Times are changing and our souls (higher selves) so badly want us to be happy. That is the reason why so many things seem to be falling apart. There are many relationships that exist in the old reality. The new reality that we are moving into is one of happiness, love, enlightenment and an enjoyment of life. When what surrounds us does not hold the higher vibrating energies of love it needs to be disowned before we are able to raise our vibration and live the life of the wonderful light beings that we are.

We cannot continue to live life in the old way. It simply won’t work. To try and do so will just create a hell on earth for us. The only way out is through. I am not saying that the process of clearing out the old won’t be uncomfortable, sometimes even painful. It can be very uncomfortable, and sad, and can really put us out of balance. The key is to realize that you can and will survive. Do not dwell on what was. Allow yourself to go through the steps of grieving (Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance). There is nothing wrong with staying in bed for a week. There is nothing wrong with crying your eyes out and screaming into a pillow. This can be a therapeutic part of the process.

You must however, somewhere, even if it is deep inside, continue to hold the belief that you will end up okay in the long run. Be patient with yourself. You don’t need to rush through the process. Treat yourself as you would treat a friend who is going through the same thing. (If it’s been months or years that these negative feelings have been going on, professional assistance may be required).

There are so many people on this planet that have been sad and unhappy for years with their domestic situation. They keep hoping and wishing that their relationship will get better. They are often physically sick, they cry often, feel out of balance a lot of the time. Just when they think things are getting better, the relationship falters again.

The reason behind this is that the relationship has outgrown its usefulness. Perhaps at one time the two of you had things to do together in this lifetime. Perhaps have children or learn certain things from each other. With some relationships, once that is done it is time to move on.

Do you want to be happy?

You say you want a certain person. Yet, you have been so unhappy in their presence. It is your own Soul that is requesting the growth. You are stunted in that relationship, it is no longer serving your highest and best good and you are no longer growing. You are not at your best while in it. It just keeps getting more and more uncomfortable.

Sometimes you realize this yourself and let go and sometimes you don’t let go, the other person does. This can be devastating. It is important to remember your own self-worth though. If someone has been treating you badly it can be hard to hold onto that self worth. Over time, self doubt has been creeping in until you feel you can no longer hold your own light. It feels as if it has been snuffed out. Why are you trying to hang onto someone that is treating you badly?

You go through your days wondering where your flame went. You yearn to have it back, but the mistake you are making is that you expect someone else to be the one to show it to you. The responsibility is yours. You need to acknowledge that the light is there, that it has always been there. It has just been muted because you have been looking at yourself through the eyes of someone who is not loving you the way they should be.

You mistakenly felt like the only light you had was via the other person. With the loss of them you feel as if there is no light left. That is not the truth. You have just allowed your light to fade for a time and it is now time to allow it to grow and illuminate your life.

Once you can recognize your own divineness, you will feel better. You may not feel amazing right away (or maybe you will), but you will feel good enough that you can get through today. Having the faith that you will be okay, that you can move on, that one day the pain won’t be there anymore.

Pray. A lot. Ask for help and support from Creator, and all your angels and your own personal teams of guides, teachers and angels.

Spend time with people who love and appreciate you for the human angel you are

As we come up to 11/11/11, those of you that are Spiritually ready for movement, but not yet willing to give things up on your own, are having things ripped away from you, and this is very uncomfortable indeed.

You cannot hang onto the past much longer. Our governments are in trouble (middle east is a good example), our financial systems are in a HUGE transition, our power sources, etc., the list goes on. There is not much that is not changing right now.

In the long run things will be better. Yes, there is a discomfort that comes with change, that is to be expected. However, the longer you try to hold onto the old, the more uncomfortable things need to get.

The list of things people are hanging onto is as endless as the global changes, relationships, friendships, jobs, houses, spouses, cities, animals, habits ~ you name it, you want to keep it: at all costs. Unfortunately, it is costing you dearly.

It is for this reason that I have my horse up for sale. Do I want to sell him? Not really, he’s a good friend, provides me a lot of enjoyment, and he is happy and secure where he is. I have been told from my peeps in no uncertain terms though that he needs to move on to another home. I don’t know exactly when, or where he will go, but I have put out the willingness to find him another home. I don’t want it to come down to crunch time and be forced to re-home him just anywhere, to a home where he might not be well taken care of, or worse yet, wind up as dog food. Is it hard? You bet. Does it sometimes make me cry? Yes. Will I feel a huge loss when he is gone? Most certainly.

BUT. And this is a big BUT. If I decided to not listen to what I know, to hang onto him for as long as possible, to work my darndest to make it work, what would be likely to happen? I would be forced into some sort of a situation, whether it be financial, health, having to change cities….something…. that would help me move on from him. I would rather avoid the heartbreaking discomfort, and just live with some sadness for a while until the next thing in my life presents itself.

So many of you are in the same boat. Some with animals, like me, but more of you with people or jobs. Just hanging on and hanging on. How uncomfortable does your life need to get before you let go?

Even Garth Brooks wrote a song about it. “Unanswered Prayers”. Whenever we let go of something, something else takes its place. EVERY TIME. Think back to other times in your life that you thought you just couldn’t live without something … you are reading this, therefore, you are still here. You did live though it. And more likely than not, you have had some good times in the meantime.

