Something we do not ever have control over is someone else. A lot of times you may find yourself wondering why you are in a certain situation, thinking that “if I have control over my life, why are things turning out this way?”

Take a close look at what is going on and see if what you are going through is really a personal thing for or with you, or if it is related to someone or something else. What actions are you taking to get what you say you want? If you aren’t taking any actions, the universe and your higher self will take over to get you to where you would like to be. This might lead to a feeling of having no control, when really you do.

Let’s say you are trying very hard to manifest a good relationship. Well, these types of things take two. So, if your mind has chosen someone who cannot give you what you want, you need to change your mind: “Why am I not getting what I want if I have control?” Maybe you are. Maybe the only way to have the relationship you are dreaming of is to let go of the one you are in. You cannot control other people.

It often works like this for career too. If we want something else, but are really comfortable where we are, the chances of us making a change are pretty slim. Which means, the chances of us making changes in order to manifest our dreams are slim. Sometimes we think about what we want our career to look like without taking any action. That is when things can get uncomfortable, and we finally make a move.

This applies even in this “global recession”. We don’t have control over the ‘global’ part, but we have control over our own part. If it is affecting you, what have you changed? Have you adjusted yourself accordingly? You cannot necessarily make a job or money appear out of thin air, but you can create a job and money. It will take some work and (sometimes), a different way of thinking about things. You most certainly can take control and do things differently, expand your awareness and allow other experiences into your life.

Only you can answer these questions for yourself. But whenever you feel blocked and out of control of your life, wondering if this is ‘just how it is’, or ‘maybe I need to be learning something’ or whatever the thought is: take a close look and see exactly what it is that you would like to manifest differently in your life.

Take stock of what it is that you want. Where do you see yourself headed? What is it that you are trying to control? Is there something that you want in your life but it is not appearing? What changes do you need to make, consciously, before the new can show itself to you? Where are you holding back on making changes? Where can you make some moves and do things differently. These are all areas that you need to look at before you will realize how much control you really do have.

I write and talk a lot about you having control over your own life. A lot of clients ask me “How much control do I really have? Are some things just destiny, or meant to be?”

What about the things you really want, but that you don’t get. You need to remember, there is more to you than just your ego mind. You have a soul. A higher self that has come to this earth for a reason. You came here for an experience.

What you need to do, is to connect with your soul and see what it is that you really want, what your Soul wants. Sometimes if your ego mind is not in line with your soul, it can appear as if you really aren’t getting what you want.

If you have had a reading with me you know. I can often see clearly the path you are headed down, and what the result will be if you continue on that path. Basically, I can see where you are headed right now. Another thing you may know, is that whatever path I see you on at the moment CAN be changed. All it takes is for you to be conscious; to realize that there is more to you than just what you think and that if there is something coming up you do not like, or something you are experiencing right now that you do not like, you can change it by taking action.

Before you came here, your Soul decided that a certain thing would be your life purpose. (Some people refer to this information as what is contained in the Akashic records). HOW YOU EXPERIENCE YOUR LIFE PURPOSE IS UP TO YOU. Once you get here and go through some experiences, it is up to you to decide whether or not to stay on the path you are on, or switch things up a bit.

Is it comfortable for you here? Do you feel like you are living your purpose? Which path do you chose to walk down on your way to fulfilling your purpose?

When I do a reading and see something coming up for someone and they do not like it, they can change it. Knowledge is a part of the power and control. ** Most people can tap into this themselves if they really want to, but it takes meditation, and patience and lots and lots of practice. Most have been conditioned to respond to things in a certain mindful or logical way and when they get inspired to do something completely different than what most people would call ‘normal’, they ignore it. In essence, they don’t listen to their inner guidance. So they may unconsciously, but yet from a soul level, create something that appears undesirable in everyday life in order to facilitate a change.

There have been times where I’ve looked at my own path, and consciously changed where I saw myself headed. I look, I see, I don’t like, I mediate, pray, ask for help, make changes, do energy work, ask through meditation which other way I can do it, whatever it takes to do things in a new way. I don’t think I really need to do more than just hold the intention of changing it, but doing those things helps me stay balanced and focused.

