So many of our beliefs and so much of who we are comes from our parents and our upbringing. Even once we have grown up and have our own lives, our parents still have an impact on us. Some more than other’s of course but there’s always something unless you have consciously looked at it and done something about it.
Everything is energy. We have energy cords to everyone and everything that we’ve ever been involved with. We have energy cords to our parents. Some are healthier than others, but usually they are based on inequality.
When thinking about your relationship with your parents, its important to realize that they are just souls having a human experience, just like you. Often we blame our parents for who they were or what they did or how they are. It is time to think about them and the whole experience you have had with them in a new way.
We did chose our parents. Whatever our childhood looked like, it was something our soul wanted to experience for some reason or another. What you do with the entire experience is up to you.
When you can take the label of “parent” off of the Soul that raised you, you can free yourself up to let go of things that no longer serve you on your journey in this life.
Think about who you are and how you are now. You would not be where you are without your parents. Sometimes thinking like this can bring about some resentment. Other times we may feel “our parents or upbringing was perfect”, why the need for release?
Now is the time to see your parent or parents just as they are, Souls having a human experience, just like you are. Think about how old they were when they had you. Think about what it is that they were going through at the time. Think about the era in which they were raised. Think about them as if they were your peer or someone you know now. Think about what you might have done in their EXACT same position. Try not to judge what they did as good or bad. See them as a Soul that was going through whatever they were going through.
Their life is now their journey, not yours. Yes, their journey impacted you, (likely in a very big way), but you are your Own Soul on your Own path. What will you do with what you have now? With your life? If you childhood was what you would judge as “negative”, try and see how it made you who you are today. Did your parents have a “bad” childhood too? What were their parents like? What can you do NOW, for yourself, to let go of the past and move forward from here?
If your upbringing was “good” and you think of your parents as perfect, how is that impacting you now? Does it make you feel good? Does it make you feel that you aren’t or can’t be as good of a parent as they are? Not that it matters…. all these things are judgements, and we are not here to judge. So just let it go, be who you ARE, and who you want to be.
Is it really serving your Highest and Best Good to hang onto the relationship the way it has been up to this point? Would it not be more beneficial, and perhaps easier if you were able to let go of what came before. Let go of the need for approval from your parents? Forgive them if they made mistakes?
Often on our journey, if we can cut the old energy cords to our parents we can move on from here. This involves releasing anything that you are hanging onto that is no longer serving you.
This does not mean that you need to cut yourself off from your parents completely. Far from it. What it means is that you cut the old energy cords. The ones that have your parent on a pedestal, or that imply that your parents know everything, or know nothing, or are smarter, better or dumber than you. Any judgements that you have of your parents as human beings. Any feelings that these judgements bring.
Sometimes as we grow older, we think we know what is best for our parents now. How they could change their life for the better. We take over the role of telling them what to do. That is not our job either. Remember they are a Soul on their own journey. If you have healthy energy cords between you, you are able to let them continue living their own life, without judging what they are doing. Allow them to do what they need to do, even if it seems “wrong” or “hard” to you.
Try it. Cut the energy cords to your parents in the form that they are now. See your parent as a Soul. Allow more healthy, equal, energy cords to form. Or if your relationship with your parents is something that you chose to let go of completely, then simply do not allow new energy cords to take form – not with judgements or anger. The minute you get angry or judge that your parents Soul does not deserve to have an exchange of energy with you, you are actually reinforcing judging and anger energy cords. Send love in their general direction and let it go. There’s no need to hang on. If you can’t let go, then perhaps counselling to deal with your old issues is in order.
The choice is yours, but no matter what your decide – it is YOUR decision. What do you want to create for yourself?
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