It is impossible for the old and new to co-exist. One needs to go. In order for your life to feel like it is flowing, and moving forward, you must let go. What is meant to stay with you will stay.

The seed of the new cannot take hold and grow if it is surrounded by the shell of the old.

We do have ultimate control over our own lives, but sometimes our brain takes over and we repeat thoughts and feelings over and over in our head.  We know we should be affirming something else for ourselves, we know that we should let go, but we just can’t seem to do it. 

So, how do you begin to let go.

The first thing you need to do is recognize that there is a need to let something go.  If there is anything in your life that is causing you pain, it needs to be let go of – life is not meant to be painful.

Secondly, you need to realize that it is not an easy thing to let go of something that has been in your life a long time.  It becomes a part of who we are.  There is no sense in engaging in negative self-talk.  You are human after all and your habits become your reality.  So, stop telling yourself you are stupid or weak for not being able to do it easily.

The third step involves just being willing to give something up.  It doesn’t necessarily mean that right this second, you are going to give up something that you have been experiencing for a long time, but you need to be willing to give it up.  If you have the same thoughts running through your head over and over again, just affirm that you are willing to try to think different things.  

Which brings us to the fourth step.  You don’t have to let go all at once.   With some things, what happens is that if you try and do it all at one time, and you find yourself faltering, you tell yourself that you just aren’t good enough, or just can’t do it, and you give up. 

The fifth step is to realize that it is okay to ask for help to move on.  When you find that you are obsessing over something, ask for help.  Whether it be through prayer or asking your guides, or God, Angels, Ascended Masters, or whoever you believe is there to help you.  You don’t always have to start out with an action.  You can start out with an intention.   Just as your mind can keep you stuck with something in an endless loop, it can also be used to unstick you.  Thoughts become things. 

Once you have recognized the need to let go; accepted that you are ‘normal’ and ‘human’ and have stopped putting yourself down; and affirming that you are willing to give it up; start to slowly let go, one day, one step at a time; and learn to ask for help when you feel like you just can’t do it alone; you will be well on your way to letting go and moving on with the more enjoyable parts of your life.

I write and talk a lot about you having control over your own life. A lot of clients ask me “How much control do I really have? Are some things just destiny, or meant to be?”

What about the things you really want, but that you don’t get. You need to remember, there is more to you than just your ego mind. You have a soul. A higher self that has come to this earth for a reason. You came here for an experience.

What you need to do, is to connect with your soul and see what it is that you really want, what your Soul wants. Sometimes if your ego mind is not in line with your soul, it can appear as if you really aren’t getting what you want.

If you have had a reading with me you know. I can often see clearly the path you are headed down, and what the result will be if you continue on that path. Basically, I can see where you are headed right now. Another thing you may know, is that whatever path I see you on at the moment CAN be changed. All it takes is for you to be conscious; to realize that there is more to you than just what you think and that if there is something coming up you do not like, or something you are experiencing right now that you do not like, you can change it by taking action.

Before you came here, your Soul decided that a certain thing would be your life purpose. (Some people refer to this information as what is contained in the Akashic records). HOW YOU EXPERIENCE YOUR LIFE PURPOSE IS UP TO YOU. Once you get here and go through some experiences, it is up to you to decide whether or not to stay on the path you are on, or switch things up a bit.

Is it comfortable for you here? Do you feel like you are living your purpose? Which path do you chose to walk down on your way to fulfilling your purpose?

When I do a reading and see something coming up for someone and they do not like it, they can change it. Knowledge is a part of the power and control. ** Most people can tap into this themselves if they really want to, but it takes meditation, and patience and lots and lots of practice. Most have been conditioned to respond to things in a certain mindful or logical way and when they get inspired to do something completely different than what most people would call ‘normal’, they ignore it. In essence, they don’t listen to their inner guidance. So they may unconsciously, but yet from a soul level, create something that appears undesirable in everyday life in order to facilitate a change.

There have been times where I’ve looked at my own path, and consciously changed where I saw myself headed. I look, I see, I don’t like, I mediate, pray, ask for help, make changes, do energy work, ask through meditation which other way I can do it, whatever it takes to do things in a new way. I don’t think I really need to do more than just hold the intention of changing it, but doing those things helps me stay balanced and focused.

There are itmes when I look and see something I don’t like and I just prepare myself for it. There are a lot of difficult things I’ve gone though in my life but each and every one of them has made me who I am today. If not for the bad stuff, if my entire life had just been a bed of roses, I certainly wouldn’t be able to relate to people who are going through a tough time themselves. When I connect with a client who is going through a difficult time, it is easier for me to feel compassion if I’ve been there myself.

Anyway, next time you are trying to manifest or control something, take a look at what your end goal is. Does what you are doing in your day to day life right now support the end goal of what you want? What your higher self is trying to achieve? Do you need to shake things up a bit? Are you headed down a path where the only option for your higher self to get you where you need/want to be is through discomfort?

