Angel Card Reading for the Week – May 18-24, 2015

Here is your free Angel Card Reading for this week, May 18-24, 2015

We begin our week with a New Moon, remember to write down all the things you intend to bring into your life or your energy field this month!  (technically the new moon was this morning, but its not too late to set your intentions).

Interesting we start the week with sensitivity followed by clairvoyance and chakra clearing.  This week is all about embracing your gifts and accepting yourself as you are.  Our world is changing and we are all getting more sensitive to the messages that are given to us.  Trusting in your higher self, angels and source to provide answers for you will be very helpful.

 

For the Beginning of the Week, Your Angel Card is:

Sensitivity

Sensitivity:  Archangel Haniel:  “You are extra-sensitive to energies and emotions right now.  Honor yourself and your feelings”

“Sensitivity is a beautiful and powerful gift, and there’s no such thing as being ‘too sensitive’.  Your sensitivity helps you know the truth about situations and people, and its important for you to trust and follow these hunches, intuitions and impressions.  Spend some time alone in nature to further develop your sensitivity.  Avoid harsh situations and chemicals.  At home or at work, ask Haniel to help you choose life-affirming foods, beverages, companions and activities.  Know that its safe for you to feel deep emotions, as they’re part of your sensitivity.  Visualize the two of us sealed in beautiful bluish-white light.  This light dissolves any lower energies, transmuting them into love.  The light also helps you distinguish between your own feelings and those of other people”.

 

For the Middle of the week, your Angel Card is:Clairvoyance

Clairvoyance, Archangel Raziel:  “I am helping your spiritual sight to awaken fully so you can clearly see Heavenly love.”

“Your clairvoyance may come in different forms:  as fleeting mental images in your mind’s eye; as dreams; as recurring sights in the physical world; as auras and energy; or as apparition experiences.  All of the facets of clairvoyance are beautiful and varied.  Enjoy and trust them.  Hold the intention of seeing only love, and that is what you’ll see.”

 

For the End of the Week Your Angel Card is:

Chakra Clearing

Chakra Clearing – Archangel Metatron: “Call upon me to clear and open your chakras, using sacred geometric shapes.”

“Metatron uses sacred geometry shapes to clear and align the chakra energy centres in our bodies.  Mentally ask Metatron to open your chakras, and he’ll gently send his “Metatron cube” (the shape pictured in the card illustration), through the crown chakra at the top of your head.  The cube rotates downward, cleaning psychic toxins from your body and chakras.  When your chakras are clear, you’ll feel more energized and have increased intuition.

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

What is more important; “Working” at Clearing Limiting Beliefs OR Practicing Awareness?

How important is it to know what your subconscious limiting beliefs are?

I have written about belief systems before.  Your conscious beliefs, and your subconscious beliefs.  We all have them engrained within our minds.

I would like to start by explaining in very simple terms the four main states of consciousness.

make your own path

What are the States of Consciousness?

Beta.  When you are in the beta state you are alert and wide awake.  You can concentrate.  Your brain makes connections quickly and can do work that requires attention.  Neurons fire quickly, and it is easier to come up with ideas and solutions to problems.  (Beta training biofeedback is sometimes used to treat ADD).

Alpha.  In alpha state, you are relaxed, can visualize and is the best state for creativity.  Alpha is much more relaxed than Beta.  Brain activity is more like waves than rapid fire.  In this state you can expand your awareness and you may experience feelings of peace.  You are less fearful, and much more relaxed, your heart rate and breathing will slow down.  This is a good place for visualizing what you want to create in your life.   Going into the alpha state ‘on purpose’ will help to alleviate stress.

Theta.  The theta state is the state you are in when you mediate.  It creates memories and it is where intuition comes from.

In theta you are very relaxed.  Your brain activity is almost like that of sleep, but not quite.  Theta can bring up old memories that you had forgotten, it makes you more receptive, you are able to get more inspiration and inner images in your mind’s eye.  In theta state you may feel like you are floating, or like your mind is expanding outside of your body.  The deepest levels of meditation get you in a theta state, as does self hypnosis.

Theta is the best state for re-programming your mind, recalling dreams and learning things quickly.

Delta

Delta.  In delta, you are in a state of detached awareness.  This is where healing can occur and is also where sleep is.

Delta is the slowest of all the brain wave frequencies.   It is associated with deep sleep.  Some frequencies in delta release HGH (Human Growth Hormone), so it assists with regeneration and healing.  That is why our bodies need to rest when ill.

Our subconscious resides in delta.  Intuition also rises from the delta state.

Where do most of our belief systems come from?

