it can be hard to hold onto that self worth. Over time, self doubt has been creeping in until you feel you can no longer hold your own light. It feels as if it has been snuffed out. Why are you trying to hang onto someone that is treating you badly?

You go through your days wondering where your flame went. You yearn to have it back, but the mistake you are making is that you expect someone else to be the one to show it to you. The responsibility is yours. You need to acknowledge that the light is there, that it has always been there. It has just been muted because you have been looking at yourself through the eyes of someone who is not loving you the way they should be.

You mistakenly felt like the only light you had was via the other person. With the loss of them you feel as if there is no light left. That is not the truth. You have just allowed your light to fade for a time and it is now time to allow it to grow and illuminate your life.

Once you can recognize your own divineness, you will feel better. You may not feel amazing right away (or maybe you will), but you will feel good enough that you can get through today. Having the faith that you will be okay, that you can move on, that one day the pain won’t be there anymore.

Pray. A lot. Ask for help and support from Creator, and all your angels and your own personal teams of guides, teachers and angels.

Spend time with people who love and appreciate you for the human angel you are

I have a couple of ladies that come to visit me every couple of weeks. The one that has been coming the longest is Judy and she is a very sweet woman. We usually end up talking for about 5 or 10 minutes and they usually leave me a copy of the Watchtower or Awake. They are Jehovah’s Witnesses and they are doing what they can to help spread their word.

Now I know a lot of people don’t like the Jehovah’s Witnesses coming to their door and they make fun of them or get mad at them. I don’t agree with everything thing they say, and its a shame that they are so fearful, but really, they are just like me and you and they are doing what they know.

We actually have some very good conversations. For the past few months they had been talking about Armageddon – a lot. I told them that each and every day is Armageddon for someone, somewhere.

Its funny, normally when they come now, I talk much more than they do. I do not preach, but they will say something and I cannot help but respond with what I know.

I talk to them a lot about spreading love not fear. I was talking of the fact that what we put out there can snowball. Last time they were here, I told them that with some of the crises going on in the world, we had an opportunity to spread love, and acknowledge all the positive loving people that are on the planet right now. It was apparent that that had not occured to them until I said it. That was not where their focus was.

I talked about what difference each of us could make. When we come into contact with someone, we can chose to interact with love or with fear/anger. Just one loving interaction with one person can change our energy for the whole day. Why don’t we chose to be the one that can assist someone to feel better? It is so easy. Say thank you to someone. Be polite when in a store, don’t rush so much and don’t be so self absorbed that you think other people’s time isn’t as important as yours. Speeding and tailgaiting while on the road can cause angst for whoever it is you just cut off. Why not just be a bit more patient, take 30 seconds more to get to where you need to go and spread that type of energy, instead of the fear energy we feel when you are driving agressively around us?

We have all had experiences where we’ve driven somewhere and by the time we got to our destination we are basket cases because of how those in other cars were acting. DON’T BE THAT PERSON IN THE OTHER CAR!!!! You will be less frazzled and the rest of us on the road will appreciate it.

But I digress. Judy left me a couple of articles to read, which I probably will if I have time. She said “Oh, you probably don’t watch the news then, I don’t”. I said quite the contrary. I told her that I did watch the news. How else could I know where my prayers are needed most? I told her that when I watch the news, I do not look at the screen with thoughts of “oh no, what a mess the world is”. I look at it and send loving and healing energy wherever it is needed. When I see how many people are trying to help I can visibly see the love that is being projected, that is where I put my focus.

I am only one person, sending one set of prayers to many different areas of the planet. However, I believe it does make a difference.

Just before Judy walked away today, I put my hand on her shoulder, and I said. Just remember, when you are going to people’s doors today, focus on the love of what is in the world, not the fear of what is out there. I hope she thinks on it and makes that decision. I know that she no longer mentions anything to me about “Armageddon or “God’s Anger”, as a matter of fact, today the scripture she shared with me talked all about God’s love, and the loving people on earth. Maybe she’s getting it…..Love is what its all about.

