Whatever our intentions are is the energy we will create for ourselves, and the energy that we will attract to ourselves.

This is backed up by science, Quantum Physics to be exact, but I won’t get into that part of things here.

Why practice awareness?

Because you cannot change what you do not know or acknowledge. As you practice awareness from week to week, you start to see where your thinking might not be in line with what it is you want to accomplish.
This is in direct relationship to the energy behind things. If you are unaware of your thoughts or your surroundings then you are unaware of the energy you are putting out, and therefore; unaware of the energy you are bringing into your life.

Back to science here, but we really do get back the energy that we put out. Awareness of this energy is very important. If you are not aware of what you are doing, thinking, saying, then you are on autopilot and allowing life to just lead you along. There is a difference between “going with the flow” and not taking responsibility for what you are creating.

Your thoughts and actions play a big part in where you will end up. Being aware of things helps with the process of creating the life that you want.

Judgement and Perception Go Hand in Hand

Why practice Non-Judgement?

When we judge things, we immediately stop the flow of energy. Try to see things just as they are. Not as good or bad. If something happens it just “is” – there’s no need to define it.

How we perceive our circumstances dictates how we handle things and the type of energy we create in our day to day lives.

If something happens and we perceive it as “bad”, then we immediately have a “bad” experience or reaction. We create negative energy. Remember, when you do this, what you put out there is what you will get in return “energetically speaking”.

What if what is happening is not “bad” but is necessary for your growth, and to help you move on and become. Without movement, there can be no growth. Think about that. What if, on a soul level, (and a mind level), you are wanting different circumstances in your life. What if the Universe decides to support this decision? What if you are trying to hang onto old ways? The more you perceive the movement as a negative, the more you will experience it as negativity. The more negative energy you will yourself create.

This is why people often experience “opposites” showing up when they try to manifest something. It’s not really the “opposite”, that’s just the way you are perceiving it. If you perceive it as growth and movement instead of as lack and limitation, you are on your way to making the life you want.

Something we do not ever have control over is someone else. A lot of times you may find yourself wondering why you are in a certain situation, thinking that “if I have control over my life, why are things turning out this way?”

Take a close look at what is going on and see if what you are going through is really a personal thing for or with you, or if it is related to someone or something else. What actions are you taking to get what you say you want? If you aren’t taking any actions, the universe and your higher self will take over to get you to where you would like to be. This might lead to a feeling of having no control, when really you do.

Let’s say you are trying very hard to manifest a good relationship. Well, these types of things take two. So, if your mind has chosen someone who cannot give you what you want, you need to change your mind: “Why am I not getting what I want if I have control?” Maybe you are. Maybe the only way to have the relationship you are dreaming of is to let go of the one you are in. You cannot control other people.

It often works like this for career too. If we want something else, but are really comfortable where we are, the chances of us making a change are pretty slim. Which means, the chances of us making changes in order to manifest our dreams are slim. Sometimes we think about what we want our career to look like without taking any action. That is when things can get uncomfortable, and we finally make a move.

This applies even in this “global recession”. We don’t have control over the ‘global’ part, but we have control over our own part. If it is affecting you, what have you changed? Have you adjusted yourself accordingly? You cannot necessarily make a job or money appear out of thin air, but you can create a job and money. It will take some work and (sometimes), a different way of thinking about things. You most certainly can take control and do things differently, expand your awareness and allow other experiences into your life.

Only you can answer these questions for yourself. But whenever you feel blocked and out of control of your life, wondering if this is ‘just how it is’, or ‘maybe I need to be learning something’ or whatever the thought is: take a close look and see exactly what it is that you would like to manifest differently in your life.

Take stock of what it is that you want. Where do you see yourself headed? What is it that you are trying to control? Is there something that you want in your life but it is not appearing? What changes do you need to make, consciously, before the new can show itself to you? Where are you holding back on making changes? Where can you make some moves and do things differently. These are all areas that you need to look at before you will realize how much control you really do have.