Children are in theta state for the most part until they are around 7-8 years old.  Theta is the place in which our minds are programmed.  For most of us, the beliefs we hold, (even if subconsciously), were created in a time that we do not even remember.

Your beliefs around personal safety and security, money, health, aging, work, and how the world operates in general were mostly programmed into you before you were 10 years old.  They are often subconscious and you may not even know you are thinking them.  These come from your parents, your family, your tribe, your city, your surroundings and your experiences.

You can also pick up belief systems as you go through life based on your experiences.  If you allow yourself to be bombarded with TV or Radio programs that instill an idea into your mind, you are being programmed.  Think of magazines and television that shows girls unrealistic expectations of what it is ‘normal’ to look like; or of “reality” TV (Survivor, Big Brother) that shows people pitted against one another, or shows that have humans fighting over resources when the ‘modern world’ ceases to be (The Hundred, The Walking Dead etc.).  Or the news that shows how uncontrolled things are and propagates war and distrust against other countries.

You can pick up belief systems from someone in your life that introduces you to a new concept.  They tell you about it and you have no other experience with it.  They essentially tell you their truth, you accept it as your truth, and the Law of Attraction brings it to you.  This can be a positive or negative experience depending on their truth.  Be discerning; are they happy?  Are they miserable?  If they are miserable, do your own research on the subject before their beliefs become your beliefs.

You may have had a relationship where you were not valued, or worse yet were physically or psychologically abused.  You may have been told things over and over that eroded your self-confidence.  This can also shape beliefs of worthiness moving into the future.

All these things help to shape your belief systems.  I do have some good news though.

What is more important; “Working” at Clearing Limiting Beliefs OR Practicing Awareness

Most of you worry about which of your belief systems are ‘holding you back’ in your life.  You practice the Law of Attraction; you have at least a basic knowledge of how energy works; you logically believe that we create your own reality, but you still feel like you are held back.

You may do some energy work to figure out what these belief systems are.  You may work on clearing subconscious negative beliefs with Psych-K, or theta healing, or one of a hundred other healing modalities.

Now for the coolest thing ever.

What if you just practiced awareness instead?

What if you know that thoughts are energy, intention is everything, and energy creates.  What if you wake up one day and realize that by focusing on your upbringing or your life up to this point, and on trying to ‘figure out’ what your subconscious beliefs are you are actually thinking and vibrating your limiting beliefs?  The more you focus your attention on your limiting subconscious beliefs, the more they show up for you.

What if you simply allowed yourself to be aware of what thoughts you are having?  If you are aware of your thoughts, you will know what your beliefs are.  You will know if your beliefs are “limiting” beliefs or beliefs that help you based on how you are feeling when you are ‘talking to yourself’.   If you find yourself feeling a certain way that is uncomfortable (anger, discouragement, ‘I can’t’  etc.), then pay attention to that.  Why is it uncomfortable?  It is a given, 100%, that it is a thought you are having that is causing the discomfort.

Now you need to look at that thought and ask yourself if it is true for you now.

You too often go through your day on auto pilot.  You don’t know what your subconscious beliefs are because you let your subconscious rule your life while you are focusing on a different moment in time.

There is NOTHING more liberating that being in your moment and being AWARE of what thoughts are running through your head.  When you are aware of them, you can challenge them by asking if it is true in this moment.  That will lead you to become aware of what you have been vibrating and attracting more of, and it will also lead you be able to think different thoughts.

Your feelings are your guide.  Your feelings will tell you if your belief is true for you or not.  You can be programmed a certain way, but you can just as easily de-program yourself by being aware of what you are thinking and feeling.  You were programmed because you were told something at some point, you believed it, so it showed up for you that way.  The more it showed up, the more you believed it.  Now it is an ingrained belief.

All you need to do is practice awareness of what you are thinking and change what is not serving you.  Even you that are reading this that are logical thinkers can do this.  You understand the ‘concept’ of energy and the Law of Attraction.  So if you take the next step, this will work for you.

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How do I challenge a belief/reoccurring thought/creation pattern

Example

You were raised to parents that had very limiting beliefs around money.  You constantly heard:

  •  the little guy never gets ahead
  • the ‘people at the top’/government are all corrupt and will just screw you over, take your money, you will never get anywhere because the world is just like that.  The people who have lots of money are evil and do harm to others.
  • you may as well spend all your money and run up your credit and have some fun, because you will never get ahead anyway, life won’t be worth living if you don’t
  • just get a union job in the mine (or at the manufacturing plant, or wherever) and work there your whole life, it is the only security you will ever have

Because you have these ‘subconscious’ thoughts in your head, they pop up at the most inopportune moments.  When you are thinking of saving up for something, your beliefs keep you from doing it, you spend instead.   You were never exposed to the concept of having money work for you.