If you have never tried to contact me before, please do not be put off by that title. It doesn’t always take me a long time to reply to e-mails. Occasionally, I even reply to them within minutes of receiving them, that is, if I happen to be sitting at my computer.

If it takes me a while to get back to you, please do not take it personally. I do everything I can not to get your ‘stuff’ when I get your e-mail so it is very very rare, when I get an email and think – ‘that person has weird/bizarre/negative energy, I better not engage their energy’. As a matter of fact that has happened probably a total of about 3 times in my life. If you take into account that I get hundreds (maybe thousands, I’ve never really counted them all) of e-mails a year, if I haven’t got back to you in a timely manner it likely has more to do with me than it does to do with you.

I am forever talking about us creating our own reality.

Here is the reality I have tried (and mostly succeeded), in creating.

The list could go on and on and on.

The way I have set things up for myself is simple. If I am too tired to sit at my computer, or to reply to an email or to do a quality reading, I won’t do it. Its pretty easy and straightforward.

Some people may think that this means I do not care about you. That couldn’t be farther from the truth actually, I do care. I have just chosen to care about myself as much as I care about you. That is a hard one for a lot of people to get their mind around. Self care. Wow, aren’t we supposed to put others before ourselves?

Yes and no. I put my son and his needs before my own (only to the extent that me being his mother requires though). If he wants me to help him clean his room or do his laundry (hardly life threatening), and I want to go to the barn and ride my horse – my needs come first. If he wants me to fix his dinner because he just played soccer for four hours and I’m sitting and reading a book, I would likely put his need for dinner before my need to relax. It is all about priorities.

Here I am almost getting off-topic again. I’ve always got so much to say, it is sometimes hard for me to just “get to the point” (something my wonderful husband can certainly relate to I’m sure).

Back to replying to e-mails and such. Two years ago I was in really rough shape. I could not do more than one thing a day, usually in the morning. Which meant, if I did readings in the morning, I could not vacuum the house (as a matter of fact, I usually didn’t even have the energy to fix myself lunch). If I went to the barn to ride, I would do so and come home and sleep. If I had to go out in the evening, I did nothing all day and then had a nap that afternoon just so I had enough energy to leave the house. I weighed 30 pounds more than I do now, I was pale, had black circles under my eyes all the time, was impatient with my family, and felt horrible almost every day. I ended up taking about 8 months off from doing any readings at all.

I took some time for me and got myself healthier. I worked with my naturopath, my doctor, my family, and my guides. I got some rest, I meditated a lot. I actually took some time out for myself.

This leads me to here. For the most part I feel good on any given day. As I wrote above, I have the reality that I have worked for years to create. Sometimes the creation process felt hard, sometimes it felt easy. Most of the time whether it was easy or difficult was just the way I was perceiving it at the time.

The simple reason for me occasionally taking my time to get back to you is that I am caring for myself too. I don’t have an assistant that can get back to you. I have tried auto-responders but that didn’t work for me. More often than not I do not know how I will be feeling, or what I will feel like doing three weeks from now, so I don’t like to book that far in advance.

When I have a day or a few days where I am doing a lot of readings it tires me out. Plain and simple. I used to think that if I was so good at creating my reality and if I was so practiced at energy work I should be able to simply connect to Source Energy and voila, I’d be fine.

Fact is, they tire me out. Sometimes I become a bit of a hermit for a few days (or longer). Don’t talk to anyone on the phone, don’t go out of the house. Just sit and flop and rest. Can’t even get my mind and energy around writing or reading or hanging with my family or riding my horse. I just flop, zone out and regenerate.

I don’t mind doing this sometimes. One of the reasons I came here on this trip to Earth was to do my readings. I want to help people, I like my work. I have just made a concious decision that I cannot do this every week of my life. In the past few months I actually felt like I had “got a life”. Its a really nice feeling, and I would like to keep it. Had I kept doing what I was doing a couple of years ago I would likely either be in a hospital or a loony bin, or just sitting on the couch doing nothing, weighing 600 pounds. The years I have left to share messages would be gone. At the rate things are going now, I will likely be writing and sharing and educating for many years to come. I like that reality a lot better than martyrdom and thinking that I always have to put others first, even to the detriment of myself.