Its just this darn 3D world that messes us up sometimes.  As we slowly come out of the recession, many of us feel like we just can’t take anymore.  We’ve been beaten down, and things have felt like they just aren’t picking up.  So many are either out of work, or are just getting back to work, or are working for less than they were before.   Even my husband’s concrete cutting company has been slow.  Its picking up, but when he’s at a job site, almost everyone he talks to has been in the same boat, work is coming, its just not quite here yet.

Some are losing faith, but please try not to. While you are waiting for the new to show up, do what you can right now, with the old stuff.  Have you got a lot of clutter in your house that needs to be cleared out?  Things you have been thinking of doing but didn’t have the time to do before?  Its these times of lull that are the best for revaluating and realigning with your higher self and clearing out the stuff that you don’t need anymore, the stuff that is no longer serving your highest and best good.

I know all too well how hard it can be to motivate yourself when things feel like they are falling apart all around you.  When I find myself in that spot ~ I pray, I meditate, I pray more, I pray a lot.  I ask for help.  Sometimes the help I ask for is just to get through today.  I don’t always ask for specific things ~ I ask for feelings, the feeling that I want to have is calmness ~ even when life is at its stormiest for me.  I don’t ever want to lose the faith, I don’t ever want to lose the connection to Source, or to lose what makes me who I am.

Today is a stormy day here in BC.  It feels so very cleansing, I think I might even just go out in the back yard and sit (rain or not), and let the wind just clear away all the crap that’s built up lately. And maybe I’ll pray while I’m out there.

As I go through this process, which sometimes takes hours, or days, or even weeks, I see what I have accumulated over the years. For however long it takes me, I may have a lot of my stuff out in the open for all to see. I can take a close look at it and see which things are no longer serving me. Clothes that don’t fit, things that are out of style, things that do not vibrate at the level I am now vibrating at. It can look pretty messy in my house for a while.

This is often how a Soul Cleaning works. With or without the help of a professional, you meditate, get into all the dark corners, pull everything out, let things come up into your consciousness. It’s all out there, you can now see what has been hiding in the back of your mind all this time. It can look messy for a while ~ once its there in front of you, you will need to do something with it. Usually the best thing to do is to let it go ~ use meditation, cut the energy cords. If it has been sitting in the back of the “closet of your mind”, chances are you really do not need it anymore. It likely is not vibrating at the level that you are now. It is coming out of the ‘closet’ so that it can be released, let go of.

Sometimes it is hard to let go of things that have been with us a long time. Both the physical things, and the emotional things. But usually there comes a time where you must let go in order to live a less cluttered life. Imagine living in a house where you never got rid of anything ~ how dense your surroundings would be, how hard it would be to move through your home. Our Souls are like that too. We pick things up throughout our lifetimes (and lifetimes past), and sooner or later we need to take a close look at what we’ve picked up and de-clutter our energy ~ or, (like within our homes), our energy bodies have a hard time moving around and through life.

With Spring Cleaning, once the letting go is complete, your house is cleaner and clearer. With Soul Cleaning, once the letting go is complete, your energy is cleaner and clearer.

What is it that you need to de-clutter and remove from your life?

Or, with psychic readings, sometimes when a free reading is offered, you get the “reading”, but its vague and then you get bombarded with spam, or worse yet someone tells you that you have a curse and it will take hundreds, or sometimes thousands of dollars to remove it.

In those cases, yes, it really was too good to be true.

There is reason to be cautious sometimes, but please don’t discount everything good that is offered to you. There are tons of things out there that truly are good – and true. No strings if you don’t want them. I just went to a seminar a couple weeks ago for a timeshare. I walked away with two tickets to a Canucks game and a $50.00 Visa Gift Card. (For those of you who don’t know, the Canucks, are Vancouver, BC’s NHL Hockey Team). I must tell you that these tickets are hard to come by.

