7 Things You Can Do to Feel Better & Improve Your Mood

We all go through challenging times, me too.  This week has been somewhat challenging for me and I know that my thoughts will help to create my feelings and my feelings will help create my reality.

Thoughts, intentions, feelings ~ they are all energy.  We truly do attract into our lives what we are vibrating.  Sometimes when I find myself worrying or thinking about something I will make a conscious effort to change my vibration.

I would like to know that whatever is ‘on its way’ is better than what I am in the process of going through right this minute.  I know that if I lower my vibration I will just create more of the same ‘stuff’.

Feel good now

These are the ways that I use to get into a better mood

1.  I (always) stop thinking about things I can do nothing about.  There are a lot of things I can do, but there are a lot of things that are simply beyond my scope of control.  If I keep thinking about them it just makes me more depressed.

2.  I sometimes will listen to (or read) Esther Hicks channeling Abraham.

3.  I will sometimes go for a walk.

4.  Sometimes, if I am feeling particularly stressed and am having a hard time getting out of my head, I will just go to sleep.

5.  I will listen to a meditation that I need to follow along with in my head.  Hard to follow along and think about something else at the same time.

6.  This is one I do OFTEN.  I will write myself a list of things to do that will get me closer to what it is I want.  I wrote such a list last night, and today I have been going through this list.  If you do this, keep the list simple.  If you put too much on it you won’t do any of it.  My list for today had only 4 things on it.  There are many more things I want to do and that I probably will do today, but focusing specifically on this list keeps me from thinking about challenges.

7. Sometimes I will go out with a friend.  I am thoughtful with this one though.  If I think that by spending time with someone else will get me talking about what I DON’T want or having me focus on the ‘problems’ I have, then I make sure I spend time alone.

What do you do to feel better when you are in an uncomfortable mood or going through a challenging time?

Leave me a comment, I’d love to hear from you.

If you find that you need more guidance than I have shared in this post, you can book a psychic reading here.

Projecting Your Now into Your Future

I know you do this.  I do this sometimes (much less than I used to).  We all do this.  We project whatever is happening for us right now into our future.  Whether it is real or not.

I write a lot about living in the Now.  And the mindfulness of the now really is a nice place to be, but as humans we have a tendency to bring our now into our future, and sometimes it can feel pretty bleak.

When we are going through a hard time it is easy to project that hard time into the future.  It is too easy to think that things will stay like this forever.  To feel badly, and not be able to see our way clear to a time when things might be better.  You cannot see a potential future where you might feel happy and comfortable because NOW is uncomfortable.

Here is an example of projecting your present into your future

My husband is in construction and usually does ‘one-off’ jobs.  Meaning, he will work at one job site for a day or two, and his next job will be at another jobsite.  There are times where he is working a huge project with ongoing work, but those are few.  Most of the time his phone rings, he books work for the next day, or next week, and that’s it.  Sometimes he is booked up until the middle of the next week.

Sometimes though, he has nothing booked at all.  Has no calls to return, nothing.  In this case when my husband has no work booked business seems slow.  We may or may not have accounts receivable due in.  But in a circumstance like that it is easy for him to project into the future from this moment.  The way things look right this minute business is slow and it looks and feels depressing.

It doesn’t even matter what the subject is.  Business, relationships, finances, it could be anything.  If you are wanting a relationship and don’t have one, if you are feeling lonely, don’t project that into your future.  You won’t be lonely forever.

If you look at your life, it has been a series of events.  Most of the big positive events in your life came out of nowhere (now here).  Jobs, relationships… one day you wanted one, one day you got one.

 

Make it a good one!

Make it a good one!

As an example, my husband, today, has no work booked.  That doesn’t mean his phone won’t ring and he won’t have work for tomorrow, it just means he has none today.  He had none yesterday either, and on Tuesday he only worked for half a day.  In the past he would have freaked out and projected that into his future. (He’s so lucky to have me :-) lol)

There is nothing that he or I can do to MAKE his phone ring.  He spends a little bit of time on his business every day (because that is what you need to do when you work for yourself), sometimes its visiting jobsites, sometimes working on his website, sometimes just catching up on paperwork, or fixing tools, or any of the other things he does that I don’t have a clue about.  He ‘works his business’, whether he has a paid job that day or not.