When you are thinking of doing work that is ‘outside the box’ your subconscious tells you that you shouldn’t do that, its not safe unless you have a ‘good job’ that will provide money for you.

Even if you manage to get a job outside the box or start your own business, if you have been programmed with negative beliefs you will sabotage yourself.  If you have a belief that successful people with money at the top of their field are evil, you will constantly do things subconsciously that hold you back from success.

At every turn your subconscious is running your life.  But if you were to practice being aware of these thoughts, you could challenge them, and make them disappear.  Essentially, clearing them out.

So you think of following your heart and intuition and getting a job you love.  Your subconscious plays all these programs for you, its not safe, if you do well you are evil, you will never get ahead etc.  What if you were to say to yourself “is this true?”  Then what if you could look online and find dozens (or thousands or millions) of examples that prove to you that its not true.  Then what if you could practice having different thoughts?

Now that you know what they are they do not need to have power over you anymore.  If thinking differently causes you anxiety, you could do some EFT Tapping to relieve the anxiety so you can forge ahead with your plans.

Remember you have had years, or a lifetime of proof that your beliefs are true ~ simply because the Law of Attraction works and you have attracted examples for yourself that support your beliefs.

The trick is to replace the beliefs with new ones, NOT to keep looking for more limiting beliefs, and NOT fighting the ones you have.  Its all about creating new belief systems for yourself.

Give it a try and see just how easily it can work once you go with it.

 

If you are very confused about where you are vibrating, or would like some additional help with clearing your energy, or figuring things out, please feel free to contact me for a psychic reading, or life/energy coaching.

 

 

 

 

Energy Alert, Thursday, May 14, 2015

Ahhh…. the energy has released a little bit.  This week we’ve been bombarded with energies that didn’t exactly have us feeling at our best.  It feels so much freer today.  Anyone feel like dancing?

We have been getting a lot of downloads lately.  To help with Ascension, to help with changes to our DNA required to cope in the higher frequency dimensions.

Just a reflection

Some manifestations you may be noticing:

  • You might be hearing strange things.  Either ringing in your ears, or high pitched noises, or (what I hear), is almost like a high pitched white noise.  This is due to some of the energetic downloads we are getting.
  • You might be having some weird heart palpitations.  This is an energetic download.
  • You might be having some serious ‘coincidences’ show up in your life.  Or just be having downright ‘psychic’ moments.
  • You may find your dreams are more prophetic, or you think of something and it happens, or people that you think about show up in your life.

I said to my husband this morning “we need to build something with Lego’s today”.   (because I have some Lego’s that I am re-homing, and thought it would be nice to have a picture of them put together).  His response was “Oh my God, I just had a dream last night that I was building with Lego’s!”   (for the record, building with Lego’s is NOT something that’s the norm in our house).

  • Or you are looking for a something very specific, and you put the intention out, and suddenly what you thought about is right in front of your eyes.  Like maybe there’s something you think “would be nice to have one day”, or “maybe I should get a new ____”, and you come across someone selling it at the side of the road, or you see it in your Facebook Newsfeed ~ the exact thing you were thinking of; at the exact price you wanted to pay and can afford.  Or ever better yet, someone offers it to you out of the blue (this happened to both my husband and a friend of mine; they both had someone give them something that they thought they would like to have ~ no focusing, no wishing; just a simple thought “I think I want one of those”).
  • Or you think “wow, some people sure are miserable”; and then the next store you shop at has a miserable clerk (just be nice to them anyway, maybe they are just having a bad day).  Spread that love you feel in your heart all over the place.

Make sure you keep your thoughts positive.  You are seeing everything through the ‘eyes’ of your vibration.  You are creating moments and you are seeing what is to come.  ALL OF IT will be easier for you if you can see the good in life in general.

These are exciting times.  Remember who you are.  Even the Angel Cards for this week said just that.  Remember who you are.

We are all vibrational beings, and we all have the ability to consciously create with our vibration.  Remember who you are so you can create from a higher vibration.  There is NO NEED for the same old same old ‘auto-pilot’, pre-programmed matrix that we have lived in up to this point.

All it takes is to be aware of what you are thinking and vibrating.  If it is good and focused on what you want, then keep it up.  If it is not what you want, then change your thoughts.

I am really excited for you, this is an amazing time we are living in!

Love Tamara

Okay, I have to add this P.S. to this blog post because of something that happened when I was getting ready to publish it.

Yesterday I was thinking of some things that I might do or change in my life.  Just at the pondering stages.  I did a little bit of research online, and ‘put it out there’ to the Universe knowing that I would get direction.

