Chronic Pain and Emotions

I learned something new last week, and I am sharing it because it is nothing short of amazing.  I was able to relate it to my own life and my own circumstances and I am guessing that you will too.

If you have an injury or other chronic pain, the severity of it and how long it lasts will be DIRECTLY related to how you felt at the time of the injury, and how you continue to feel as you go along with your recovery (or lack of recovery).

I can tell you my story of how I stopped my chronic pain in my ankle that had kept me from doing much exercise for 7 months (since last July!!).

This is going to sound really simple, and it is.  The only unfortunate part is that it took me this long to figure it out.

Chronic Pain

So in November 2013 I started going to a gym and working out with a personal trainer 3x per week.  Yes, I have extra weight, however my MAIN reason for going was to get strong and feel good and healthy.  I have arthritis, flat feet and at the time my lower back would go out on occasion.  I really wanted to strengthen my body and lessen my pain.

It was working, I could do squats for 15 minutes, walk through my yard doing lunges, do tricep dips off my kitchen chairs, hold a plank for a few minutes and could even do some push-ups. (not a lot of them, but I could do them!)

I loved going and felt great.  2x a week I worked out with a really knowledgeable trainer who knew about my ‘pain issues’ and would tailor the workouts to me.  She would always watch to make sure my form was good, ask me about my pain level for the day, and point out if my knees or ankles were twisting in a bad way.  Her motto was “make sure that you don’t cause injury and make it so you can’t work out at all”.

1x a week I worked out with another trainer that didn’t really even notice when someone had bad form, or point out that they were trying to do shoulder presses while slouching or that they were twisting or bending wrong.  When I worked out with him, I basically just watched myself.  It was okay, because he was helpful in some ways and I liked him personally, and the workouts felt good.

Then in late spring of 2014 the trainer I loved was let go.  I figured that I would keep going to the gym, they had another experienced trainer and I started working out with her.  I rarely got corrected on my form, I had to do that myself, or ask if they would watch my legs closely for form.  It seemed like the main objective of my new trainer was all about weight loss.  She’s a super skinny 30ish year old and she talked and talked about weight.  She had signs up, saying “the scale doesn’t matter as much as how you feel”, but it felt like all she ever talked about was what we were eating.

I was mildly annoyed because one of the reasons I had extra weight on was because I was injury prone due to lack of using my muscles properly.  I was trying to work out to strengthen the muscles properly so that I would not have so many injuries ~ stronger muscles = less injuries = weight lost as far as I’m concerned.

So anyway, I wound up with a bad injury to my left leg.  My hip and lower back hurt, my knee was killing me, and my ankle felt like the tendons were all pulled out of shape.  This had been chronic for me since July of 2014.  So that is my story, now I want to share…

What I did to feel better and lessen my chronic pain issues

A couple of weeks ago, I read an article about pain and the article said that your mind-set ‘at the time of your injury’ would actually impact how long your injury lasted.  I know and understand how our energy impacts our bodies so I started to think a bit about how this might apply to me and my ankle injury.

I realized just how pissed off I was that my favourite trainer had been fired.  I was angry that I was paying A LOT of money for personal training and didn’t feel I was getting what I paid for.  I had a few more months on my membership.  I asked the trainers to watch me closely and they didn’t seem to bother most days.

I had my last workout with them in July, and I started with the process of rehabbing myself.  I know enough about stretching and muscles that I was able to at least keep my lower back and knee from hurting too much most of the time.

My ankle was another story though.  It really felt like tendons and I tried to rest it and be gentle with it but it wasn’t getting better.  I couldn’t even go for a walk without suffering for a day or two after.

I kept getting emails and letters from the gym and would find myself almost annoyed at them. Subconsciously thinking “you guys suck, you hurt me!” and reliving the intense pain of last summer.

So, after reading that article and thinking about it, I decided to cut ties with the gym completely. I unsubscribed from their email list and “un-liked” them on Facebook. They did have some good things to share, but my annoyance, and therefore the energy I created was not worth it.

Fast forward to today.  On Monday (just 5 days ago), when I got the weekly email, I unsubscribed.  I did some energy work and meditation.  I cut energy cords to the gym and the trainers.

Now it is Friday.  My ankle has NOT HURT for a few days.  I have been out shopping and walking and NO PAIN in my ankle.  I will say that the muscles on the left back thigh and butt are a little sore, but it is muscle sore from using the muscles differently (properly with no limping).  Because my ankle feels better, the whole “shape” (the way I’m walking) of my left leg is different (more back to normal).

I shared this with my husband a couple of days ago and he had a story to add that shows another example of how this works.

In 2009 he broke his leg and wound up in physiotherapy for a few months.  He was really happy to be getting into the best shape he’d been in in years.  He enjoyed the fact that he could use the gym and pool for free for as long as he wanted on the days he worked with the physiotherapist.