Sometimes you cannot dictate exactly what reaching your goal looks like. You don’t always get to where you want to be via the path that you initially planned with your mind, you may need to make adjustments along the way, but you truly do have control over where you end up.

** For those of you who wish to work on connecting with Spirit and learning how to “Do it Yourself”, I have recently received an online course to review called Psychic Awakening.
I will be posting a full review of the course in the next two weeks. However, after my initial perusal, I am confident that the course will be helpful to many.

I myself went through this a few years ago. I was working full-time for the government, with a good paying, responsible job, working my way up the corporate ladder. I figured if I got high enough up there I would be able to make a difference.

I also just happened to be a psychic. I did psychic readings on the side for many years, and just kept trudging along like that, figuring that it would last indefinitely. I had a pension plan, regular paycheque, seniority, the ability to work anywhere in the province, and most of all I had security.

Then it hit me. What was my true calling anyway? Like many others on earth right now no matter how hard I worked or how much work I brought home, or how many people I supervised and tried to help, I simply didn’t feel like I was doing all I came here to do. It was lucrative, yet it felt empty in so many ways.

I really enjoyed the psychic readings I did. I met so many people. Helped so many people. I was able to help more with my psychic readings than I was at the Welfare Office where I worked that’s for sure. My day-job felt so empty. It got to the point where I felt badly just getting up and going to work in the morning. Where was the difference I was supposed to be making in the world?

It seems like I meet people all the time who are in the position I was just a few years ago. Some are feeling a pull to do more, some have quit the rat race and have started their own thing, yet are still struggling. Where is the relief?

Many of us were taught that in order to have things we needed to work very hard and sacrifice. If there is no sacrifice there is no reward. These days, that just simply does not make any sense. Some of us still have family that tells us “your suffering is your own fault, if you just went back to work at a real job and got a paycheque your life would be so much easier”. This isn’t true for us as a species anymore.

The world is changing very quickly. We as the humans of earth right now are ascending with Mother Earth herself. Things cannot go on the way they always have. Lightworkers and scientists alike have now realized that we are the Creators of our own reality. There is the “Law of Attraction”, and we can and do create whatever we want. What we focus on expands. We need to get our focus away from the old words of “you must sacrifice and work hard to survive”.

Now, this is not to say that we sit around on our behinds all day doing nothing. What it means, is we are allowed to live our dream. We are allowed to leave the rat race and dedicate ourselves to helping others. We do not need to suffer anymore.

There are many people who think they have realized this. They make a decision. Say that they are ready to take whatever comes, they will change their lives and they will work to change and improve their own little corner of the world. So far so good. Off they go with all their good intentions, and nothing happens right away.

Panic sets in. “Oh no, what if I have made the wrong decision”. My debt load is going up. Income is sporadic at best at first. The doubt builds and builds. Each day, we doubt, and each day things seem to go downhill a little more. From the beginning, we have been doubting whether or not we’ve made the right decision. When things don’t happen as quickly as we would like, we start to think more and more about the past. How things were when we were ‘working’. Not mentioning of course that we are still ‘working’, just at something that we are more passionate about. And remember, we were taught from a young age that if we do not work and suffer, we will never be financially successful.

Maybe we should go back to our old job – “They might take me back”, we think. Or, at least “I know I can get a job doing the same thing as I was before”. Here’s where the Universe helps us out. Things get even trickier for us, especially financially — because that is where our focus is. Then, we may even get a job offer, or see a position advertised, or hear from a friend that someone is hiring. We would be perfect for the job! It is exactly the job we left that we were so good at.

Those of us that have become accustomed to thinking that there are no coincidences may think that it would be in their best interest to take that job. After all, Spirit has put it right in front of us. Who would we be if we didn’t listen. Maybe we are meant to go back to our old line of work. We do need to eat. The thing that many of us don’t seem to realize is that WE are the Creators. By being unsure of where we are going, by constantly questioning “are we doing the right thing”, we are creating our own financial suffering. Then the Universe gives us exactly what we have been asking for, which is more doubt. We create a job that we can go back to. Yes, we created it. Spirit did not place it in front of us. We created it because it is what makes us feel safer.

Now here’s the hard part. Can you turn it down? Do you want to live in your past? Repeat your past? Do what you have always done? Sell out? Go back to where you swore you never would? These comments are not meant to make you feel bad. They are the comments that we all have running through our heads when we are in this situation.

This is your chance. Your chance to make your decision, once and for all. Do you want to move forward or do you want to go back to where you were before. Its important that you know you cannot fail. No matter what your decision — you will NOT fail on your path in this lifetime. You can slow yourself down, experience different things, but you CANNOT FAIL.

I cannot make decisions for you, however, I can give you my insight into these situations. You need to make a decision, trust your decision, and stick with it. No doubt, no fear. You are supported. We all have helpers on the other side, they will never abandon you. You simply need to TRUST. Trust that you have made your decision. That the decision is correct, and that you will not go backwards. See where it is you want to be. Financially, spiritually, physically. See it and trust you will get there. Don’t worry about how you are going to get there. KNOW you will get there. You are supported.

As soon as you let go of the idea that you may need to go backwards, or that maybe you won’t be successful, you will see abundance like you have never imagined.