Last night I had a dream that told me quite clearly that the subjects I was pondering yesterday were NOT the way to go.  So today, I was like “Okay, send me in another direction then”.  And I just left it.

When I was done this post, I went to my Facebook Page to take a look and to get ready to share the post on Facebook.  This is what I saw:

Facebook Page

You will see that this is a post from last fall.  I had it as a ‘pinned post’, which meant it should show up at the top of my Facebook page until I took it off.  It DISAPPEARED off of my Facebook page, newsfeed, everywhere, poof it was just gone last October 1st.  I couldn’t find it anywhere, and when I queried FB it said that ‘sometimes pinned posts will just disappear’.

So, I am going to listen to the Universe and I am going to do another workshop.  It will likely be at my home in Sardis and will be limited to 6-8 people or something like that.  If you are reading this, you are ‘hearing it first’.  If you think you may be interested pop me an email or comment on this post.  I will see how much interest I get before I pick a date.

Angel Card Reading for the Week – May 11-17, 2015

Here is your free Angel Card Reading for this week, May 11-17, 2015

For the Beginning of the Week, Your Angel Card is:

Remember Who You Are

 

Remember Who You Are – Archangel Michael:  “You are a powerful, loving and creative child of God.  YOu are very loved.”

“You are made in the image and likeness of your Creator, so you embody aspects of all those qualities.  Your inner Divine light is pure and bright in truth, and no mistakes can undo God’s handiwork of true perfection.  Don’t be afraid of your power, your magnificence, or your wisdom. When you succeed, you inspire others.  When you change your life so that it’s more aligned with your interests, you inspire others.  Be powerful! Be magnificent! This is who you are.”

Your Angel Card for the Middle of this Week:

Counselor

 

Counselor -Archangel Azrael:  “You are a natural counselor, and many people benefit from your guidance and reassurance.”

“Your life purpose involves counseling people in ways that uplift, motivate, comfort, heal and inspire.  You’re a true spiritual counselor, and people find you to be a trustworthy confidante.  Expand your counseling work to the next level, because you’re about to help greater numbers of people.  Call upon me for guidance and support.”

Your Angel Card for the End of the Week (the Weekend):

Clear Your Space

 

Clear Your Space – Archangel Jophiel:  “Get rid of clutter, clear the energy around you, and use feng shui.”

“Your home and work environments affect you on many levels.  Clutter can erode your energy, creativity and prosperity.  I’ll help you find the time and motivation to clear interferences from your physical environment.  Together, We’ll release anything that’s not serving you.  We’ll donate, recycle, or discard unused items.  We’ll open the windows to circulate fresh air in the rooms.  And I’ll escort lower energies away.  You’ll notice huge improvements in all areas of your life as a result of this endeavor.”

 

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Is being happy of the “ego”?

I write posts that are meant to be inspiring and to help you achieve all you need and want in this lifetime.  I have no desire to convert anyone into a certain belief system.  We all ascend and live life from where we are.  None of us are better or worse than each other.  We are simply different.

Aside from the basics (love, happiness), we all want different things.  We have different perceptions of what happiness is.  We all have different dreams or desires, or feelings of where we want to live, what we want to do in our lives.

If someone thinks differently than you do; if they choose to live a more humble life, does it mean you are egotistical for wanting more?  Absolutely not.  Can you want more and still be humble?  Yes.  Can you be happy and have financial wealth and still be of service to others?  Yes.

If you try and impose your will onto someone else, that is your ego.  If you are truly okay with who you are, and you truly feel love for all, you won’t have the desire to change anyone else.

This can be hard for a lot of humans.  Especially if YOU are happy, and there is someone around you who is not.  You want them to be happy, so you try and tell them what to do.  This is your ego.  Their path is different than yours, you need to let them live it.

Or if you are unhappy, and someone around you IS happy, you may try and tell them that what they are doing is wrong.  Like if they love their work and have money, and you do not, you tell them “you are so ‘in your ego’, you need to get more ‘spiritual’ and in tune with nature”.  Never mind that you are wealthy and get out in nature quite regularly, and are on councils that donate money to help nature and animals ~ you are ‘egotistical’ because you chose not to suffer in this lifetime.

I offer psychic and coaching services to help people who’s beliefs (and vibration) are similar to mine, but that feel alone; or that want to learn how to use the energies to have a positive impact on their life, or to realize the full potential of their soul.  I write what I vibrate so that people who resonate with what I say can find me.  I can help a lot of people realize their own potential and it is my life path to embrace and share this.  It is the perfect job for me.

dare different

I have been wealthy, and I have been totally broke, and everywhere in between.  One thing I know for certain, is when I was broke I was more likely to feel disempowered.  It was harder to be inspired to help anyone ~ if my basic needs were not met, I was less likely to have the time or the energy to write.  When I was struggling, I was not in the energetic vibration of Source.  Source is “all that is”.  If we feel less than all that is, it can be harder to vibrate or embody the light.  How can I help someone else if I cannot help myself?