Yes, I did have to drive into the city. Yes, it did take a few hours out of my life. But, I went with my family and we went for dinner and used the Visa card to pay for it. We turned it into an adventure and enjoyed ourselves. Yes, it was a bit of a hard-sell, but there was no requirement to buy anything, and as much as the sales people really pushed their product, they were, for the most part, nice.

A lot of people who are reading this are familiar with the Law of Attraction, and of working to manifest positive things into their life. Well, I can tell you that there is nothing like the statement “too good to be true” to block positive things from manifesting. You cannot expect positive things to come into your life if you block them by not believing that good things can come your way …for absolutely no good reason except that you have asked for them and expect them to come!

This has happened, even with my psychic readings. I always try and get people in as soon as I can but the wait can vary from a few days to a few weeks. Sometimes it takes me 2-3 weeks to even answer an email. This is usually dependent on my workload ~ I do not have an assistant, I do it all myself, so there’s not usually any rhyme or reason to it ~ I get to things when I can get to them.

Back to the subject of too good to be true…every so often, just as I have had time freed up over the next couple of days for one reason or another, an email will pop right into my inbox and I will be ‘told’ that I should fit that person in, often even before I open the email. My day had been cleared up for reasons seemingly beyond my control. I think, oh, I have time for a reading, and “ding” ~ “you’ve got mail”.

I’ve actually had two people tell me over the years (two is not a lot by any means, but I sometimes wonder, if two told me, how many didn’t bother), that when I replied right away, they figured I must be some sort of a scammer or something. Because my website says I’m so busy, and that I can be slow to respond to people, they figured that everything on my website was false. A good example of ‘too good to be true’. What if the people that get the response right away are just getting really good at manifesting things? What if its not too good to be true, but a clear example of ‘I get what I need’.

Think about that next time you tell yourself that something must be too good to be true. Take a close look at it. Is it really? Or is it just that what you want is coming to you? And coming much faster than you ever imagined it could.

I do think we need to be diligent to not be taken advantage of, but with a little bit of common sense and research, that isn’t likely to happen to you anyway.

How about, next time something like this comes your way, check it out, do your due diligence, and then just be thankful. Appreciate what is offered, show gratitude and accept it. Allow the energy of allowing to flow towards you. What you focus on you create. So why not focus on good things coming and appreciating them when they do … then you will only create more good things.

Starting in 2009 things got a little weird, energies got strong, then things started to change. In September, it seemed to come to a head, as if everything left us, or was in the process of leaving us. It was as if everything that was old, or not serving our Highest and Best Good was leaving. The changes were massive. The energy was difficult at times. Some of you lost things from your life that had been around for a very long time. There were a lot of souls that went so far as to actually leave the earth, and the human life they were living. It was time to let go of a lot of the things that brought us to where we were at that time.

Following the release of the things, people, and energies that came early last fall, was a sense of emptiness. I spoke to so many people that felt lost and confused and just didn’t know what to do. It felt stagnant for a lot of people. So many felt like there wasn’t much point anymore. The things they used to think were fun didn’t have the allure that they had before. There was a general feeling of ‘why bother?’. Some felt like they had lost their passion for life and fun. Many just seemed to take a time-out from life and living.

In mid-January 2010, the energies started to change again. There was a sense of movement. If, in the fall, you had successfully let go of everything that was no longer serving you, you suddenly felt this month that maybe there was something to this life after all. For some of you, it is new people coming in to your life. So many of us are feeling the need to connect with like-minded others at this time. Those that had been spending a lot of time alone are suddenly drawn to join groups, or make friends, get out there and do something.

Its like all the plans that were put on hold for months are now coming to fruition. There is a need, a drive, to move. Some are welcoming new relationships into their lives, some are getting new and different job opportunities coming their way. There’s a big opportunity for change and movement at this time. What would you like in your life? Go for it. Sometimes change involves risk, but there is no better time than right now to take that leap, explore your options, spread your wings and take advantage of all the new things presenting to you.