Everything is energy. What is it that you creating with your energy?

Whatever our intentions are is the energy we will create for ourselves, and the energy that we will attract to ourselves.

This is backed up by science, Quantum Physics to be exact, but I won’t get into that part of things here.

Why practice awareness?

Because you cannot change what you do not know or acknowledge. As you practice awareness from week to week, you start to see where your thinking might not be in line with what it is you want to accomplish.
This is in direct relationship to the energy behind things. If you are unaware of your thoughts or your surroundings then you are unaware of the energy you are putting out, and therefore; unaware of the energy you are bringing into your life.

Back to science here, but we really do get back the energy that we put out. Awareness of this energy is very important. If you are not aware of what you are doing, thinking, saying, then you are on autopilot and allowing life to just lead you along. There is a difference between “going with the flow” and not taking responsibility for what you are creating.

Your thoughts and actions play a big part in where you will end up. Being aware of things helps with the process of creating the life that you want.

Judgement and Perception Go Hand in Hand

Why practice Non-Judgement?

When we judge things, we immediately stop the flow of energy. Try to see things just as they are. Not as good or bad. If something happens it just “is” – there’s no need to define it.

How we perceive our circumstances dictates how we handle things and the type of energy we create in our day to day lives.

If something happens and we perceive it as “bad”, then we immediately have a “bad” experience or reaction. We create negative energy. Remember, when you do this, what you put out there is what you will get in return “energetically speaking”.

What if what is happening is not “bad” but is necessary for your growth, and to help you move on and become. Without movement, there can be no growth. Think about that. What if, on a soul level, (and a mind level), you are wanting different circumstances in your life. What if the Universe decides to support this decision? What if you are trying to hang onto old ways? The more you perceive the movement as a negative, the more you will experience it as negativity. The more negative energy you will yourself create.

This is why people often experience “opposites” showing up when they try to manifest something. It’s not really the “opposite”, that’s just the way you are perceiving it. If you perceive it as growth and movement instead of as lack and limitation, you are on your way to making the life you want.

This is a follow-up to my last post about Control, in which I wrote that we do have control over our own lives.

Something we do not ever have control over is someone else. A lot of times you may find yourself wondering why you are in a certain situation, thinking that “if I have control over my life, why are things turning out this way?”

Take a close look at what is going on and see if what you are going through is really a personal thing for or with you, or if it is related to someone or something else. What actions are you taking to get what you say you want? If you aren’t taking any actions, the universe and your higher self will take over to get you to where you would like to be. This might lead to a feeling of having no control, when really you do.

Let’s say you are trying very hard to manifest a good relationship. Well, these types of things take two. So, if your mind has chosen someone who cannot give you what you want, you need to change your mind: “Why am I not getting what I want if I have control?” Maybe you are. Maybe the only way to have the relationship you are dreaming of is to let go of the one you are in. You cannot control other people.

It often works like this for career too. If we want something else, but are really comfortable where we are, the chances of us making a change are pretty slim. Which means, the chances of us making changes in order to manifest our dreams are slim. Sometimes we think about what we want our career to look like without taking any action. That is when things can get uncomfortable, and we finally make a move.

This applies even in this “global recession”. We don’t have control over the ‘global’ part, but we have control over our own part. If it is affecting you, what have you changed? Have you adjusted yourself accordingly? You cannot necessarily make a job or money appear out of thin air, but you can create a job and money. It will take some work and (sometimes), a different way of thinking about things. You most certainly can take control and do things differently, expand your awareness and allow other experiences into your life.

Only you can answer these questions for yourself. But whenever you feel blocked and out of control of your life, wondering if this is ‘just how it is’, or ‘maybe I need to be learning something’ or whatever the thought is: take a close look and see exactly what it is that you would like to manifest differently in your life.

Take stock of what it is that you want. Where do you see yourself headed? What is it that you are trying to control? Is there something that you want in your life but it is not appearing? What changes do you need to make, consciously, before the new can show itself to you? Where are you holding back on making changes? Where can you make some moves and do things differently. These are all areas that you need to look at before you will realize how much control you really do have.