Even as I wrote that paragraph above, I realized how different I am now than I used to be.  After re-reading that paragraph, I must point something out about how energy works.  When I used what I knew to create differently, I was no longer disempowered, I no longer ‘struggled’ no matter the circumstance.  Because of how I vibrate now the external circumstances of my life do not dictate how I feel.  Because I decided to consciously vibrate higher, and stay happy, whether I have or have not, I find that I have more ~ consistently.  Because my happiness is not dependent on external factors, it frees up the energy of the Universe to provide more for me.

The Universe will provide us with what we need.  If what I write can help you, then your guides, angels and your higher self will direct you here.  I don’t walk down the street, or knock on doors trying to convert people to my way of being.  We all have our own path and our own way.  I do put myself ‘out there’ so others of like-energy can see me.  I put myself and my channels out there so that I can help people in a way that resonates with them.  I expect that if my way of being-ness does not resonate with you, you will not have read this far.

I do not need to be converted, and neither does anyone else.

Sharing who you are and living a good life are not “ego”.  Telling someone else how they should be living is.

Angel Card Reading for the Week – May 4-10, 2015

Here is your free Angel Card Reading for this week, May 4-10, 2015

For the Beginning of the Week, Your Angel Card is:

Archangel Chamuel

Archangel Chamuel

 

Peace – Archangel Chanuel: “Peace comes from remembering that only love is real.”

“Look past the surface of this situation and see the underlying truth:  that everyone involved is a child of God filled with love.  By focusing upon this truth, you elicit loving behaviour and solutions.  Even though appearances may see otherwise, trust that a higher wisdom is in charge.  Love is the only power that exists, and its light shines away any seeming darkness.  Hold the intention to look for examples of this light within yourself and others, and you’ll have more light in your mind, heart thoughts, and life.  This knowledge is the foundation of peace.”

Your Angel Card for the Middle of this Week:

Archangel Michael

Archangel Michael

You Are SafeArchangel Michael: “I am protecting you against lower energies, and guarding you, your loved ones, and home.”

“Let go of worries, as I’m surrounding you, your loved ones, home, and possessions with powerful loving light. This light repels lower energies, and attracts loving experiences. Focus on this light and love – instead of on fear – as you’ll attract the object of your focus. With your mind free of fear, you have additional time and energy to devote to your life’s missions. You are free when you are fearless. Know that you are safe at all times, and that my protection is flawless.”

 

Your Angel Card for the End of the Week (the Weekend):

Archangel Jeremiel

Archangel Jeremiel

 

Overcoming Difficulties – Archangel Jeremiel:  “The worst is now behind you, and you’re surmounting any previous challenges.”

“The challenges you’ve faced have made you stronger and have taught you new lessons.  instead of becoming bitter, you’ve opened your heart with compassion toward people in similar situations.  You’ve let go of any blame or feelings  of victimhood.  This is why you’re now overcoming your previous challenges.  Your positive outlook is attracting a loving solution and new situations at a higher level of spiritual understanding.  Stay positive!”

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Full Moon In Scorpio Tonight – May 3 2015 Energy Alert

The full moon is at 8:41 pm PST tonight.  What do you desire?  This full moon has the energy of the Phoenix.  If you could rise from the ashes to a new life what would it look like?  You are completely supported to move beyond your limits.

It is time to let your unconscious become conscious.  You need this.  We have recently (since 2012) been bombarded with light codes on planet earth, and this time is no exception.  Use this influx of light to your advantage.

What do you want?  With these light codes and this full moon comes our ability to manifest our desires, (and that which we do not desire).  It is important to be conscious of what you are bringing into your life.  We are manifesting in our lives very quickly now.

plant the seeds

You need to focus on what it is you want.  Not where you have been, but where you want to go.  What do you have now?  What do you want and deserve in your life?  You can create it.  Use the energy of this full moon to propel yourself forward.

This full moon will bring to light anything that you are living now.  Do you want to keep it?  Do you want to let it go?  What are your gifts?  What are your fears?  This full moon will help illuminate this for you, be conscious of your thoughts and pay attention to signs.  You have an opportunity to springboard yourself forward in a positive way now.

Are you trying to rescue someone else?  Are you living your own life, or are you trying to live someone else’s life for them, or are you living your life through someone else?  It is time to embrace your own life.  You cannot rescue others, you need to propel yourself forward, those who are meant to stay in your life will stay, those that are meant to go will go.