I have written this article to show what it is that enables the Chakra energy centres to get out of whack. This usually happens slowly over time. Most women end up wondering where they went. They remember how they used to be, but they don’t know how to get it back because they have no energy.

Once recognized, women can use energy work and a balancing of the Chakras to get their old selves back.

I will be doing another article on how the Charkas work and which ones will likely need the most attention in order to balance the Chakras and begin to heal and get your old self back. For now, hopefully this article provides some explanation as to what is happening.

There can be a lot of different reasons for why a woman will gain weight after marriage, but most of them are not what people think. This is a very misunderstood subject. This article applies to a very large portion of the population. Please note though that there are exceptions to this, I certainly don’t want to paint 100% of the population with the same brush.

Women gaining weight after they get married usually has nothing to do with the fact that they have finally snagged a man, and they can relax now, they don’t need to `try` anymore. That must be the biggest MYTH of all! It is mostly a myth that men have made up to make themselves feel better.

Men change much more than women do at the beginning of a serious relationship (no matter what anyone tells you). Men change first without realizing it, and when the woman follows suit it usually manifests in such a way that she gets blamed for `letting herself go`.

Depression can cause a woman to gain weight. When relationships start, usually the man tries rather hard to impress the woman. Once married, a woman is no longer the centre of the man’s attention. Sometimes they don’t hear “you are beautiful”, or “I love you” as much. Even if the woman does get to hear the words, the man’s actions have changed and the words have less meaning than they had before. Women need to feel the words….as much as to hear them. Women are very feeling creatures. When they don’t hear the words and get the physical contact (hugs, holding hands etc.), they get sad. Women internalize things. The first place their head goes is to “what did I do wrong”, or “he’s bored with me already”.

Men generally focus on one thing at a time. Once a man ‘gets’ a woman to marry him, he can now get on with focusing on his next ‘task’. The focus will often switch to work (or home, or family/kids, whatever). He has successfully impressed his wife. He can now move on to the next thing. He can go out and work hard and provide for his new family unit. What a success, he’s done it!!! He has grown up and started a family.

At this point, many women just crash. Where has all the romance and love gone? He used to be so attentive and now he barely notices me?

Anger – Women want what they had before they got married.

Men got what they want – the woman. Its time for them to move onto the next thing on their list of things to conquer.

Women aren’t likely to ask for attention. At least not in a way a man can understand it. Women talk around an issue. If they don’t come right out and say EXACTLY what they mean, then men won’t have a clue. When women dance around the issue and aren’t clear about it then men will often dismiss what the woman has said.

Example: A woman says “we never go out anymore”. A man hears this, thinks about all the time they have spent together (the movie last month, dinner with the in-laws 2 weeks ago, the walk last weekend), and dismisses it as not true. She’s just talking nonsense. What she really means is that she would like to spend some more quality time with him and would like some attention and to feel important, however that’s not what she said so he did not hear it. Women think the man isn’t listening which equates to him not caring. That’s when they may start to get angry.

Women often need to hear words to help them feel attractive. When they are single, they are often around single men that give them attention. Now that they are in a relationship, the only person they want to hear that from is their man. He figures he doesn’t need to say it….after all, he wouldn’t have married her if he didn’t find her attractive.

Most women only want to attract the man they already have. Sometimes they even feel guilty if they get attention from men who are not their husbands. That’s not really what they want anyway. They want the attention from the man they love.

This may come as a surprise to a lot of people (or not), but a lot of men stop or slow down the amount of sex they want. Remember, they are focused on other stuff now. Work often takes the front seat and sex and intimacy go by the wayside. This can really mess a woman up. Especially because what is put out there is that men can never get enough. There are differences from person to person of course, and age has something to do with it, but when a man stops wanting sex it can really mess with a woman’s head. Most women want and like sex as much as men do! This is especially around the age of 40. Most women can’t get enough at 40. Most men at 40 think that sex is no longer important. Their testosterone levels have likely dropped and sex goes from #1 on their list of important things, right down to the bottom of the list. They often think “I’m mature now, not a kid anymore, sex doesn’t matter”.