He has learned to not let desperation or hopelessness sink in — he has learned not to project today into tomorrow.  In the past when he has created a vibration of lack, or of not having enough, all that happens is he attracts clients that have the same vibration.  These clients end up not wanting to pay a fair price for equipment and hard work.  He either doesn’t get the job or works for free.  Either way he’s wasted his time and ends up still being in a place of lack.

Those feelings don’t feel good.  Those feelings don’t need to last.  You don’t want to create a future for yourself based on those uncomfortable feelings.  You need to do what you can do in this moment for yourself, and you need to feel as good as you can.

This week, instead of spending his time projecting his present into his future, we went down to Home Depot and got some drywall and paint and we are doing some much needed work in our bathroom.  We haven’t had time and its something needs to be done.  Because he is not wasting time and energetic resources projecting ‘lack of work’ into his future, he is doing something that is making him feel good, and will also likely get his phone to ring for work next week.

Affirmations to keep from projecting your uncomfortable now into the future

1.  Tomorrow is another day.

2.  Everything I have in my life right now, was not there one day, and the next day it was.

3.  Everything always works out for me.

 

If you want some help to see potentials for your future, you can book a psychic reading with me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Blending Spiritual with Physical

There seems to be a lot of confusion with blending the spiritual and the physical worlds. I’m hoping to explain some of this in this post.

I have been coming across some people that are so Woo Woo and they are driving me nuts. Yes, I said it, human emotion, NUTS.

Nuts

We chose to come to earth to have a physical experience. A TON of us have come at this point time to help the planet and her people understand about energies and bring humanity back to where they were before. To times of Atlantis where we as humans were more aware of our power and our energy.

There are so many ‘guru’s’ that will tell you you need to ‘imagine’ and ‘intend’ and create with your mind. This is true, but they don’t always mention that we live here and if we want physical things (Money, a home, food), then we actually need to DO physical things.

We live in a physical world. I cannot stress that enough. Yes, as I wrote last week, this is only 1% of who we really are, but it is where we live and where we are PERCEIVING from. You will not be able to perceive 100% from the spiritual realm until you go back there.

You cannot wish for money which is a physical thing, and think that a physical thing will come if you just have your mind thinking about it. Okay, so maybe technically we could, because of how energy works, but ~ we can’t right now, because WE LIVE HERE. We chose to live here. We need to BLEND the spirit and the physical. Not just have one or the other. In order for us to be “all spiritual”, we’d have to be dead of our physical bodies. We already know what its like to be “all physical”, until 2006 99.99% of the planet was all physical. All you need to do is look around at what’s going on in the world to see the ‘all physical’ (wars, poverty etc.).

Your way to happiness is to have both while on earth. You live here, so there’s no point in trying to get to a place of ‘non physical’, as stated before, you’d be dead.

We can create a “Heaven on Earth” scenario, but it will not come from a place of wishing and hoping for something to be different. It doesn’t work that way. You came here to help, not just to wish and hope. You could have wished and hoped from the other side. You came here to DO. To BE. To help with changes. You chose to come to a physical world, some of you have eons of experience in other worlds, you think that the physical world is boring or ‘too slow’ (impatience anyone?).

You Chose to Live Here

You Chose to Live Here

Most of you have heard the quote “It’s the journey, not the destination”, well, you are on a journey. A HUMAN journey. Be patient with the changes, be human. Live, experience, DO, BE. It’s a pretty lonely life just sitting at home wishing and intending (and trying to “Manifest”) when you are broke and all alone.

Blend… do both.

One of the reasons why I like doing readings and writing so much, is because when I do, I am connected to Source in a very big way, and I feel really good. Any physical work I do when I have my strong connection with source feels good. Even scrubbing toilets is okay when I have my connection with source. If I am feeling good, it does not matter what I am doing. My physical world feels better.

Your trick is to connect with source and then do your work. Don’t think to yourself “If I just connect to source, and feel good, then my life will be good”. Yes, you will feel good, but if you don’t do something physical then you are missing the whole point of being human. The idea behind manifesting, is to feel good, and then DO. Do what you need to do to bring physical things to you that you want. Once you connect to your Source, you will be inspired to do things that will bring you what you want in the physical world.

If you get too woo woo and just wish for things, you end up being discouraged that nothing is changing. Then you are immediately disconnected from source.

Trust me, it feels really good when you connect with your source and create your physical life from there. The physical is a part of who you are.