He noted that some of the guys there (in physio) just didn’t seem to be getting better.  Their pain never lessened and they constantly complained.  Most of them were angry at the time of their accident, and stayed angry for a long period of time.

My husband healed up quickly and was back to normal (or better) within a few months of breaking his shin bone.

Do you have chronic pain or pain from an injury?

If you do, can you see or feel your emotions?  Not just the emotions about the pain itself, but the general emotions in any area of your life?

I wrote a post about fibromyalgia a few years ago because I noticed that a very large percentage of my clients that had fibromyalgia were really pissed off about something in their life.  Most thought their anger or upset was justified and they had no intentions of letting it go… just something to think about.

If you want to look into this a bit more, there is an awesome book that I refer to myself quite often, called “You Can Heal Your Life”, it is by Louise Hay and you can get it from Amazon by clicking on the book picture here if you like. (If you buy after clicking that link I will make a few pennies in their affiliate program, if you have a problem with that, feel free to Google amazon instead).

If you are feeling a little stuck and you can’t quite figure out what your emotions and vibration are trying to tell you I can help.  You can get more information about  psychic readings here.

***  Disclaimer:  I am NOT  a doctor.  I DO work extensively with clients on an energetic level.  This post is not meant to replace a doctor’s advice.  If you need medical assistance please contact your doctor.

Who Are You?

How do you define yourself?  What is it that makes you you?  Do you even know anymore?  Is your definition of yourself based on what the people around you tell you?  Or based on your health?  Your financial circumstances?  Where you live?  The work you do?

Who are you?  Really.  Think about it.  When you say to yourself “I am”, what follows those words?

Do you say, “I am a mom”,  “I am an executive”,  “I am a healer”, “I am sick”,  “I am struggling”, “I am a construction worker”, “I am busy”.

What are you?  Who are you?

Society tells us that without some clear-cut definition of ourself, a definition that must contain some third dimensional words, we have no purpose.  We are bombarded with messages that tell us we need to be busy.  I can’t even count how many TV commercials, shows, or Newscasts that I see that contain messages that we are busy all the time (think “Programming”).

When we see these messages, we think to ourselves that if we are not busy, or if we allow ourselves to just “be” or have some down-time, then there must be something wrong with us.  Maybe we aren’t working hard enough.  What is wrong with me that I am not all frazzled like everyone else, maybe I need to be doing more.  What can I add to my life that will make me more like everyone else?

What about the “programming” that tells us we are stressed, overworked, broke, stuck in a career and not really getting ahead?  We are told constantly that that is “how we (and things) are these days”.  The messages, and programs that we get bombarded with are there to keep us struggling.  We are told we have no power, no control, no peace, no calm.

Without some awareness that we are being “PROGRAMMED” it is really easy to fall into the trap of feeling completely dis-empowered and out of control of our lives.  We are not at the mercy of all these external circumstances.  WE ARE NOT!

We are only at the mercy of our thoughts, feelings, and vibrations.  What we think about is what we create in our lives.  Everything is energy.  Your thoughts and feelings are energy that cause you to vibrate at a certain level.  You can change your vibration by changing your thoughts.

There are many men and women out there that have no self-worth whatsoever unless they are ‘busy’.  They keep adding more and more and more to their plate in the hopes that someone, anyone, will recognize that they are worthy.  Please, tell me I am appreciated, please tell me that I am doing something right, please acknowledge that I am a someone, that the world would not be the same without me.

The problem with that is that your self-worth cannot ever come from someone else.  It needs to come from within.  No amount of doing, or busy-ness, or running around will get you what you want.  Chances are, the people around you are doing the same thing.  Do you even have time to acknowledge their contribution.  Most of the time, probably not.  Most people are too self-absorbed in playing this game of “busy-ness” to even notice others, never mind acknowledge their contribution.

It is a vicious circle.  The best way to get the recognition you deserve is from yourself.  Take a really good look at yourself and what you do.  Thank yourself for your contribution.  Do not resent the fact that you are busy and no one appreciates you.  Do what makes you feel good, and appreciate yourself.

There are some things that we must do.  Care for our children for example.  Do you care for your children in the hope that you will get some recognition for it, or do you care for your children out of a space of loving them and loving what you do for and with them? (If you do not have children, this could also be your job, your home, your relationships).

You need to treat ALL parts of your life like that.  Do what you enjoy and what fills your heart with love.  When your heart is full of love, recognition does not matter as much.  You end up recognizing yourself as a loving being, and worrying less when those around you are not loving.  You will be able to observe the fact that they are not loving ~ whether they are not loving themselves, or maybe not loving you or other people ~ but it won’t matter so much to you.  You will be operating your life from a place of love rather than judgement ~ of yourself or of them.

Even if you hate your job, there must be something that it is giving you.  If it wasn’t giving you anything at all there would be no point in doing it.  Love what it is giving you.  Even if it is just enough money, or not enough money.  Love and appreciate it for what it is.  The more love you have for anything in your life, the more love your life will give you.  Love will open doors and create more opportunities for you.

