Tamara Hawk – Psychic, Medium

Posts Tagged ‘frustration’

This is a follow-up to my last post about Control, in which I wrote that we do have control over our own lives.

Something we do not ever have control over is someone else. A lot of times you may find yourself wondering why you are in a certain situation, thinking that “if I have control over my life, why are things turning out this way?”

Take a close look at what is going on and see if what you are going through is really a personal thing for or with you, or if it is related to someone or something else. What actions are you taking to get what you say you want? If you aren’t taking any actions, the universe and your higher self will take over to get you to where you would like to be. This might lead to a feeling of having no control, when really you do.

Let’s say you are trying very hard to manifest a good relationship. Well, these types of things take two. So, if your mind has chosen someone who cannot give you what you want, you need to change your mind: “Why am I not getting what I want if I have control?” Maybe you are. Maybe the only way to have the relationship you are dreaming of is to let go of the one you are in. You cannot control other people.

It often works like this for career too. If we want something else, but are really comfortable where we are, the chances of us making a change are pretty slim. Which means, the chances of us making changes in order to manifest our dreams are slim. Sometimes we think about what we want our career to look like without taking any action. That is when things can get uncomfortable, and we finally make a move.

This applies even in this “global recession”. We don’t have control over the ‘global’ part, but we have control over our own part. If it is affecting you, what have you changed? Have you adjusted yourself accordingly? You cannot necessarily make a job or money appear out of thin air, but you can create a job and money. It will take some work and (sometimes), a different way of thinking about things. You most certainly can take control and do things differently, expand your awareness and allow other experiences into your life.

Only you can answer these questions for yourself. But whenever you feel blocked and out of control of your life, wondering if this is ‘just how it is’, or ‘maybe I need to be learning something’ or whatever the thought is: take a close look and see exactly what it is that you would like to manifest differently in your life.

Take stock of what it is that you want. Where do you see yourself headed? What is it that you are trying to control? Is there something that you want in your life but it is not appearing? What changes do you need to make, consciously, before the new can show itself to you? Where are you holding back on making changes? Where can you make some moves and do things differently. These are all areas that you need to look at before you will realize how much control you really do have.

Sometimes in your quest to be “Spiritual” you may forget that you are a human being, with other feelings. There is this quest to feel joy and love all the time. As much as this is something that feels good once we get there, do not forget that there are other feelings and they do count for something too.

Anger, Fear and Frustration all have a role to play for you. They are not always just ‘bad’ feelings that you need to get rid of. They often can and do serve as warnings of things in our surroundings that are not good for us.

If you feel any of these lower vibrating feelings, rather than just trying to push them down or hide them, or tell yourself you shouldn’t be feeling that way, why don’t you go into the feeling and see where it is coming from?

When you have a feeling and try to push it down it doesn’t work. It stays with you. It squashes your intuition. Oftentimes if you feel fear it could save your life. If you are angry, it could be a warning that someone is in your space, if you are frustrated you may need to find a new way of doing things.

We need balance people! Yes, it is good to be connected to Source energy and all that is. However, we need to stay grounded. We live in a 3D world. We need to be aware of our surroundings. If we continually deny the 3D reality we risk not paying attention to what’s going on around us. Our ‘human world’ does need attention. You cannot have balance in your life without acknowledging 3D reality and walking though it in a grounded state.

Next time you find yourself feeling any of these feelings, go into it deeper for a few minutes. Sit down, meditate, clear out all the mind clutter and feel where the emotion is coming from. If it is just coming from your mind and your thoughts, then change your thoughts. But if you find that there really is a reason to be angry, frustrated, or fearful, then you need to take an action. Whether it be to change something, physically move to something or away from something, or to just release thoughts that aren’t serving your highest and best good anymore.

If you do not acknowledge these feelings (of fear, anger, frustration, etc.,) you cannot transmute this energy to a positive state where you can make a choice to act.