This is all good, you need to plant some seeds in your life at this time.  Do you want to grow beautiful flowers, or do you want to grow stinging nettles?  The choice is yours.  Just make sure you are conscious of what you are planting and take responsibility for it.

The energy we are in right now is wonderful if you let yourself feel it.  If you really let yourself feel what is NOW you will realize this is just a beginning.  Everything starts here.  Nothing from the past can hold you back unless you keep your focus on wanting to create more “old”.

If you are having a hard time letting go of someone or something, then consider doing a mini fire ceremony.  Write down on paper all you want to let go of in your life and then burn it.  Once you do that you can write down all the new things you would like to see (this is a very basic ceremony, you can certainly do a more intensive one if you want to).

Love

Tamara

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Are you labeling your kids?

Sometimes having knowledge about someone’s (our kids) personality can be useful.  As in; they are creative, or they are stubborn, or focused, or logical, or some other descriptor.

These descriptive phrases basically point out where a child’s ‘gifts’ may lie.  They are not necessarily bad or good, they just are.

The problem occurs when we begin to judge how someone should be.  When we say that being a certain way is a ‘disorder’.  We label our kids as ‘autistic’, or ADD, or ODD, or ADHD, or whatever the ‘diagnosis of the day’ is.  I just saw a news story today that said the majority of kids with ADHD are boys.  The study also mentions that if these boys are allowed to fidget while in class they learn better.  How is that a ‘disorder’?

children on meds

My son has a friend that was diagnosed with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder).  I have spent A LOT of time with that kid.  When he’s at our house, he is polite and respectful and not the least bit defiant.  I have seen him with his mom and he’s a different kid with her.  He has no respect for her, blurts demands at her, and she gives him what he wants.  She said to me once “He always gets what he wants”.  I must say, he tried that with us and it didn’t work so he stopped talking to us that way.  When I first called him on the way he was talking to me he was shocked.  He didn’t talk to me very much during his next couple of visits to my home.  Mostly because he didn’t know how.  I kept talking to him normally and now he is totally comfortable talking to me normally as well.  No demands, no disrespect, no defiance, just a mutual respect between us.   His dad treats his mom the same way he treats his mom.  This is not a disorder, it is leading by example and parents training him how to treat them.  His mom ended up putting him on ‘medication’ to ‘treat’ his ODD.  All he needed was a few boundaries and to be told that respect is a two way street.

This is so sad.  How about we parent kids in a way that teaches them how to be respectful and kind, and how to cope with life (you don’t always get what you want, that’s it period ~ life isn’t fair, learn how to deal with it)?  It doesn’t take long to have a calm respectful relationship with a kid if you do what you say you are going to do and treat them how you want to be treated.

Does your kid have tantrums ~ all the time?

Do you?  Kids do what you do, not what you say.  If you fly off the handle why shouldn’t they?   If you handle upsets, or life, in a calm manner, and model coping skills, your kids will learn how to cope.

Most kids that act out do so because there is something they want or need that they are not getting.  They might not be able to sit and be a “Stepford Child” but that doesn’t mean they are ‘broken’ or need medication.  Sometimes it just means that you need to be a parent, figure out what they want or need (which is usually boundaries and undivided attention, NOT giving into tantrums), and modeling that for them.

Is your kid acting out?  Have you tried putting down your cel phone and engaging with them one on one for 20 minutes?  When you get home from work, do you get busy with dinner and ignore your kid while he/she screams and cries and fights with siblings?  If so, I want you to try something.  Try walking in the front door, taking a deep breath, picking up a book or crayons or something and sit with your kid.  Just a few minutes ~ 10, 20, 30… and talk to them.  Ask them about their day if they are old enough.  Just engage with them for a bit.  That’s what they want.

Its energy.  If you have an energy that is all over the place, stressed out, freaking about getting dinner on the table what do you think your child will feel?  Stressed out and freaking.  Give them a cracker if they are grumpy from hunger, then give them some UNDIVIDED attention.  And THEN make dinner.  You will be able to make dinner in relative peace.  Maybe your kid will even be willing to help you, or sit at the kitchen table and chat with you while you cook.  Try it.

How to respect your kids, and teach them to respect you in return

Do what you say you are going to do.

Yes means YES.  Keep your promises.  If you tell your kid(s) you are taking them to the park later then take them to the park later.  Don’t break your promise.  If you are worried about weather tell them “I will take you to the park later if the weather stays nice”.  Turn off your phone.  Don’t get so wrapped up in work, or the drama of your friend online or on the phone that you ‘forget’ all about the park.