Some women are actually afraid to get attention from men outside their marriage. They are afraid at what might happen if they feel ignored at home and someone starts to show an interest in them and help them feel sexy and alive again. They want that from their husband, not someone else.

This can be especially difficult if there’s not enough sex at home. If they are walking around wanting sex all the time they certainly don’t want to be tempted — they love their husband and he is what they want.

Other things that also happen in the more concrete sense when two people get married are as follows:

• Women stop taking care of themselves, and start to take care of their men.
• Single women take time for themselves. Whether its time for friends or for the gym. Once men are married and their focus goes elsewhere, women want to take all the time they can to be with them. Even if it means being at home at night with their husband sitting on the couch. They want the closeness. If they feel like they rarely get to see you, they don’t exactly want to take off for 2 hours three times a week to go to the gym, they would rather be with their guy.
• Remember when you were dating and she said “If I ate like you I would weigh 250 pounds”.
• Single women won’t eat dinner if they have gone out and had a big lunch. When they are married, they want to be able to sit and have dinner with their man. They will even sit down and eat with him if they aren’t hungry — just to spend the time with him.
• The fridge and cupboards often get stocked with stuff that most single women wouldn’t even consider keeping around. If its there, they might eat it, but its not something they ever had around the house before they were married.
• Women clean more than men. I know that there are exceptions to this, but women are actually programmed to see things that men don’t. They will notice the coffee stains on the cupboards, the pee around the toilet, the dirt off your shoes that is on the rug after you come in from work, the fact that the bedding needs to be washed more than once per year, not to mention all the extra dishes that need washing. When they were single, there was a lot less to wipe up in their home. It was much easier to keep clean. Often there were no dinner dishes, they didn’t need a big dinner, they ate their big meal at lunch, or snacked all day long.
• Often when people are dating they will go to events on the weekends. Or they will hit the beach for swimming, or go hiking or just go for a walk to enjoy each other’s company. After marriage that stops too. The man is working to hard. He doesn’t have the energy to go for a hike. He’d much rather sit on the couch and watch sports rather than get out and be active with his wife.
• According to Science World Magazine, a one minute kiss burns 26 calories. Remember when you used to kiss for 20 minutes (or sometimes much longer) before marriage. Thirty minutes on an elliptical trainer only burns 100 calories!!!!
• Physically men and women are different. If a man wants to drop 10 pounds he stops drinking pop for 2 weeks. If a woman wants to drop 10 pounds she exercises an hour a day and stops eating anything tasty for 3 months…then if she’s lucky, she’s lost her 10 pounds.

A lot of overweight women eat at night. Whatever they can get their hands on most likely. All the crap that’s in the cupboard that she bought for him is all hers now!!

Sometimes it’s because is the first thing she gets to do for herself all day long. Its a reward, a way to relax. Other times it’s because she just wants sex and knows its not going to happen. May as well indulge in chocolate snacks (chocolate DOES release the same endorphins that sex does). Better to go lie in bed at night with a very full fat tummy, not feeling like moving, than to go to bed feeling sexy and horny and being rejected….again.

Other times a woman is just simply tired and eating is just something to do before bed. She eats without even really thinking about it. Its more of an autopilot thing. Her hubby is in on the couch watching TV and she wants some form of closeness with him. If she was single she’d have been asleep hours ago.

No wonder she gains weight. Depression and anger aside, her habits have changed to such a degree that there is no way her body could maintain its prior weight, it would be a physical impossibility.

This can be a vicious circle if left as is. Thankfully, it can be adjusted. Watch for the upcoming article on Chakras and Chakra Balancing.

This article was featured in The Tenth Edition of the Carnival of Improving Life.