Blending Spiritual with Physical

There seems to be a lot of confusion with blending the spiritual and the physical worlds.  I’m hoping to explain some of this in this post.

I have been coming across some people that are so Woo Woo and they are driving me nuts.  Yes, I said it, human emotion, NUTS.

Nuts

We chose to come to earth to have a physical experience.  A TON of us have come at this point time to help the planet and her people understand about energies and bring humanity back to where they were before.  To times of Atlantis where we as humans were more aware of our power and our energy.

There are so many ‘guru’s’ that will tell you you need to ‘imagine’ and ‘intend’ and create with your mind.  This is true, but they don’t always mention that we live here and if we want physical things (Money, a home, food), then we actually need to DO physical things.

We live in a physical world.  I cannot stress that enough.  Yes, as I wrote last week, this is only 1% of who we really are, but it is where we live and where we are PERCEIVING from.  You will not be able to perceive 100% from the spiritual realm until you go back there.

You cannot wish for money which is a physical thing, and think that a physical thing will come if you just have your mind thinking about it.  Okay, so maybe technically we could, because of how energy works, but ~ we can’t right now, because WE LIVE HERE.  We chose to live here.  We need to BLEND the spirit and the physical.  Not just have one or the other.  In order for us to be “all spiritual”, we’d have to be dead of our physical bodies.  We already know what its like to be “all physical”, until 2006 99.99% of the planet was all physical.  All you need to do is look around at what’s going on in the world to see the ‘all physical’ (wars, poverty etc.).

Your way to happiness is to have both while on earth.  You live here, so there’s no point in trying to get to a place of ‘non physical’, as stated before, you’d be dead.

We can create a “Heaven on Earth” scenario, but it will not come from a place of wishing and hoping for something to be different.  It doesn’t work that way.  You came here to help, not just to wish and hope.  You could have wished and hoped from the other side.  You came here to DO.  To BE.  To help with changes.  You chose to come to a physical world, some of you have eons of experience in other worlds, you think that the physical world is boring or ‘too slow’ (impatience anyone?).

You Chose to Live Here

You Chose to Live Here

Most of you have heard the quote “It’s the journey, not the destination”, well, you are on a journey.  A HUMAN journey.  Be patient with the changes, be human.  Live, experience, DO, BE.  It’s a pretty lonely life just sitting at home wishing and intending (and trying to “Manifest”) when you are broke and all alone.

Blend… do both.

One of the reasons why I like doing readings and writing so much, is because when I do, I am connected to Source in a very big way, and I feel really good.  Any physical work I do when I have my strong connection with source feels good.  Even scrubbing toilets is okay when I have my connection with source.  If I am feeling good, it does not matter what I am doing.  My physical world feels better.

Your trick is to connect with source and then do your work.  Don’t think to yourself “If I just connect to source, and feel good, then my life will be good”.  Yes, you will feel good, but if you don’t do something physical then you are missing the whole point of being human.  The idea behind manifesting, is to feel good, and then DO.  Do what you need to do to bring physical things to you that you want.  Once you connect to your Source, you will be inspired to do things that will bring you what you want in the physical world.

If you get too woo woo and just wish for things, you end up being discouraged that nothing is changing.  Then you are immediately disconnected from source.

Trust me, it feels really good when you connect with your source and create your physical life from there.  The physical is a part of who you are.

You are God and Jesus was a Man

Yes, I just said that out loud.  I have known this for a really long time, but it’s not something that I have stated out loud publicly like this.  I think it’s time though.  I speak my truth, and if I lose a reader or two that is okay.  I have come to realize that you cannot please everyone, or be everything to every person, so I may as well.  Besides, I think most of you that are reading this will agree with me.  Will probably even be happy to know that what you feel to be true, deep inside, is shared by someone else.

I was raised Roman Catholic, so it feels almost blasphemous to put this in writing even though I know it is my truth.  I was also born psychic and seeing dead people though, and I was born in the 60’s so it took a while for me to state the truth of my psychic-ness out loud too.  For more than half of my life I told almost no one what I did, it was not widely accepted (at least not from where I was looking).  I was quite scared that I would lose friends, or that people would treat me differently or be afraid of me.