No means NO.  Not, “No, until you scream so freaking loud for so freaking long that I can’t stand it anymore and I give you what I told you I would not give you”.  Why the heck would a kid stop acting up to get what they want if MOST of the time acting up gets them what they want?

Teach them consequences.  Do you blame others when you make a mistake, or do you take responsibility for yourself and your own actions?  Do you speed, then blame the police for giving you a ticket?  Do you overspend and then blame the credit card company for the outrageous interest that you agreed to pay when you signed your name?

Take responsibility for your mistakes, and stop rescuing you kids from their mistakes.  There are consequences for your actions.  If you are constantly telling your kids “If you do that again, you are grounded for a week”, and then two days later you let them go out, your word is crap.  They know you don’t do what you say you are going to do.  If they steal or cheat, and then you somehow excuse that behaviour or ignore it, you are teaching them that they don’t need to be responsible for their actions.

I’m not saying that you call the cops on your kids.  If you get to the point that you need to call the police to parent your children for you, you can pretty much be assured that you have missed a part of the parenting process that is listed above.

Psychiatry and Medications are BS

I am NOT a doctor.  This is NOT a medical blog.  The opinions I express are just that “my opinions”.  If you or your child are under a doctors care or on medication, do not stop just because of something I say.  I take no responsibility for your actions. 

Do psychiatric medications have a role to play?  My answer to this is a BIG maybe.  Without supports in place to deal with disorders like schizophrenia, I suppose they do have a place.  In different cultures people with schizophrenia are revered as Shamans and healers with ties to other realms and dimensions.  In our Western Culture, there isn’t a lot of time, knowledge, places to deal with such things.  If medication will help people with schizophrenia live a more comfortable life, then yes, meds may have a role to play.

For 99% of “Behavioural Issues” in kids medication is NOT required.  Some parents would rather have a pill they can give their kid than be a present parent.  If you are a part of the 1% then you may excuse this post, just be sure to take a good look at yourself before you do.

drugging of children

The Zombie Apocalypse

The zombie apocalypse is upon us.  Why?  Because we are medicating instead of understanding, or nurturing gifts, or healing.  A lot of mental health issues are due to situations in our life, NOT just our brain chemistry.  Energetically, we can change our brain chemistry with our thoughts.  With most mental health issues, it is our THOUGHTS that created them in the first place.

If you take a child that likes to move his body rather than sit at a desk for 3 hours and you tell him he is ‘bad’, or ‘broken’ instead of giving him an outlet, he will go through life either medicated, or thinking there is something wrong with him.  If we didn’t have kids that wanted to move their body, that did not have a higher physical energy level than ‘normal’, we wouldn’t have inventors, dancers, athletes landscapers.  Think about it logically.  There is nothing wrong with wanting to be physically active.  We program our kids to think its wrong, and we try and de-program our young adults to get off their butts and exercise ~ IF, they aren’t over medicated and unable to move.

I wrote this post because I often have clients ask about their kids.  Of course, “how are my kids” is a fairly regular question that I get when I do psychic readings.  The messages in this blog post have been given to at least 15 different parents over the past 3 years by Spirit.  This post is for all of you who want to know “How are my kids?”, but can’t or haven’t had a reading from me.

 

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

Angel Card Reading, April 27-May 3, 2015

Here is your free Angel Card Reading for this week, April 20-May 3, 2015

For the Beginning of the Week, Your Angel Card is:

Spread Your Wings

Spread Your Wings – Archangel Ariel:  “Do not hold back right now.  The timing is perfect, and you are ready to soar!”

“Although you may feel intimidated by the prospect of change, and by the thought of moving past your comfort zone, you’re ready to fly high.  Welcome new opportunities, and know that it’s safe to follow your heart and dreams.  Keep your focus upon love, service, and spirit, and avoid nay-sayers or skeptics.  Rember that you inspire others with your story of turning challenges into victories.”

Your Angel Card for the Middle of this Week:

 

Archangel Michael

Archangel Michael

You Are SafeArchangel Michael: “I am protecting you against lower energies, and guarding you, your loved ones, and home.”

“Let go of worries, as I’m surrounding you, your loved ones, home, and possessions with powerful loving light. This light repels lower energies, and attracts loving experiences. Focus on this light and love – instead of on fear – as you’ll attract the object of your focus. With your mind free of fear, you have additional time and energy to devote to your life’s missions. You are free when you are fearless. Know that you are safe at all times, and that my protection is flawless.”

Your Angel Card for the End of this Week:

Healthy Lifestyle Angel Card

Healthy LifestyleArchangel Raphael:  “Eat a healthful diet, get adequate sleep, and exercise regularly for optimal health.”