There are many people out there that have burned themselves out by trying to be what other people (or society) expect them to be.  If this goes on long enough it blocks the flow of energy and creates health problems in our bodies.  How this manifests is partly dependent on your belief systems and what part of yourself you are denying.  Sometimes the only way we think we can take a moment for ourselves is if we are sick.

This is not a conscious decision.  It’s not like “geeze, I need a rest, I think I’ll make myself sick so my family has to take care of me”.  It is a subconscious decision (yes decision).  “I have done enough, I give and I give and I give and no one appreciates me, I always give more than I get,  I resent the fact that I have to do so much for so little in return!”

After a time, months, perhaps years, finally…BAM!  You just can’t take it anymore!  Your body comes up with fibromyalga, or chronic fatigue syndrome, or cancer, or some other illness that STOPS you in your tracks.  As much as the illness is upsetting to you, it is in and around your body because that is where you were vibrating.  You were resentful, or busy, or under appreciated, or trying to fit into someone elses perception of you, and your Soul just can’t take it anymore.

This is not meant to BLAME you for your illness.  I have been sick myself.  My doctor told me “Sounds like CFS (chronic fatigue syndrome) to me”.  He also said “I won’t give you a prescription for painkillers because I know you don’t like to take them”.

My naturopath said “Well, I won’t tell you you have fibromyalga because you do not belive that it is a proper diagnosis, but doing these things (she gave me a list of things, that people do when they have been diagnosed with fibromyalga) might work for you”.

A lot of people want a “DIAGNOSIS”.  It is easier to get a diagnosis and either give up, or try to “treat an illness” than it is to look inside at what is not working with your energy field.  It gives you a way to define yourself or your life.  It gives you something to focus on that is centred around you and self-care.  Your whole life you have likely been taking care of other people (whether they asked for it or wanted it or not).  Your entire focus was on how to help them, be there for them ~ defining who you were by how they saw you.

Now with an illness its all about you.  Why not practice self-love, self-care, self-esteem, allow yourself to do what makes you truly happy, (no martyrdom), and just skip the piece about getting “sick and tired.”  When you get to a space of being able to say simply “I am”, without any further words, that is when you will truly begin to know, love and appreciate yourself.

 

Exercise, Blood Sugars and Feeling Better

I came across this video this week and wanted to share it with you.  It is by Dr. Doug McGuff and in it he speaks about exercise and blood sugar levels.  He has written a book called “Body by Science” and mentions it in the video, but it is NOT a sales type of video.  It is full of a lot of good information that may help you if you want it.

A lot of my clients are suffering from fatigue and soreness.  Many doctors will tell you that this is “Fibromyalga“.  I am no doctor, however, I can tell you that some of the symptoms are due to our diet and exercise habits.

If you are suffering from fatigue, or soreness, or obesity, or just want to feel better, it would be worth it to watch this one.

Body By Science from Pinpoint Multimedia on Vimeo.

Fibromyalga

I am not a doctor. This post is based on a combination of personal experience, messages I have gotten for clients that have, or think they have fibromyalga, and speaking with friends who have been diagnosed with fibromyalga.

It is amazing how many people are suffering from this. There are some things that over 90% of people with fibromyalga have in common:

Something major has changed in their life in the last two years

  • Career has become more stressful

  • They have started to live with someone or gotten married

  • They have had extreme financial difficulty

  • They have had an injury and have had to take time off

  • They have started taking a new prescription drug

If you have been diagnosed with fibromyalga, please take a look at what has been going on in your life. Most people say that it seemed to happen suddenly. The thing is, it takes time for your body to change once you change a habit.

Just as an example: You move in with your boyfriend. Your eating habits change, bit by bit, over time. You get busier. Take less time out for yourself at the gym because you are enjoying the company of your new mate. Over the course of a year or two, your habits become very different. Then one day, you get diagnosed.

Another example. You lose your job. You get a new job. Your new job isn’t exactly what you wanted, you are stressed out. You are not making as much money as you did before. You cannot afford to buy the best food, or you may just be too tired to cook. Maybe you eat out more or you eat more processed foods. You may not be able to afford as much fresh food, or organic food as you did before. You are tired, and flop after work, rather than going out to be with friends.

You have an injury or a surgery and are not as mobile as you were before. You have some down-time where you are unable to get out as much. You maybe put on a few pounds, or just don’t feel as energetic as you did before. After recouperating, you still don’t have as much energy and are not able to drag yourself to the gym, or out with friends.

Something has happened with your health. Whether it be hormones, blood pressure changes, or any other malady. Your doctor puts you on a pill. Sometime between about 6 months and 24 months later, you end up with fibromyalga.

This will not apply to 100% of you that have fibromyalga. And, once again, I am not a doctor. However, I have had clients with this disease where their guides have told me the cause of their illness, and in most cases, one of the above changes applies.