You Are God

So here it is.  YOU ARE GOD.  God is not a ‘man’ that lives in the sky.  God is not a force to ‘fear’.  God is not anything outside of you.  That is why ‘we are creators’.  Because we are God.  Source, Source Energy, God, Universal Energy … All GOD.  All different words for the same thing.  The life force, the creation, the creator of All That Is.   God is not a ‘he’, God is not a ‘she’, an it, or anything else.  God is Energy.  God is love.

You Are Love

You Are Love

Jesus Embodied the “Christ Consciousness”

Jesus was a man.  A lot of people will take issue with this.  A lot won’t.  One day I was speaking with the JW women that come to my door to discuss their religion and Jesus, and they asked me who Jesus was.  I did not tell them “Jesus was a man”, I didn’t want to freak them out too badly (I’ve already told them I have seen Spirits, although they have no idea that I am a medium and see and talk to LOTS of Spirits).  I said “Jesus was the son of God”.  They were quite happy that I got it “right”.  They went on to explain that there are some people who think that Jesus “IS God”, not the SON OF God.

I was like What????   What difference does it make?  Once again I did not say that out loud to them (I do sometimes know when to keep my mouth shut).  So here’s the thing.  We are ALL God, we are ALL the Son of God in a sense.  Nothing is separated out of Source Energy.  Source Energy is IN everything, Source Energy IS everything.  The entire universe is a giant swirling ball of Energy.  God is Energy.  We are not separate from God, or Jesus, or Mohammad, or Buddha or anything else.  They are not separate from us.

What people describe as God, is the love and life in all of us.  I don’t care who you are, or what your beliefs are, or if you are the biggest a-hole on the planet, you are still a part of God.

I have talked to Jesus, Jesus has talked to me.  He was/is a MAN.  A very enlightened man, a healer, a phenomenal teacher, a psychic.  He has taught me a thing or two, he has shared his strength with me when I have been afraid, he’s sat in my car with me and given me messages while I’m driving.  (Now that was a trip!)

The Second Coming

But Jesus was a man.  That is what the “Christ Consciousness” is.  And when “they” (sacred texts & those who preach them) talk about “the second coming of Christ”.  I’ve talked to him.  He’s not planning on coming back the way it’s been portrayed.  He’s not going to incarnate in the same body, and come floating down from heaven, where everyone is thinking of the pictures they have seen in the bible, and think “oh there’s Jesus, he looks just like his picture on Facebook!

It is not Jesus the man that is returning.  It is the Consciousness that he embodied.  The love, the awareness that we are God, the knowledge that we are healers, that we are creators, that we are all one.  That knowledge (Christ Consciousness) is what is returning.  And it HAS returned for many of you.  It has returned for everyone who is ready to acknowledge it.  If you are still stuck in separation, you won’t feel it.  If you think that God is outside of you, that your neighbor is any different than you, that competition is more important than cooperation, you will not understand this.

We Are Here

We Are Here

If you don’t understand it, that is okay too.  We are all on our own journey and we will all take whatever path we want to take; that we are drawn to take.  Those that have “found Jesus” as something outside of themselves are not wrong.  Like I said, I’ve met him, and finding him and having his support is fantastic ~ what a great Soul to have walking with you.

Hard pill for some to swallow, but for those of you who were wondering… this is where I stand on the subject of God.

We Are Souls Having a Human Experience

We are souls having a human experience, if you follow spiritual teachings at all, you have probably heard this many times in your life.

Can you even really comprehend what that means though?  Really?

You are So Much More than What You Think You Are

You are So Much More than What You Think You Are

YOU ARE A SOUL HAVING A HUMAN EXPERIENCE.

Most people will say this but not even really feel what it means.  It means that this human existence you are living is only about < 1% of who you really are!!

1%.  Let that sink in.  All the drama in your life, all the troubles, worries, problems…  LESS THAN 1%. of who the REAL YOU is.

So who are you and does any of this life matter?

First off I want to say YES this life matters!!  All life matters.

You are ENERGY.  Everything is energy.  Even things that seem to be solid are just particles with energy in between.  Your Soul is energy.  When we die, we do not disappear ~ the energetic form we take changes, yes, but energy cannot disappear.

This can turn into a pretty heavy subject, but for now, I just want you to imagine what the rest of yourself might be like.  The 99% that most of you are not even aware exists.

As Souls, in our purest form, we are love.  One thing that every Spirit Person I have ever talked to has said.  “It is different here than it is where you are experiencing”.  That is not a typo.  “Where you are experiencing”.