You are co-creating your health by following your inner guidance about lifestyle habits.  I give you inner nudges to improve the way you eat, or to exercise or rest more often.  My prodding isn’t to nag you or rob you of pleasure.  Rather, my urgings are in response to yoru prayers for higher energy levels, increased well-being, weight loss, and a happier mood. When you take excellent care of your body, your outlook and self esteem naturally blossom.

 

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

How do you wake up in the morning?

When I wake up in the morning, I usually lie there for about 10 minutes (sometimes much longer), and I stretch and think about all the wonderful things that I have (get) to do that day.  If I don’t have any plans, I think about all the things I could do if I want to.  I thank God for all the things in my life.  For what I did yesterday, and what I can do today.  I try for excitement and sometimes get it, but there are times I can only muster gratitude.  I always have something to be grateful for ~ waking up at all is a good one.  :-)

What do you do when you wake up in the morning?  How do you start your day?

Do you say “I’m not a morning person”, grumble, pull the covers up, and wish you didn’t have to start at all?  Think about how you wish you didn’t have to get up and face your day?  Think about all the stuff you have to do that you don’t want to do?

Generally speaking, do you not spend at least some of your time waiting for tomorrow to come?  If you are waiting for your tomorrow to come, what is the point of starting your day with the negativity that comes with “I’m not a morning person”.  Remember, you are a creator, what do you think you create with negative thoughts?  What you think at the beginning of your day, when you wake up and imagine what is coming next, is what will create your day for you.

have a good day

Gratitude is very important

If you cannot be grateful for what you have, you are not likely to get anything more.

Here is a very simplistic example:  I give my son $20.  He takes it, grumbles something at me, and then proceeds to tell me how $20 isn’t enough.  He starts to list off all that he can’t get with that $20.  The more he thinks about it, the grumpier he gets.  Pretty soon, he’s stomping out of the house complaining that he doesn’t have enough money.

What do you think the chances are that I will willingly, and lovingly give him $20 next time?  What is the point?  It won’t be enough, he won’t be grateful, he will complain about what he doesn’t have.  I will be unmotivated to ever give him another $20.

For the record my son has never done this and likely never will ~ he knows how energy works and he’d simply wouldn’t do that to himself.  Notice those words ‘to himself’.  Not ‘to me’.  I am not responsible for how he feels.  That’s his job and he knows it.

So when you wake up in the morning, do you say “I’m not a morning person”, “I hate my stupid job”, “my family is ungrateful and stressful”, “I have no money (or relationship, or ???)”, “I wish I didn’t have to do this today”, “I don’t want to get out of bed for this lousy life”.

If this is you, essentially you are telling God that its not enough.  You are shutting down the flow of more.  Why would God give you more if you bitch and complain about what you already have?  It might sound ‘weird’, but seriously that is how energy works.  You want a better job, but what would be the point of the Universe providing it for you.  You keep saying that what you have isn’t enough.  What would be the motivation of the Universe to give you more?

Mt. Cheam out my office window on a cool February morning.

Mt. Cheam out my office window on a cool February morning.

Try saying some or one of these things to yourself before you get out of bed, and just observe the improvement in your life over time:

  • I am alive, I am alert, I feel fantastic!
  • I am going to make this a really good day
  • What will my perfect day look like?  (then see yourself living that day)
  • What can I do today that will get me closer to my goal(s)?
  • I love my family (and then think about all the things you love about them)

You could also read this Affirmation Prayer, it covers off a lot of positive things you can tell yourself to start your day.

Here is a list of what NOT to do.  These things will just bring you more of the same old stuff that you don’t want.

  • DON’T review yesterday and see all the places that you failed to reach your goals (ie.  I ate too much yesterday, I didn’t get my exercise in, I had a bad day at work, I fought with my spouse etc.).  Remember you are creating your day.  Your NEW day, TODAY.  What you think about is what you will get more of.
  • DON’T imagine going into the kitchen and fighting with someone in your family.  If you do that, your energy will precede you and you will get an argument.  Bring your energy to your heart centre instead.  Project love ahead of you.  When you feel that, nothing external can even touch you.
  • DON’T take an inventory of the ‘wrong’ things that people around you do.  This is a killer.  The more you focus on the ‘wrong’ the more ‘wrong’ you will see.  ‘Wrong’ is a matter of perception, stop looking for it.

Simply get in the habit of practicing gratitude and being in your heart, and you will find that your creations look a lot like what it is you want for yourself.

 

If you need someone to help you look at your life from a fresh perspective and help you navigate changes in your life, to see if the changes you are considering are supported by Spirit, a psychic reading can help. You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.