There are itmes when I look and see something I don’t like and I just prepare myself for it. There are a lot of difficult things I’ve gone though in my life but each and every one of them has made me who I am today. If not for the bad stuff, if my entire life had just been a bed of roses, I certainly wouldn’t be able to relate to people who are going through a tough time themselves. When I connect with a client who is going through a difficult time, it is easier for me to feel compassion if I’ve been there myself.

Anyway, next time you are trying to manifest or control something, take a look at what your end goal is. Does what you are doing in your day to day life right now support the end goal of what you want? What your higher self is trying to achieve? Do you need to shake things up a bit? Are you headed down a path where the only option for your higher self to get you where you need/want to be is through discomfort?

Sometimes you cannot dictate exactly what reaching your goal looks like. You don’t always get to where you want to be via the path that you initially planned with your mind, you may need to make adjustments along the way, but you truly do have control over where you end up.

** For those of you who wish to work on connecting with Spirit and learning how to “Do it Yourself”, I have recently received an online course to review called Psychic Awakening.
I will be posting a full review of the course in the next two weeks. However, after my initial perusal, I am confident that the course will be helpful to many.

Or, with psychic readings, sometimes when a free reading is offered, you get the “reading”, but its vague and then you get bombarded with spam, or worse yet someone tells you that you have a curse and it will take hundreds, or sometimes thousands of dollars to remove it.

In those cases, yes, it really was too good to be true.

There is reason to be cautious sometimes, but please don’t discount everything good that is offered to you. There are tons of things out there that truly are good – and true. No strings if you don’t want them. I just went to a seminar a couple weeks ago for a timeshare. I walked away with two tickets to a Canucks game and a $50.00 Visa Gift Card. (For those of you who don’t know, the Canucks, are Vancouver, BC’s NHL Hockey Team). I must tell you that these tickets are hard to come by.

Yes, I did have to drive into the city. Yes, it did take a few hours out of my life. But, I went with my family and we went for dinner and used the Visa card to pay for it. We turned it into an adventure and enjoyed ourselves. Yes, it was a bit of a hard-sell, but there was no requirement to buy anything, and as much as the sales people really pushed their product, they were, for the most part, nice.

A lot of people who are reading this are familiar with the Law of Attraction, and of working to manifest positive things into their life. Well, I can tell you that there is nothing like the statement “too good to be true” to block positive things from manifesting. You cannot expect positive things to come into your life if you block them by not believing that good things can come your way …for absolutely no good reason except that you have asked for them and expect them to come!

This has happened, even with my psychic readings. I always try and get people in as soon as I can but the wait can vary from a few days to a few weeks. Sometimes it takes me 2-3 weeks to even answer an email. This is usually dependent on my workload ~ I do not have an assistant, I do it all myself, so there’s not usually any rhyme or reason to it ~ I get to things when I can get to them.

Back to the subject of too good to be true…every so often, just as I have had time freed up over the next couple of days for one reason or another, an email will pop right into my inbox and I will be ‘told’ that I should fit that person in, often even before I open the email. My day had been cleared up for reasons seemingly beyond my control. I think, oh, I have time for a reading, and “ding” ~ “you’ve got mail”.

I’ve actually had two people tell me over the years (two is not a lot by any means, but I sometimes wonder, if two told me, how many didn’t bother), that when I replied right away, they figured I must be some sort of a scammer or something. Because my website says I’m so busy, and that I can be slow to respond to people, they figured that everything on my website was false. A good example of ‘too good to be true’. What if the people that get the response right away are just getting really good at manifesting things? What if its not too good to be true, but a clear example of ‘I get what I need’.

Think about that next time you tell yourself that something must be too good to be true. Take a close look at it. Is it really? Or is it just that what you want is coming to you? And coming much faster than you ever imagined it could.

I do think we need to be diligent to not be taken advantage of, but with a little bit of common sense and research, that isn’t likely to happen to you anyway.

How about, next time something like this comes your way, check it out, do your due diligence, and then just be thankful. Appreciate what is offered, show gratitude and accept it. Allow the energy of allowing to flow towards you. What you focus on you create. So why not focus on good things coming and appreciating them when they do … then you will only create more good things.