We are experiencing things from a place that gives us limited, human perspective.  Everything our Soul does or feels or is, is an experience.  It is not ‘good’, it is not ‘bad’ it just IS.  It can feel ‘loving’, it can feel ‘fearful’.  It can feel ‘uncomfortable’ (fear), or ‘pleasant’ (love), but it is just an experience.

This life you are living is not who you ARE.  The people in your life are not a reflection of who you really are.  Your experiences are not YOU, they are just experiences.

Mini Meditation to Connect to Your Source

Right now, I want you to try something.  Close your eyes and breathe.  Take in a long, slow, deep breath and hold it in for 4 seconds.  Gently release the breath through your mouth.  Repeat.

Focus on your breath, relax, and just feel.  Expand your energy and your consciousness.  Hold the intention to connect with your Higher Self, it may feel easier to do if you put your focus on your crown chakra and your connection to Source.

This is a very small exercise but will hopefully show why learning how to meditate is so important.  If you can quiet your mind, you can begin to connect to your Soul.

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Once you establish your Soul connection you will feel a difference.

You will still be human, with human emotions, but you will be able to feel what it is like to exist as a Soul.  I don’t think any of us that are in a human body will truly be able to know exactly what it is like to be body-less and mind-less, but I can tell you from personal experience that once you get and feel that connection to your Soul your perspective of things will change.
So, you ARE a Soul having a human experience.  When I do psychic readings, it is your soul I am talking to, connecting with.  This is not outside of you, it is a part of you that you do not normally listen to and connect with.

(Yes, as a Medium, I do connect with Souls other than yours at times).

With practice, you can connect to your soul on your own, get your own answers.  Many times the answers won’t even matter from your Soul perspective.  But for the ones that do matter, remember, you are much more than you appear to be from this limited place we live in.  You are a Soul, having a human experience.

 

 

You Are Being Called to Take Action in 2015

Last year was a tough year for sure.  Everyone had some sort of big challenge.  Whether it was financial, work or relationships, our Souls are being prepared for more.

In the last 4 months of 2014 many relationships ended for people ~ this is due to the energy of the time.  Romantic relationships that did not support the growth of both souls no longer exist for many of you.  If have other things to do on this earth and your personal relationships don’t support it, they won’t stay.  This can be very difficult, but if you can find the strength to hold onto the thought that you are now free to move in another direction, it may help.  Looking forward always seems to give more comfort than looking back.

(Some people have decided to stay stuck in uncomfortable relationships, and those will just get harder and harder to live with, but that is another post).

Your romantic relationships for sure underwent changes, but there were also changes with work or finances or family, or somewhere in your life.

Change

2015 is a Year for Dreaming Big and Taking Action 

In 2014 as we were undergoing some of the changes I talked about above, we were also coming up with ideas.  Ideas of what something new might look or feel like.  For sure some of what we imagine is scary – it is different.  For some of you it is VERY different.

There are very few souls on this planet that did not feel the need for change: or at least start to wonder what it would look like if something were different.

Please know though that you are supported through this change.  We are all on this planet at this time for a reason.  2015 is yet another new energetic beginning for us on this planet.  We had to get rid of and cleanse all the places in our lives that weren’t working, or that were holding us back from who we want to be.

Sometimes this cleansing can feel so hard…if you need to meditate or pray yourself though it, then do so.  You may need to ask your Angels, God, or Higher Self to take over and help you out with your emotions at times, this is okay.  The important thing is to be willing to feel differently.

I love Zig Ziglar, so inspiring

I love Zig Ziglar, so inspiring

3 Steps You Can Take to Get Off To a Great Start in 2015

1.  Think of all the things that you dreamed of, fantasized about, or even just considered doing, in 2014.  There will be something.

2.  Do something towards your dream.  It doesn’t even really matter what it is.  If you are thinking of going into business, or getting a new job, then a good first step would be actually researching the new space you want to be in.

3.  Look forward, not back.  As I said before, 2014 was challenging.  No sense in re-hashing all that.  We are in a NEW energy here on earth.  You do not need to create more this year of what you had last year ~ and you won’t ~ not if you keep looking where you are going, instead of where you have been.

This year is the year to take all those ideas from last year to a new level.  Scary sometimes yes; exciting, absolutely.  Required if you want growth? Yes.

Not every new thing you try out this year will work out or look exactly like you expect it to, but by taking action you will feel more empowered and one thing will lead into another…

Give More To Get More

This post will hopefully help those of you who have your own practice.  I wrote it in such a way though that even if you don’t have a “business”, it can help you with life in general.

Over the years I have met many people who have helped me on my journey.  At some point or other I have mentioned most of them on this website.  You may need to look around, but if you are looking for a referral to someone who does a type of work that I don’t do, (or that does the same work as I do but are in a different city, and I know and trust them), you will probably find a link to them somewhere on this site.

If they write a blog or Facebook post that I think my own readers will find helpful, or amusing, or interesting, I will share it.  I don’t often re-cycle other people’s work on this blog, but certainly I will share their posts on my Facebook Page.

Something I don’t understand about some of you though, is your absolute fear about sharing other people’s goodness.  I am not talking about stealing someone else’s work and posting it as your own. I am taking about referring your friends and clients to someone who is good at what they do.  Sharing love with or about someone else takes nothing away from you. 

Help Others Psychic

Give Credit Where Credit is Due

One time when I shared another psychic’s link on my page, and wrote up a review for her on my site, she emailed me and thanked me because, she said “this can be a bit of a cutthroat business and I find that most people try and put other psychic’s down, not build them up”.

I couldn’t believe it.  I am aware that I think a lot differently than most people, but c’mon.  There are over 7 billion people on this planet.  There is a TON of work for all of us.  We don’t have to slag each other and put each other down, or hide who our friends are if they are in the same business as we are.

My readings aren’t for everyone, some people are looking for something I do not offer.  Or, I live in Chilliwack, and some people are not comfortable getting a reading on the phone and can’t drive here.  Why wouldn’t I give them a referral to someone in their area if I know of someone?  I’m not the only game in town.  I have many wonderful clients and am consistently meeting new ones.  I am not afraid that by helping one person find someone in their area or someone who is an expert in something a little bit different than I do, my work will dry up.

I have taken Reiki, but I don’t teach it, nor am I a master.  I have a couple of Reiki Masters  in different cities I refer people to when I need to.  I know a couple of people that do Akashic Records Readings that I will refer people to.  I know Shamans, Tarot Card Readers, website experts, holistic health practitioners, and other Psychic Mediums.

My circle of people reaches far and wide.  I am not afraid to share them with anyone.  I am here to help, I have always said that, and I have always lived that.  If helping involves beating someone else’s drum, then that is what I will do.

Don't be afraid to help someone else.

Don’t be afraid to help someone else.

If you have your own business (or even if you don’t) here are 5 Points to Help You Connect with More People:

1.  By living in fear that there will not be enough clients for you, you will not have enough clients.

2.  By thinking that sharing someone else (another company/practitioner/expert opinion), will take away from you or your business, you are doing yourself a great disservice (energetically and in your ability to truly help others).

3.  Not everyone that interacts with you or your website is going to want or need you when they find you.  If you truly want to help them, and other healers you know, don’t be afraid to speak up and share your connections.

4.  If you have your own blog, or your own practice, allow for comments, and allow for commenters to link back to their own website.  It will be a win/win for everyone.

5.  Even if the help that you give someone is to point them in the direction of someone else, they will remember that you helped them, and if they need what you offer in the future, you will be the first one they think of.

* I don’t get any ‘kickbacks’ from the people I refer.   What I get is the satisfaction of sending someone in the right direction for what they need.  I get the satisfaction of giving business to someone who has really helped me; I get to help them back.

We are all in this world together.  We need more cooperation and less competition.  More sharing, less hoarding.

 

 

 

*  I do sometimes have affiliate links to products on this website for which I receive a small commission, but if they are on here, it is for a product I have used or tested myself

 

 

When You Don’t Know ‘Why’, You Just Need to Trust

A lot of times as we go through life, we want to know WHY something is happening.  We refuse to accept what is, and we have this need to know why.

Sometimes there is not a ‘why’ that would make any sense to you in this moment.

Trust God

 

 

 

 

There can be a lot of strength and power in NOT knowing why.  Not caring why.  What if you decided to go to a place of trusting that what is happening is ultimately for your highest and best good?  What if you stopped asking why, and started focusing on the now, and focusing on what you want to see in your life?

 

Sometimes getting stuck in the ‘why’ can keep us from moving forward.  We keep looking for a why, when there is none, rather than trusting that we will be okay.  Rather than taking any actions towards what we want, we get stuck in asking why things are the way they are now.

 

There are times when ‘why’ can be helpful, but if there is no answer, then trust is your ONLY way out.  Even when I do readings and someone asks me why something is happening, sometimes I get an answer and sometimes I don’t.

 

Sometimes we need to just trust.  Just jump ~ into the void ~ knowing that things always work out for the best if we trust they will.

 

We don't always know why

We don’t always know why

5 ways to figure out what your true Beliefs and Expectations are and to change them if you need to:

I wrote a blog post yesterday called “What do you Really Expect“.  I got a good question in the comments, so I am taking the opportunity to answer that question in another blog post.

This was the comment/question:

“The tricky part is to know what your sub-conscious is expecting. So, how do you know?
Because sometimes I have expectations and beliefs about certain things, and what comes into my experience is almost the opposite… Even though I felt pretty certain what my deep- down beliefs and expectations were.”

This is my answer:

1.  You can try a muscle testing modality such as Psych K.
2.  You need to become very aware of your thoughts and feelings.  In the restaurant example in my last post, if you have a bad experience, you need to be aware of what you thought when it happened.
Was your thought “Bad service again!  What the hell, I expected it to be good, I thought I was over this creating bad BS”.  Right there, with that thought, where did your focus go?  Certainly not to a place that supports your energetic expectation it would be good.
What if you were to say “Oh, everything always works out for me, my server must be having a bad day, think I’ll smile at them, appreciate them and send them some nice energy”.
Right there you are NOT even thinking about whether you are creating good feeling or bad feeing things, you are just appreciating someone/something.
3.  If it involves someone else, disconnect your energy from them.  You can send them that loving energy without getting angry psychic ties in there.  Put yourself in their shoes.  It is their bad day, don’t make it yours.
4.  Realize that maybe it’s not always about you.  Yes, you had the bad experience to shine a light on something for you.  We are constantly creating things.  But what you do with it (the information/feedback from an experience), is what will help to form your beliefs.
5.  Maybe, just maybe, you are in the space you are in so that you can send love to a situation.  Put yourself in the shoes of the other person, if you do this, you will be able to soften any resistance.  Maybe your beliefs ARE what you think they are (positive), and they are so positive you have the ability to change someone’s day (or life), just by staying positive in a seemingly negative situation.

I find that you can change your energy just by thinking and feeling differently in any given situation.  A personal example from my own life is traffic.  I used to love driving.  Then for some reason I started to get more impatient with other drivers.  I would comment in my head about their driving skills or lack thereof, or I would get angry that someone was tail gaiting or on their phone and not paying attention to the road (and almost hitting me).  I knew how the energy worked, but I kept doing it.  Which of course helped to grow my belief that other drivers were nuts, driving was NOT fun, and was downright dangerous.
Then I got sick and tired of not wanting to drive.  I used to love driving, I found myself avoiding driving.  So I decided to challenge my Belief (that I created), that everyone drove like a freaking maniac and was trying to kill me.
Every time I got in my car, I did a small meditation, focusing on a violet flame and surrounding my car in a big bubble.  I would go out, and if I did happen to see something, I would just say to myself, “maybe they have a medical emergency and are rushing to the hospital”.  Or if someone was on the phone, I would think “maybe they have a young child that really needed to hear their voice right that second”.  I made up all kinds of excuses to be more patient with people.  And I sent them love energy.
And guess what?  I RARELY ever have experiences in my car that are stressful.  I can be on a crowded highway and look in my rearview mirror and there will be no traffic for miles.

This worked for me because I had a belief that it would work.  It worked because EVERYTHING IS ENERGY.  The minute I took my focus and energy off of ‘taking my life in my hands every time I get in a car’, it stopped being an issue.  If I see a crazy driver now I don’t think “What the hell, I thought I was over this”.  I think, oh, “Things always work out for me, so there’s a reason that person cut me off and is now in front of me.  I don’t know why, but it’s all okay”.  This kind of energy/statement is one that completely diffuses the energy.  It’s like a little blip on a radar screen that disappears.
Try it.  You can change your beliefs.  But you need to do it by replacing negative with positive.  And you need to BE AWARE, and you need to CONSTANTLY and CONSISTENTLY PRACTICE.

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